8 Tips to Help Your Dyslexic Child With Learning

Updated on August 29, 2017
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Giovanna Sanguinetti is a special needs teacher and has a child with dyslexia.


Dyslexia in Children - Parenting Matters

This is about how I help my son, who is dyslexic and dyspraxic with his schoolwork and with his self-esteem.

Dyslexia in children is something I know a great deal about because I have a dyslexic child, and as a special needs teacher, I have worked with children with specific learning difficulties for many years.

I know what it is like to see dyslexic children suffer at school,and there are many different factors that contribute to that. I have listed some at the end of this article , when I cover the issue of raising self-esteem.

Homework is a very difficult area for them to cope with and they need a great deal of support at home. Typically dyslexic children can't complete their homework as beautifully or efficiently as other children do.

All kids really want is to be like their friends, and when they have homework assignments to hand in they always, without exception, wish that there's was a good as any other kid in their class. As soon as they feel that they are not keeping up their self-esteem suffers a tremendous blow.

Here are 8 top tips for parents - so read down till the end because the last one is the most important!


Tip One: Visit the School Special Needs Teacher

Meet the class teacher

It's amazing how many parents fail to do this, some are in denial, others have dyslexia themselves and feel overwhelmed. But it is vital that you go and talk to the school.

I told everyone in the school who was willing to listen that my son was dyslexic. I told his class teacher that my son and I would be doing our homework together and that I would be supporting him in every way I could. I said that he would be drawing his homework and that I would be writing down his words, unless he wanted to write, of course.

SENCOs (Special Educational Needs Co-ordinator) will be sympathetic, and they will make sure the whole staff are aware of any arrangements you agree, so that there is no confusion and no low grades!

It's amazing how much I achieved just by going to the school and talking to the staff.

Also, it is vital that you get your child properly assessed. Dyslexia Action is packed with information about this if you are in the UK. In the US Dyslexia Reading Well is a good starting point - it is full of advice on how and what to do.

Dyslexia Advantage

I have come across a very very exciting and useful website called Dyslexia Advantage and I have a blog there too. Do take time to visit the site if you are looking for inspiration and great advice from professionals in the field of dyslexia.

Self Esteem

A high self esteem is the most important thing children with dyslexia need to develop. So I help my son with his homework. We call it Our Homework!

Other kids can be so unkind, and handing in poor homework is very exposing.

Always inform the teacher if the homework is too hard and/or is taking too long.

Below is an example of what I do. Notice the work is typed.

Homework Feedback Example

Task: Write your own sonnet using the Iambic Pentameter and rhyme!

Wow I reckon Shakespeare himself would have found this a challenge!


I shall compare you to a holiday

You are more fun and more carefree to me.

Hard work does make a very laboured day

Slaving away teachers keep us busy!

In the morning I see you sitting there

And remember the term will soon be done,

With the sun shining on your bright red hair

I yearn for the holidays soon to come.

So long as we are free, and can have fun

Long live holidays, and love which is young!

By XXXX ( he was 13 at the time)

This is what I write at the bottom of each assignment we complete. If the assignment is too difficult my son ticks RED, if easy GREEN, if challenging but doable AMBER. In the book the words are in color.

Homework Difficulty Rating: RED AMBER✓ GREEN

Time: 1hour 45mins

NOTE FROM MUM: Too difficult for independent work. Together we used "Shall I Compare Thee to a Summer's Day" as a starting point, and XXX thought of the rhyming word 'holiday' and ideas progressed from there. He really enjoyed it.

Remembering and writing down what the homework is can be a big problem.

Make sure the teachers give plenty of support with this.

Ask them to write it down in the back of your child's book EXACTLY as they want it done.

Or even better they could send the whole class an email!

AlphaSmart Word Processor - A dyslexia friendly way of writing

In class dyslexic children struggle to write notes, copy from the board, or complete written tasks. The most effective way to help them with this that I have found to date is to let them type.

My son started using a word processor when he was 12. I have worked with many children who also benefited from them. When my son gets home we connect it to our computer, and we read through all his school work together, make corrections, and do our homework.

This makes homework time much less stressful, and the work is always presentable. We just don't argue about writing the way we used to.

And this is the case for all the dyslexic kids I've worked with who use one in class.


