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Letters To My Grandchild

Updated on April 20, 2016
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It's Better The Second Time Around

I remember hearing the expression, "Grand parenting is much more fun than parenting," as a young mother and wondering how this could be true? Although I enjoyed parenting my child and miss having him in the home, I now have to admit it took some work coupled with loving discipline to get through the stages of childhood, preteen and teen years.

My husband and I made some mistakes along the way, but we didn't mention this to him. I guess he figured it out all by himself anyway! It was a bit of a whirlwind at times, and some days I was flying out there solo in space wondering where am I going with this? Parenting does not come with a driver's manual and you have to learn things the hard way: through experience.

However, grandparenting is different. You have already been through the parental journey and can now sit back and enjoy the view. It is your privilege to share with your grandchild what his or her parents did at their age, to the dismay of their moms and dads. Grandchildren bond with you quickly on this point, try it and you will see what I mean!

I will have to say that grandchildren keep you busy and do tend to shadow your every move. They want to be near you, and they consider you their older buddy. We love this in our relationship and find it most endearing. My husband (I disclose nothing on myself) enjoys spoiling our grandchildren and misses them when they are gone. He would never openly admit that his heart yearns for them, but he does have a way of expressing himself in a round about way to friends.

Here is an excerpt from one of his letters:

The grandkids just left Sunday. I can tell you that we've been by ourselves for quite awhile now, so we've been used to a quiet house. Took us about a week to get used to a messy, noisy one again; and now they have gone and the house just seems extra quiet this time around. After taking them to the airport, we spent the day doing absolutely nothing. But, not sure if it was to rest up or because we were bummed because they were gone.

Did I find a couple of things to remember for the next time they come to visit?

  1. The use of toilet paper and Scott towels goes up exponentially with the number of kids in the house.
  2. No matter where you go or what you do, it costs at least a $100 minimum (maybe that's just me?)
  3. Be extra sure the bathroom door is locked
  4. The attention span of kids today is a lot shorter than even the attention span of when my son was a child
  5. Kids don't eat a whole lot during meals, but they do look for a vast variety of things to eat
  6. Everything you thought was yours suddenly becomes community property

.... but it has gotten quiet again.

Poem: Grandmother And Grandfather

Grandmother and Grandfather, when are you coming here?

We really want to see you because to us your are very dear.

You gave us Mom and you gave us our Dad.

If it were not for you, our life would be very sad.

This family would not have been here if it were not for your love and care.

Grandmother and Grandfather, we care for your very much.

Please do not forget us.

Please remember to keep in touch.

God bless you, Grandparents, you are a star in our world.

God placed you both here to bring peace and joy to our world.

by Juliet Wilson, © Capture The Experience Through Poetry, 2010


We Get Better The Second Time Around

Our grandchildren are getting older and we can see the pre-teen years just up ahead. The distance between us limits our ability to physically be there to help guide them. They are fortunate to have parents who love them, care for their needs and provide great parental guidance on life issues.

However, as a grandparent we can give them extra support by gently mentoring. We have learned that children (and their parents) need to have loving support through the early growing years. As Grandparents, we now have the extra time to provide this as often as we desire. We now know how to listen with interest and respond with wisdom from our experience. We have the opportunity to make up for mentoring moments missed with our own children.

Letter writing is an effective communication tool to use in reaching out to children, especially your grandchildren who live a great distance from you. Children love to receive letters and packages and look forward to receiving them with great joy. This is an opportunity to share what you have learned in life with them, helping them to gain some insight about important life challenges.

As you write, keep in mind the age of the child as this will guide you in how basic to keep the content. You may have some difficulty knowing what to write about if your are just starting with this, or it has been some time since you have seen them. Topics to write on can be simple but try to make them specific to the child's interests. Some ideas to consider are:

  • Write about the toys you had as a child, which are similar to ones they enjoy. Talk about how they kept you happy and busy. If they are gamers, talk about similarities developing game skills that helped you to learn values such as patience.
  • Write about your trips to places they enjoy like the zoo and highlight the animals you saw with great enthusiasm. You could use this to talk about caring for animals.
  • Younger children enjoy simple jokes. My hubby had an endless list of "knock knock" jokes.
  • Ask them how their event went at at school (spelling bee, science project, ballet recital, etc.). Share how you enjoyed these events at their age. Winning and losing is a great subject to cover on these activities.
  • Use holidays to talk about events of interest they enjoy celebrating (decorating the Christmas tree, hunting Easter eggs, Fourth of July fireworks) talk about how you view these events and your beliefs in celebrating them.
  • Share your hobby interests and what you have accomplished. This can lead to your sharing of the importance of developing your talents, discipline of learning, or how it helps others.


