Collect Family History From Your Living Relatives
Find Living Relatives and Gather Information from Them
Time may be running out to gather information from our parents' generation. They may have family information and photos that give you clues to expand your family history.
If your older relatives are in their 70s, 80s or 90s, you'll be sorry if you delay asking them about names, dates and family stories. Some day they will be gone and there will be no one to ask.
Get organized and get in touch with your living relatives to collect what they know. I talked about this topic at my local genealogy club and members agreed that they needed to do this.
Tracking Down the Living Relatives
Start first with the ones you know. This includes your parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles.
Next move on to finding less-known relatives like second or third cousins. They share your great-grandparents and may have family stories and photos to share.
Where can you find the ones you don't already know? Ask your family. "What happened to your uncle? Where did he move to? Did he have children?"
Take the names and locations and start searching. Try the names on Facebook. Check a site like Lost Cousins which tries to match you with others researching the same names.
Once you find a missing relative, get in touch by email, letter, phone or a visit. Remember that it may take some back and forth to establish who you are and draw out the information you want. It can be a slow process.
Set Up Some Cousin Bait
Create a family group on Facebook or start a blog to share your family history. Get your name and your family research out there on the Internet.
If a distant relative is looking online for family names, you want them to find you. Make it easy for them.
Ancestry even set up a series of videos on Ancestry Academy on the topic of Cousin Bait: Making Social Media Work for You. It's free to watch and will set you on the right track for finding those living relatives.
Message boards have been around nearly as long as the Internet. You don’t want to ignore them since they are a great place to find like-minded researchers and cousins, and a good way to possibly get a question answered.
YouTube Video to Watch - Cousin Bait: Blogging to Find Your Family
Set up Family Groups to Share Information on Facebook
Groups Work Better Than Pages for This
It's very easy to search in a group; Facebook conveniently provides a search box in the sidebar, and you can bring up posts that are quite old. Pages do not have this functionality.
Tips for Your Facebook Cousin groups
Facebook can be a wonderful facilitator for connecting with distant family. The cousins that I've just bumped into are probably 2nd cousins, once removed or maybe 3rd cousins.
I'll sort out the relationship later. Wikipedia has a chart to explain cousin relationships.
Anyway, one of the newly found cousins posted a photo of my great-grandfather, John Thomas Martin. It was his great-great-grandfather, so that's how we connect on the family tree.
I administer a Facebook group for the Martin cousins so promptly invited him to it. Ended up with 2 other cousins joining as well. Excellent! The more participants, the more likely that vintage photos like the one above get shared and memories preserved.
Martin isn't an easy name to research since it is terribly common. The Martin line that we are part of came to Greenwood County, Kansas in the 1800s and further back in the 1700s from Kentucky.
How Do You Create a Facebook Group? Start by Clicking on "Create a Group"
Next Step in Creating a Group on Facebook
Ask Questions of Those Wanting to Join the Group
I usually ask a question like "Tell us a little about how you link to the Vining family" or "Tell us about your interest in Kennedy & Stone family history." (save what they tell you, as it disappears once you approve them for the group)
Put Your Genealogy Info Online
You want distant relatives to find you, so get your name and your interest "out there." Starting a family group on Facebook like I suggested above is one way to go and it's free.
Starting a family history blog is another way to be visible. Wordpress.com is free and so is Blogger. For an example of this, check out my Martin/McGhee genealogy blog which I named Then and Now so it includes family history and relates it to current family ties.
A third way to do this is to put queries on message board on genealogy sites like Ancestry.
If you're using Ancestry, look for trees that overlap your own. If someone has a lot of the same people on their tree as you do, chances are good that you are related in some way. Use the message system on the site to contact the tree owner and chat about how you are possibly related.
Here's a sample message that gladdened me to see:
Hi my name is (name deleted for privacy reasons). My Grandfather is Earnest McGhee. His dad was Green Verlon McGhee. Soloman is my grandfather too. I was wondering if we could talk and maybe exchange some information. Thank You, D.
Things to Take Along When Interviewing a Relativeview quiz statistics
A Popular Portable Scanner Used by a Genealogist
This has the ability to scan oversize pictures and stitch the parts together on your computer.
Other options are the wand style of scanner. I also use an app on my phone called CamScanner which works for on-the-fly scanning. You can take a photo with your phone but the perspective is usually out-of-whack even if you try taking it directly overhead with good light and hold your hand very steady.
Tips for Interviewing Your Living Relatives
Need Some Sample Questions to Ask Your Relatives?
- StoryCorps | Great Questions
This site provides a list that you can take with you to get your relative talking about family history.
Join Regional Facebook Groups And Share Your Photos and Ask Questions
Include as Much Information as You Can
In the above photo, I included the names of the people in the family and also the names of later children they had. Several people responded that the name Fate McGhee sounded familiar to them. They were going to ask their relatives to see what the possible link might be. I'm hopeful that this photo will entice some information from 3rd or 4th cousins who might still live in that area.
Best of Luck to You
in finding living relatives and getting more family history saved for future generations.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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