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Help Your Child Become a Better Writer and Watch Her Confidence Grow

With two teen sons, I've done my fair share of nagging. As I grew older and wiser, though, I realized it was ineffective and even harmful.

Many teachers require children to write in  journals each day. What better way to make them hate writing?

Many teachers require children to write in journals each day. What better way to make them hate writing?

Why Do Children Loathe Writing and How Can We Change It?

Upon entering preschool and kindergarten, children are exuberant storytellers. They enthusiastically dictate tales to their teacher, feeling tremendous pride as she jots them down on paper. They feel creative and powerful.

In a few years, however, these same youngsters think writing is tortuous. If their parents ask them to write simple thank you cards for birthday gifts, they break down in tears. Not only do they not enjoy writing, they absolutely hate it.

As a teacher who loves to write, it pains me to read student essays—not because of the poor spelling and grammar—but because the authors so obviously detest the task and do it reluctantly. Our nation's push for “academic rigor” at younger and younger ages has resulted in a generation of young people who are thoroughly turned off to writing. This is certainly a case of schools doing more harm than good.

What are we doing wrong? How do we promote writing as a pleasurable activity and not something that's agonizing? What can we do as parents to help our youngsters embrace writing as an empowering experience and not a chore? Whether you're homeschooling your children or supplementing their classroom experience, here are three ideas to encourage developing writers:

"Sticker Stickers" Are an Age-Appropriate Way to Encourage Writing With Young Children

Stickers generate marvelous ideas for writing. Just imagine how creative the children will get will these spooky ones!

Stickers generate marvelous ideas for writing. Just imagine how creative the children will get will these spooky ones!

1. For Children in Preschool and Kindergarten, Forget the Journals and Help Them Create "Sticker Stories"

Many preschool and kindergarten teachers now use an escalated curriculum, meaning they co-opt ideas from the upper grades to use with young children. They've taken the idea of writing in journals (not developmentally appropriate), and shoved it down the throats of their students. They have children write in journals for every subject under the sun -- math, science, spelling, and language arts. The students comply dutifully but develop a hatred for writing in the process. They see writing as difficult, tedious, and disconnected from their lives.

Sticker Stories let kids be kids. Young children are egocentric and need to write about their universe -- their families, their homes, their neighborhoods and their experiences. They need tactile experiences and stimulating materials, not just paper and pencil. Creating stories with stickers is not only fun for them, but it enhances their pincer grasp as the thumb and index finger work together to peel and place stickers.

Here's how parents can create Sticker Stories with their children at home:

  • Collect a large variety of stickers -- animals, aliens, flowers, food, people. Buy them throughout the year, adding special holiday/seasonal ones to keep interest high (I find inexpensive packs at Target and Michael's).
  • Have your children create a scene using the stickers (I usually tell them to use 8-12 or else they'll use them all)!
  • Have them decorate around the scene with crayons and markers.
  • Have them dictate a story about the picture they've created. They may get elaborate and narrate a tale with a beginning, middle, and end. They may just tell 1 or 2 short sentences about what's happening in the scene. They may make it a fictional story or a factual one.

Sticker Stories generate a flood of words and ideas. They let children be authors without worrying about handwriting, spelling, and punctuation. They never fail to show me how wildly imaginative kids are when given the opportunity.

A Home Writing Center Gives Your Child a Place to Write With a Purpose

A writing center promotes meaningful writing: posters, signs, cards, letters, and lists.

A writing center promotes meaningful writing: posters, signs, cards, letters, and lists.

2. For Children 6-10, Establish a Home Writing Center

Establishing a Writing Center in your home is key to helping your children appreciate writing as meaningful communication. You can make it as elaborate or as simple as you wish. It's important to place it somewhere your youngsters like to spend time – the play room, the tree house, the front porch.

A home Writing Center is the best way to promote writing (both creative writing and handwriting) without forcing it. It lets your children know that your family values writing. Children should be encouraged to write with a purpose in the following ways:

  • creating posters and signs
  • writing letters and postcards
  • making cards for birthdays and holidays
  • sending messages to family and friends
  • making "to do" lists
  • writing grocery lists

(Children at this stage of development will use invented spelling and this is perfectly fine).

A home Writing Center should include materials such as:

  • greetings cards and envelopes
  • stationary, postcards, and canceled stamps
  • writing paper and blank paper
  • clipboards
  • stencils
  • dry erase boards
  • chalkboard and chalk
  • pre-made books to write and illustrate
  • writing implements: crayons, pencils, colored pencils, and markers.

I hang a word wall in my Writing Center and change it according to the holidays and seasons. For example, in October it includes high-interest words that the children and I generate together such as: pumpkins, Halloween, costumes, trick-or-treat, candy, corn maze, scary, masks, black, orange, night, caramel apples, monsters, goblins, and ghosts.

Good Readers Make Good Writers

Make reading to your child a relaxed, pleasurable time for both of you.

