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What Homeschoolers Need to Know

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Here's what you, as a homeschooling parent, really need to do to be successful.

Here's what you, as a homeschooling parent, really need to do to be successful.


Hey, you!

Yes, you.

I know you're feeling anxious and worried. You just pulled your kid out of school last week, and now you're looking at them thinking "what next?"

And, you.

That parent who's been homeschooling for a while now but you've hit a bump in the road, or the curriculum you chose isn't working, or you're worried about high school and beyond.

I want you to know that you're not alone. Every single one of us, at some point, has been in your shoes. Everyone has doubts. Everyone worries whether or not they are doing the right thing and that includes parents who send their kids to public and private schools.

So for all of you parents out there, take a moment and breathe. You've got this.

What Do I Truly Need To Make Homeschooling a Success?

What many new parents get wrong when they first start homeschooling is that they worry too much about the wrong things.

Some feel that if they aren't replicating the 5 or 6-hour school work day then their child will get behind or won't be able to meet standards or expectations.

According to David Albert of, many studies have shown that on the average school day, only about 75 minutes of instruction on new material occurs. So other time is spent in review but also in the general management of a large group of kids: getting them to sit down, handing out items, taking questions, lining get the picture

So when you think about that, the bar is not that high. So as a homeschool parent, even if you want to replicate "school at home." The amount of time you actually need to spend doing seatwork is likely far less than you envisioned.


Here is a checklist of what you really need to do to have a successful homeschooling experience.

1. Check your state laws.

In the United States, every state has different laws and requirements. In some states, you need to take a test every year.

In others, you need to keep a portfolio showing your child's progress.

Other states require attendance records.

But not only find out what your state requires. Also, find out what that MEANS in terms of homeschooling.

For example, some states may require the homeschool student to complete a standardized test every year. Sounds intimidating, right? However, you may find out that the scores are given to the parents only as a guideline for them and to help them track progress, not so the state can judge the homeschooler.

Sometimes there are other options to complete requirements such as virtual schools or umbrella schools.

The best way to find out about these is to both research AND ask veteran homeschool parents. These are the ones that have done it. They know the best evaluators, testers, and they know what the laws really mean when applied.

2. Take time to deschool.

Not enough new homeschooling parents do this and it really is an important concept.

At it's core, deschooling is when you take them time to remove yourself and your student from the old "school" way of thinking. You're allowing a mental break.

Many times parents may remove students from school because of a bad experience. Maybe they were having extreme issues with social situations such as bullying. Or maybe, due to learning differences they needed more time or attention than what the school setting allows. Often, if a child is pulled from school it is under duress and frustration.

This is why it is important to not immediately plunge right back into the situation causing stress, even if you plan to handle it a different way. Go to the zoo. Build a kite and go fly it at the park. Go watch a movie in the middle of the day. Bake cookies.

In other words, think of deshooling as destressing. As allowing you and your child to remember again what it's like to face life without the anxiety that the school situation was causing.

The time period for deschooling may be anywhere from a few weeks to a few months but it really can be a great way to take a deep breath and get your bearings.

Deschooling is about getting yourself out of that public school mindset.

Deschooling is about getting yourself out of that public school mindset.

3. Be flexible.

Many parents get caught up in plans and ideals and have a hard time changing directions once they are marching down a path of their own devising.

But the truth is some approaches are not going to work. One kid may thrive on workbooks and the other one hardly touches them. Some do well using computers to learn and others need physical textbooks.

The waldorf method works well for some. Others prefer classical. Still, other kids thrive in a more unschooling environment.

It's important to realize now that the path you envision may not be the path you and your child take.

Relax. It's okay. You're going to be fine. Your kid's going to be fine, too.

4. Find a social group.

I really can't emphasize this enough. There's of course the dreaded "What about socialization?" question that we homeschoolers get several times an hour.

But truly, homeschooling does not have to be and should not be an isolating experience. According to the National Center for Education Statistics, about 3 percent of the school-age population are homeschooled students. That's actually quite a lot of people.

There are likely to be other homeschoolers in your town or city.

The best way to find them is to not be afraid to put yourself out there. Search through a search engine. Put in words like "homeschool group *your city*." Or go to Facebook and search for homeschoolers in your area.

Find a cooperative by searching through websites such as

The benefits of a social group are, of course, friends for your kids, but also support for you as a homeschooling parent. You can get ideas, exchange curriculum, talk through issues that other parents may have faced, and generally, having a social group allows you to just not feel alone.

There is no reason that homeschoolers can't have a rich and diverse social experience. They can develop deep friendships and grow and thrive in their communities.

And don't forget that there are after-school programs and sports where homeschoolers can mingle with homeschooled and public schooled kids alike.

All these experiences are important and necessary for a more positive experience.

Finding a social group will save your sanity and your child's.

Finding a social group will save your sanity and your child's.

5. Make it enjoyable.

Finally, this adventure really should be fun. It should be about family bonding and about having the time to explore passions in-depth.

If you're not enjoying it, if you're butting heads with your kids or you are both feeling frustrated then it's time to step back and re-evaluate.

Take a break for the day and go do something fun. Play a game. Invite some friends for an impromptu park day.