Grandpa sent this apron with the letter, it reinforces the message.
Grandpa sent this apron with the letter, it reinforces the message. | Source

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Sharing From The Heart

My husband has taken to including a letter to our eldest grandchild, who is pre-teen, with every package we send him. His letters include some encouragement on developing virtues that will not only help him, but also help other people in his life.

Our grandson is beginning to help cook family meals and is enjoying it, especially eating the results of his efforts! My husband recently sent him a package which included a "Chef In Training" apron along with a letter of encouragement. I have included a small portion of his letter to him as an example of how letter writing can help mold and encourage valuable character traits (written as he wrote, bolded sentences and all):

"I have to tell you that cooking for others can be one of the best ways to show that you care for them. If you do it for the right reasons, there can be no better example of serving others. Think about it. Cooking takes time away from things you might want to be doing. It gives people something that they can't do without (everybody has to eat, right?). Not only do people have to eat because their bodies need food, but it is also pleasing to the mind (food can satisfy your sense of taste, smell and touch).

So let me ask you this: When you cook, do you ...

> Make just what you want to eat? Or, do you cook something other people like, even if it might not be your favorite?

> Do you just serve yourself? Or, do you make sure everyone has been served first?

> Do you help clean the table afterwards? Or, do you just clean up your area of the table?

There's a lot more questions I could ask, but I think you get my point, and it's something only you can answer. And your answer will probably keep changing as you get older. But, the question will always remain the same -- Do you cook only to take care of yourself, or do you cook for others? Do you help serve and take care of others? . . . You probably haven't thought about cooking this way before, but if you think about it, there is an opportunity to help others in almost everything we do. . . . And when you cook for the right reasons, you have an opportunity to put the needs of others before yourself. That's what good men do.

. . . So my wish for you continues to be that you'll be working your way to becoming a good man. I expect the way you look about things will keep changing as you grow older. I know that I always have to look back and ask myself if I've been doing the right thing. And I'm a lot, lot older than you! . . . Even though you and I already know right from wrong ... Keep in mind that good men always keep thinking about what they do. Remember that good men help and serve other people."


Letters to a grandchild can be kept and stored in the heart and will have lasting effects over time. Grandparents come from a well traveled road and sharing from personal adventures can help grandchildren avoid the potholes they stumbled upon. Your faith, passions and beliefs can inspire a child to build life values that will help him or her personally, and to contribute positively in society.


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      Dianna Mendez 4 weeks ago

      Thank you, Tina and Nadine for your thoughts on this article. We are blessed to have a positive relationship with our grandkids. We have the privilege of shaping their world.

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      Tina Tomlinson 7 weeks ago

      Leaving a legacy that promotes success for the next generation.

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      NadineMay 9 months ago

      What a lovely post. You are truly fortunate to see them growing up, even if you are not living next door. They have stayed with you long enough to bond with you both.

      The distance between our grandchildren totally limits our ability to physically be bonding with them. They all live, six of them, on different continents. We do send postcards and we hoped that the internet would make a difference, but sadly it has not. We are strangers to them. We now hope, when they are all grownup that they want to come to South Africa and have a free place to stay while on Holiday. That is if we live long enough.

      What we have attracted in our lives is a mother with her then 15 year old son. They came to stay with us. We have seen Michael who is now seventeen growing in a very loving an mature young adult and he very often cooks for us and helps me in the garden, for which he earns pocket money.

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      Dianna Mendez 15 months ago

      Hello ChitrangadaSharan! You are so blessed to have the memory of your grandfather's letters. I know you will be an excellent grandmother (and grand one too!). Have a wonderful week, dear lady.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 15 months ago from New Delhi, India

      What a beautiful hub! You took me back in time when my grandfather used to write letters to me. I have preserved all of them very carefully. Each letter is precious to me. We always learnt something in their company. Remember those were days of handwritten letters.

      I have yet to become a grandmother but I have plans to become a very grand grandmother. Someone whose company the grandkids would love to have.

      Loved going through your hub ! Very interesting and thought provoking indeed! Thanks!

