How to Deal With Overprotective Parents and Gain Your Freedom

Updated on February 22, 2019
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Overprotective parents can hinder your life. The best thing you can do is learn how to gain your liberty.
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If you have overprotective parents, then you're familiar with the fight that comes with wanting to go out of the house or hang out with friends without supervision. Depending on how overprotective they are (there's definitely different levels), you may or may not be in for a real fight (even if you're just wanting to go out to see a movie with a bunch of friends).

Even though my dad would encourage me to go out, my mom would say, "How dare you want to go out. You must hate me!" When I was younger I couldn't stand up to my mom, so I grew up never hanging out with friends or leaving the house. Throughout elementary school and middle school, whenever someone asked if I wanted to do something with them, I would ask my mom and she would guilt me into not going. After that, I stopped trying. My friends stopped asking if I could do things, so I became lonely and upset with my mom. I desperately needed to gain my freedom.

Steps to Gain Freedom From Your Parents

  1. Prepare yourself and your resolve.
  2. Make your stand.
  3. Be patient and keep trying.

What to Keep in Mind

Keep the end goal in mind before confrontation. It will help you stand your ground.

1. Prepare Yourself and Your Resolve

If you've reached the point where you are tired of not being able to go out with friends, or you want more freedom for yourself, the first thing you need to do is ready your mind. This is crucial. The first time you make your stand against your parent(s), you'll have to fight against the urge to avoid further conflict and cave in.

For me, this didn't happen until my third year of college or so. Yes, I know that is a very, very long time. I regret not going to any of my high school dances. Although, to be honest, I wasn't too interested in dancing and I was super self-conscious and rarely said a word to anyone throughout high school. I did, however, really want to go to the party after prom, but my mom somehow ended up guilt-ing me into not going. I ended up crying and just thinking "fine, I didn't want to go anyway."

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What to Keep in Mind

Don't push too far, too fast. Take is slow. If your parents know your friends/who you'll be hanging out with, they'll be more likely to say yes.

2. Make Your Stand

Before even confronting your parent(s), keep your end goal in mind. If it's to go out with friends to a movie, don't let them win right away. It's okay if you don't get what you want at first. Try to barter and keep it at a level that they will be comfortable with.

If your parents don't want you hanging around with the opposite sex (which is another issue, but relevant), assure them that there will be a lot of people going. If they don't like you being out past a certain hour, see a movie and be back before that time. After a while, you can start asking for more. They will get more comfortable with you leaving the house. Just give them what they want somewhat (like a text message when you get there) and don't push too far too quickly.

Honestly, it's a lot like taking baby steps. Don't expect them to be okay with you having a serious date and not coming home until 1 A.M. the first time you ask. Let them build their trust in you first and get comfortable before stretching their limits.

Really, it's not so much as "asking" as putting your foot down. This may be hard at first, but if you open yourself up to a "yes or no" question, they're going to automatically say no, because they said so. An example of this would be "I want to go to the movies this Friday with so and so. A lot of people will be there and I'll be home by [insert time]. I'll text you when I get there."

Depending on how they answer, you may end up having to barter and convince them. "I've been doing really well in school lately and I don't go out a lot. I'll be sure to be careful, [insert name of responsible friend] is driving." It also helps if your parents know who you are hanging out with. If you have to bring them by, go for it. Play video games, ask if they can come over for dinner, etc. If your parents are comfortable with your choice in friends, they'll be less likely to say no.

What to Keep in Mind

If they say no right away, try bartering with how good you're doing at school and how you'll be back before a certain time.

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3. Be Patient and Keep Trying

I can't stress how important it is to keep trying and pushing your boundaries. Depending on how overprotective and how hard it is for you to get your parents to agree to let you have your way, the longer it'll take to get them used to the idea.

My mom always complained that I was "given a little freedom and then I took advantage of it." Yeah, because I had been cooped up for years and years! But, realistically, this made it harder to get her used to the idea of me going out. I probably should have taken it slower, but by that time I was 19 or 20 and I knew that she was being unreasonable.

Be prepared for "I'm not talking to you" and the silent treatment every once in a while. I luckily had my dad to help calm my mom down sometimes, but I would still come home and find that my mom wasn't speaking to me. Eventually though, she did finally get used to me leaving the house, having a job, hanging out with friends and having a boyfriend. It wasn't in any way easy for her to accept it, but I tried to make it easier by spending time with her.

I figure that one of her biggest fears was me not wanting to spend time with her, so I made sure to still watch tv together and keep in touch with her via texting when I could.

It's not easy, but if it's something that you want, keep trying. It's well worth the struggle and once you finally do gain your freedom and independence, you'll find that you don't feel as anxious, lonely, and caged up as you used to.

What to Keep in Mind

Keep in touch with your parents and let them know you're okay when you're out. It's annoying, but it's a small sacrifice.

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FAQ About the Effects of Overprotective Parents

Why children of overprotective parents are slated to fail in life

Overprotective parents are invasive in many ways. They solve problems for their children that the latter are often capable of solving for themselves. They infantilize their children by making them feel incapable of charting their own course. This can lead to anxiety and feelings of inferiority. It makes it harder for the child to handle chaos.

How do you define an overprotective parent?

The overprotective parent wants to protect their children from harm, physical pain, unhappiness, rejection, hurt feelings, failure, and disappointments. When it comes to their children, these parents are fearful of everything. This can lead to feelings of over-dependency or resentment from the child.

Is being overprotective good in a relationship?

Trust is the base for any healthy and good relationship, familial or romantic. To keep a relationship going you must trust a person. Overprotective parents are signaling that they do not trust their child. This can create feelings of inadequacy in the child.

What causes possessiveness in a relationship?

Simply put, insecurity causes possessiveness. When one becomes overly possessive and protective, it demonstrates that the person doubts the relationship. This insecurity is presented as a lack of trust. If a person cannot demonstrate confidence in someone else, then how does that person expect to be held in the confidence of others?

How do I stop being overprotective?

  1. Keep expectations and goals realistic.
  2. Don't let guilt or fear make you overprotective.
  3. Don't bail out the child from every mistake.
  4. Respect the child's need for privacy.
  5. Don't try to choose your child's friends.
  6. Allow freedom and privileges based on the child's developmental level.
  7. Encourage and support independence.

Conditions Caused by Bad Parenting

Problem
Description
Lack of Independence
Kids who are unable to make a decision without their parents are usually too afraid to take chances. They have a perception that the world is a dangerous place without the help of their parents.
Depression, Feeling Guilty
By belittling their efforts, parents can inadvertently cause their children to think of themselves as fools and failures.
Inability to relax
An adult who can never relax may not be able to understand children. They often hate immature people.
Extremely Low Self-Esteem
Parents who too often compare their child to more accomplished children will raise a self-critical child that will become an adult with an inferiority complex.
Suppression of Emotions
By denying a child the right to express their emotions, the parents are also suppressing feelings, which can give rise to psychological issues.

Ways People Control Their Children

Problem
Result
Parents try to choose the child's friend.
Your child will likely revolt against your choices. They want to feel that they made their friends on their own.
Parents have unrealistic goals.
The child will become stressed and feel like a failure or a fraud even when they're doing well.
Parents don't give their children privacy.
The child is likely to resent you or become overly dependent on you.
Parents make daily choices for their children.
Let your kids make their own choices about what to wear. Don't demand that they like your music or artistic tastes. This will lead to resentment.
Parents don't let their child fail at anything.
Eventually, your child will be an adult and will fail at something. If they don't know how to handle failure, then they are likely to overreact, becoming angry or depressed.

What to do with a child that is out of control?

  1. You need to remember to take care of yourself. Take care of yourself emotionally and physically, so your children don't end up with that job.
  2. You need to remember to observe yourself and your relationship patterns. These include your own thinking, feelings, and behavior.
  3. Set rational and realistic limits and give enforceable consequences.
  4. Recognize your own contribution to the positive and negative behaviors you see in your child.

Most Common Parenting Mistakes

Problem
Result
Under or overdoing it with your kids.
Becoming overindulgent in your children, never giving them space, being too critical, or living through them will only lead to resentment in the long run.
Not getting to know your child.
If you do not know your child, then you will project your own impressions onto your child and this will skew their self-image.
Believing that worrying about your kids will prevent them from harm.
You are not in control of the universe. The more scared you are of everything, the more scared your children are likely to be.
Maintaining expectations that are too low or too high.
Parents often make the mistakes of compartmentalizing their children. Maybe the parent labels their firstborn the "smart kid," the next child "the attractive one," and the youngest one "the social child." This is unfair. Comparing your kids inadvertently gives each of them the message that they are good at only one thing.
Making your children the center of your life.
You may not be taking care of yourself. And, what message do you think that is sending to your children? The message is that life is no fun for adults because adults don't take care of themselves. This makes your child hate the idea of becoming an adult.

Skills Needed to Communicate With Children

  • Active listening
  • Empathizing with the child's point of view
  • Developing trusting relationships
  • Understanding non-verbal communication
  • Building a consistent rapport
  • Explaining, summarizing, and providing useful information
  • Giving feedback in a clear way

Do these rules work in other relationships?

Yes. In fact, all of these rules revolve around one core issue, trust. Trust is the base for any healthy relationship. Demonstrating that you trust your children is important. To keep any relationship going, you must trust a person. Trust is one thing that can definitely help you avoid being an overprotective parent, friend, or partner.

Sources

  1. David Stoop and James Masteller (1997-02-10). Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves: Healing Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families. Regal. ISBN 978-0830734238.
  2. Nancy J. Napier (April 1990). Recreating Your Self: Help for Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families. ISBN 978-0393028423.
  3. Raising Children Network Staff. "Praise, encouragement and rewards". Raising Children Network. 2011-04-10.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

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      Plink 

      8 days ago

      Hi everyone I'm a 19 year old Girl Doing my first year in varsity, My parents are very. Strict Especially Dad he is never allowing me to do anything they take me places i want to go, They take me to school, even when i want to go see my boyfriend, which they don't know about my Parents tell me i'm not allowed to have a boyfriend I'm still young, it's boring really Because my daily activities are Going to school read, clean the house, cook, watch TV, and sometimes go to the beach with them of course they're watching me About my phone they haven't taken my phone this year and read everything, thank god, they don't wanna see everything there, i make sure u delete every chat with my friends and my Boyfriend, my boyfriend and i meet up when i lie and say i'm going to school or what ever, we rarely meet about my friends we meet at school, and sometimes have a movie Day go to The Cinema, When i' m out with them they call every Hour if i'm okay or something, I love my parents very much but not trusting me it's hurting i have never got out at night partying, nor drinking alcohol, smoking all the cool things other people do To show them i'm not like them i know what i want in life, not that i want to do all of that, but i just want to have freedom now i know what's right or wrong i know how to take care of myself but they don't see that to them i know nothing about life

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      10 days ago

      Hi. In my case there are some similarities descriped in the article. But major difference is that they let me do things I ask but then when the time comes to go out my mum just somehow makes me feel guilty to go out. For instance she is always throwing the same example. Everyday when I come home from college she asks me if a have a lot to study and I say yes. So when I go out she says dont u have anything to study. But since i was a kid I have never ever said anything back to her because I was too afraid that she will be angry and that fear left till this day.

