Learning about boundaries and disciplining yourself to use them with a narcissist is essential in managing them.
Discourtesy is old fashioned. Let us work toward bringing manners into style and show respect to our parents.
Grandparents can help mentor grandchildren through letters. It is a communication tool that helps build a bond of trust and bridges a relationship through the years.
Your child's wedding: you want everything about it to be perfect, but most of the important stuff depends on how you choose to involve yourself.
Being a stepmom is one of the most challenging roles in a family dynamic. If you're struggling with perfectionism and the need to make everyone happy, these self-care tips and suggestions are for you.
I wanted to share with readers that even though growing up in a toxic home can be difficult, there are also lessons to be learned from it that can be applied to your everyday life.
Guidelines for visiting new parents with their baby in the first few weeks. Don't turn up unannounced, don't create extra work, be helpful and admire the baby.
DYFS DCPP investigations are stressful and confusing. Many of my clients ask me if they have to comply, if they should comply, and what will happen if they don't comply. This article provides answers.
As people get older and they experience sensory losses, it can be difficult to communicate effectively. Here are some tips to assist you in communicating effectively with the elderly.
Based on my experience, I'll show you how courts may deny probate when there are no blood relatives. In this detailed accounting, I'll explain how to handle it.
If your marriage is ending in a divorce, you will want to chart a course that is the least stressful for your kids. Here are six practical tips to help your children cope with the divorce.
Learn how to cope with manipulative family members, gain clarity, set boundaries, and reclaim family harmony with this five-step solution. Understand how to perceive scheming family members now.
From our toddler days to our declining years, cousins play significant roles in our lives—making them special people. From substitute siblings to co-authors of our history, they give great support.
Adult children of healthy families don't just stop talking to their parents. Here are some of the reasons why a person walks away from a parent or stops including parents in their life.
This sequel to "14 Signs You Have a Toxic Mother-In-Law" reveals if the relationship with a toxic mother-in-law can change for the better after you give her grandchildren.
If you're a caregiver for someone with dementia, one of the most important things you can do for your loved one is take care of yourself. Here are some simple things you can do to avoid burning out.
What do parents do when their child goes through a divorce? What about the grandchildren, if there are any? What is the role of the parent or grandparent in the changing family landscape?
Narcissistic mothers-in-law are tough teachers but their lessons are priceless. If you learn yours, you'll be a better woman for it.
Children have the right to see both parents, even in high-conflict custody situations. This article will explain why a specific court is necessary and give examples of language that can be used.
Now that you've welcomed your baby home, you've also welcomed a whole new version of your in-laws: grandma and grandpa. With new grandparents comes uncharted territory for all involved. Let's figure out how we can get through it together.
Off all the times in a child's life that they need their parents, one of the biggest will be the day your child comes out as transgender. All they need is for you to stand by them.
Building your pedigree chart first will have you on your way to building your family tree in no time. It's simple to make and a great way to "branch out" from your direct lineage to grow your tree.
Children and grandparents belong together. Grandparents, parents, and kids all benefit from this bond. Find tips on how to establish and strengthen those ties.
Are you the black sheep of your family? Are you the one who takes all the blame? Learn why families label certain members this way, and how you can cope.
A daughter finds her father cleaning the attic while her mother is dying and along with recall of her childhood, contemplates her mother’s death documenting with poetic prose different memories that are combined as a trilogy.
Staying with friends or family is a terrific way to save money when traveling and learn inside information about the place you're visiting. Unfortunately, some guests lack proper etiquette and made the experience miserable for their hosts. Find out how to be welcomed with open arms again and again!
The loss of your child profoundly changes you forever. You are initiated into a group you never asked, nor wanted to be in but despite your heart telling you otherwise - life goes on.
In the past five years I have been contacted by my biological father, and my three biological half brothers. Before this contact, I knew little about these people who shared my DNA, and had no idea of their whereabouts. In the case of my father, the...
We have all learned that an ideal family usually has a mother, a father, and children, but this is a Western ideal. What does the rest of the world have to say about family? How do theirs look and function? You might be surprised.