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Ubrish,

      Barbara,

      Sujaya,

      Akriti,

      Marilyn,

      Save Our Children,

      PawPaw,

      So glad everyone grasped how precious our children are, especially grandchildren. I enjoyed reading your responses and you have brightened my day. Have a wonderful week, dear friends. God bless your home and life.

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      sujaya venkatesh 2 years ago

      what love!

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      Akriti Mattu 2 years ago from Shimla, India

      This is so adorable. Looking forward to read more of your posts.

      Voted up.

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      Marilyn L Davis 2 years ago from Georgia

      Good evening, Teaches12345; lovely examples of how to communicate. I wanted to foster a love of reading and writing for my grand children, so they each get a letter monthly. I see them and talk to them on the phone, but let me miss a letter, and I hear about it. So I know they value them.

      Some are just questions about their world and other times, it's a link about their interests, or an article or poem that I know will be special for them. We continue the tradition at holidays and birthdays as well. ~Marilyn

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      Kammie Savidge 2 years ago from Denton, Texas

      Such loving and wise advice. You are a great lady and an inspiration to others. Thank you for writing this article.

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      Jim 2 years ago from Kansas

      Your grandchildren are lucky to have such wise and loving grandparents, who are willing to share their wisdom. I have a feeling they will become fine adults.

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      Barbara Badder 2 years ago from USA

      I now have great grandchildren and yes, the children in your life are precious. I miss the time when both my kids and grandkids were small.

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Thank you, Ubrish. I will keep in touch, dear lady.

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      ubrish ali 2 years ago from Pakistan(Asia)

      Welcome .I will love to read your new article.so stay connected always.

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      Dianna Mendez 2 years ago

      Ubrish, thank you for the comment and your visit. I do love kids! Blessigns, dear lady.

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      ubrish ali 2 years ago from Pakistan(Asia)

      It shows your love for kids

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Techygran, I love how you are communicating with your grandkids. It is important to build these relationships, it takes effort but so worthwhile. Thank you for reflecting these positive thoughts.

      Sanjay, glad this brought some happy memories to your mind today. Be well and safe.

      Nell, thank you for your kind comment and support. Hope all is well in your part of the world.

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      This is wonderful Dianna, I don't have grandchildren, in fact I probably won't get any as my son lives with his girlfriend who already has two grown up daughters, but I would take all the advice you have given here, and what a lovely family you have too, nell

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      Sanjay Sharma 3 years ago from Mandi (HP) India

      You are right, parenting does not come with a driver's manual. Every child is different. The hub made me a little bit nostalgic.

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      Cynthia 3 years ago from Vancouver Island, Canada

      teaches, this article contains so much love and wisdom... thank you for all the ideas, tips, and reminders of the importance of building a great relationship with our grandkids. I have to say that being grandparents is the highlight of our lifetime for my hubby and me. We communicate with our granddaughters on the phone and on-line. They are on G+, email, have made over 100 youtubes with their various dolls and toys (they're 7 and 9) and have blogs, twitter, and who knows what else, mainly because they saw that I did. I actually can't keep up with all the bombardment from various corners... it's a little quieter now that they are back in school. I'm not complaining... they are a delight! My desire, as I know as it is for many grandparents, is that someday we live closer together.

      I also loved how you included the Grandpa's notes and shared wisdom. How rich your grandchildren are for the united tide of love and mentoring!

      Beautiful hub! Voted you up and shared!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Barbara, my grandkids are in their teens now and I am trying to treasure every moment I am with them. Soon they will be off to college and things change for the better, but a bit sad for grandparents. I would love some molded chocolate right now!

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      Barbara Badder 3 years ago from USA

      I just loved it when my grandchildren were little tikes. As they got bigger we baked cookies and molded chocolate at Christmas. I miss those years. Now they are adults.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Imtii, I am glad to hear of your good memories of your grandparents. It is a blessing to have had that time with them. Thank you for your words of support. Enjoy your day, dear friend.

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      Imtiaz Ahmed 3 years ago from Dhaka, Bangladesh

      Hello teaches12345 I really like your hub. I can tell that you wrote it with feelings. The best part was that I really liked the Poem Grandmother and Grandfather it really reminds of the years I passed with my grand parents. They were so amazing. I really miss them a lot! Thank you for very nice hub. I am voting you up!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Your words are filled wisdom, stbrians. Grandparenting is wonderful. Thank you for your comment. Enjoy your day.