Make reading to your child a relaxed, pleasurable time for both of you.

3. For All Ages, Celebrate the Reading-Writing Connection

Children of all ages need to hear good writing to become good writers themselves. When parents read aloud to their children, they're showing them how written words come alive as a communication between author and listener. Young children benefit from hearing books that rhyme, books with alliteration, books with repetition, and books with puns. They benefit from hearing both fiction and non-fiction books. They benefit when mom and dad help them make important associations between their lives and the lives of the characters.

Older children benefit from hearing quality literature by famous authors. They hear how gifted writers use adjectives, metaphors, and similes to paint a vivid picture in the listener's mind. They hear how experienced writers move a story along, building to a climax and then a resolution. They hear how famous writers make every word count, every character unique, and every piece of dialog real.

Tips for reading with kids:

  • Make it pleasurable. Read while getting warm by the fire, snuggling in bed, or cooling off under a shady tree. Reading before bedtime – when you're both tired – is probably the worst time.
  • Read with expression and joy. Let your children know reading makes you happy and more knowledgeable.
  • Talk about the author. Make it known to your child that someone wrote the book to communicate with readers. Discuss with your child why the author wrote the book. What was her purpose? What did you want to say to readers? Discuss your favorite authors and what you like about their writing.
  • Ask your child what she would like to say in a book. Encourage her to write down her ideas.

Final Thoughts: Parents Can Help Their Children See Writing as Empowering

For those of us who love to write, it's disheartening that our kids are turned off to it. All children deserve to experience writing as a powerful means of communication, not just a chore at school. As teachers confront tougher standards, an escalated curriculum, and increased testing, they don't always have time to deal with the affective realm -- to instill in their students a love of writing. That's why it's crucial for parents to do so. One of the saddest comments you'll ever hear from a child is:"I hate to write." Sticker Stories, a home Writing Center, and an emphasis on the Reading -Writing Connection are key to avoiding those dreaded words.

An Excellent Addition to Your Home Writing Center!

As a former kindergarten teacher, I highly recommend this for your home writing center. Your kids are more likely to write when they have a designated place and all the materials at hand. This roll of paper, designed specifically for creating stories, has a blank space on top for illustrations and lined spaces on the bottom for writing. My students loved it, cranking out story after story. I'd then read them to the class and post them on our bulletin board. Your child will feel empowered hearing her story read at your dinner table and then displayed on your refrigerator!

© 2015 McKenna Meyers


Hi on July 10, 2018:

Nice article!

McKenna Meyers (author) on July 31, 2015:

Yes, I agree. Plus, so many people just hate to write, which is such a shame. Little kids find writing so empowering as their words are put on the page. But when they're older, they think writing is a drag. Middle school seems to be the time when kids get turned off from writing. Small intensive workshops would be beneficial so they could share their work and discuss it without being intimidated by a whole class of judgemental peers. They need a supportive environment like we have here on Hubpages. Thanks for reading!

Glenn Stok from Long Island, NY on July 31, 2015:

I found your hub very interesting and informative. I think that teachers need to follow more creative methods, such as these, to educate young children with writing. The ability to communicate in written form and express one's thoughts in writing is one of the most important things in any profession. What better time to teach them than when they are young.

I see so many adults today who don't know how to write English. I often wonder where their education went wrong because these are educated people. They just missed the important details with writing skills that can make a difference with making an impression when applying for a high paid job, for example. They know how to express themselves, but they fail with the grammar and spelling.

The methods you describe in this hub can make a difference.

McKenna Meyers (author) on April 28, 2015:

Thanks for reading my hub! Because it pays so little, there's a huge turnover rate in early childhood education. Many teachers have no background in it and just poach the elementary school curriculum and policies. Some preschools even have a "zero tolerance" policy -- CRAZY!

Bill Holland from Olympia, WA on April 28, 2015:

I'm with you all the way, my friend. I was there once. After twenty years I had had enough of the "new" systems of teaching. I love your thoughts here.

McKenna Meyers (author) on April 27, 2015:

Thanks so much for reading my hub. STEM is definitely the buzz word in education today. Many preschools are jumping on the bandwagon, enticing parents with STEM. It's big business, too, with STEM toys, books, and teaching materials.

Mel Carriere from San Diego California on April 27, 2015:

If you make school tediously boring right there at the beginning you have lost the student for life. I agree with your approach. Let the imagination soar and then they will actually like writing instead of thinking it as a chore. This whole STEM thing reminds me of what Stalin and Mao Tse Tung were doing back in the 40s and 50s to forcefully create cadres of technocrats. It is rather insidious. Great hub.

Catherine Giordano from Orlando Florida on April 27, 2015:

You are wonderful teachers. Reading your hub made me wish I had become a teacher. If you lived near me, I would volunteer in your classroom. You present wonderful ideas to stimulate the minds of young children. If I had young children or grandchildren, I would do this at home with them. I'm going to share this in the hopes that more people will see--and use--your ideas. voted up++.