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      11 days ago

      My mom is very overprotective and I think it comes from my dad passing away when I was little, idk for sure but she won’t let me do anything the first time she let me stay home by myself I was 13 and before she wouldn’t let me go for walks I could only walk to the stop sign and back where she could watch me the entire time. Not only is she overprotective but she won’t let me do anything. I can’t get certain piercings (which I understand If it was like a belly button piercing but like I just want a nose piercing) she won’t let me cut my hair, she won’t let me dye my hair either (which I don’t understand because she let me in the past) she’s also judgemental, she’ll say things like “I don’t like the way that looks on you”, “you look homeless”, “that shirt makes you look bigger”, “those are for skinny people”. I know other people are going through much worse but I’ve never really had a safe place to talk about this. Like I don’t want to be here anymore I feel trapped, like I’m drowning and the surface is eighth above me but my mom keeps pushing me back down. I would runaway just so I could breathe for at least a couple hours but I’m too scared to. She also gets so annoyed sometimes when I walk into her room to ask a question so I usually don’t anymore. Like there’s so much more I could tell you but I think I’ve written enough. My plan is to dip next year when I’m 18 and I’m not gonna tell her til it’s happening so she can’t stop me. I want to be free so badly.

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      Ray Freeman 

      2 weeks ago

      My treatment foster parents every time I am at a friend's party I get dragged back to the foster home by my treatment foster parents

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      patrick 

      4 weeks ago

      I am 13 and my parent still treating me as a little child when i stand up they say i am disrespectful

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      dylan 

      6 weeks ago

      I'm 14 and have been dealing with my overprotective parents for as long as I can remember. I've tried standing up to them but that only leads to threats of extreme punishment. One of the worst side effects of having these kinds of parents is how I am almost constantly thinking about ways to run away. This sometimes makes it hard to study in class. My parents are the type of strict that rarely let me hang out with friends. And even if they do let me hang out, they insist I let them know exactly where I am at all times. Now, I am friends with the smartest, most well-behaved kids in my school and they still think they're a bad influence on me. It's gotten to the point where I don't enjoy being around my parents at all.

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      Ami 

      8 weeks ago

      I know that I have a little bit more freedom than other children, but that still doesn't change the fact that my parents are also overprotective(both of them on different levels). I'm 15(almost 16) and I don't really feel belittled, until it's about my grades/school or going outside. Me and my friends want to go to a city that's pretty far away(for internship) and of course, they didn't allow it(I understand why they would deny). My friends' parents allowed it and i'm the only one who's not allowed to go... I honestly just want some time alone(either for myself or with my friends), because just being alone at home is not the same as being outside alone. My parents think everything outside of our house is dangerous for me. My mom often critizes me(not aggressively. More like "You acne is still so bad" and so on... It's mostly because I have acne). She compares me with other people and doesn't trust me AT ALL. She's that kind of person that hits you, insults you, abandons you and will crawl back to you later and tell you how much they love you(sorry for this badly written sentence, haha). If I wouldn't have met my friends, I wouldn't be writing this. I wouldn't even know, that I was manipulative to my old best friend(he distanced himself from me). I just seriously want to get some time away from my parents. It still feels like they're watching me, even though I'm all alone at home.

      Oh, and they once tried to trick me into installing a GPS into my phone to know where I am. And btw: I've never lied about my whereabouts. I was obedient until now and they still don't trust me. They don't want me to live in another country when I've grown up and they told me that I can just live in the house we're living in right now... It's difficult for me to not just run away. I'm getting sick of my parents

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      Aneri 

      8 weeks ago

      Hi,I really liked your article because it felt like I had written this.I’m 19 and currently in third year of my college yet due to strict parents I haven’t got enough freedom.Everytime I go out I have to ask them first.In my first year I had to text them everytime I reached and left college.They are way too overprotective and that feels really suffocating.I want to live an independent life just like most of my friends do but I don’t see that coming to me in the near future. I’ve always been frustrated because of their stubbornness and everytime I argue I am shut down by them.This is becoming really hard for me and I’m losing all hope about being an independent,confident and self-sufficient person. I’ve been patient but it just doesn’t help.

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      David 

      2 months ago

      I'm 14 and have never had a phone. As many of you have said. No phone or social media then that means you are doomed. Thats entirely true believe me. My mom too reads all my texts between my friends on her phone which pretty much makes me never text my friends. Sadly my dad is pretty much working all day and gets home late. I dont even know how i have friends. I was pretty much the only kid who didnt have a phone at the end of 8th grade. Clothes isnt much of a problem as i like to wear plain hoodies and jeans. But i dont really get to hang out with my friends. The first time i had a friend over was last year when i was 13. last time too. Ive never been to a friends house without my mom waiting outside. Only have done that twice never again. Again that was last year. Honestly ive lost so much over this summer now that im in high school. i dont know any of the trends and half of my friends dont talk to me. undersocializing is a problem as i am pretty much always home. i dont go out much which made me socialy awkward and im always nervous when i go to stores or something. I honestly dont know how parents talk about how they used to be free and dont let us be free. Even my sister is being overprotective. Shes been threatening me about dating and shit and its horible. Shes just been getting in my business like its her life. IDK HOW WE CAN LIVE LIKE THIS. We need to be strong people. yet again i am a pessimist thanks to all this shit so oh well

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      Ingrid 

      2 months ago

      Hi I’m 14 and I think my parents are kind of overprotective. I am not allowed I have any social media when all of my friends do. I have never left the house to go hang out with friends other then their own homes. They still think I am a little kid. I just tried on some leggings and my mom said I had to wear them with one of my longer tops. Every time they judge something I wear I just want them to see what kids my age are wearing compared to what I wear. I am about to go through high school and more then over I want some form of social media. I have talked about it with them and they said that if I did get something then they would have to constantly check it. I have a phone and I get it in like 5th grade and just last year I got an Apple ID and I had to do it behind their backs because they kept just avoiding the question if I asked if I could get one. I finally got my own email. I can’t live my life like this I feel like they don’t even know me and that their idea is to go wherever I go and after high school I want to take a year off and travel but I feel like they would wind up going with me. I want to discover who I am without them. I need help someone tell me what to do.

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      nougat 

      2 months ago

      Im going to be 18 in a few days and feel like my mom is simply incapable of getting over treating me like a child. i have 3 other siblings younger than me (aged 9 to 16) and my mom never ceases comparing me with them..

      My college is going to start shortly and i know that my mother is going to be strict with me. i fear that i wont be able to lead my college life like other fellow students. i frequently get teary eyed every time it dawns upon me how suffocated ive been feeling all along.

      Throughout my school years, ive always had to beg them to let me hangout with my friends. There never was a time when they would say yes without first denying me. it pains me for always having had to persuade them to let me do something, especially because their denial was pointless. i always despised how weak it made me feel.

      My mom always tracks my online activity and she pauses the wifi on my phone at all times. and because of that, i have no personal life. Every time i need to talk to my friends, i cant do so unless i ask my mom's permission to use her phone. i feel delusional every time i get a little hope that things would get better with time.

      i wasnt allowed to pick a college i desired and hence i cant stay in hostel. ive been looking forward to it all my school years, just to get away from those torturous clutches, but no, whom am i kidding?. i fear confronting my parents since they are extremely manipulative and will somehow drive me into believing that im wrong and always come up with pointless arguments.Although, i have tried it but it always ended up in me crying in my room. i hate how it makes me feel so weak at the end, how helpless i am and how hopeless all this is. the idea of leading my future like this gives me the shivers. and i cant say anything to them since i live off of their money and they are the ones providing for me, paying for my college fees etc. her online tracking methods have immensely encouraged me to learn about the software she uses and find loopholes in its system, just so i could be anonymous.

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      Lily 

      2 months ago

      hi, im 14 years old and i just can't stand my parents anymore.They never trust me with anything. They have never let me do anything i really wanted to do , like going out with my friends or having a phone or using the internet on weekdays or even going out of the house to hang with my neighbourhood friends. I have two best friends and they're both very good at the internet and has many friends. But i don't have that many. I only have them. They havr told me to talk to my parents or talk to a teacher because they think my parents are really giving me a lot of depression. I've tried once but i made a second decision and decided that i shouldn't. Because i'm scared of them more than i love them. i reallly just want them to trust me . I've tried runing away to my friends house before because they wouldn't even let me go to any friend's house even if i told them to come along. Sometimes i don't even think im their real daughter. I just think they adopted me just to bully me everyday and let me do my homework everyday and all. I really just wanna tell them how i feel and cry it all out in front of them for once.

      Once my best friends got into this squad and it kinda felt like they were leaving me out so i just ate my lunch in the toilet everyday.Now, they are fighting about some cheating pproblems. I just wished they would drop me off for an adoption and leave me with foster parents because that would've been better than living with them

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      Sarah 

      3 months ago

      My parents control everything they don't let me go out they don't let me wear what i want or do what i want they just control every single aspect of my life i feel like my life is just meaningless iam tired of it whenever i try to talk to them they scream or hit me iam just tired

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      Malvin 

      3 months ago

      I'm 15 turnig 16 next month from the UK. All my life I have felt like everything I do isn't really for my sake, but for my parent's. I never really enjoyed my time in primary school because I never had the courage to ask to do sports. I was wasn't a very bright child and I mostly kept to myself. Now I'm in secondary school and since I started my teens I haven't enjoyed it at all. I am rarely able to go out with my friends or just out in general without them being sceptical. I have always wanted to experience a real party or go to a carnival that happens every year here but I know that my parents will say no. I don't think they fully trust me. I have always had good behaviour and now I have some of the best grades in my year group yet it's never enough. I don't think that the hard work I'm doing is for myself, but more for my parent's approval. I finally convinced them to allow me to do a sport but when I tried before they never let me. I love them so much and I mean no disrespect but I have never been able to be the real me and express myself.

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      Caitlin From 3 Weeks Ago 

      3 months ago

      Hi, I have a little update. So, guess what. Im not allowed to wear ANY dress to an event that ALL my friends are wearing. I swear my mom wants me to shop in MOTHERCARE for it. I always feel left out around my friends as they usually ignore me. It hurts and i cry everyday and myself to sleep. There is also soooooooooooooo many things I can say, but im afraid to say it as it seems too real. I asked when can I get my eyebrows done cause almost everyone in my class has them done, but my mom said eighteen. But they are only little things. The ignoring from my friends has gotten reeaallyy bad. I cant even express how upset I am about it, and i wish I looked like the other girls in my class. I have gotten nasty comments on a certain part of my face loads of times. And good comments too i suppose, but yeah. I only lie in bed doing nothing cause I dont feel like excersising, talking, doing anything. Great way to spend the holidays. I dont know if i have depression, and there is four people in my life who are causing it. I cant say though.