Tip Two: Teach Your Child to Read Well

It requires patience, commitment and determination on both your parts. Dyslexic or not. Start reading to them when they're young and stick with it.

I know I sound just like a teacher, but reading is the most important thing you can do to help your child through life. You'll have to trust me on that one! Here is a BBC Literacy article that talks about how research shows that fewer children are reading in their spare time.

Shared Reading:

Dyslexic children are just as inquisitive as everyone else, and they enjoy hearing stories. Sitting with them every day for about 30 minutes will help them with all aspects of their literacy skills - they don't have to read - you do!

Read to them and they will pick up many, many skills. Start with simple picture books and don't put them under any pressure to read. Let them relax and enjoy the story. Every day!


Run your finger along the lines under each word - that will help them develop tracking skills.

I remember a friend once asked how we got my son to be a reader. We told her what we did:

  • My husband has read to him every night since he was very, very little, when he was not yet talking, and hardly able to sit up! We had no idea that he was dyslexic at this time. I have a video of him sitting on the kitchen floor in his nappy looking through board books pointing at all sorts of pictures.
  • This continued till it was time for him to start reading simple words and sentences to his daddy. A lot of praise was necessary. We began to notice his dyslexia at this point - he was about 4 years old, but we continued every single night and made it as much fun as we could by choosing the right books. Children's libraries are absolutely excellent for giving this sort of advice.
  • The books very gradually became harder, and in this way he slowly became a very good reader. Now that he is 14, my husband reads his book while he sits next to him and silently reads his own. It's a pleasure to watch them both.
  • Then my husband reads to him for a while from a book that is more challenging with more difficult language. This way he hears more difficult, literary language and enjoys another great story.

My husband is also a very experienced special needs teacher. I have a lot to thank my husband for.

As for my friend, her response to all this was..."but what about me time!" Did I mention that you have to be committed!

Come Along, Daisy!
Come Along, Daisy!

The illustrations are so beautiful and having the real Daisy is so special!


One of my Son's Favourite Books and How to Choose Books to Read

Before my son started to read there was a wonderful period when every book we showed him was received with great enthusiasm. Here's an example of one of his favorite books. It has:

  • a very strong main character (we even had a little soft toy of Daisy)
  • wonderful illustrations
  • a simple clear story that has emotion

In the end my son could recite it to us he knew it so well. But he could only say 'coo' when he first saw it. He grew into all his books - but they do have to be beautiful.

BBC Programs and Articles

Do Children Need to Read More Books

Keep Reading With Your Children, Parents Urged

This talks about the maths advantage for children who read for pleasure:

Children Reading for Pleasure -The Amazing Benefits

Tip Three: Dyslexic children hate change and surprises so... Get Organised and Establish a Routine



As soon as he gets home from school my son knows the routine: wash hands, eat something, and get homework done.

While he eats, I look through his books and see what homework he has. I often have to phone a friend to ask, because he forgets so many things. I never tell him off for this because he never does not do it on purpose. It's because he's dyslexic.

I have everything set out on a table, pencils, colors etc so we don't have to waste time searching for things.

Anxiety makes matters worse, so I always tell him how long we’ll be working for and what it is we’re going to do to make it real fun.

Also, I have a small a treat ready (usually a bit of chocolate) a bit of a bribe!

Tip Four: Make Writing Easy - Children with dyslexia find writing difficult - it takes every ounce of effort on their part - it's exhausting work!


Instead of writing alone we work together. We talk, discuss, research and make beautiful books. This takes dedication and time on my part, but it works, so it's worth it.

Typical Homework Issues

  • Much of the homework he is set isn't 'differentiated', which basically means it is too hard for him. Usually it involves too much writing and even copying.
  • An assignment that would take a child without dyslexia 10 minutes to complete, could take mine up to 2 hours! It's a soul destroying thing to have to put any child through. And you should NEVER do that.
  • The work is always at his intellectual level. He understand the concepts, because he is bright and very interested in school work and the world, it's just that he can't write quickly and clearly enough. He can't express himself in writing because as soon as he thinks of something to say, he forgets it as his brain switches to trying to cope with the mechanical skill of writing.
  • He works slowly, and laboriously so a page of writing is not something he should be asked to do, unless he wants to of course.
  • When he does ask to write I always give him a sharp pencil. I rub out his mistakes as we go along as sensitively as possible, and tell him why.
  • I always help him with spellings, and I always insist that he uses his best writing. He usually copes with about a paragraph before asking me to take over.