While anyone can have bad days, if both of you are miserable, then it's time to change something up.

Review what I've said in this article.

  • Should you approach the subject a different way?
  • Should you put the subject aside altogether? (for now)
  • Are you spending too much time cooped up and not enough time out enjoying activities?
  • Can you and your child sit down and discuss a compromise?

Homeschooling should not simply be "school at home." There is no reason that you as a parent have to replicate the methods of the public school system. Many of those methods were designed to tame a classroom where multiple students' needs must be at least partially met all at once.

As a homeschool parent, you can tailor and adjust to your, likely, much smaller audience.

Stop Being Anxious!

Homeschooling is a growing movement and now, more than ever, there are support systems in place to help make the process smooth and successful.

If you are worried about "doing it right" you need to stop right now. There is no "right," there is only "right for you and your family."

We as human beings are naturally curious. We naturally want to learn and to succeed. As a homeschool parent, you have the unique opportunity to open up a world of possibilities for your child.

Remember Why You Are Homeschooling

© 2015 L C David


Dr Brad Kayden from Atlanta, GA / Chicago, IL on March 07, 2017:

Another well-written hub. While I think my wife has traversed initially, the tricky stage of guilt inside making the transition to homeschool our children, you share some good advice I will further share with her.

Essentially as I try to help to re-center her from time-to-time, keep it simple. Make it fun. Enjoy the process. Children are often mirroring us and our behaviors and so when we do these things as a baseline, all other processes are going to run more smoothly.

If I could add one more piece of advice. As a homeschooling parent, be a strong one. People are going to tell you their sad stories about their children's school experiences. They are many of the same experiences that drove us to make the decision to homeschool. They make you a magnet that must learn to endure other's stories and their waffling to make the choice to homeschool. When confronted with these situations, it is helpful to be curt, show strength and be the example of a confident homeschooler. When people tell us the sad school story their child is not fairing well in school, we now respond with "I know." And to their child's needs are not being met at school, we likewise respond "I know." It is exactly the strength a parent considering homeschool needs to hear and the strength those enduring their children's sad school experiences know they are missing. It is not intended to be mean but rather to get people to confront that there are options if we put our minds to it.

Asher Socrates from Los Angeles, CA on February 20, 2016:

This is a very informative and highly detailed helpful article for getting your children into homeschool. This is the way of the future! So many public school districts have failed our children's education. This form of education at home is best because the young brain needs to be well rounded and educated deeply and widely at this stage to get the most development. Keep up the great work!

L C David (author) from Florida on September 03, 2015:

Thank you! I think that many new homeschoolers are nervous and many veterans get discouraged. It's important to remember to relax and enjoy!

Sandy J Duncan from Kansas City, Kansas on September 02, 2015:

I'm posting a link to your hub on our facebook page for transitioning new homeschoolers. Think this will be a huge encouragement to them. Think you'll appreciate the share as there are close to 15,000 members! Your welcome and have a blessed day.

Liz Elias from Oakley, CA on August 29, 2015:

Congrats on HOTD! Well done!

I love this--and only wish I had read this, and had access to the information in that video 40 years ago! My kids are adults, with children of their own; I even have adult grandkids now.

Man, oh, man--if I had it to do all over again, I sure as heck would have home-schooled my kids!

I believe ALL things done throughout the day, simply in running a household, can be learning experiences. Anything from doubling or halving a recipe to figuring out gas mileage. Totting up the grocery tab as you go through the store; learning the household budget: income vs. outgo, and so forth.

I especially liked, and agree with the idea that ADHD is a fictitious "ailment" dreamed up by doctors and Big Pharma, for people who simply don't want to deal with kids being kids and having lots of energy.

The traditional school model is a failure for many kids; it was for me. For one thing, I'm not a morning person, so the insistence on math in the first half of the day, when students are supposedly "fresh," did not work at all for me. That is part of the reason I suck at math to this day!

Very well said, and I wish they had not taken away the voting buttons, for this would have gotten "ups" all the way across.

Pinned and shared here and on FB.

RTalloni on August 29, 2015:

Congrats on your Hub of the Day for this really useful tips. The resources that are available today are amazing compared to what we who were first in the home education movement had available. From our perspective, we look at just that and see it as a can't fail opportunity for parents who are willing to learn and grow with their students.

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on August 29, 2015:

You're welcome LCD. I believe you're right. I remember the new story about the German homeschooled kids a few years ago and their policy for homeschooling.

L C David (author) from Florida on August 29, 2015:

Thanks Kristen. Yes, homeschooling can be in the news and the news always love a good story about how parents weren't doing right by their kids. But it's been my experience that most homeschooling parents are loving, involved and are doing what is best for their kids.

Kristen Howe from Northeast Ohio on August 29, 2015:

Great hub, LC. This was very interesting to know about home-schooling, which from time to time, has been in the news, even abroad. Congrats on HOTD!

Shauna L Bowling from Central Florida on August 09, 2015:

My child is passed school-age, but my neighbor home schools her kids once they reach high school. It seems to be working for them.

This is a great article for those who are considering homeschooling. It makes sense to take breaks. Traditional schools have recess and study hall, so why not do the same at home?