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      Meshack Bwoyele Keya 3 years ago from Vihiga County,Western Kenya

      Grand-parenting gives the grand-children great pleasure and the grand-parents have a reason to live and smile.Their stories also are enjoyable

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Suzette, I'm chuckling at your quote. It rings of truth. Yes, letters are a good way to communicate with your loved ones. Enjoy your weekend.

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      Suzette Walker 3 years ago from Taos, NM

      I think your idea is a grand one! Instead of texting or e-mailing your grandchildren, it is good to write a letter to them in your own handwriting. That way, they learn the importance of writing. Your ideas are good ones. I read somewhere recently the "being a grandparent is the gift you are given for not strangling your child in his/her teenage years." Enjoy!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Ubani, glad you enjoyed the read. Yes, we have had some interesting experiences from leaving doors unlocked. You don't want to know!

      Vocal, it is wonderful you have warm memories of your son. I am glad your grandchildren are reflecting his love and wisdom.

      Happy Mike, I apprciate your visit and comment. I think we can all relate to children in one way or another, regardless of parental status.

      Mg Singh, I hope some day you enjoy grandchildren. They will put smiles and lots of love in your life.

      Arun, I agree. Handwritten letters are so valuable and can be kept through the ages as reminders.

      Thanks everyone for your support. Blessings!

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      ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE 3 years ago from KOLKATA

      The children consider it as a special gift to receive letters from someone closest to them. In our country the bond between the children and their grandparents is even more than their parents. In this technologically advanced age hand written letters are becoming a thing of the past and the grand parents may jolly well become pen pals of their dear ones by sending electronic mails adding beautiful photographs and pictures inculcating in them the knowledge of such essential arts.Thank you very much for the useful hub.

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      MG Singh 3 years ago from Singapore

      Its a wonderful hub. So interesting, though I am not a GP yet

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      HappyMikeWritter 3 years ago

      What a great article. I cannot comment it with my experiences as I am not parent nor grandparent but is so nice to read about tips and advice about grandparenting. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences :-)

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      Audrey Hunt 3 years ago from Nashville Tn.

      This is such a good idea! I enjoyed every bit of this hub and laughed out loud at #6 on your list of things to remember. The time I spent with my grandchildren are the happiest of all. This was before my son passed away. I have rarely had the privilege of seeing them since. But I know they are growing up to be fine men and women. I miss them and love them with all my being. Thank you. Voted up and across and sharing.

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      Alexander Thandi Ubani 3 years ago from Lagos

      very interesting write and experience shared.

      children can be fun especially grand children cos they bring the fun back. as you noted, they brought life to the house again and when they left everywhere became lonely.

      I laughed when i came across "Be extra sure the bathroom door is locked"

      yeah that's true cos some just barge in thinking it is still home. lol

      as per communication, letter writing is a very good method even in this hi-Tech society. A little thing from the past is good for the kids.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      I am so glad to hear how much you enjoy parenting, Kerlund. Yes, grandparenting is just an extension of this wonderful experience. Thank you for your support. Enjoy your day.

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      kerlund74 3 years ago from Sweden

      I love beeing a mother and I can imagine that grandmother will be even cooler... A really thoughtful and beautiful hub. Voted beautiful!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      RNMSN, your idea is wonderful. It is these moments we capture that will bond their hearts to ours forever. Thank you for adding interest to the content. Blessings.

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      Barbara Bethard 3 years ago from Tucson, Az

      Hi Teaches! What a wonderul hub! I enjoyed it so much. I am keeping a word doc with words and pics off of FB...so I can share with my two grandchildren in a couple of decades the things that made their mom and dad smile :)

      but you have reminded me that it is important that I give them a piece of my heart as well! Thank you!! Will Do!!!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Hi Amie! We do love our grandchildren and hope to pass on wisdom from our experiences in life. I t sounds as if you are a great mom and will someday enjoy the blessings of grandchildren. Thanks for coming by and may you always know the treasures children bring to our life. Blessings.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      I loved your hub! It made me laugh... it made me cry! It is clear that you are a very loving mother and grandmother and your husband, a loving grandparent and father as well. As a mother with young children now, this was beautiful to read and I can't help but think how lucky your children/grandchildren are to have you!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Annart, How wonderful that you keep a diary on each child. Yes, we have a secon chance at making it better for our grandchildren. Love them and enjoy every minute, Annart!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      DDE, thank you for coming by and please forgive my late appreciation. You will be an excellent granparent when the times come - I can tell. Children are such a joy to be around, especially when you can say good-bye at the end of the day and pass them on to their parents. Just joking of course!