So what does he do instead of writing?

I write and he draws! I act as scribe. I write his words and he then draws a picture.

An example of what I do is in the picture above I wrote the title and he traced over it. On the opposite side is the writing, written by me. The homework was "Retell the story we heard in class today" My son could do that beautifully. So no problem!

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The time will come when they need to write in pen

Here's the best erasable pen I have found - it's brilliant.

  • It rubs out so well that it comes with a warning not to write bank cheques with it!
  • It writes really well, smoothly and free flowing.
  • It's a nice shape, and sits in the hand well.
  • rubs out totally using the end of the pen, so you don't need a special eraser
  • and, most amazingly, you can write over the erased mistake immediately. This pen has made our life so much easier!

Apparently the writing fades in the heat, but the ink comes back if you put it in the freezer for a few seconds!

My only criticism is that they run out of ink a bit quickly - so only my son is allowed to use them.

A Project Can be Displayed - A Shark Project


An Example of How to Make it Fun

The homework assignment was: "Write about an animal and talk about it In Class". Instead of writing in a book or filling pages with lots of writing we made a display that he could hold up and show the class while he talked.

  • To keep the writing minimal he wrote a poem full of his facts, which, he copied out carefully in his best cursive handwriting.
  • We cut out bits of a shark drawing and wrote questions and answers in lift the flap form.
  • Next we made a simple collage using colored paper, which is so much easier and more effective than coloring in.
  • My son enjoyed drawing the sharks while I cut them out and colored them in for him. We then stuck everything down on a cardboard box.

The whole process was much more enjoyable and memorable than simply writing laboriously in a book. His teacher loved it and it was on display outside the staffroom all term!

Also, a teacher of a younger class showed it to her kids as an example of an excellent project.

Presentation is important because I am always working on his self esteem and he feels proud if it is beautiful.

A Closer look - This was displayed for all to see. Talk about self-esteem boost!

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He drew the shapes and I cut them out. He wrote the questions and answers.We do our work on paper then stick it in our books.Instead of writing pages of facts, we wrote a poem. My son carefully wrote the words in pencil and I decorated the page,  he drew the sharks.
He drew the shapes and I cut them out. He wrote the questions and answers.
He drew the shapes and I cut them out. He wrote the questions and answers.
We do our work on paper then stick it in our books.
We do our work on paper then stick it in our books.
Instead of writing pages of facts, we wrote a poem. My son carefully wrote the words in pencil and I decorated the page,  he drew the sharks.
Instead of writing pages of facts, we wrote a poem. My son carefully wrote the words in pencil and I decorated the page, he drew the sharks. | Source

Tip Five: Handwriting

Suggestions to help create homework that looks cool

Here are a few tips I use:

When I work with my son I always :

  • Draw lines if the page is blank.
  • Give him a sharp pencil + eraser / erasable pen.
  • Make sure he sits up straight and holds the page still with the other hand. Writing needs both hands.
  • I ask him to tell me what he wants to write. Sometimes I write it for him in his book and other times I write on paper and he then copies it. While he is copying I spell out the words.
  • Listen and respond when he tells me he's tired. Just take over the writing to get the homework done.
  • Let him have frequent short breaks.
  • Remind him of the letter shapes by speaking the shape of each letter out loud as he is writing: up, down, round etc.
  • Praise, praise and praise.
  • Ask him to tell me which part of his writing he is most proud of. ( I mean the look of the page, not the content.)
  • Decorate the page. I usually do this for him and I often color in his drawings.

Dyslexic children often grip their pencils badly

Pencil Grips : Something like the pencil grip may help. They are certainly worth a try. They work brilliantly with some children but not so well with others. My son didn't like using them but I have worked with children who really improved their writing skills with them.

Handwriting - more diary pages and - examples of the difference between supported and rushed writing.

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His best handwriting at 12 years old. He sat up straight, had a sharp pencil and lots of time. I helped him with spelling. He decided on the content.This was before we had the erasable pen. The writing is much more legible than it used to be, even when writing quickly, but it is not neat.
His best handwriting at 12 years old. He sat up straight, had a sharp pencil and lots of time. I helped him with spelling. He decided on the content.
His best handwriting at 12 years old. He sat up straight, had a sharp pencil and lots of time. I helped him with spelling. He decided on the content.
This was before we had the erasable pen. The writing is much more legible than it used to be, even when writing quickly, but it is not neat.
This was before we had the erasable pen. The writing is much more legible than it used to be, even when writing quickly, but it is not neat.

