My Experience of Wearing a Hijab at School
My Story of Wearing Hijab
It was completely by my own choice. My parents never pushed me to; no one did. In fact, two people I'm related to and close to wear hijab as does a friend from another state, and they were my motivation. Before, I had told myself I'd start wearing it when I was in 11th grade. Which then was pushed back to when I would start college. Which then became when I would get married. Surprisingly, I started before all of those milestones.
The exact moment that I chose to wear it was when my relatives, including a cousin I'm very, very close to (who was visiting from Pakistan), were going to the Mosque for Friday prayer. And, of course, you have to wear hijab at a Mosque. So as I was putting my hijab on, differently this time (I put it on the way my cousin did, which isn't the same as how I wore it), my khala (aunt) came into my room to borrow a hairbrush. She commented, "Oh, Farah, hjiab suits you so well!" and then left. All of a sudden I just accepted it. I stared at myself in my vanity mirror and slowly said, "I'm going to start wearing hijab now." My cousin, incredibly shocked, squealed "What?! Farah are you serious?" I considered it for a few seconds, then with more confidence replied, "Yeah. I will. After all, there are people at my school who wear it. I mean it can't be too bad. And I like it." Then for some reason we both got teary-eyed and hugged each other.
This story is funny to me because a few weeks prior to it happening, I had a dream that my khala and I were going hijab shopping. I chose a pink hijab and then woke up. So when I told her about this dream, she custom-made me a pink hijab from Pakistan, and that was the hijab I chose to wear the very next day.
Reactions at School
If you start before entering high school...
Chances are you won't be as nervous and you'll have a base. You'll still have friends who have known you with your hijab, and then you'll make more friends. Of course it will get repetitive answering the same questions again with your new friends, but we'll discuss that later.
Starting during high school (like me)...
People will tend to ask you lots of questions, and friends (who you haven't already given a heads-up to) will be surprised. Some people will take a few seconds to realize who you are, and others won't even notice it and treat you the exact same! You might even get a few congrats, and if you're lucky, people will tell you they respect/admire you, which is very humbling!
Many people were confused as to why I had started this year, and others missed my hair, haha. On to the questions I, along with other hijabis, received!
Questions you Will get Asked!
These are all the wonderful questions I've been asked, haha.
- "How do you put that on?"
- "Don't you get hot?" (during the summer/warm weather, expect this a lot!)
- "Where do you buy those?" (I personally wear neck scarves, not the one-piece hijab)
- "Why do you wear it?"
- "Do you have to wear it at home?"
- "Do you have to wear that?"
- "Can I see your hair?!"
- "How many do you have?"
- "What happens if you don't wear it?"
- "Do you shower with it?" (this question needs to stop being asked pls)
- "Can you go to the pool?"
- "How long does it take to put on?"
- "When did you start wearing it?"
- "Do you have to wear it with your husband, too?"
- "Who can see your hair?"
All I can think of right now! If you've got more, comment! :)
Help, I'm Scared!
I can't exactly speak for everyone, but pretty much all schools and students accept it! There's only 5 other hijabis at my school out of 2,000+ students, and no one says anything bad! Honestly, don't worry about it. If it's something you want to do, when you start, have faith in Allah. He will give you courage and if you don't care so much as what people think versus what He thinks, then He will have others not notice it as much or give you looks. He will give you strength. Trust me! No...trust in Allah. :D
I was very, very nervous when I first started. I barely knew how to put it on, since I didn't have much practice. Finding matching hijabs for outfits became a chore at times, and sometimes I even began contemplating about how my life would be without hijab. I truly think I have gained morally and spiritually since wearing hijab. I'm not sure if others also feel this way, but I feel closer to God ever since I've started hijab.
Trust me, there's nothing to it. The first day might be stressful, but it gets better. If you choose to wear hijab, congratulations!! I'm so very proud of you.
Questions & Answers
Are there any do's/don’ts for friends in terms of wearing a hijab?
I would say that if your friends are truly good friends, then they will support you in your decision to wear hijab and they won't be pushy about making you change your mind. Also, encourage them to ask any questions they have related to hijab because it's better to ask than to stay confused and quiet and possibly misinformed. Hijab is an incredibly personal decision and a choice you have to continue making each day, so there isn't much else friends can/can't do, the rest is on you! The best thing they can do is to be supportive and defend your decision to others.Helpful 1