Relationships with your mother-in-law can be particularly trying, because women tend to stick their claws out when threatened, which is exacerbated when two women love the same man. If you can handle this article, then you may be on the way to mending your relationship with your MIL.
People love to bitch about their dysfunctional families, but it takes a highly motivated person to end the destructive patterns that have plagued generation after generation. A "transitional character" is someone who recognizes the dysfunction and chooses to end it. I became one and so can you!
Children with a parent who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder suffer greatly and suffer in silence under the abuse that comes from this disorder.
Every day, hundreds of family ties are severed, and generally it's for lack of understanding and communication. How does one come to grips with such a sad outcome, yet live a happy, peaceful life? It's hard when judgment, misunderstanding, or societal expectations destroy a family's bond.
Finding out that European men married Cherokee women put Cherokee blood in my line. Of course, as dark as my hair is, people could see why. What other traits go with the Cherokee Heritage?
This is not a syrupy treatise on Mothers Day; in fact, it is just the opposite. It is NOT fiction. It is my story about one of the worst days of my life. Truth is stranger than fiction.
Do you hide your secret diary but have nosy siblings you can't trust? Learn how to hide your diary from them with unique hiding places, clever disguises and online alternatives.
In a day and age when mother and daughters-in-law seem to always be at odds, hope towards peace and reconciliation can still be found, as long as both parties seek compassion, kindness, and understanding. If you are a MIL, consider changing your tactics, as well as remembering how you felt as a DIL.
Mothers and daughters often have clashing personality traits or a splash of resentment and competition, but there is always love and pride that make up this complex relationship— isn't there?
In this article, I show you how you can download your raw DNA data from My Heritage and various websites where you can upload your DNA data so you can compare results.
It's up to grandparents to decide what they wish to be called, but it never hurts to give them a few fun and creative suggestions. Here are some cute nicknames for grandma and grandpa!
There is nothing more important in a girls life than the love of her father. He shapes and molds her and helps her grow into a woman. His influence will have an impact on her for her entire life.
Do you have Irish roots? Have you put off trying to trace them because you thought tracing Irish ancestry was impossible? With more records appearing online, it is becoming easier to trace your Irish ancestors.
Maybe I shouldn't complain—it’s not like they kept me in a cage or beat me. But my parents—you have to wonder, what were they thinking? Here’s some crazy ways they screwed me up good.
How do you use ThruLines and other new tools on Ancestry? Here's what I've figured out about these new features added by Ancestry in beta form in March 2019.
Applying for Italian citizenship jure sanguinis isn’t easy, especially when you need birth certificates from Italy. Here’s how to request birth certificates from Italy.
I had the most wonderful grandmother. Although she is no longer with us, there are few days that pass without her entering into my thoughts at least once. When a person touches your heart, they live forever in your soul.
Is ex-wife in your life is a vortex of drama? Are you a stepmom seeking to understand your situation? Read on for answers.
One of the best things you can do to help support our troops in Afghanistan is to send them a care package. This hub contains information on what to send, what not to send and how to package the items.
What's better, having one child or having many? What are the pros and cons of being an only child? Read on to learn more about this topic. Also, feel free to share your own experiences.
Hub about the unique relationship between aunts and nieces, two women thrown together by birth, but kept together by love.
We had no control over our birth order, but scientists say the order in which we were born has a great deal to do with how successful we will become. Is that really true? Let's discuss it.
More and more parents are being cut out of their adult children's lives. This is a difficult phenomenon and completely heartbreaking. It's hard to find comfort no matter which side of it you're on. My intention with this article is to provide some comfort for parents and adult children alike.
Whether your dad was absent from your life physically or emotionally, you suffered because of it. The last thing you want now is to let his rejection define who you are and limit your potential. Follow these five steps to move forward.
This guide shows you how to use the numerous historical records that are now available free online, including the 1901 and 1911 censuses, church and civil records, gravestone inscriptions, ship passenger records, and large-scale townland maps.
Congratulations on becoming a grandmother. Maybe you are looking for a fun name other than the traditional use of "grandma" or similar. Well, look no further. Here are 100+ names to choose from, including some from languages other than English that are sure to stick for a lifetime.