The ergonomic pen has some excellent reviews. It enables tension-free writing because it has a "No Grip" design. Works for both left and right handed people. It is retractable and refillable. I've never tried one of these, but the reviews sound good.

Handwriting Practice is Hard Work!

I helped my son develop his handwriting during the summer holidays because he was too tired after school.

We always go to Italy, and because it's too hot to go in the afternoons we sat and wrote diaries together. We have 6 of them in total. Here's an example of one of his early ones.

I also encouraged him to type. We didn't use the computer with him when he was young, (I don't advise putting children in front of screens) but when he was older - instead of buying him computer games with handsets that use only the thumb, we bought him a couple of games that he could play using the real keyboard.

Now, at 14, he types very well indeed, and up to speed. It actually didn't take very long at all to master.

Self Confidence

I focused on what my son was truly interested in and made sure he had time for that every day. In our case this was music. It doesn't matter what it is - giving energy and respect to something that interests children raises their self esteem.

Please Watch this - it's brilliant!

A panel of parents of dyslexic children share their experiences. This is insightful and uplifting.

"Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new"

Einstein did not talk until he was 3 years old and his teachers described him as mentally slow! Never give up on your dreams and especially those of your children.


Tip Six: Watch out for Bullying

Dyslexic children are often bullied

All kids really want is to be like their friends, but if they can't produce the work they soon get labeled as stupid, and are then at risk of bullying by classmates.

Sadly, and all too often, teachers make matters worse by unwittingly humiliating them in class. They make their dyslexic children's weaknesses public by for example, asking them to read aloud, or making wall displays that show how many times-tables individual children know off by heart! Believe me my son's name was always at the bottom of that display! Teachers do this sort of thing because they know very little about dyslexia and feel deskilled.

However, even with all my experience and knowledge, I couldn't protect my son from bullies and his first school was a total disaster. He was bullied very badly. I can't bear to think about that so I'll not write about it here. We moved school and this has helped.

Sadly, however bullying is the way of the world so we have taught him how to cope with incidents. The trick is to teach your child to tell to you about bullying, no matter how small, as soon as it starts.

If anything positive came from the experience of being bullied, it is that my son tells me when it happens and so we deal with it - directly.

Girls and Boys Equally have Dyslexia

Current research shows that approx 17% of the population has dyslexia.

Girls are just as likely to be dyslexic as boys. Boys tend to misbehave at school so they get identified early, girls hide their difficulties and so they don't get picked up as quickly, sometimes they never get identified!

Tip Seven: Dyslexia and Organisation - I help my child organise his ideas and record facts like this...


See the circles? We call them vignettes - don't know why! We draw circles to make our point or to record facts. Each one is about the size of a tea cup.

The circles help organize his thoughts and ideas. We discuss and research facts and decide which are important and worth recording. Then he draws the images while I color them in.

We don't draw directly in his book, but draw the circles on paper and then cut them out ready to stick in his book. That way he can relax knowing that if he makes a mistake we can start again. Then we decide how to arrange them on the page.

We work on paper and stick the work in his book, for every piece of work we do. It cuts out a lot of stress and anxiety.

As he gets older, he will still draw circles, but he will use them as aide memoirs and to write paragraphs.

Easy - and great fun.

PS his teacher loves them.

Fidgety Cushion or Wobble Seat

My son was given one of these in class because he had issues with sitting still. Dyspraxic children feel uncomfortable when they're asked to sit still for long periods of time, some suffer physical pain and feelings of sickness. They need to move in order to make sense of the world around them. This is very distracting to others in the class and this wobble cushion worked a treat with my son and other children I have worked with. They help relieve backache too.

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Early Intervention is VITAL

If you suspect that your child has dyslexia (or any other learning difference) contact the school WITHOUT DELAY. All research shows that early intervention is important. Apart from everything else, it will help your child maintain a positive approach and high self-esteem.

This video is a gift to you as parents - It is so touching.


Typically my son will start to yawn about 10 minutes after starting his work, especially if it's math. He is not alone and it shows that he is working very hard. Dyslexics have to work much, much harder at processing literacy and numeracy. It is exhausting.