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      This is a hub full of such valuable advice. I communicate with my grandchildren (of which I have 3, number 4 on the way) often as I'm lucky to have them close by. Even when I don't see them, we often talk on the phone, even the two 3 year olds (the oldest is coming up to 13). I send the oldest emails now and then and we have some good talks; I make sure she doesn't miss out when the little ones demand attention.

      I'm keeping a running diary for each of them - what they do, progress made in lots of ways, etc.

      I love the fact that we can in some ways make up for mistakes made when we were parents (I even discuss such mistakes with my daughters!). I do spoil my grandchildren but I also try to keep in with their parents' rules. My rules apply in my house though (they're mostly the same). It's great to have the time to look after them, guide them and have tremendous fun with them.

      Love this hub; great presentation and lovely, communicative style. Ann

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Letters To My Grandchild I don't have any grandchildren but communication is so important to your loved ones. A great hub on this topic. One day I will have grandchildren and when the time comes I guess I will know better. I agree that grand parenting i much better than parenting it also depends on the behaviors of children when raising them.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Epbooks, I am sure that your heart embraces that of a child in many ways. You are a truly genuine and special person.

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      Elizabeth Parker 4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Such a sweet hub. I don't have children (and won't have grandchildren) but I enjoyed reading this. It was very touching!

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Neelum, thank you for stopping by here. I hope are having a wonderful day.

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      Neelum Waqar 4 years ago from Pakistan

      i agree with teaches12345

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      Neelum Waqar 4 years ago from Pakistan

      tnks for shearing important information.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Tillsontitan, thanks for the support on this post. Being a role model for children is always a good thing. Glad that you are a part of your grandchildren's lives and that they will know the wisdom shared. Be well and safe.

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Everything about this hub is lovely Teaches...you are always teaching. Your husband's letters are lovely and your thoughts and the points you make cover things pretty well.

      Being a grandparent is a blessing and sometimes I think it's a way for us to make up for the mistakes we may have made raising our kids. We learned as they grew.

      Voted up, useful, beautiful, and interesting.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I am so glad that your children have this blessing, Vinaya. Thank you for your visit here and I hope your day is going well.

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      Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

      Dianna,

      my grand parents were dead long before I was born. But when I see my parents' love for my nephew and niece, I know what I missed in my childhood.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jackie, yes, you know grandparenting is so much more enjoyable than parenting! Thanks for the visit and comment. Enjoy your grandkids!

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      You are sure right, grandparenting is a picnic compared to parenting; isn't it and such fun! Sounds like you have a great grandson and I know he will remember the letters and tips with love along with your other grandchildren. Thanks for sharing. ^

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Jainismus, if it helps grandparents to connect with their children, then it makes writing worth all the effort. Thank you for your positive feedback. Enjoy your day.

      Lady, you were blessed to have a grandmother in your life for so many years. I had one but she lived across the country and I only saw her on occasion. I am glad to hear your grandchildren are connecting with you even though far away. It will make a big difference to them as they mature. Have a lovely day, sweet lady.

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      LadyLyell 4 years ago from George, South Africa

      Inspired by your article, thank you!

      I have two grandsons living in a distant land and send post cards on a regular basis but will start writing letters too using some of your ideas for news items.

      I wrote post cards to my grandmother during my travels and after she died ( age104yrs) all those cards were returned to me. What a read, what memories!

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

      Your this hub is very useful for Grand Parents, Parents and children. Voted up and shared.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Girishpuri, India certainly has a wonderful family setting for children. I only wish all nations would follow this pattern. It is from our wise elderly parents, grandparents, that we learn the value of life. Blessings to you as well, dear friend.

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      Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

      We live in India, and still in small towns and villages, even in big cities, joint families pattern is here. and grand parents have a very strong impact on the grandchildren, in fact grand children are more in touch with their grand parents and they take their basic life training from them only.Yes this is a great pleasure to read such a meaning ful content from Dianna and shall help and guide many, God bless.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Dear Shahpriya, grandparenting is such a pleasure and one that makes my life so complete as a parent. You get to enjoy them without the discipline responsibility (in most cases!). Thank you for stopping by for a visit. I hope your day is going well. Take care.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Vicki, you are blessed to have such wonderful grandchildren who value keeping connected with their grandparent. It is a treasure! I am so happy you have gleaned some perspective from the article. I enjoy your visits and support. Enjoy your journey, dear lady.