A common family relationship problem is jealousy from other family members. The division that it causes is undeniable. The author presents some strategies to deal with jealous relatives
Information on how to choose a Godfather or Godmother for your child. Learn about the responsibilities, when to select one, and how to pick the right one.
My Aunt's wishes were to be cremated and have her ashes scattered in the ocean. This is a visual detailed account of the burial ceremony carrying out her wishes.
Working on your family history seems like a never-ending task. Setting some goals and spreading it out over five years makes it less overwhelming.
Many parents struggling with the financial woes of modern times are already under pressure and are susceptible to feeling like they’re not doing a “good enough job”. Many grandparents feel it’s in their right to pass judgment on the way their grandchildren are raised.
Even if the daughter-in-law enters the relationship with defiance, a wise mother-in-law can bring love into a friendly, supportive relationship in which love becomes mutual—because both need it.
What force gives you the strength to take on the responsibility of raising your grandchildren....LOVE!
Memories are the one thing most of us want to hold on to, but what if those memories are broken and tattered—full of sadness, heartbreak, and loss of childhood innocence? How do you survive that?
Caregiving for a loved one has financial implications that can disrupt your income. The good news is you can get paid for that through these options.
It's difficult explaining a complex family history. Using screenshots with vintage photos or with a family tree lets you add notes, arrows and boxes to clarify. It's a great way to feature research.
I had experience hiring caregiver aides for my elderly aunt. This is how I hired aides, wrote a healthcare agreement, and dealt with elder care agencies.
The biological families we are born into tend to be our greatest asset or our greatest source of resentment - sometimes somewhere in between.
Planning a funeral or memorial service is like planning a wedding. There may be good reasons to restrict attendance and ban certain people. Here is the why and how on making yours private.
If you have lost a loved one it is not surprising you are looking for ideas as to how you can either create a memorial to them or find a unique way to pay tribute to them. This article offers suggestions for some ways you can immortalize your lost loved ones with memorials or tributes.
Tracing one’s family history is one of the most popular hobbies among Americans. I have assembled 10 genealogy sites that can greatly help your family history search.
Losing your mother is a pain like no other pain. There are ways to make it easier to endure the pain and still honor your dear mother.
Grandparents have many opportunities to capture memorable moments if we will pay attention and take time to savor—with all our senses— the joy of interaction with our grandchildren.
Are you in a child custody battle? If you're separated or divorced, think twice about calling CPS on your ex because you could risk your child's future.
Overprotective parents can make even the simplest things, like going out with friends and having a boyfriend, into major sources of conflict. This creates longterm problems for the child. Learn some tips on how to get them to give you some freedom.
Your sisters are your first friends, but after you grow up and move away, how do you stay close? Here are a few ideas to help you keep your sisterly ties strong as you juggle life.
Not all genealogy information is online. Use these tips to collect what your family members know. It's important to gather this before it's too late and the information is lost.
Help with genealogy research. The maternal lines of your ancestry may be difficult to research, but there are ways to uncover these branches in your family tree. Advice on how to overcome "brick walls" in your family tree related to missing maiden names.
Navigating the process to say goodbye when a loved one is dying can be made more manageable if you keep these ten useful tips in mind.
Dating or marrying a widower with children is a very big responsibility. With it, you take on a life that will sometimes leave you to feel lonely, neglected and emotionally wrecked.
You found the man of your dreams, but he comes with children and an ex-wife who hates your guts for no reason. You are not alone.
Can extended family members become overbearing? Yes. Especially so in a collectivist Middle Eastern culture with a terminally ill family member. There comes a time when saying 'no' is important.
Tips for how to find out whether your ancestors fought in the Civil War. The Civil War impacted the lives of a large part of the American population. There are many resources online that can help you discover whether any of your ancestors played a part in this conflict.
Despite the fact that most people will eventually do it, sex is still a subject that makes us squirm—at least when we're talking about it with our parents. Here are some tips on how to make the conversation less awkward.
Choosing a gift for a nursing home resident can seem difficult, but these ideas are certain to enchant your beloved senior.
I helped my sister get out of Scientology when she asked for help. If you lost a family member or friend to a religious cult, my story offers a way to help them.