Remember to praise, praise, and praise some more! Give them FREQUENT RESTS and let them get up and move around.

Tip Eight: Self Esteem - Self Esteem - Self Esteem - An ESSENTIAL thing to work on


I have left this tip till last, not because it's not important, but because I hope you will remember it. Praise, praise and praise again!

Doing homework together gave me so many opportunities to praise my son for something real. Empty praise is useless, but a good piece of homework is a great way for them to earn praise that means something.

Dyslexics can be very different from other students in school. Here are some examples:

Fidgeting and rocking on their chairs.

Getting too close to people when they speak.

Struggling with banter and not being able to respond quickly to friends' jokes. Peers don't have time to wait, and they move on without waiting for a response.

Following directions is very hard because of their weak short-term memory.

Confusing left from right.

Sleeping disorders - which means they are often very tired in the mornings and during the school day.

Labelled 'lazy' when actually they are working much harder than others.

Scared of the dark and /or bright light.

Not being good at team sports.

Not being able to tie shoelaces.

Not being able to tell the time.

Not being able to memorize timetables.

These are the sorts of difficulties that can lead the dyslexic child to be down on himself. Is it little wonder that the most important thing we have to do as parents is work on their self esteem?

Helping them to return to school with some great homework beautifully presented gives them the chance to show their books with pride not shame.

Here are some other things I would advise because they work for us :

  • We NEVER put him down, and name-calling is not permitted in our house.
  • We sit round a table and eat together as a family every day, and we chat and listen to his stories about his day. This is when we can see if there's anything at all bothering him. It's a good thing to do.
  • We never blame each other when things don't go well.
  • We always try to resolve issues and arguments before going to bed. Say sorry.
  • Feedback difficulties to the teachers. Keep them informed.

This hasn't been easy and my son's self-esteem is still fragile and sometimes can be destroyed in a second - like popping a bubble. I have also made mistakes, and I know there are plenty more of those to come, but fundamentally my son loves school and doing his homework, so I must be doing something right. He sat and helped me write some of this article!

I hope this article has been useful and I wish you and your children all the best.

Readers Share Their Opinions About Dyslexia and Homework

Dyslexia in Children and their Homework: Are You Confident Helping Your Child With Homework?

Yes, I am because...
No, I am not because...
I don't have children. But, I am confident when I help kids with homework because I don't need to be perfect, just give them the knowledge I have - which is what learning is about. Laura Brown
I don't have children of my own, but I was a severely dyslexic child. My dad did not have the level of education necessary to help me with most of my homework, but my parents made sure I got extra help from my public school and a private tutor as well. It's possible to overcome dyslexia without the help of a parent, but I agree that parents who are able to help should. - Christy Kirwan
Right now I am, but I'm afraid when chemistry and trig come along I won't be! -shauna1934
You make a very important point here Christy. I know very well that parents of dyslexic children are very often dyslexic themselves and do not have the confidence to work on school work with their children. I would advise them to do just as your parents did - get a tutor, and if that's not affordable, then ask the school for extra help. Many schools have homework clubs that are staffed by teachers - they should make sure they're children go to them. Thank you so much for your visit and for your feedback. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
@shauna1934: I know what you mean about the harder subject when kids get older. You are not alone in this. My advice is to keep close contact with the teacher. Use the computer to teach yourself the basics. You as a parent have to know just enough, you don't have to be an expert, because it's the teachers' job to teach. If kids have homework they can't do - the teacher has to be told, and adjust or repeat the lesson. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
Thanks for sharing your expert knowledge of dealing with dyslexia. Your child is blessed to have such a devoted mother. Your presentation deserves the HOTD award. Congratulations! - Dora Isaac Weithers
Our children are both grown up now but we always used to sit down and help them with their homework, but it is an eye opener the day your children turn round and decline your help by saying "no its ok I know more about this subject than you do" and the really annoying thing is when you know they are right! - grrbtn
Hi, this is a wonderful and helpful hub. I have a boy who comes for guitar lessons and it's taken longer but he is playing. Great work thank you. - Stella Vadakin
@grrbtn: It's a wonderful day when they do that. My son is only 13 and he's already done it with his guitar. I can't help him any more he's way too good at it! Thanks for your comment. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
My son plays the guitar. I always ask his teacher to write his homework down in a note book he takes to lessons. That way we know what to focus on when he's practicing at home. It's a great way of communicating with the teacher for me - I tell him if we've had a good or bad week for example. My son knows that we are supporting him in this very simple way so he can relax and get on with playing. Thanks so much for your visit. I really appreciate it. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
My kids are grown, but I can certainly see what wonderful inspiration and assistance this would be to a dyslexic child. You've done a beautiful job, not only on this Hub, but also with teaching your child. Your point about reading to a young child was well received here with me, because my Daddy always read to me when I was little, which caused me to love reading and books. - Nancy Carol Brown Hardin
I don't have kids, but I have worked with them for years. Giving them confidence is the most important thing I think. Once they have that they don't mind how much you know or don't know. - Lisa Marie Gabriel
Thank you very much indeed for your feedback. I found it really hard to stop writing and adding things so I was concerned that it is too long for a hub. I hope not. I think I need to write a second one though as I have merely scratched the surface!! Thanks for your visit. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
That is so true. Children with low self-esteem and confidence make the wrong decisions and are at risk of either becoming bullies or being bullied. It's a very serious issue that effects all children but particularly dyslexics and kids with other special needs. - Giovanna Sanguinetti
What a wonderful teacher and parent you are. This article will truly be helpful to those who live and work with children with dyslexia and other learning issues! - Rebecca Mealey
Thank you so much for your amazing comment. I am truly touched. I have the utmost support of a wonderful husband too - I owe him so much :) - Giovanna Sanguinetti