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      Zee 

      3 months ago

      I'm 19 years old, going to be 20 in a few months and I'm stuck with an overprotective mom. She has controlled my life as long as i can remember.

      I'm in my 2nd year of college and i still have to beg her to let me go out with friends. She doesn't approve friends of the opposite sex, she thinks every boy i meet has bad intentions or either drinks or smokes.

      She doesnt let me go out for roadtrips, doesnt let me have sleepovers, and is totally against having a boyfriend.

      I'm scared to stand up to her because i still financially depend on my family for college tuition.

      My dad is comparatively much better and broad minded but unfortunately lives in another country cuz of his job.

      I really don't know how to gain freedom from her, she wont let me stay in hostel either for no reason.

      I want my freedom and privacy but i cant argue or fight with her. Please somebody help me!

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      anonymous 

      3 months ago

      hi. my parents essentially monitor everything i do on my phone. i am 16 and i cant stay up past 9 pm on weekdays (even if it’s to finish homework from my multiple ap classes) i’m not allowed to have my phone while i’m doing homework so that led to me creating a whole online account on discord and making friends there. it’s gotten to this point because they feel like they can’t trust me. i’ll admit i did chat on an online game called animal jam when i was little, but first of all it’s a kids game with moderated chat, and secondly everyone did it. i had seen so much worse from other people so i figured it was okay. my parents resent when i spend time with the opposite sex and when i was asked to prom i was literally struck with fear! not happiness, not surprise, FEAR because i was scared of what my parents would say. my dad got angry a boy ASKED me (it’s not like it made him my boyfriend). as a result of their overprotective behavior i’ve had multiple relationships long distance and online and i had to deal with the breakups internally and on my own to keep it secret. my mom basically guilt trips me into looking the way she wants by criticizing the way that i look (example, she hated when i had really long hair to my butt, so she would consistently make comments like “you look like a hag” “you’re so drabby” to get me to cut it short. needless to say i chopped 2 feet of it off and i couldn’t regret it more :)). i can’t listen to anything but christian music (which i break quite often because even my christian school doesn’t adhere to that) and they guilt trip me into not doing sports because they don’t want to drive me, yet they don’t want me to get my permit. it just frustrates me how much they control me and since i have good grades and a kind attitude whenever i confront them about it, they mention how everyone else tells them to “keep it up”. i feel trapped and misunderstood. i’m pretty sure i’m depressed but they claim it’s just teenage hormones. i’ve contemplated cutting at this point.

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      Aya 

      3 months ago

      I'm planning on leaving my parent's house in two years, with or without their will. And i'm kinda scared because i've never talked about this topic.

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      Caitlin 

      4 months ago

      I'm twelve years old, turning thirteen in a few months. My parents are the worse. I am probably the most mature person in my class, even though I am the oldest. Yep, I am the oldest in my class and this still happens to me. I got a phone about two months ago. I had been begging for one for years as EVERYONE in my class had one. As I got one a little later than everyone else, I presumed there wouldn't be any of my moms crazy rules. Haha, wasn't I wrong. My mom nags me if I am on my phone for five minutes and says Im addicted. Then she said Im not allowed it in my bedroom. I'm allowed my phone from ten o clock in the morning to seven o clock in the evening, for one hour. WTF. I also have to have my phone downstairs by seven o clock on the dot. My Mom also has an app to track what I'm doing. EVERY single ONE of my classmates hung around the town for four hours two days ago for the last day of school. EVERYONE. Except me. My mom lied and said we were going in town but we never did so I could miss it. I'm not allowed to hang around anyway. If she was going to be like this with my phone, why didn't she get it for me when I was older and there was no rules? I literally know my Auntie soo well, and she NEVER does any restrictions to her NINE year old daughter. My mom turns off our internet box. Oh yeah, and did I mention my mom promised that I'm not allowed to get a second piercing till I'm 26? All I can say is overprotective much?

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      Mariya 

      4 months ago

      I’m 13 and turning 14 in a couple of months. I read some of the comments below and i found that a couple of you guys have it worse than me, which reminds me to always be grateful of what i have. Anyway, the ‘level of my parents is quite high. You see, these days, if you are my age and still don’t have social media- let alone a phone - you’re practically doomed. That means you can’t communicate with friends, you can’t feel included in the..society. And I don’t have a social media account nor a phone. I’ve tried to get my parents to buy me a phone, but they don’t trust me. They say i’ll misuse my ‘freedom’. But I won’t. I’m not that type of kid anymore. I’ve changed. But the thing is about my parents, once they have an image of you in their mind, it will never change. I mean they think I am the type of kid that sleeps at 8:00pm. They thing they know me, but they don’t have a single glimpse of the real me. That fragile girl under that ‘dazzling smile’. Back to the real issue. They once offered i use their phone, and I accepted. But I stopped using their phones when I caught my mother reading the messages between me and friends. Every time I look around me, i see kids having the time of their lives, and when i look back at myself, i see years passing by with no highlights, no special memories. I mean, childhood is all about memories, and my childhood is coming to an end, with tons of blank pages in it.The one good thing about me is that i can stand up for myself, so I don’t get bullied, and i’m surrouned my a group of friends that i like, but no one knows my struggles. Another thing about me is that I am an intelligent student (my teacher’s words), I get good grades, but my parents never notice that. All they notice is that lost half mark, or that detention for being tardy. The other kids’s grades literally SUCK, and i swear to god i gave this girl in my class who failed in three quarters of the subjects so her parents took her to malta. Me, in the other hand, with a great report card, getting a lame congratulation. I haven’t reached the point of self-harming or suicide, and i hope I don’t, but crying myself to sleep is still present, showing no sign change in the future.

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      No name 

      5 months ago

      I’m a 14 year old female...almost going onto 15. As some already know, 8th grade/highschool females are VERY judgmental about everything that is different. And as a girl who has no social media because of my mother, and isn’t aloud to be fashionable, other girls pick on me. My mother says “You dont need social media” anytime I ask for snapchat. For christ sake I even told her she could MONITOR all social media accounts! But no... she doesn’t trust me. I told her I want Snapchat because no one texts anymore. It’s not “cool” I guess? I don’t know. But anytime I try to ask she just says no, adding a smart ass comment. But I know the real reason why she says no, BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T TRUST HER OWN FLESH AND BLOOD. I have made good grades all my life, I’m going into culinary arts and JROTC with all advanced classes. I’ve never committed a crime, never lied to a teacher or my mom, I’m serious. Why doesn’t she trust me? I don’t know. She always says how when she was a kid that her father used to whoop her with a switch because she got a “D” on her grade card, and she also worked at a bar at 16, SNUCK OUT of her house to go DRINK, STOLE from farmers nearby, she grew up in the country and is now in the military, and drove cars illegally without a license. Yeah, she told me all that. And she doesn’t trust ME? THANKS TO HER IM JUDGED AND PICKED ON. I CANT GO ANYWHERE, I CANT HAVE ANYTHING, I FEEL LIKE IM TRAPPED...I know it sounds depressing but whenI day I love my mother I KNOW i’m lying to myself. Truth is, I cry almost everyday day after school and add on to my big runaway plan. Yes I have one, I guess it’s not running away idk. I’ll go to college, get my degree, move to the opposite side of the US, give my mother the wrong location, and send a letter telling her about all those years when she shunned me from living a happy childhood and having some experience with love, At the end of the note I will leave it with “You never trusted me or liked me so why would you want to be near me? Sorry mother I am finally free and happy. Maybe now you’ll see that everything has a consequence.”. I will go Make a living and enjoy my life to the fullest, that is if I don’t kill myself. And I know your thinking “This girls a attention seeking emo kid”. But I actually am picked on everyday. I am the oldest yet least liked. I am “Sensitive and weak” as my step family likes to say, or “The mistake” as my brothers say. I am LITERALLY LIVING IN HELL. I JUST WANT EVERYTHING TO STOP ALREADY AND I JUST WANT TO BE STUCK IN A FEILD OF FLOWERS... A field where only animals can see me, while they eat berries and chase each other, where the bugs don’t bite. THATS where I want to be. In a sun catching grassy field , watching children play while they mind the deer, and be happy, quick lean dogs chasing squirrels and mothers playing tag with their barely grown children. That is true happiness.

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      Karen 

      5 months ago

      Hey guys I’m 12 years old and my parents won’t let me go on a date with my boyfriend because they don’t think I’m mature enough and plus they don’t like him I really want them to get to know him better so I tryed to ask them if he could come over sometime but they said no I really want them to know that I’m okay and I’ll keep them update with everything that me and him are doing but how do I let my parents know that I’m mature enough and can handle anything and say NO when something starts happing how do I get my freedom and be allowed to go out with my boyfriend

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      Janella 

      5 months ago

      I wish from the very start of me having good friends (both genders) back in middle to the beginning of high school, I was able to hang with my friends more often that I would like to. I regret the decisions I made up until this day because I turned into a rebel, being angry at my parents because they wouldn’t let do things. I see other kids/teens have the time of their lives with their friends, and I know I messed up now because of my recent mistake, but I still wish to this day that I could spend time with my friends.. guys, girls, and my crush/boyfriend. I feel that it would take me out of depression and lessen my anxiety levels, and be more coping/kind with my parents. I feel so excluded and my friends rarely invite me anywhere anymore or when my friends do ask, I already have the sentence ready.. “My mom/dad won’t let me go, I’m sorry”, and they would persist or get mad. I tell my friends sorry all the time because I can’t really go anywhere with my past mistakes still in my parents minds. But once again, I wish that they were more accepting of m emotions to the way they handle my life. I wish I was free and be happy. I feel that my life would progress and be better, along with my schooling being better if I was able to be somewhere I am happy and not always feeling like I’m caged and not able to be happy. I feel that I am belittled all the time and forced to spend time with family more than friends (not that I don’t love my family), it just makes me feel alone because even my cousins could spend time with their friends if they wanted to. I also feel that just because I’m the only child and a girl (16, about to be 17 in July), I am restricted always and forever will be. I wish my life was easier and more fun.. I feel drained everyday.

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      John from 2 weeks before 

      5 months ago

      This is John from before. I feel you and your struggles. I feel like my childhood was wasted. My dad promised to get me a bike when I was 10 if I could get good grades. I worked my butt off and got the highest grades in my class. He then told me he couldn’t get me the bike because it wasn’t “safe to ride around in the neighbourhood. I was like “Okay. You know best.” 3 years later, he got my sister a bike and when I talked to him about his old promise, he said he would get one for me. I am now 17 years old; I do ‘t know how to ride a bike because he made promises and never kept them. What made it worse was the fact I wasn’t allowed to go outside so I couldn’t even learn on other kids’ bikes.