The main issue in most Christian families is the neglect of Bible principles. This article encourages Christians to alleviate problems and improve happiness in four basic areas, including awareness.
Learn about what a typical consumer DNA kit requires, how much it costs, and what it can do for you. Get help deciding whether Ancestry, 23 and Me, or FamilyTree DNA is the best choice.
Here's a list of consequences and effects of having a deadbeat Dad in a child's life. Deadbeat Moms too, of course.
I am determined to pass on to my granddaughter the love principles my grandmothers taught me: the vision of womanhood, sound of love, fragrance of family, flavor of wisdom and the touch of heaven.
A Mothers Prayer is the story of my teenage daughter. As her mother I was very concerned about her choices. The story tells of the power of prayer & the very specific answer to my urgent pleadings.
Variations in the spelling of your ancestors' first names and surnames can cause a lot of trouble for you when you are researching your family history. This article shares tips for overcoming the hurdles caused by spelling variations and nicknames.
Does your mother-in-law suck the joy out of your life and make you feel powerless? Then it's time to take your power back.
When a child says "I hate my dad," something is wrong. If you have trouble at home and would like to talk about it, this site is a safe place. There are lots of reasons why kids hate their dads.
World War II wrought havoc on families around the globe from 1939 to 1945. It ended a few months before I was born. My dad and I met when I was six-months-old because the atomic bomb was successful.
A narcissistic parent can be the most difficult thing to admit to having. When you realize it, you'll realize why you are the way you turned out to be.
How to think and cope with your child's undesirable spouse. How should you handle your child's horrible significant other? Should you tell your child that their spouse is awful?
Second cousins, third cousins, once removed, twice removed - find out what it all means. You do not have to be an expert genealogist to figure out which cousin is which. Family Relationship Chart breaks it all down.
Creating a family tree book is easy, fun and will become an heirloom to pass down to generations to come. Including a variety of files will keep it interesting, informative and make it most personal.
This article describes my experience of searching for ancestors in Austria, Germany, and Switzerland. It also lists some of my joys and sorrows in using online genealogy services.
A great way to find new clues while researching your family history is to visit old cemeteries. A lot of regions may not have death records available, so gravesites are the next best thing for finding out vital information on your ancestors.
There are few things on life more devastating than the death of a parent. This is true even for adults when they lose a parent. For a child it is a true life-altering experience.
Emotional abuse is always difficult, but it is especially hard to spend the holidays with a codependent or narcissistic parent.
Steel your nerves and bite the bullet, leaving the house and breaking the news is going to be no easy chore to your overprotective parents.
"Just when you think you know what love is, along come the grandchildren." It was not in the game plan, but necessity is truly the mother of THIS invention called grand-parenting.
Every day, adult children, spouses, and family members place their aging loved ones into nursing homes. Although society has become very accepting of this practice, it isn't always the best choice for the person. This article looks at the legal and moral side of this increasing social practice.
It wasn't until many years later - when I was an adult myself with more life experience - that I truly appreciated what a wonderful person my late grandma was and how she shaped my childhood.
Do you have a new grandchild, or one on the way, and need a list of the bare essential supplies to have on hand when they visit? Here are the supplies that many grandparents find helpful.
We became foster/kinship parents about a year ago for five of our grandchildren. It was an exciting, terrifying, and fulfilling year. We bonded with them, and we will always cherish those days.
Newspapers.com is a wonderful resource for researchers. Genealogists love it! Here are tips from a librarian for getting the best results from your searches.
A beginner's guide on how to do genealogy research online. Researching one's ancestry is an interesting pastime and can lead to many fascinating discoveries. The internet can be a very useful tool for those who would like to learn more about their family history.
There may come a time when you have endured a harmful and stressful family relationship, and you may wonder if cutting ties is right for you.
Sinkholes are where the ground sinks under you without warning. My husband and I fell into so many of these sinkholes, I felt it necessary to share a warning with other blended families in hopes of helping people avoid these.
A mother's jealousy of her daughter can be a hidden source of tension in their relationship. It can be caused by a mom's insecurity, from regret over her life choices, or by her narcissism. Whatever the cause, it can make a daughter feel abandoned and confused.
