30 Ways to Show Mom You Appreciate Her
We all love our mothers, but sometimes it's easy to forget to let her know that. It really doesn't have to be difficult or expensive to show your mother how much she means to you.
Spend a little time with her or give her the right words, a gift, or a favor to let her know just how well she did in raising a child who loves her. This is important to do now and then, whether you're still young or grown with a family of your own.
And don't save it for Mother's Day or other holidays. You can show your mom that you appreciate her any time of year.
Ways to Show Mom You Care
One of the most appreciated, yet challenging, ways to let your mom know you care is to say so. Here are a few ways you can do it:
- Say it when she does something for you.
Moms do so much for us. When she helps you, make sure you show your appreciation by saying so. Do more than just say, "Thank you"—be specific.
- Sing it.
If you have musical talent, you could write a song for her and sing it. Live is good, but don't sell a recording short—she can keep and listen to over again.
- Say, "I love you, Mom!"
It's simple but effective, and she probably doesn't hear it often enough.
- Tell her how helpful her advice has been.
Moms give a lot of advice. Be sure to let her know when it helps you. You can also tell her about advice in the past that has helped you. She'll love hearing it.
- Dedicate a song to her on the radio.
Call up her favorite radio station and see if they'll dedicate a song to her at a time she's probably listening.
- Call and tell her in the middle of the day.
Call your mother in the middle of the work day and surprise her by telling her how much she means to you. She'll love that you thought of her even in the middle of the day.
- Fix things in her house. This is especially helpful as your parents get older and can't do everything for themselves.
- Do her yard work. Whether it's mowing the lawn, trimming the bushes, or planting a garden, most moms love it when you help keep their yards in good shape.
- Babysit. If you have siblings young enough to still need babysitting, offer to take care of them for one night so that she can get out for an evening, whether alone, with your dad, with her own mother, or with friends.
- Wash her car. Who doesn't love a clean car? Don't forget to vacuum out the insides and clean the insides of the windows to make it particularly special.
- Make her breakfast in bed. It's a much-loved classic. Mom's worth getting up a little early for, isn't she?
- Make her dinner. Show off whatever cooking skills you have and make dinner for your mom. Try to make it a little special. Don't forget to clean up the kitchen after!
- Give her quiet time. A mother's life is often hectic. Find a way to give her some quiet time to do the things she'd like to do.
- Get everyone to come home. As everyone grows up and starts doing more of their own things, it gets harder and harder to get everyone home at once. Make plans to have everyone home for a special dinner or just simple family time.
- Clean the house. Yes, the whole thing. Get into the details. Hire a housekeeper for the day if you prefer.
- Plan a surprise party in her honor. You don't have to wait for her birthday or any other special day—in fact, an occasion not tied to a specific day makes it that much more meaningful. Find a way to get in contact with as many special people in her life as possible and have a party in her honor.
- Visit her. If you don't live with your mom anymore, take some time to visit her. Make your time together a little extra special for her.
- Listen. We all have busy lives. Take a little time and listen to your mother.
- Write a lettter. Write your mom a letter and tell her how much you treasure her. It's something she can keep and re-read for years.
- Write a list. If you're not so much into the letter idea, try writing a list of things you appreciate about your mom.
- Write a poem. Express how much you care for your mom in a poem. You can print it on good paper and frame it for her if you like.
- Print out your favorite quotes that make you think of her. There are many online resources to find quotes, or just think up your favorites. Print them up and give them to her.
- Make her a card. Sure, you can buy a card and make it special, but there's something about one you make yourself. With all the free clipart available online, you can make it look great even if you can't draw worth anything.
- Write a family history together. This one combines the gift of your time with writing, plus you'll end up with something the entire family may treasure.
- Leave notes for her. Write little notes about all the things you appreciate about your mom and hide them around her house.
- Take her to dinner. Make a reservation just for the two of you. And make sure it's special, whether it's a fancy restaurant, a picnic with a beautiful view, or someplace tied to special memories you both share.
- Take her out for a massage or spa day. Who doesn't enjoy a day planned for indulgent relaxation? Get a certificate for her from Spa Finder if you can't come along.
- Take her someplace special to you both. Go together to a place that has meaning to both of you.
- Go skydiving or on other adventures. Has your mom ever dreamed of doing something adventurous, such as skydiving or bungee jumping? Find a place and go have fun together.
- Take her on a picnic. Don't let her do any of the work. Plan out the picnic at a favorite local site and let her enjoy it.