      Furthermore, he keeps treating me like a child. It was supposed to rain one day, so I decided to wear boots because my shoes weren’t waterproof. He saw me in my boots and got mad at me and told me to go back home and change them. I tried to explain but he didn’t listen and told me if I wasn’t changing them, I should stay home. I decided I would stay home. 2 minutes later, he comes into the house and slaps me for not changing my shoes and orders me to change them. I said “No.” and got slapped 2 more times. I eventually had to change them because he pulled them off my feet.

      This is my life. A life in which making decisions about my shoes gets me slaps from my parent. He spent the whole day trying to guilt trip me for saying no. I cringe at the thought that I’ll have to stay with him for some more years. I know there will be more fights but my mom is dead and no one can help me reason with him. I am honestly very afraid for my mental health because I feel like hurting him very badly and these thoughts scare me, because they’re not me. Can someone give me advice? Please take into consideration that he doesn’t let me go out and I don’t have a single dollar. I am also a very new immigrant from Africa. Advice please before I might make a decision I regret for life!

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      some human in uae 

      5 months ago

      I feel u lol I basically have strict dumb parents and I can't go out if u cant sneak out trust me its worth it if you scared then don't you deserve to enjoy ya teenage life

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      Njara 

      6 months ago

      I'm 24 years old and I'm having all of these issues and all of other issues on other websites and youtube videos. I've discovered this concept of "overprotective parents" today. I thought we (me and my siblings) were the only subjects to this curse.

      I've lost my childhood, a childhood that will never be back again never ever. Same for my teenage. I was trying to avoid it when I had 12, I remember it like yesterday. I was aware of the problem and I knew my childhood was lost, and I wanted to avoid loosing my teenage again but it happened and it's over I'm 24 years old.

      Currently, I'm already experiensing the fact I would loose my relationship life too. I suck with my girlfriend (and any other elementary relation with others).

      I have other plenty mental illness like depression, OCD, ADHD, tachypsychy too.

      I'm just done with my life and I'm planning suicide soon or later before 40. I'm currently having to make hard decision about pursuing my relationship with my girlfriend and having childs. I don't want and I will never let any child if I'm planning suicide. I'm looking for a way to explain all of my issues to my girlfriend now and telling her to find a far more better husband then I'm free to just commit suicide. I always dream of this ultimate freedom and hapiness. 3 This day will come 3

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      Maya 

      6 months ago

      Hey guys I am 12 years old and basically I have a hard life. In school I started cross country and I convinced my mom to let me have a phone so that I could call her because cross country was an after school thing. When I had my phone my mom would be so strict and me not having social media and if I did I would face consequences. First thing you know I go to a birthday with friends and they were like get instagram. I got it and then my mom found out and she did not let me have it for a month.After that I was done with cross country and I just had my phone and then my mom was seeing that I was getting addicted and she took it away. After that I back talked to her and guess what.... she took it away for a long time and she said I could have it in 8th grade. I am in 6th grade right now and that was a cruel punishment.I was really mad. Then at school all my friends would have parents that were soo nice and not mean like my parents. They had phones and tbh I would get jealous. I would also walk to the library across school and I only walked there twice. After that my mom was being so overprotective and she would say I would get kdnapped when the library was right across the street. She would say that she had to drive me there and I would get mad. After that I was hanging out with bad friends and she would literally spy on me and after that I would just say there is no point in this lets just go home. About three months later she would get very strict and one day I couldn't handle it anymore so I walked to Starbucks across the street that was about 15 minutes walking. My friend said that nothing would happen so I did it. Well my mom found out and she said that she would not let me go after school and hang with friends and go to the library across the street for a month. It was April so basically for the rest of the school year. My friend gets to go to the mall and basically anything and I can't do one of those things.She would ask me do u want to come to the mall with me without parents and I have been trying for about a month to convince her and my mom will just say noooooo.To this day on, I do not know what to do anymore AND I just give up.If you have a life like this I am so sorry and I feel you I went through this and have cried myself to sleep.I am done with all of this.

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      John 

      6 months ago

      Hey. I’m almost 17 and this describes my life. My mum passed away when I was 12 and since then my dad has raised me and my siblings alone. I am grateful but at the same time, he hasn’t taken things too far. I never go out to meet anyone. NEVER! He got mad at me for choosing to wear pants that he didn’t want me to wear. He got mad at me for choosing to walk on one side of the street. He got mad at me for keeping my hat on. He gets mad at things that don’t even make sense. He is pushing me to the verge of rebellion and then he tells me not to provoke him. Who is being provocative?! I”m done with it all.

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      Izabella 

      6 months ago

      Ye im 15 and this all fits into the category of my parents. I got bullied a bunch last year and then this year i finally have some amazing friends and my parents wont let me go to a sleepover because their will be boys, and ive told them im ace and they dont care. Im missing out on having these memories and my whole childhood has just been abuse from my mums ex and he is finally gone but its one thing after the other. I realise now my parents barely know me. They think they do but they dont. Being restricted from making decisions for my whole life has caused me to think of self harm and i feel like i dont belong anywhere cause im not getting the chance to know my friends and i know i can just go back to my old friend group but i dont fit in and id just be sad. My friends are my source of happiness and i only have 2 years left with them. Thats not long and when that goes away and ive been Pressured to be the most perfect child and never hang out with friends, ill have no stories to tell about highschool apart from my over protective parents. I get its because they love me but its not good and i feel untrusted and lonely. Should i feel this way? It feels wrong but i didnt know it was wrong till i resd this and heard about my friends parents. I wanna show them this page or get them to read it with me to try and understand

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      Emma 

      6 months ago

      Hi guys.. i'm 12, 13 in July... 3 months. So basically I have the same problem as u guys but i'm a few yrs younger. My parents aren't AS strict as ur guys ones but i'm still annoyed. Anyone out there who has the same problem of their parents being too strict... I hope u guys eventually get ur own freedom! So i'm allowed to go to the mall and stuff and have playdates but HOMEWORK MAN. Ugh don't get me started! So my mum basically plans my routine when my one is fine! I like my one more bc its made by me.. not her. I like being independent. I've said to my mum... homework isn't my passion. I don't want to be a mathematician or teacher when i'm older. I like music, and sports. I think I definitely NEED to do my homework.. but i'm 12. I DONT NEED TO DO 2 HOURS! I think 1 hour is enough for me and i don't like sitting down for AGES. If i don't do my routine the way my mum likes it... i'm not allowed playdates or going to the mall. I DO LOVE MY MUM! I just wanna put that out there! All my other friends think my mum is strict.. so i guess she is? I just need more freedom.. and she isn't giving me enough. I will find a solution if i keep trying.. i'm sure! I want all you guys out there to stay positive, like me!

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      Gummygummybears 

      6 months ago

      I'm 17 and wow all these things up there are just so true. I see myself not a super duper perfect kid, but i've never stayed out late (up to 10pm: almost every time i'm still out "that" late is because im going out for classical concerts with my teacher/parents/supervisor), i've always been having good marks and staying on good terms with my teacher cuz that's what my parents want, i've never gone out or dated someone properly for more than half a year cuz everytime i got a boyfriend my parents would freak out and do everything to make us broke up. Recently i've been asking them for permission to hang out with my two friends (they are both girls) to LEARN for the endterm test cuz they have been helping me so much in some subjects and i want to pay them back. I know it may seem weird to go out and LEARN for the entire day but the endterm test is coming and we really do have the intention to learn properly. But as expected, my parents didn't accept and to be honest, i'm quite disappointed. I've always try to be an optimistic girl, but after this happened, I really feel like giving up and be a good "doll" for them for the rest of my life. I have been refusing too much hanging out request that I can't even count. Every time my friends (only girls) ask me out to watch movies with them or just hanging out a day and take pictures, my mom would said I don't have time for such thing and compare me to other geniuses and made me feel bad about my marks and stuff. My friends stop asking me out and even when they don't leave me alone, I still feel bad for them to have such a terrible friend like me. But what really irritates me here is that they don't treat my younger brother the same. He is 12 and actually he has been hanging out with his friends quite recently ( not for too late but at least he got to hangout). Is it because he is a boy? I'm 5 years old older than him and far more responsible than him, but never in my life have my parents stopped blocking me in their cage and make me do exactly what they say "for my own goods". Every time i fight back, they would used the same reason all over and over again: I'm still not 18 yet and i should learn to have a better future. EXCUSE ME? I'm learning like hell over here? I've been learning piano for years and spend at least 3 hours a day to pratice, learning for SAT, IELTS, tests at both music school and my other school, and still my parents used this as a reason :). Well, sooner or later, I think I'll broke down in piece at this rate.

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      Detective 

      6 months ago

      Hie Guys i'm 21 and i really feel you. i'm also a victim of similar case, my Parents are over protective they treat me like 10 year old kid. They are after me always to such an extent i have no room for my own privacy. In as much as i'm introverted sometimes i really wish i can be as spontaneous. Whenever i confront them about other perspective of life with good points, i'm always sidelined they claim that i'm becoming disrespectful . At times i get yelled at for nothing just because i'm the first born, intimidated . Whenever i'm away from home i.e ( at college) i feel free and happy i wish school never close for holiday vacations. Whenever i'm at home i am never happy, free. Its like hell can't wait to leave and start my own life. I have been living with this for years now can't hold any longer its killing me inside. I have never given my parents any problems during my adolescence, neither i got in trouble . If this continues it result in resentment which in latter will to depression then death( suicide)

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      The Rebellion 

      7 months ago

      I'm 19 and experienced almost everything you all have experienced. Sheltered, guilt-tripped, verbally abusive, no support, etc. All the videos I watched here is exactly what I've been through. I'm going to college while living with my parents. They guilt-tripped me into staying in town so I won't go away. I wanted to go to UCLA with my boyfriend but they literally built an expensive ass home and gave me the best bedroom. They got me a car, wifi (we never got wifi before), and an iPhone Xr. They said that I was going to have college easy because I will get their support. Once college started, I felt trapped. I couldn't go out with the new friends I made (like omg I was actually making friends). But all that was taken away because I couldn't keep in touch with them. It was so hard to study because I was constantly asked to drop off my siblings, cook, clean pick them up, and much more. I decided to study at Starbucks instead of home and now they blame me for going out too much and that I'm not helping them at all. I'm a Psychology major and I have been doing so much research on parenting. I used to blame everything on me until I realized that it may possibly be my parents' fault. I get that parenting is hard, but after my older sister left on bad terms doesn't mean to be harder on the rest of the kids. I have learned from my older sister's "mistakes" and became the best daughter they could have possibly asked for. Top ten out of my high school class, best Asian daughter, great role model... but when I ask for one thing, I am the worst daughter in the world. I wanted to visit my boyfriend but they said no. I asked why and they didn't give me an answer. I know they care for my safety and want me to be focused in school, but I felt like I deserved to go on this trip. I have been building up my confidence to stand up to them and express how I felt, and I finally did it. But it all turned to shit. We were in nonstop arguments. They finally told me why they wouldn't let me go. They said that they didn't want my siblings to think that they could just do whatever they wanted. I called bullshit because what I saw was that no matter how hard we try to win their approval, we can't do anything. He said that I was trying to tear my family apart and that I hate them. I told him "hell no. I love you guys to death. look at all the sacrifices I made for you. Do I have friends? no. Do I do whatever you say? yes! I try so hard to be such a good daughter and why can't you see that I love you so much?" I saw the fear in my dad's face. I think he realized what has been forming and now he's giving me the silent treatment. I got my phone taken away, my keys are going to be taken away and no wifi. I literally have been so sheltered that I couldn't get a job. I don't even know how to. I was never given a credit card to build my credit so I can't take out a loan nor rent an apartment. I can't even get a call back if I do get an interview for a job, and if I do happen to get the job, I wouldn't even have transportation. My mom won't sign my financial aid papers so I doubt I'll get any money for college next year. I feel totally lost.