In American genealogy, most researchers consider gateway ancestors as colonial immigrants who migrated to America, settling in Jamestown or Plymouth Colonies with an ancestral link to the great Magna Carta Surety Barons.
Some grandchildren regard their grandparents with utmost respect. They summarize their feelings with “My grandmother is a saint,” or “I have a saint for a grandfather.” Here are some reasons.
Creating a Family Tree Book is easy and fun and becomes an heirloom for generations to come. Adding a birth certificate gives the book an authentic and personal touch.
Will a subscription to Newspapers.com give you valuable information for your family history research? Here are examples of how it helped me, and why I recommend it.
Tripping Stones, or Stolpersteine, are a mixture of art and a personal way to remember those who lost their lives during the Holocaust.
This article presumes that the research will produce knowledge of at least three generations past. How can this affect the wellbeing of older people? Probably in more ways than expected.
Here's how to connect your DNA to your family tree on Ancestry.com so you can learn how you're related to your DNA relatives and unlock more about your heritage.
Most codependent relationships are between a parent and child. The lines between healthy and obsessive are often blurred. Here are 8 signs to help you determine if your relationship is codependent.
Some parents don't let go. Here is an article for the adult children of control freaks and children or toxic or misguided parents. Hold onto your cell phone, it's going to get bumpy.
Determining whether your child is gay or straight and making unsafe assumptions. Help for parents trying to decide if their child is gay answering questions: Why won't my child tell me they are gay? How do I know if my child is gay? Helping parents with acceptance for their gay child.
Since August 2016, I have been building a family tree and trying to identify my ancestors who originated in Europe. Based on successes and failures, I suggest a number of tips for doing genealogy research.
Learn the best methods to trace and record your family history. Several computer genealogy programs are reviewed. Various methods to be successful in your data search are discussed, including DNA.
Nothing compares to becoming a grandparent. However joyful that is, we are quickly reminded that while cute, children don't waste a minute to discover the world! Here are tips to keep them safe.
Sometimes we find ourselves asking why do we need family? There are at least ten reasons why we need family, and here they are.
These 35 ideas for interaction between grandparents (biological or not) and grandchildren are intended to trigger even more ideas for fun, teaching opportunities, and social and emotional well-being.
Here are tips for researching your ancestors based on how their extended family migrated. How extended families moved from place to place in the past can become a key to unlocking missing parts of your family heritage.
Getting along with your family during the holidays may sound harder than it really is. By using a little self-control and offering some peace, patience, understanding, and positivity, you could really turn this stressful time into one full of happy memories and positive relationships all year long.
Feel like thanking your mother for everything she's done for you? Looking for ways to say I Love You to your mom? Do you want to pen a poem for your mother? Be inspired with this collection of Thank You messages and write your own thank you note, poem, card, speech or even a letter to your mom. Shower her with love and care, just how she did when you were a child. Be the loving son or daughter that you really are!
Within four months time, we have had quite a change this year. We had our two children both move out, and my parents move out of state. This is the only family we have here. Here is our story.
During our Thanksgiving season this year, let’s not take our second chances for granted. Some of my friends who are grandmothers share with us the seconds for which they are grateful. Be inspired!
A narcissistic mother controls, abuses, and manipulates her children. Why would she be any different as a grandmother? Learn the telltale signs of a narcissistic grandmother.
So you are working but still end up homeless? Been there! Here are my biggest tips to those homeless families that could use a little advice. Homeless children and families.
Parents often have a favorite child, no matter how much they deny it. Favoritism impacts how parents think, feel, and act towards their offspring. It also affects the kids. Here are the signs Mom and Dad are playing favorites.
Is a generation gap making it difficult for you to connect with your lonely grandparent? Read on for tips on how you can bridge this gap and have a more fulfilling relationship with him or her.
Have a friend that is estranged from one or both of their parents? Here are a few things you should avoid saying to them, as well as three things they need to hear.
When a stepmom feels unappreciated for her contributions to a blended family, her physical and psychological health can be affected. This article is a guide for any woman or stepmom who wishes to reduce the stress in her life through disengagement.