Thanks very much for your visit.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 months ago from Perth UK

        Hello 'Nan',

        Thank you so much for your feedback I am so sorry to read about your experiences with your garndson and wish I could be of more help to you. But sadly nothing has changed, and if anything things are getting worse. I wrote this Hub Page out of sheer exasperation and I can tell you that a few parents have contacted me to tell me that I have been of some help. My next taks is updating the page because my son is at college now - I will explain howI coped with all that. I should tell you that I decided to home educate my boy in the end, and that was by far the best thing I could have done for him. I learend a lot from doing it and although it was not easy, it was very, very positive. I don't know whether you could do this for your grandson? There is a lot of help online and so you won't be alone. I'll be updating my page soon with more information about what I did - I won't spend much time telling people why, because the sad stories all have a common theme -not enough is being done to help our dyslexic children and parents are suffering jts as much as their children. Is an absolute disgrace. Thanks again for your very kind words - I am truly touched.

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        Christine Scholes 

        4 months ago

        I am the grandmother, “Nan” of a dyslexic (probably dyspraxia ) 11 year old boy. Your article touched so many chords for me, and was a true inspiration. Your son is so blessed to have such dedicated, patient and understanding parents.

        You are consistent, and truly “walk the walk” as well as “talking the talk, ” helping him “holistically” through each stage of his life journey to adulthood.

        I only wish that many teachers and Sencos had your insight, as sadly it has been my experience that many have little real knowledge about dyslexia, and how best to help these children. The ones I have encountered, have given platitudes, excuses, and trite, dismissive answers.

        As an ex teacher myself, I have been angry and saddened by the help we have been denied, even though we have tried so hard to work alongside the school, ensuring a positive outcome for him.

        I help my grandson on a daily basis, working alongside him as you do with your son. It has been a privilege and a pleasure for most of the time (I admit we have had a struggle on a few occasions, when he has found something particularly difficult, or if he has been very tired. We have learned to work through these times together.)

        One of the most poignent comments he made to me was “ of all the things I have ever learned Nan, I think I have learned more from you, than from anyone else.” I find this so sad, but humbling at the same time.

        We have been trying to find an appropriate Secondary school for him recently, and this has been very difficult. We go to “mediation” soon, after being refused an EHCP by our local authority. It all boils down to expense at the end of the day; so very sad. We sat in a half hour MAP meeting, where his future was decided by people who do not know him at all, and who had not even properly read the information written about him.

        They wasted time repeating information that was irrelevant, and the psychologist made comments that stunned us, by the lack of understanding and insight. Their subsequent report on the outcome of the meeting was full of inaccuracies. Sadly, this scenario is what so many parents and carers of dyslexic children will have to face. We have a voice, but still were not heard; so we feel truly devastated for those parents who are not confident enough to express their views in order to get the best provision for their child.