      My boyfriend bought me train tickets so that I could have a place to stay. I am leaving today, but I know that I can't stay too long. When I get back home (don't even want to call it that) I'll probably get kicked out. I have no money, no place to stay, and no one to go to. I'm scared, but I don't want them to win. I want to prove that I can live on my own and support for myself while getting a degree. It's going to be one hell of a ride, but I have hope for myself. I give you all my love and best wishes. I aspire to be a counselor that helps kids go through what we have been going through and I hope that I'll help many of us. I'm sorry you are all going through this, but we can do it. I believe.

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      Zero 

      7 months ago

      Im 15 and my whole life my parents have been stubborn, never ever let me hang out with my friends in my whole life, control me with force, manipulating, quick to argue, quick to insult anybody and they hate everyone I talk to. I'm going through the hormone stage of puberty. I have a girlfriend secretly because my parents don't want me to have a girlfriend. I love her so much and they keep trying to find her so they can press charges on her but shes never done anything but be a good girlfriend. My parents have taken my phone around 7 times after going through my messages with my friends. We never did anything bad but send memes on instagram and play around and she hates it. Every Time i've had a phone it only lasts from a week to a few months and they take it for a few months to year. I cant deal with this anymore, my parents are so bad to me and don't ever listen or help me. Everytime i try to talk to my mom about my problems she turns it into an argument and screams at me at any chance she gets. I Hate it so much, I just want my parents to understand what i'm going through and just let me be happy. They are always shunning me and pointing out flaws that they caused, They only let me take showers once a week and if i drink water late I to drink unfiltered tap water. I just want to be free from this everyday hell. I want my parents to stop yelling at me for everything, I want them to let me have friends, stay with my girlfriend instead of me having to keep her from them, and I really need to be able to leave by myself instead of being trapped in my room 24/7 because im afraid to go downstairs around them and be left alone with them because they will find a way to get me to say something that gets me offended and then in trouble and i have to get yelled at and possibly lose my internet for a few months to a year. Please somebody help me

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      indian kid 

      7 months ago

      ok so yall I have indian parents ….. I don't even need to say anything else lmao.....so I don't have social media and I am not allowed to go out with my friends even when the mall is quite nearby. she insisted on her coming with us and walking around with us during the hangout..... my friend's birthday venue was a mall and I knew my mom would never allow that so I had to force my friend to keep a party at her house and that was very embaressing...… I was shifting my building and my friends insisted on one final hangout in the building clubhouse at 7pm when I told my mom about this she told me to return by 8 and I was clearl;y told by my friends that after playing bb in the clubhouse we'd party in one of my friend's houses until 10......honestly my life sucks......im not allowed to wear crop tops or off shoulders.... im not allowed to call my male (guy frnds)family friends "best friends" because having a guy frnd is a sin.....im not even muslim wth……...there are many rumours spreading based on me on Instagram by anonymous haters and even after knowing this I could never fight back cuz I don't have social media hats coz my momforced me to swear id never own insta without her knowing( acc. to indian stuff breaking a promise like this results in the death of my mom)…………...don't get me wrong I LOVE MY MOM but I really think that she should sometimes let me a little loose coz I think she thinks I smoke and I have a bf but honestly im lonely af ad very lost I life

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      sad indian girl who wanna die 

      7 months ago

      MY OWN PARENTS SUSPENDED ME FROM MY SCHOOL!!!!!!

      so here is my life story y'all..oof i am 16 and i am almost a failure at everything that i do for example studying but the thing is that my parents r fucking over protective that they wont let me even have female friends and forget about even hanging out with friends without being my parents around me . ugh so i have a bf and i bunked my tuition class to go out with him as i can barely talk to him or meet him, which was an optional class to attend as it was a sunday. i planned it before hand in school as they took my phone away for having a chat with a guy friend of mine like about dank offensive memes like pewdiepie memes. we went to a nearby mall n hung out but i was really stressed about the fact that my parents may find out. it was 1 in the afternoon when i when i went out with him and returned back to my tuition center sharp at 4 as my dad was coming to pick me up from the classes. unfortunately even after so much of me being careful about the whole hangout thing the security guard saw me waiting at the tuition gate for my dad. he immediately called me upstairs and asked me in front of the teachers that why was i absent in the extra class. i made an excuse to them about me joining a dance class which was a floor below the tuition center . they all kinda doubted me but still let me go as my dad reached. as soon as i got into the car with my dad he got a call from the tuition center to ask why i was absent . FACT NO. 1 the tuition faculty never asked any child why were they absent for a class and this was not even a compulsory class like wtf. after that my dad asked me angrily "WHICH MALL WERE U AT , TELL ME THE TRUTH RIGHT NOW OR ELSE I WONT BARE U ANY FURTHER'' . i was shaking and i knew what was gonna happen but i tried to convince him that i was at the class and the teacher may have made a mistake but ofcouse why would they believe me so easily. he took me back home and started beating me up and my mom asked anxiously WHY R U BEATING HER UP LET HER EXPLAIN WHAT HAPPENED. my dad took my mom to the coaching center to show her the cctv footage of the enterance gate of the tuition class so that she could be sure that i didnt even enter the center. after reaching back home from all that hustle i still tried my best to convince my parents that i didnt go to the mall with anyone as i didnt wanted my bf to get in any kind of trouble cos of me..

      i lied to them saying that i had a period and i was in the washroom near my coaching center and i didnt have a pad so i sat on the toilet till it was time for my dad to pick me up and i wrapped tissues on my underwear in order to not get a stain until i reach home. but duh man how can they believe it ??? why would they even . even though i barely have a male friend and i am a tomboy still my parents think what not wrong thoughts about me. i was bared from attending even school until i told my parents the truth. anyways after 2 days i went to school after telling my parents the truth about me going out with a boy and a girl . i included a girl so that they wont think in any wrong direction. as soon as i reached school after my dad beating me up so many times before i sleep and i soon as i woke up , i talked to one of my female friend whose parents were chill n all she has freedom and she also went out with her friends a day before i went out .i knew my mom was about to come to my school to get info about the people i went out with n stuff ugh now that im typing this from my pc it makes me cry so bad remembering all this (all this happened in august 2018 ).i convinced my female friend to agree that she was with me .as soon as school got over i was called by the vice principle and the school counceller as my mom was there ready to get me suspended from the school with all the two of my friends. they all assumed bullshit about me and my friends and asked me if i had sent nudes to my bf. that councellor used to see me and my bf waling together during break time and exaggerrated it as if i walked with him all day and making my mom believe that i was dating him even though we barely used to be close even if we just walked around in school. that counceller said to that female friend of mine as she knew her very well that she will also get suspended if she was with me . she got scared and told her that i told her to say all this and that she wasnt with me at all.

      At that moment , it all began. my vice principle said to my bf that she would slap him if he lied to her and he never lies so he told them the truth that we went for a normal hangout , walked around the mall and had some milkshake but im pretty sure they didnt believe this even though it was all true like for fuck sake.

      wait if someone is reading this do u think that this was a matter of this concern like they made a huge issue of a pity thing.

      me n my bf got suspended for almost a week from school for committing a ''MINOR CRIME'' as per the school law even though we did not bunk the school .

      after that i had a major breakdown at home and cut my hair so bad that i had to get a boycut.

      when i returned to school i wore a cap in order to hide my haircut.

      still people found about the whole issue and were completely against the school staff and decision as this all happened outta the campus and the school had nothing to do with it.

      oof im about to go into grade 11 and my bf was a year ahead of me and he failed 11th so he left the school.

      this is so sad alexa play sad by xxxtentacion

      ugh i mean if u r reading this may god bless u

      even though its been almost 7 months after that hangout punishment my parents dont let me even touch any phone or electronic or let me have any friends female or male doesnt matter .

      they made me go to the tuitions again n no one bothered to even ask me why i did what i did which was something good. but i was embarrased for the fact that my parents used to drop me to the class room like bruhhh .

      finally i left those tuitions somehow as i was too tired to my dad scolding me all along going to the tuition n coming back.

      big oof man my life sucks and ik even when ill be an addult my parents wont let me do any fucking thing out of there eyes so fuck my life and go enjoy every possible moment of ur life cos atleast your life isnt like mine .

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      sad girl 

      7 months ago

      i’m 13 almost 14 and i can’t do ANYTHING

      i almost have NO social skills because my parents don’t let me go out with my friends (which are not a lot) i have no friends right now i asked my dad and told him about that and he said that it’s okay when he was a kid he didn’t have friends he was friends with books.

      he’s controlling my phone he makes me play no more than two hours and i have no kind of social media except for whatsapp.

      even when i want to download an app i have to ask his permission first it’s so annoying!!

      when i try to tell him that i’m not a baby anymore and that i was responsible, he says that he’s trying to make me safe. i can’t even go to my friends HOUSE!!

      i don’t even have youtube! i asked him and gave him reasons why i want youtube i’m my phone and he said no.

      i’m allowed to do NOTHING!!

      my parents only care about school and i’m not even allowed to use my phone after 8 o’clock.

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      Annoyed as hell teen 

      7 months ago

      I'm twelve, thirteen next year. my parents don't let me have friends, i can't go outside, i can't even draw. my grandmother doesn't let me. I am so annoyed. my mother is never around and is always with her boyfriend. they ae very religious jw's, and i'm not allowed to even associate with any person who isn't in the religion. my grandma hates me, but treats my brother like a god. he is always hugged and loved ad shit. but my parents basically keep me captive and force me to be friends with the stupid ass kids in the kingdom hall.