Just Do It!
Don't overthink what your mom would like to have or what she needs to hear from you. Most moms will enjoy what you give them because it came from you.
Gifts You Can Buy to Show Mom You Appreciate Her
Words and actions aren't the only way to make your mom feel appreciated. The right gift will also delight her and let her know how much you care.
- A Kindle. Amazon's Kindle is a hugely popular gift. Lots of people want one. Add in some of her favorite titles or a gift certificate to help her add in her first few books to make it an even better gift.
- Photo mug. Put a family photo on a mug for her to enjoy as she sips her favorite coffee or other hot drink. Add in some coffee beans or ground coffee for a nice extra touch.
- Heated throw blanket. This is especially nice if your mom lives where there's a lot of cold weather.
- A donation to her favorite charity. This isn't directly to her, but she'll love it just the same. Send a donation in her name to her favorite charity.
- iPod or MP3 player. Who doesn't love music? Make sure your mom can take her favorite tunes wherever she goes.
- Foot massager. What mom isn't so busy that she often has tired feet? Give her a foot massage and encourage her to take a break.
- Mother's ring or other jewelry. Most moms love jewelry, but jewelry that represents her family may be even more special to her.
- Chocolate. Classic, almost too classic, but if you know her favorite type of chocolate, she'll still appreciate it.
- Flowers. Another classic, but still much beloved. Send her favorites to her and don't forget a personalized note.
- Woodeye Glassware. For the mom who likes to entertain, Woodeye makes glassware that really stands out.
Gifts You Can Make for Your Mom
Get a little more personal and make something special for your mom. This is a chance to indulge your creative side as you show your appreciation for all she does.
- Make a scrapbook. Get some family photos that she will enjoy and put them in a scrapbook. If you aren't much into scrapbooking, you can make a more basic photo album.
- Frame special photos for her walls. You know you have plenty of great photos just sitting there, unprinted and often unadmired. Pick some favorites, print them up in appropriate sizes, and frame them.
- Frame artwork you've created. This is a great gift from kids, but it works for creative adults too.
- Make some bath salts for her. There are recipes online for many kinds of bath salts. The basic recipe usually involves Epsom salts, sea salts, or kosher salts mixed with some baking soda and her favorite essential oils for a wonderful scent. Use food coloring to add a little color, and put it in a decorative jar.
- Make a website dedicated to her. Make it possible for anyone to see how much your mom means to you. You can use a site such as Blogger to do this for free or go the extra mile and buy a domain name and hosting. Set up a site all about how you feel about your mother. Even if you don't know much about running a website, tools such as Wordpress can be automatically installed on most hosts and make it relatively easy to run a site.
- Make coupons for things you can do for her. Think up some things you can do for your mom and print up "coupons" for her to get those things (e.g. one load of laundry washed and folded). She'll love that she can use her gift over a period of time when she needs it most.
- Create a recipe book. Your mom probably has some favorite recipes, but how are they organized? You can print up and organize a recipe book for her. A simple way is to use regular sheets of paper, a binder, and page protectors so her recipes don't get ruined as she cooks. Organize by categories, and you have a cookbook that can easily be added to. Don't forget your own favorites, especially if you're good cook yourself.
- Make a rice-bag heating pad. A rice bag is great for warming up and using on sore muscles. Get some heavy cloth and make it into a bag. Fill about halfway with rice. When it's heated in the microwave, the rice retains the heat and feels great on sore muscles.
- Print out a family calendar. No doubt there are a lot of birthdays and other events your mom likes to keep track of. Help her by making a family calendar. If she's comfortable on the computer, consider setting up a calendar on her computer that will remind her of upcoming birthdays and more.
- Burn a family photo CD. Collect your best family photos and put them on a CD. This one is great if you have kids of your own, and your mom always wants grandchild pics.
Little Ways That You Can Help Your Mom
- Always help clean the dishes: Mom takes care of so much around the house, she'll appreciate the extra help.
- Offer her a ride somewhere: Mom's been driving you around for years, it's time to extend the favor.
- Help your mom shop: Mom only has so many hands, help her carry all of those bags.
- Offer to pay for services or meals: Mom fed you for so long, so offer a good meal.
- Wash your mom's car for her: As your mom ages it's harder for her to household tasks, offer to wash her car and help her save her money.
- Tell your mom that you love her: If your mom hears those three words every day, then she's bound to be a good mood.