        In the whole of Yorkshire, there is only ONE local authority school with a dyslexia/dyspraxia unit, with specialist trained teachers and resources, and ONE private school with Crested status. Considering the number of children with this particular special need, that is appalling.

        The school that the authority is wanting my grandson to go to, has just come out of “special measures,” and has no specialist help or expertise. We are denied the one school that would help him, as we are not “in the catchment area.” Houses within the area are very expensive, and it would not be guaranteed that he could get into the school, even if we were able to buy one. We are willing to commit to covering travel expenses to help him get to the school, but this is not considered. It’s so frustrating and dis- heartening.

        I spent my whole career trying to get the very best for every child in my care, and now I feel very let down by the same education authority that I once dedicated all my time to.

        May I wish you and your son all the very best for the future. I hope that you never encounter the problems that we have, and that he enjoys his education throughout his school life.

        I found the following quote very helpful; hope you do too.

        “If I cannot learn the way you teach,

        then teach me the way I learn.”

        It seems to be a fitting mantra for children with dyslexia.

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        5 months ago

        Thank you very much

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        2 years ago from Perth UK

        I'm so happy that you have found it helpful. Let me know how it's going.

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        2 years ago

        Thank you so much for writing such a wonderfully helpful article.

        I will definitely be following your advice.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you very much for your visit.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        I totally understand your point, labeling people is counter-productive and we should be very careful indeed. This is a very big important issue!

        But in schools our aim must be to help dyslexic children develop their self-esteem so that they make better choices in their lives. To this end, dyslexia has to be presented to them as a fact of life, or even better, as a positive attribute. Unless we teach our dyslexic children to understand themselves, and even embrace the way they are - we are not going to get very far with developing their feelings of self worth and esteem. Dyslexia is a specific learning difference, which requires different teaching methods. That's what they have to be told. Once the children understand why they find something is difficult to learn, they become more able to (with a lot of hard work) conquer the difficulty. That's what dyslexic children do with reading for instance. They won't make any progress if they are left believing that they can't read because they are stupid! Understanding their own needs empowers them.

        In an ideal world all children should be treated with the same respect because that's what all children need. After all, are other kids that different - do they not all need a boost in self-esteem and confidence - I think so!

        Thank you so much for your very thoughtful feedback. I really appreciate your visit.

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        dr.wahid pirzada 

        3 years ago from Ahmedabad, India

        Hi!nice work.Will help a

        great deal to dyslexic children's parents.

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        Lori Colbo 

        3 years ago from Pacific Northwest

        Outstanding! What practical, creative tips. My one concern, especially in the video, is the reference to the child as "a dyslexic." The woman in the video who made the opening remarks repeated the label "dyslexics" over and over. If we are to give our children and students with learning challenges a sense of value, equality with other children, and acceptance for just being themselves, identifying the child and referencing them as "a dysxlexic," is only going to make them feel more different. I realize that the discussion in the video was adults talking about children who weren't present. However, there is a mindset in the one woman of labeling. We see this in other types of issues as well. I know someone with schizophrenia that's always called "a schizophrenic." She is leading a quality life and is deeply hurt by the constant identifier "Schizophrenic." She has a name and wants to be labeled by her name and as a human being, not her condition. We hear it with people who have other challenges, disabilities, and conditions. I have another friend with epilepsy. She hates to be called "an epileptic" by medical personnel and others.

        I don't think it's wrong it certain contexts, but as a habitual thing, I think it can only be damaging. Personally, I have experienced labeling myself. I am just Lori. I have a disorder, but my disorder does not define me.

        I think you are a fabulous, supportive mother and I wish there were more like you. Your creativity in helping your son is remarkable, and your advocacy on his behalf is beyond commendable. Keep up the good work Adventure and thanks for sharing these important, practical ideas. Voting up and across the board.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        My son plays the guitar too. He started when he was 5 and he has worked hard so he plays it really well now that he's 14. Thanks very much indeed for your visit.

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        stella vadakin 

        3 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

        Hi, I teach a boy who is dyslexic for the past 2 years beginning guitar,it was slow the first year but he is doing good . It took a year longer but he never gave up. Thanks for this great Hub,

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you very much indeed for your visit. It means a great deal to me to know that my hub is helping to spread the word!

