Jealous Family Members: A Family Relationship Problem
Jealous family members do exist, and they can cause a problem within the family overall. They are not an urban legend or a strange delusion. Family and all of our interactions with them are supposed to be a blessing. But if you have a jealous family, you feel absolutely cursed.
There’s a saying that goes, “Blood is thicker than water." In my opinion, blood is more jealous, too. It’s so sad to know that jealousy might motivate your aunts, cousins, or even your siblings to hurt you. And when it comes from family members, the hurt is deeper than if a stranger had done it to you.
Strangely, I’ve had horrible luck in dealing with jealous relatives in my life. It could be worse, but it’s still a shame that jealousy occurs in the family. I suppose that we can say it’s just human nature, but it’s so unnecessary.
How to Deal With Jealous Family Members
Keep Your Mouth Shut
While you cannot remove yourself from the family tree, you can easily manage any jealous family members that you have. The most important step is to keep them out of your personal business. They do not need to know that you are purchasing a new home, awaiting a promotion, or even dating a new partner.
You do not want your goals or current events to be the main discussion at their dinner table. They will simply devour it and speak negatively about your life. Do not fuel the fire for their gossip and their negative talk.
Stop Feeling Guilty
Do not feel guilty that you are pulling away by not sharing your life story with them. Sometimes, you just have to love people from far away. It’s easy to feel that you are being the bad guy when you are simply trying to protect yourself.
Manage Family Gatherings
If they invite you to family functions, you can still attend. You just have to be mindful about what you share with them. There is nothing wrong with enjoying their company.
However, in most cases, you will find that certain relatives who harbor jealousy will usually not invite you to their events. You should not despair, and do not force your way into their world either. It is probably best that you limit your in-person interactions with them.
Some say that a person should call a family meeting to discuss the jealousy issue, but a lot of times it only makes the drama last longer. Stay away from all-out confrontations or Dr. Phil-style interventions.
The most important thing is to remain a loving, caring individual and not allow the antics of jealous family members to make you bitter. This may sound weird, but become the peace that you seek from your family.
It Is Not Your Problem
Sometimes, these same jealous relatives may feel conflicted on the inside. They may actually be proud of you but are simply jealous that they were not able to achieve what you've been able to.
While that is sad, it is not your problem. You shouldn’t have to be overly humble and be ashamed of your milestones so you don’t offend your family members.
In time, you will either find that your absence has made their heart grow fonder for you or that nothing has changed. Search your heart to forgive them so that you're not consumed by bitterness.
Forgive them so you can ultimately release their hold over you and your emotions. You can only control your own actions. This is the only way to find peace.