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      so fucking annoyed 

      8 months ago

      im 16 and a half and i am allowed to do nothing. i stay in my bedroom, my mum comes running up the stairs 'what you doing' 'get downstairs' this that. i used to self harm and mainly, because of this. the overprotectiveness these parents hold over me. i have a shit phone, im not allowed to get a new one, im not allowed to go on call with anyone- even if its my female friends, im not allowed to wear makeup to school, im not allowed to come home 10 MINUTES FROM SCHOOL, im not allowed to go to the corner shop, im not allowed to go eat with my friends or go out with them on the weekend, im not allowed to spend more than half an hour in my bedroom, im not allowed to go to prom, im not allowed to do NCS, im not allowed to go and buy myself a takeout, and the list goes on and on. long story short, im not allowed to do anything, and when i do do something, my mum rings my aunty and uncle straight to come and 'sort me out'. why cant i live a normal life? they turn the wifi off at 9;30 every single day and i have to give my phone. yet my older and younger brother can do what they want, they both have girlfriends and my parents know this but still let them go out wth their mates, keep their phone on a night, let them go on call with her etc etc etc but for me, the rules are so different. im not even allowed to look at boys. i hate it/ i hate where i live because i cant do anything. i wish i killed myself.

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      xxnobodyxx 

      8 months ago

      My parents hate my boyfriend. They always talk about him in a disappointed tone even though he's so polite and kind to them. They're constantly putting us both down. They even do that to my other friends always pointing out the negatives and never concentrating on good things, never acknowledging any successes. They stop me from meeting up with friends and always make excuses so I don't have to see friends or my boyfriend. If I get awards or good grades I don't tell them because I know they don't care. They're just going to tell me I need to try harder. They never say it, but their actions always tell me I'm not good enough, they don't like me, I'm stupid, worthless, etc. I want to die I hate living with them. If it wasn't for my boyfriend, I would've stabbed myself in the chest with that knife already. I don't want to deal with this any longer I want to end it all. I hate feeling like I'm worthless and that I mean nothing to my parents, I hate that they put down my friends too, it isn't fair to them. I want to run away but there's nowhere to go and I don't want to leave my boyfriend.

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      Fu 

      8 months ago

      This is TOOOOO FAR but i wanna KILL my parents

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      YeaIamATeen 

      9 months ago

      Welp my mom snatches my phone and scrolls around my phone like if she knew I would watch some type of innapropiate show or something but like not really I have the habit of turning my phone of because i feel like my mother will freak out around the dumb funny things i talk about with my friends.. and memes I don't feel free but after all I am only a teen so it's ok i guess my mother loves me and trys to take care of me but c'mon mooom don't be too nossseyy I just wanna raaaaant

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      Ellie 

      9 months ago

      I dont have much to complain about, but i just turned 17 last month. The morning after my birthday I got grounded and my phone was taken away for over a month. I finally got it back and I'm driving my car again because they confiscated that as well. I was Grounded For What seemed like longer than that so I feel like I'm still grounded even if I've had my phone for about 2 weeks now. I have a boyfriend that likes to party and drink occasionally and I want to get into that life just a little bit because I've been raised by mormon parents and I've been cooped up a lot for really stupid reasons. When a friend of mine moved out of state I didn't go outside anymore, I used to go to a local park with her and she is to come over a lot and she was the only person that got me outside. There's a lot of things that give me anxiety so it's not very easy to go outside and be able to interact with people without having a nervous breakdown. I wish my confidence would just get better. It is getting better as I grow up but I would like to be able to go places and be worry free. In the morning I have to go to church and ever since I turned 14 I've been steering away from the church more and more because I I have never felt God in my heart and things around me. My impression of the church is it's all bulshit and I want to stay away from it but they force me to go because they think I can still embrace it eventually and they think it's good for me which is really not because whenever I go I always return home in a bad mood and I stay like that till the next day. I hate church so much I hate Mormons I hate Christians. Everything to do with God feels like a hoax to me I can feel things around me that aren't Godlike or faithful. Everything has an energy in that's life and I don't think Church has anything to do with that. The church has nothing to do with what I see around a person. My life is just one big screw up I feel like my parents are never going to let me go to do what I believe is good. You can be a good person without going to church or having a relationship with God I have no relationship with "God" the fact that I have to dress up in a dress every time we go is ridiculous that's the part I hate most about it because I have to wear something that I can't feel comfortable in. I draw whatever I feel and usually I try really depressing things whenever I go to church to offend people around me that maybe look at it. I guess I'm just venting now because whenever I try to talk to people they don't know what it's like and they're out every week doing things that I could never dream of doing or getting invited to. I feel like those people would just think that I'm talking out of my ass because I have it good and they are struggling but the the privileged life isn't always the best if you want to have fun and be a teenager before you turn 21 and high school's over. Before you have to get a job I had innocent childish fun back then but now I'm ready to try new things and I'm ready to go places and I'm ready to meet people that are fun like that girl. It's just really frustrating because I don't know a lot of people. im too unexperiened to hang out with the cool crowd and I'm too fun to hang around the good kids

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      Random Girl who draws anime and stuff 

      9 months ago

      I’m just about 12, and my mum won’t let me do anything. Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, in my school walks to school on their own, or at least with a friend. Like, I’ve never even crossed a road by myself yet. And I know it’s at least a phone, but I only just got a NOKIA.

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      Sitting @ Home All Day 

      9 months ago

      I'm 11 (12 in a few months), so I'm quite a bit younger than everyone else here, but my parents are getting ridiculous. I can't ride my bike by myself, let alone go around the block, and I have no idea why. I only have to cross one street, I memorized the neighborhood, and nothing bad ever happens in my city. Apparently, I need a phone, which I don't have. And then, they say there's no reason that I need a phone, which is super contradicting. I can't even sell my art online to save up the money (which people have said they would purchase if I DID), because the answer is always "I'll talk to your mother/father", and I never hear from it again. I'm getting super sick and tired of it and most of the day I either spend trying to clean my constantly messy room (perks of sharing a room with your little sister), drawing, watching Youtube, or watching the rest of the kids get off the school bus and go to their friend's houses (I'm homeschooled btw).

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      Suffocated 

      9 months ago

      My mom has such high expectations and I actually live up to them (unlike my sisters), but I still am not allowed to do anything. I have stellar grades, have played piano for years despite the fact that I hate it, and play travel soccer. I just wish she would at least listen to me when I say I want something - if she could give me a legitimate reason to not do or get what I want then I would be fine with that.

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      I have a SUPER OVERPROTECTIVE mom 

      9 months ago

      I'm 13, and I have a little brother that is 10. My dad bought us bikes and honestly he doesn't care where we go or how long were there as long as we're back by 5. But my dad is usually at work or at a side job, and whenever we try to go somewhere my mom will stop us right away. We'll even tell her how my dad said it was fine, or how my dad even gave us money to spend whenever we're going. But my mom doesn't even like us playing in our own yard because "we could get hurt" or "it's not safe". but my dad is on our side and will ask us to ride our bikes somewhere to get milk or paper towels just to let us out of the house. Seriously even if it's literally 5 minutes away she'll come up with this big argument on how the world isn't a safe place, or she can't trust other people. I really wish my mom could be less overprotective and let us go places on our own some more. It's getting REALLY annoying

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      An annoyed teenager 

      10 months ago

      My parents aren’t such idiots they won’t let me go to the mall which is where everyone hangs out and they won’t let me watch any good tv because they say im not mature enough and yet they let my older brother whos only a year older do and watch whatever the heck he wants!!! IM so sick of them

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      a miserable 18 year old 

      10 months ago

      so my I'm the first born and when I was done with my highschool I thought that my parents will allow me to be but my mom has a lot of influence over my dad and one day I had taken my friend to the mall to buy a cake my mom was not home so when she came home she didn't find me and she called to ask where I was and I told her and immediately called my dad and told him that she came home and found me missing and she doesnt know where I am and my dad was so pissed and he came home and told me that the next time he hears any complain he takes my phone.Time went and another day thee of my female friends came to my place and one guy and my mom was home and to cut the long story short she told my dad that I turned her house into a dating site this really got my dad angry he bet me up and threw my phone down until it broke it was such a horrible experience. When any of my female friends come to my place I have to ask for permission mehn my life sucks!

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      person 

      10 months ago

      they don't let me go out, if I go to the mall with people and an adult they would still come and follow behind us. They simply say no to me, i am not sure why but they were never like this with my sister. And my sister is the one who is failing and does stuff behind their backs but never gets the punishment. I know life isnt fair and I know this isnt fair. I just want to live my life, they can meet my friends I am cool with that but they don't want to. But when I ask them to go out they say I don't know any of your friends which is pretty condradicting. I am bad at being social and this is one of the many reasons why. I am not allowed to do anything. I don't even buy my own clothes or use my own money because my parents don't let me or take me to use it. I should ask more but it will never work.

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      Someone who's trapped inside all the time 

      10 months ago

      i really just want to go outside

      there's a circle.

      it starts with my mum being like why aren't you outside

      then i say can i go outside

      she says no

      i go back on my computer

      the cycle repeats

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      u dont need to know my name 

      10 months ago

      im lucky my parents are divorced cos i can see my dad every other weekend and he lets me do whatever the hell i want cos he knows how difficult home life is with strict and constantly worrying my mum. im also lucky that i have friends who try and arrange things with me so its on a weekend when im with my dad. i get the impression that my mum us trying too hard to be a good mum. my dad told me that when they were having arguments before they divorced that he told her that "his life at home was too stressful and he didnt agree with the way she wanted our family to be", she apprently responded with "ok then, i must try harder to make our family happy". i think a good mum or dad is one who doesnt expect the very best of you all the time and is realistic about your actions and your friends. most of these overprotective parents (like my own) are the ones who read that propaganda which somehow gets into papers etc. theres not much you can do in the real world about overprotective parents apart from trying to discuss their actions with them. if they start trying to turn the conversation against you and start shouting then dont give in but look blankly at them instead and respond with how they might be wrong. your friends and people around you will understand the situation and will support you through this. it is wrong that people like myself and all of you have to live like this as it is holding us back from achieveing basic like skills and social skills. i know youve heard it all before but im gonna say it anyway, i consequently suffer from depression. another example of overprotective parents is not letting you go out and socialise with friends. a common response is that it is dangerous to let you go out by yourself as "there are all sorts of nasty people out there". i seriously doubt theres somebody out there trying to attack groups of kids having a good time. also, wtf if an overprotective mum gonna do in that situation? ask politely for him to leave us alone? basically just do what you want sometimes. i might just walk out of the house one day and come back a few hours later, wot r they gonna do about it. if theyre going to ignore me and what i want to do then im gonna ignore them.

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      A seriously annoyed person 

      10 months ago

      I just wrote a two page essay stating three reasons why I should get Instagram (she said she’d let me get if I came up with three good reasons) and guess what her response was... “It’s very well-written but still no.”

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      A seriously annoyed person 

      10 months ago

      My mom literally ignores me whenever I ask her for anything she doesn’t approve of. She’s gone so far as to walk out of the room while I am speaking. That’s not ok if I were to do it. I’m so done

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      Anh Doan 

      10 months ago

      Ever since I told my mom that I have a boyfriend, she became really strict me. She is constantly checking on me and also doubting me. I thought that telling her I have a bf she would have some trust in me because I want her to know and not hiding it. I thought she would be proud. I know she is just trying to protect me but she never gave me the benefit of the doubt. She always think that once I have a boyfriend I will drop out of school, which is clearly not because I have still manage to balance my love life and my education and my grades are pretty high. I hope my mom will start to understand me more. Sometimes she made me not wanting to tell her anything anymore.