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        Bill Holland 

        3 years ago from Olympia, WA

        Congratulations on HOTD. It took me three years to win this award....well done, and an important message as a bonus.

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        It is a Hub about a subject that people should know about, given that every class has at least one dyslexic child (in the UK it's 3!) . So I am delighted that it's getting a lot of attention! Thank you for visiting.

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you so much.

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you so much for visiting and your amazing feedback. I am touched.

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        3 years ago from Western Cape , South Africa

        Informative hub and very useful . Thanks for sharing !

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        Robin S 

        3 years ago from USA

        Congratulations on your HotD award! Well deserved!

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        3 years ago

        Every child has his own talents, irrespective of whether he is dyslexic. This Hub gave so much encouragement and hope to both parents and dyslexic children, and I am touched by its contents and the videos. This absolutely deserves a HotD, congrats!

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        If you suspect it then it worth checking it out with the special needs teacher in the school - if your grandchild is younger than 7 they'll probably tell you to hang on before starting the diagnostic tests etc. Just tell the parents to read to their child and relax -it'll be fine! Thanks very much for your great feedback - I really appreciate your visit and your opinion.

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        Kathryn Grace 

        3 years ago from San Francisco

        Terrific article! I sometimes suspect that one of my grandchildren may have dyslexia. Saving this, sharing it, bookmarking, etc. What a useful page. Thank you for all the detailed information. I wish every teacher and parent could see this.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you Nancy - you are so right. I really appreciate your visit and the recommendation. Have a great weekend.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        3 years ago from Perth UK

        Thank you so much for your kind feedback. I am so pleased that this article has hit the spot! I only hope it's not too long!! Thanks very much for your visit.

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        Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 

        3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

        Dyslexic children are usually bright, intelligent kids, who are often bullied because others consider them slow-witted. They are not, some of the most brilliant people in the world are dyslexic, but they have a talent in one area or another that outshines other "normal (?)" people. We're all different, so does that word even have a valid meaning? Excellent and recommend on HP and G+ed.

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        Bill Holland 

        3 years ago from Olympia, WA

        As a former teacher, and as a human being, I applaud articles like this one. Raising awareness is so important for issues like dyslexia...breaking down the walls of ignorance...nicely done.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @SteveKaye: Gee thanks - can you feel me blushing!! My son is here and he agree too -I'm having one of those special moments!! lol. Thanks very much for your visit and great comment. My self esteem has rocketed!

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        4 years ago

        I think you also deserve a Gold Star for being an exceptional parent. The key to raising a child into an effective adult is building the person's self esteem. Congratulations on the Purple Star.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @fullofshoes: It is indeed. Thanks again xx

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        4 years ago

        Today is your lucky day for sure... congrats again!! :)

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @SavioC: I've never thought about that but someone else suggested it. Maybe it's a good idea - I'll have to think about it. Thanks for the suggestion. Thanks for your comments - so encouraging!

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        4 years ago

        It s a wonderful lens and I am sure this will be a great help to people with dyslexic children since you were yourself had that problem and now you are working with your son to guide him . You have seen it from both sides and that will help people a lot. Why not write a small book that can really help people dealing with this.

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        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @grrbtn: Yes, it's all about keeping patient and positive, and believing that dyslexia is not something that will hold you back. It's just a learning difference - and not a disability because there's always something dyslexic people are very good at. it's just a question of finding that special thing. We have to call dyslexia a disability in the law, otherwise our dyslexic kids will get ignored - just as I was all those years ago when I was at school. Thanks for your visit and your comments.

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        4 years ago

        I have a feeling that you went out of your way to make sure that your child was not held back just because he was dyslexic, and you should feel very proud of yourself. Our own son had learning difficulties and at many times it boiled down to being patient when things did not go right the first time. Just like us you will get there in the end. Great lens, well done you.

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @Seasons Greetings: Thank you so much.

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        Laura Brown 

        4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

        Your vignettes are like an art journal. I really liked the drawings and colours.

      • Adventuretravels profile imageAUTHOR

        Giovanna Sanguinetti 

        4 years ago from Perth UK

        @SusanDeppner: Thank you so much. I'm really touched by your comments. Really!

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        Susan Deppner 

        4 years ago from Arkansas USA

        Excellent! So insightful in many ways. I really enjoyed your poem and love your beautiful picture. Nicely done!


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