How to Deal with High School Rumors & High School Bullying
Bullying - Tips for Parents
If you are a parent of a teen or maybe a teen yourself, you probably know at least a little bit about the stress that goes along with high school rumors. High school rumors are just another form of high school bullying and there are ways to support your teen and/or keep yourself sane during a time when your teen (or you) is getting bullied by other teens who enjoy spreading nasty high school rumors.
I speak from experience on the topic of high school rumors and high school bullying. When I was in high school, I dealt with quite a bit of high school rumors in my junior and senior years. The worst of the high school rumors for me was in my senior year of high school. Teens can be really cruel. Most of them in my opinion don't realize the damage that their high school rumors and high school bullying can cause, but we need to make them aware of it. If you're teen or child is involved in spreading high school rumors or high school bullying, please tell them how detrimental this can be to a teen's self-esteem and self-image. We need to treat others how we want to be treated.
On the other side of that, if you are the one getting the high school bullying or having high school rumors spread about you, there are certain ways to handle this situation. You can:
a. ignore it
b. retaliate by spreading rumors about the other person
c. fight them physically
What's the best approach though it is the most difficult approach to high school rumors? To ignore it. I'm saying this in all honesty, because I've been there myself. If you're the parent of a teen who is being tortured by nasty high school rumors, don't encourage them to do the same...that would be stooping to that other teen's level. Encourage your teen to ignore the high school rumors. Remind them that high school is a very short period of their lives and that when they get to college, it's a whole different story. High school drama and the importance of being "cool" or "popular" is not what the real world is like.
My mom used to tell me in response to how to deal with high school rumors, "they're just jealous of you." Which could very well have been true, but is not usually the best most trustworthy response to give a teen who is dealing with high school rumors or dealing with high school bullying. Why? The teen doesn't tend to believe their parents when they're told that the other teens are just jealous of them. The teen tends to believe that they're not as good as the other teens and wish they could be like them. Remind your teen that individuality and uniqueness are essential in this world...along with hard work and motivation. If your teen is wrapped up in popularity or worried about high school rumors, keep reminding them of the importance of their futures and to remember that high school will soon pass, and they won't generally have to deal with high school rumors or high school bullying in the real world.
Plus, if your teen is going away to college or moving out of state after high school, they won't have to see those nasty teens from high school any more anyway! Trust me...I don't plan on attending my ten year high school reunion and why? I didn't like those nasty teens then, so why would I like them now? High school rumors and high school bullying last for a short period in time, but the victim of high school rumors and high school bullying will always remember being bullied.
Unfortunately, the ignore method doesn't always work...so in cases where the bullying continues or worsens, the next step is a requirement. That is to first notify the school's officials of the harassment. If they don't take it seriously and restrict or punish the kid doing the bullying, then the next step is to get the police involved and notify them that your child is being harassed in school and that no one is doing anything about it. If that doesn't work, get the News involved!
For Kids Being Bullied
For the kids who are being bullied in school or elsewhere, here's your advice: do not stand for it! This doesn't mean retaliate with violence or hatred, this simply means to tell the individual harassing you to stop or you will get the school and police involved. If they do not stop their harassment, then you tell someone at your school and your parents. If that makes things worse and the kid still doesn't stop, then you need to go one step further and have your parents notify the police of this harassment. Get a restraining order. Whatever you have to do to protect yourself and get that person away from you.
Bullying is not okay and should not be tolerated by anyone. While you can ignore it for awhile, if the torture and torment continues it is not good for your mental health or spiritual health. Don't let anyone push you around or tell you to stuff it down. Try the ignore method at first, as most kids will lay off if they don't feel like they're getting a response. But if the kid continues, go to the next step as mentioned above.
Remember that violence is NOT THE KEY to beating the bullying trend. At the same time, do not allow someone to physically hurt or hold you down. Protect yourself, but without the use of weapons or deadly force. No one's stupidity is worth losing your opportunities or life over.
Questions & Answers
The mean girl got in trouble. She told the nice girl she was a horrible person for making me cry. What should I do?
If you're asking whether you should forgive her or not, that's up to you. If you're asking if you should be friends with her or not, I wouldn't. Protect yourself. Find friends who weren't bullies beforehand.