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      Katie 

      11 months ago

      My mom is just crazy on trying to find every possible little thing to try and get me into trouble so that her excuse tp say no is that I am grounded. My friend and I were trying to study together. we both do our study guide by our selves and when we are done we check answers with each other. it not a grade, we get NO credit for completing this study guide (its not an assignment) but she insists that I am trying to cheat and copy someone else's question when I clearly did mine by my self and was just checking answers. she wants to get my friend in trouble and tell my teacher that I was cheating. What should I do if she wants to ground me all the time? I Have Rally good good grades, the best they have ever been actually, so she finds something else to pick at. it really discourages me and now I don't even want to study.

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      Alexis 

      11 months ago

      My dad is fine, but both my dad and step-mom are Christians. My step-mom will not let me do anything outside of the house, and the longest I can be on my phone is an hour. They also track my text messages, I mean, I get not texting guys, but still this is... ugh i don't know. I am pan(romantic) but they don't know because I know my stepmom would never let it go. I have only been to a friend's house once and that is because she was in choir with me. I have a school computer that I use for anything. My dad checks my computer history, and I am not able to erase it. My parents don't trust me with anything and the only place I am allowed to go(ever) is my grandparent's house. I also have two brothers, both older so I guess part of it is that they(my parents) don't want my brothers to feel left out, but I am the one being left out. Whenever they do anything fun outside of the house I have to go to my grandparent's. I am 14, so moving out is not an option yet. What do I do? Please someone help. No one at school is willing to help me.

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      Kid 

      11 months ago

      I’m 17 year old and my dad literally doesn’t let me go anywhere if i do want to go somewhere it has to be school related or I can leave with friends some place else but be home by 7 which is like no time to do anything it’s funny Because I just turned 17 couple of weeks ago and all of a sudden I have all these rules it’s frustrating because I really do want to go out with friends and he doesn’t trust me he thinks I’m going to do bad things when I’m just going to go watch a movie or go eat. I’m at the point where I have to lie where I’m going I stay after school saying I’m at Tutoring but I’m actually at my friends house. I don’t like lying but I don’t have a choice I tried having a talk with him telling him I’m old enough to take care of myslef but nothing

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      Nic 

      11 months ago

      I just turned 23 and had already graduated college. It is depressing whenever my friends would ask me to hang out, just talk or eat out or sometimes drink a little. My friends were good people, smart even, i had friends who are student leaders and one is even a cum laude. I've never had a night out and they wouldnt allow me to sleepover even with my longest and closests friends. I don't even get to go out on hikes or outings because I wasn't allowed. I am too tired to ask and explain because they dont even try to understand me.

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      Ben 

      11 months ago

      My Mom and dad are very overprotective it can become a huge problem my parents never allowed me to go out with my friends in middle school and becuse of that I have littel friends, and the biggest problem of it all. I now have very littel social skills and get nervous around alot of people especially around girls am 18 now , I have an car and drivers licence, and my parents dont alow me to go to friends even if they live around the block from me, Relationships has also become a problem becuse its a real struggel to convince them that i want to go see the girl in person , becuse of that my Relationships never work out :( I feel caged up as am not even allowed to leave the house I tried talking to my parents and did not help as they always have there way to say no to everything I want to do . Becuse of all this problems am very insecure and have very littel social skills with people and struggel to get an girlfriend as am not allowed to even go see her . Pleas help me

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      Anonymous 

      11 months ago

      I am 22 and still my parents try to control everything. I am independent. Despite this. What do I do?

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      Sarah 

      11 months ago

      I’m 15 and my mum won’t let me go out shopping with my friends. She says if I want to go she has to drive me up there and walk around with us!!! Its so annoying because I’ve been to the mall like 100 times but I can’t tell her because then I’d get the lecture of safety and everything. She’s literally smothering me like I ever get any space from her. And whenever I bring it up she just goes “I’m just trying to keep you safe” I don’t know what to do! I’ve tried all the things in this article and they’re just not working

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      Anika 

      12 months ago

      Hello.. I m in a big trouble.. My parents doesn't allow me to go outside.. I live in a very small village where colleges are not available.. I have studied up to 10th.. My dad is very stricted and he doesn't allow me to go out side some big towns or cities for study.. I want freedom.. I talked with him a lot of time.. He doesn't allow me to do anything.. He says only learn how to cook.. That's it.. I can't fulfil my dreams my hobbies.. Please help..

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      Stella 

      12 months ago

      My parents are really overprotective, to the point where I sometimes lie to them about things, such as telling her I'm going to the nearby park to exercise, but in reality, I'm just there to meet and hang out with my friends. Even so, they think that it is not safe for me to go there "alone" just because it's an "open" area, and I could be abducted or some stupid piece of shit thoughts they have. And I know they're trying to protect me, but this is too much. They can't even trust me to walk to the park myself, in the afternoon, and that park is always filled with people, and mostly people I know. Like, if I get abducted, it's my fault. And only I am to blame. But the fact that i need to lie to them to do something just shows that history is repeating itself. My mother used to lie to my granny all the time to play with her friends, maybe now it's my turn to do so. I totally get how you feel girl, its always " When you cming back? Who is that? Who you hangin with? Boys? How many times have I told you not to hang out with them?!

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      john 

      12 months ago

      This helped me a lot with my English task for school about writing a text about this subject! thanxx

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      Anonymous 

      12 months ago

      Ok 1 is it bad that im only 13 and 2 ive been trying to do all of this and it isnt working. Yes my perents arent as strict as all of your perents but still they wont let me do anything really like my mom has to know their perents. Please help

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      mm 

      12 months ago

      my mom is always checking everything i do she does not trust me at all.

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      anonymus 

      12 months ago

      I'm turning 16 soon and my parent's strictness has not changed, no going out with friends unless my mum has been friends with their parents for at least 2 yrs, only close friends birthdays(my friends don't even bother asking me if I want to go out anymore), after a lot of arguing, no sc until yr 12 ( gonna have to find a way to hide that ). Must read through all msgs, know who, when and what I'm texting and basically, I can't do anything. If I'm seen on my phone for 1 second ( which btw is broken now and won't get fixed in forever), she suddenly snatches it from me and checks everything and says I'm on it too much and when I get good grades as well, if I'm seen talking to the opposite gender she always asks me about it, unless they are good family friends from like 5 yrs ago, shes only looking out for me but just let me live a little bit pls?. I don't go partying or get drunk (like some ppl my age) when I had snapchat I just put pictures of the sunset or my drawings, never add strangers, so basically I've never done anything wrong or bad. If your reading this first of all thank you for reading my comment, if u also have strict parents that won't lay of your back, just wait it out and be patient and trust me I've been doing it my whole life and I still have so much more time left to wait. The kids with the strictest parents are the best at hiding, just don't hide anything bad from them that would hurt them, have a good day!

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      A.N 

      12 months ago

      I am turning sixteen on December sixteenth. I don't go out, i don't hang out with friends, I don't go anywhere with out my mother unless it is a field trip with friends, I can't even go out or sleep over my cousins house for gods sake! I was home schooled my ninth grade year because I had to help her with my new born baby brother and that made me very antisocial. I am a tenth grader right now and I still haven't seen any changes!!! I am sick and tired of living with this lady. She judges all of my friends too! Just about four days ago I went to a football game and she had an attitude about me going because she didn't know who I was going with. While I was waiting I went up the street to pickup some Chinese food before the game and she flipped the fuck out. My mom is a Jamaican woman and already they're very strict and old school. My friends parents are very strict and do not do half the stuff my mom does!!! I used to get asked to go to parties, brunch, malls, etc to the point where I stopped making excuses and blatantly said no myself. She wonders why I don't want anyone to know her and meet her. I am embarrassed of her ok? She embarrasses me so much it becomes disrespect out in public. I just want to turn eighteen and be able to do what I want. She told me once I turn sixteen more leeway will come. My bedtime is the same as my eleven year old sister(which is 8:30) is bullshit like what the actual fuck?! She took away my phone because she was "searching for a picture I took with my brother" and saw my close friend and I text messages. Yes I talk about inappropriate things, but the difference is I am not the one doing it. I am the person to help my friends with their problems and is very open to every topic that is introduced in a new conversation. She wants my social media, my only social media which is Snapchat, to go through my messages and pictures. I don't have anything inappropriate on there that is about me but the conversations with people are about different people that have done wrong. Every time I talk to her about it it is always "you lie to much. That's why I cannot trust you." My mom does not even make an effort to trust me because she is so paranoid with her little piece of shit thoughts. My mom and I are the same sign, Sagittarius, and she rebelled the same way to her parents because they were strict pentecostal christian parents which got her kicked out of the house. And she wonders why I am acting this way, I do not like being told no especially when it does not make sense to me. I literally cry to myself because it is too much to think about where I have been told has given me a minor type of depression. She's even scared for me to have male friends. But to wrap this up I hate my life and my mothers strict ways. Anyone want to switch parents?

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      Natalie 

      13 months ago

      This is so meeee. I wanted to go to a football game with a friend tonight so we carpool and my friend took me their we had a great time then my mom came and realized that there wasn’t a parent there with us (this was a town game with many close friends) so she wouldn’t let us leave her sight until my friends dad came ughhhhhhh. She totally embarrassed me

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      H .k 

      13 months ago

      I am 20. Still my mom not allowed me a phone ,she doesn't understand me she always used to scold me because of her over care . I don't know what to do

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      Unknown 

      13 months ago

      My mom just dosent trust me at all I can never really do anything like just recently My boyfriend broken up with me because I can never leave my house she’ll never let me go places my self with my friends or I can’t go places without a family member coming with me.