FAQ About Moms and Motherhood
We never seem to give enough credit to our moms. Our moms went through so much pain and hard work to bring us into this world. Our mothers are a big deal and we owe it to them to show how much we care about them. We should do something to tell them how much we love them. Even when we don’t always show our appreciation, they still show us support and love.
Did People Give Their Moms Gifts in the Past?
It's been customary across many cultures to give gifts to mothers. Which gifts are given has traditionally varied from culture to culture. As one could imagine, a mother living in Victorian England would likely receive a different gift than a mother living in Bombay, India. Nevertheless, across cultures, mothers are often gifted items that help with their daily routines.
Has the Idea of Being a Mom Changed?
Yes, depending on the culture. As more and more women have entered the workforce, traditional motherhood roles have been shaken up. More and more women are having less children and spending more one on one time with each child. That said, there's no one way to be a great mom and every culture is different. Some cultures have been historically matriarchal, while some are patriarchal (many are somewhere in between).
Global Traditions That Celebrate Mom
Mothering Sunday is a holiday celebrated by Catholic and Protestant Christians in the UK and some other parts of the world. It is generally observed in parishes of the Church of England, as well as in the rest of the UK and many Anglican parishes throughout the world, especially in Canada and Australia. On this holiday the children would often pick flowers to give to their mothers and bake special cakes called Mothering Cakes or Simnel Cakes.
Mother's Day is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March or May.
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Mother's Day is a celebration honoring the mother of the family, as well as motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in the months of March or May
Mother's Day is celebrated at the end of the fall rainy season, as part of the three-day Antrosht festival, dedicated to moms. When the weather clears up and the skies empty of rain, family members come home to celebrate with a large feast. Daughters traditionally bring vegetables, butter, spices and cheese, while the sons bring meat of various types, including lamb or bull. These will be included in a traditional hash recipe. Singing and dancing is shared by all family members.
Hindus in India celebrate the goddess Durga, or Divine Mother, during a 10-day festival called Durga Puja in October. Durga Puja celebrates the triumph of good over evil and is earmarked by gifts given to friends and family, as well as feasts and celebrations.
How Did Mother's Day Start?
Mother's Day started as an anti-war movement. Anna Jarvis is most often credited with founding Mother's Day in the United States. Designated as the second Sunday in May by President Woodrow Wilson in 1914, aspects of that holiday have since spread overseas, sometimes mingling with local traditions.
Greatest Mothers of All Time
Marie Skłodowska Curie was a Polish and naturalized-French physicist and chemist who conducted pioneering research on radioactivity.
Sojourner Truth was an African-American abolitionist and women's rights activist. Truth was born into slavery in Swartekill, Ulster County, New York, but escaped with her infant daughter to freedom in 1826.
Irena Sendler, also referred to as Irena Sendlerowa in Poland, nom de guerre "Jolanta", was a Polish social worker and humanitarian who served in the Polish Underground during World War II in German-occupied Warsaw, and from October 1943 was head of the children's section of Żegota, the Polish Council to Aid Jews.
Kathy Headlee is the founder of Mothers Without Borders and has been involved with relief and community service work since 1989.
Candy Lightner (Candace Lynne Lightner) founded Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD).
Waris Dirie is a Somali model, author, actress and social activist. From 1997 to 2003, she served as a UN Special Ambassador.
Indira Priyadarshini Gandhi, was an Indian politician, stateswoman and a central figure of the Indian National Congress. She was the first and, to date, the only female Prime Minister of India. Indira Gandhi was the daughter of Jawaharlal Nehru, the first prime minister of India.
Elizabeth Cady Stanton
Elizabeth Cady Stanton was an American suffragist, social activist, abolitionist, and leading figure of the early women's rights movement.
Found and raised more than 30 abandoned Chinese babies from the streets of Jinhua, in the eastern Zhejiang province where she managed to make a living by recycling rubbish.
Ann Maria Reeves Jarvis was a social activist and community organizer during the American Civil War era.
Why Are Mothers so Important in Our Lives?
Mothers teach us to have confidence and belief in ourselves. Mothers knew from experience how important for people to believe in themselves in order for children to be whole, strong and grow with a healthy estimation of oneself. A good mother will be the kind of role model that helps her children understand how to treat women with respect and dignity.
How Do You Show Your Mom You Appreciate Her?
We can always use more ideas, and moms can always use more appreciation.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.