Building a family tree can a be stressful, yet fulfilling endeavor. In this hub I give some tips that I learned in my journey to create my family tree.
Independence... or assisted living? It's a very hard decision to make. These are the things to look for if you're wondering if your parent is getting too old to take care of themself.
Thinking about and planning for your death is not easy, but it’s imperative when you’re a parent. There’s more to it than just writing a will.
Puzzled about how to get the most out of your Ancestry DNA test? Here are some tips from an experienced genealogist.
Still living with your parents? Or thinking about moving in with your folks? As an adult in your 20s or 30s, there are both advantages and disadvantages to living with your mom, dad, or both.
Here are thirty quotes that will help establish and foster healthy attitudes toward your home and family, which in the words of Rabbi Simon Jacobson, are "the center of your life."
Whether you are single, married without kids, older without children in the home anymore, or just from a different perspective, understanding the younger generation of families is something that seems difficult to do. Younger families have different needs and priorities. Let me show you.
These tips for healthy relationships between fathers and sons are primarily addressed to fathers because the responsibility is theirs to initiate the positive attitudes which benefit their sons.
How to determine if your aunt is your great aunt or grand aunt, and whether you have met a first cousin or second cousin at the family reunion.
A grandparent's role as teacher. One of the most important is that of teacher. Here are 5 important things that grandparents can teach their grandchildren about reading, skills, values, manners and family heritage.
Having a husband or wife that travels frequently for work can be a real drag, especially when there are small kids to take care of. This article describes practical tips for how short-term single parents can better handle going it alone when their spouse travels.
If you have to move back in with your parents in order to save money or pay off your student loans, take note of these tips and suggestions for how to live comfortably with your parents again.
Learn to fill out the most basic form used in tracing family history. Capture the details of your ancestors' families in an easy-to-find format.
As a grandparent raising a grandchild, I can truly say that hind sight is 20/20. This article explores words of wisdom I'd share with my younger self to help her along this journey called life.
Getting information for official military records is simple using online tools. By providing a little info about your veteran you can discover fascinating details contained in their service records.
Millions of adults find themselves increasingly in the role of caring for elderly parents. Here are some tips gleaned from years spent as a caregiver.
Being a stepmom is hard enough, but when you add conflict with the in-laws to the mix, your blended situation becomes even more unpalatable.
It all started on a sunny afternoon when I came home and told my husband that I did not want him smoking marijuana at our house anymore. I had come to a point in my life were family and addiction did not fit in the same category; I had to choose...
Congratulations on becoming a grandfather. Maybe you are looking for a fun name other than the traditional use of "grandpa." Well, look no further. Here are 100+ names to choose from, including some from languages other than English that are sure to stick for a lifetime.
Completion is an important end of life activity and saying goodbye to loved ones is a difficult yet important step.
Did you grow up with an emotionally absent mother and suffer because of it? Find out how you can thrive despite your painful past.
Daughters of absent fathers (whether through death, divorce, or emotional neglect) often make the same mistakes, causing themselves immense anguish. By ignoring their anger, not being vulnerable, and blaming themselves, they can't move beyond their victimhood.
Historical newspapers have been a great aid in my genealogy research. I have identified many cousins, great-uncles, great-aunts, and also discovered some very surprising news about my great-grandpa.
Grandparents should never underestimate how truly special there are in the life of a grandchild. They give the unconditional love and acceptance that nobody else does. They have the time, patience, and wisdom that moms and dads often lack. They can teach so much and add lots of fun and laughter.
High conflict ex-wives frequently use the children as weapons by withholding visitation. This article outlines what you can do when it happens to you.
Many people like to debate where their children get their personalities and habits from. The research paper below gives a comparison of expert view along with a personal touch.
Grandma, granny, nana, or mimi; there are many names that can be applied to the family matriarch. Sometimes the title is chosen because of language or cultural norm, or it is a selection made by a grandchild who is not yet able to voice the traditional title so the name is shortened.
If you switched roles with your mom or dad, becoming the caretaker in the relationship, you were a parentified child. Because of it, you may be depressed, angry, and resentful now as an adult.