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      13 months ago

      I’m 18 and my mom won’t allow me to do anything. I can’t even go to the movies with friends and I literally live 5 mins away from the theater. Everytime she sees me on the phone with my boyfriend she calls me to do something then try to hang the phone up. My dad allows my boyfriend to come over but she gets mad if we even step outside or sit beside each other in the couch. He’s willing to take me anywhere I want to have fun because she can not afford it but she refused no matter how excited I am about it. I wanted to go to my prom after party but she refused to send me. I literally cried and begged her but she insisted that I would be out too late and she won’t be able to sleep until I get home and she’s not losing sleep because of some silly party. She promised me when I’m 18 I’ll be allowed to go out but now she’s changing everything. She keeps saying I look sad whenever she looks at my face but I’m afraid to tell her she’s the reason I’m sad I rather not hurt her feelings. I just need her to give me my space

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      ano 

      13 months ago

      I hate this so much I want more freedom to go outside and hang out with friends Not getting whatever I want and staying at home

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      gg 

      13 months ago

      So, I am 20 a university student. I have been in deep thoughts these days by seeing how my friends are going out alone easily like “Mom, I am going for a movie with .. Will be back afternoon” when here I am I have to ask my mom that I want to go somewhere maybe a hangout with friends or a friend and I am not 100 percent sure I will get a “YES”. If it is a yes, they will drive me to that destination they will wait for me until I am done with whatever I am doing and I just have to hop into the car and go home. It is really getting frustrating. I have been that clever girl every mom probably wants (?) I never really rebel and that might be one of the reasons I am afraid to do so now. I can’t go to any far places to hang out or eat with friends become it will be FAR for them to drive me to get there so when my friends make plan they have to choose the places near me so I could come. My family just don’t let me go out alone. I can’t ride a bus taxi that every friend of mine are using. I am really thankful that my family is always doing this but for god’s sake I am 20 and I wish they would believe in me a bit more that I can be independent. They say they are worried I understand they give me what I want as long as I stay at home. Another thing, my mom says no boyfriend until “I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHEN” She doesn’t like things like that It is not like I have someone but it is really hard for me to hang out with a guy. I am really scared she might have the wrong idea about us I don’t even know how to ask for permission My pathetic ass is fragile one thing my mon says can hurt me a lot She knows I have lots of guy friends tho Just that I do lots of group hang outs but if one guy bestfriend of mine is treating me for his birthday but I am pretty sure my mom is gonna be outside waiting for me If I told her we are going to eat I can only eat no extra activities movies or arcade or sth I feel trapped and suffocated having this thought that she is waiting for me I know she believes in me But I wish she raises her level of understanding in that case I mean I AM NOT DATING ANYONE BECAUSE SHE DOESN’T WANT ME TO DO SO NO ONE EVEN LIKES ME THEY KNOW I AM A MAMA GIRL THEY KNOW I CAN’T HAVE A BOYRFRIEND I am so fed up feeling my heart shaken up whenever I have to ask permission to hang out with a guy friend

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      eeja 

      13 months ago

      My mom is not highly protective , she doesn't allow me to go anywhere without her or a member of the family. and some places only without her u r not allowed to go. she sometimes allows me to go to my friends house but not for a long time. she never let me hangout in malls with friends unless it's a field trip from school or university. I only have one close friend bc she's the only one i go to her house that's it. I cry a lot because that makes me feel trapped in a cage and it just not building my personality and makes me always feel sad about everything in my life. I stay in house not going anywhere apart from university for 3 weeks ,from uni to home ,from home to uni. and i'm telling my self for sure this gonna change one day , how? i don't know but i need to have faith in this and hope that it does. if i can't enjoy my life while being young , when will i enjoy it ? and when will I become an adult in her eyes that should take care of herself. i'm 18 btw. all i wanna say to her is that I'm a human and i deserve my good amount of freedom too. i'm not gonna wait until i get married and go into another cage .and i just wanna have fun and have some kind of adventures in my life.

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      dw 

      13 months ago

      i can never do anything

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      Ty 

      13 months ago

      okay so i never get out the house unless its with my family members .. im at good child i get good grades and i know how to present myself when im going out places. im always in my room shuttered in there with absolutely nothing to do . my brother goes to the movies with his friends he smokes and he also steals ..he gets to spend the night at their house and everything. when i ask to go somewhere its always a no i dont know if my mom hates me but i literally have no freedom i cry in my room because when my friends ask me can i go somewhere with them its embarrassing to tell them "my mom said i can't go" i honestly think she hates me she has so much negatuve things to say about me ... i want to tell her how i feel but i think she will take it as a joke . its crazy how i cant talk to my mom about anything because the way she thinks an how her attitude is set up . yo i cant even spend my own money ... and nobody understands me im not a bad child i just want atleast a little freedom .

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      Anna 

      13 months ago

      My mom and sister are all I have. My mom is very controlling, and my sister, she's great at guilt tripping people.

      I'm nearly 23 years old, I've never really hung out with friends because my mom would panic. She'd text or call almost every moment she could. It would irritate me.

      Even now, I'm at my boyfriend's mom's place and my sister tries to guilt trip me because she's dealing with drama at home and making it seem like "wow it's great that you're happy, but what about me and mom" and I hate it. I'm tired of being told stuff like that. Most of my life I've been cooped up in the house. No real contact with people.

      I don't want that. And both of them need to stop telling me what I don't already know. I love who I'm with and nothing is gonna change that no matter what the cost.

      I just want freedom for once.

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      unknown 

      14 months ago

      I turned 18 a couple months ago , I still have a year to graduate..my mom would still take my phone away when school starts and I can only use it in the weekends , Im not allowed to go out much either , I see my friends having fun and living there teenage lives partying and getting their drivers license and etc. and some of them are even younger than me and have their freedom.. I have a boyfriend but im not allowed to see him much we're both suffering from that ... I just dont know when will she treat me like im an actual adult and make me feel independent and to let me go wherever the hell I want ..

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      Unknown 

      14 months ago

      My parents won't let me play computer for shit. Even if I study read a book they say I can only play 1 fucking hour while my other friends playing until their eyes bleed out and guess what their test results are all good their parents all good with them playing whatever they want however they want. I have to play on a laptop that can't take any proper games (fortnite can fuck off) and even if it does take a game THEY DONT LET ME FUCKING BUY IT I have been playing league of legends for 2 years now I want to play something else. When I ask my mum can I play on the computer she says no and tells me to revise study etc. when I do these things she will say "you are not doing these things for me you are doing these things for yourself and this right now isn't enough" WHAT THE FUCK IS ENOUGH?what is enough what is can you please tell me what is considered "enough". She talks to me about this friend of hers whom just makes her kids revise 4 hours doesn't let them touch the computer in weekdays and 1 hour on the weekend I keep telling her those kids will get good jobs and good for them but maybe I don't want to be like them maybe I just want to have fun? I am not against getting a good education I even want it but this is just too much its even the start of the year and she is still doing this. Takes my phone away after 6. I mean at least let me have my fucking phone is that too much to ask what else do you want from me.

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      Unknown 

      14 months ago

      My mom has never let me go to a sleepover and she never let me be on a trampoline. She takes away my phone every time I get back from school. I can't have any social media. I can't listen to any music that isn't Christian music. I can never go to a friend's house without her. I can't go anywhere without her.

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      Morgan 

      14 months ago

      I have a phone but it’s a “home “ phone so I have to share it with my nine year old sister and I’m not allowed to have any games or apps that aren’t already in the phone I’m twelve and I’m the only one without a phone I’m not allowed to wear makeup and my mom won’t even let me have slime because I’m too “messy” she doesn’t even trusts she always checks my history and texts is so fucking annoying

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      Unknown 

      14 months ago

      My parents are overprotective of m phone. It was taken away for having a Instagram. After a year it was given back bu not even a month it was taken for talking about pride month. Me and my brother don't have safari nor app store. We have o ask o download an app,

      but hey inspect he app and have to deem it worthy if we can have it.

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      JJ 

      14 months ago

      I really want to join a club but My Parents are so over protective and want me to literally stay home and stare at them in order for me not to do anything.

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      Alexi 

      14 months ago

      My mom won't even let me go on field trips, school dances ext.. Its actual hell on earth.

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      Faith 

      14 months ago

      Im 19 and my dad wont let me out of the house ive never been out at night all i do is just sit at home and i think my boyfriend is tired of me giving him excuses of not being able to go out im really tired of this and i just cant wait to go to college and experience fun life a lil.

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      Hassan gujjar 

      14 months ago

      Expect this is white mom advice non of this works for desi parents

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      randomdepressedperson 

      15 months ago

      My parents have been so overprotective they homeschooled me my whole life, and I'm an adult who's still not able to leave the house alone.

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      cantstandthis 

      15 months ago

      I hate this. I havent been outside of this house in a week

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      Jorge 

      15 months ago

      My mom wants to keep taking me to school tmr is my first day of my freshman year and she still wants to take me i want to experience how it is to go alone and adapt in an emergency, i might not be brave enough to go alone in any situation idk what to do if i tell her i want to go alone she starts telling my dad :,(

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      Calvin 

      15 months ago

      I'm just your daily regular kid living life. But this life is freaking restricted! My parents would restrict every electronic and not have me go outside and go to friends. My social skills are gonna die D:

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      Annon 

      15 months ago

      Ok so I am about to granduate my final year of high school and my boyfriend for 2 years want to go on a holiday together to celebrate but my parents won’t allow me. Is this unreasonable?

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      Jaki 

      15 months ago

      My mom gave me the option of moving out to my grandparents' home in a nearby different state so I told her I wanted to go. She is the one who told me this was an option yet she is being so stubborn about letting me leave. I understand a parent wants to keep their child close but then why would she give me the option in the first place if she won't even comply to my decision :/

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      Anonymous 

      16 months ago

      I'm 18 and my parents won't let me have a phone till I'm at least 19. I've been tempted to get one anyway and just deal with the wrath of my parents, but I'm nervous. They don't trust me because they found out I was having sexual relations with my boyfriend a year ago. I've been grounded for a year and am not aloud to have electronics of my own till I'm 19. Any advice??? P.S. I can' afford to move out and last time I wanted to try my mom guilt tripped me into staying.

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      Lucine Rawiya 

      16 months ago from S-

      I feel like the only way for me to get freedom is to just move out. (I can't for a while yet unfortunately). No matter how many times I talk to them, they can't understand that their control freak nature is wrong. I can't do anything about it as long as I live under them. Once I move out, they will have to accept that they do not have control over every aspect of my life.

      They don't even let me go into the backyard at night to hang the washing up. That's a ridiculous thing to do to someone who is nearly 17.

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      Tx 

      16 months ago

      My paremts always need to know what im doing they wont let me sit alone in my room and they dont understand i like to distance myself sometimes they want me to use my phone only when i sit right next to them im allowed to go out but not to my friends houses only local areas and my dad has to drop me off. im not allowed to walk home from school with my friends and they really dont trust me with anything and im not even doing anything wrong.

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      S.S. 

      16 months ago

      I dare say my parents can be overprotective at times, although I do understand where it is coming from.

      They get suspicious if i'm on the internet for too long, I'm forbidden from owning a phone or getting a job until I graduate school, they wont let me go to any but two of my friend's houses, and i'm not permitted to wear anything even slightly 'out of the ordinary'.

      i'm not allowed to wear shorts or skirts. i'm not particularily interested in that kind of dress but I still think it is a bit much.

      But I still do respect their decisions as they are just looking out for me, after all.

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      liv 

      16 months ago

      I wish my parents can read and reflect into this article. All I want for them is to understand that I am old and wise enough to make my own choice in life. it sucks to be teen

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      no 

      17 months ago

      I'm asian, I've never been to a friends house. I hate it and I always feel so lonely, after all phones can't speak to me and go to the park can they?

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