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      Vickiw 4 years ago

      Lovely article,teaches. I have two grandchildren, a girl, 19 now, and a boy, 17. I have letters they have written over the years, and was so touched recently to discover they have kept all of mine. A couple of days ago my granddaughter wrote a lovely long letter to me, sharing details of her nursing courses and studies. I felt so privileged. Being a grandparent is work too, but a wonderful joy. Thanks for writing. I always enjoy your Hubs.

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      Vnsatakopan, letter writing is such a treasure and priceless to those who receive them. Thank you for adding insight to the hub post. Be well and strong.

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      Dr.Vangeepuram Navaneetham Satakopan 4 years ago from Chennai, India

      Wonderful hub. I was under the impression that the art of writing letters is gone for ever. You have pointed out a new use for this art.

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      jwinspireme/Juliet 5 years ago

      Dianna,

      Thanks for your guidance for grandparents. I am not one as yet and have a ways to go, but your tips and suggestions are very useful. I do agree that parenting comes with no manual it is learning as you go experience. Your experiences can help others avoid pitfalls and this is where older women can follow the command to teach the younger women. As the poem you posted said we need grandparents. We love them and they play a big role in grandkids lives. Grandparents can impart seeds of wisdom and nuggets from your life experiences to their grandkids.

      a few lines from the poem above states

      "Grandmother and Grandfather, we care for your very much.

      Please do not forget us.

      Please remember to keep in touch.

      God bless you, Grandparents, you are a star in our world.

      God placed you both here to bring peace and joy to our world."

      by Juliet Wilson, © Capture The Experience Through Poetry, 2010

      Grandparents you are a star in your grandkids world. You are encouraged to keep in touch with them because you can make a difference in their world. They are the offspring from your roots. Bless you all.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Abat225, glad you have these special memories of you grandparents. It sounds like they had a good impact on your life. Thanks for your support.

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      Abat225 5 years ago from New York

      This is very well written and reminded me of the special bond i had with my own grandparents. They both have been gone for a number of years now but few days pass without me thinking of them and smiling. Everything you say makes so much sense. Very enjoyable hub.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      We do enjoy the grandkids when they are around, less parenting is required and just a lot of loving. Thanks Barbara for your visit, hope you get to see more of your grandkids this year!

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      Barbara Badder 5 years ago from USA

      When you are raising your kids, sometimes it is so busy you don't have time to think. I love having my grandkids around now that I have the time to just enjoy them. I wish I could see them more.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Congratulations, Justateacher, on your new grandchild. You are indeed very blessed! I am glad that you stopped by and found the hub interesting and useful. Yes, it will be fun for everyone to communicate through letters and stories. Take care, my friend.

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      LaDena Campbell 5 years ago from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz...

      I love being a mom...but there is nothing better than being a Grammy! One grandson lives for hours away so every visit from him is extra special..my other grandson lives just a few steps away and I see him daily...also very special...my first granddaughter should be here by the end of the week and she will also live close by....I love spoiling all of my grandkids...I will probably start writing letters to all of them when they are old enough to read...I love the idea of sharing stories of when I was their age...this will be fun!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Hello, Erin. Awwww, that is such a sweet add on -- yes, memories built in this way will make a great difference in the future. I appreciate your coming in to visit and for leaving added insight to the topic. You take care and be safe out there!

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      erin montemurro 5 years ago

      what a great way not only to keep in touch with your grandchildren but also create lasting memories for them as well ... I can just see it now them sitting around the dinner table as adults with children of there own saying, "you know your grandma used to write letters to me and I'll never forget the time she wrote about...."

      well done teaches

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Theresa, congratulations on your new role as Shesha. I'm sure your grandkids will become a real joy to you. Sounds like they are getting a pretty cool grandma, too! Awww, thanks for the nice comments. We do love our grandkids. Yes, post another botanical hub-- will look forward to it. Take care.

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      Theresa Ast 5 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      teaches - This is such a wonderful Hub! :) I am transitining slowly into grandparent hood or "Shesha-hood."

      Since they already had a grandmother and I simply can't be "granny" (that will forever be my maternal grandmother), we settled on my Polish childhood diminutive, Shesha (pronounced Sheh' shuh). It has the virtue of being easy for two year olds to pronounce and it is one of a kind. :)

      I love everything about your approach to grandparenting, letters, packages, warm advice, encouragement. In my opinion, you and your husband both win the trophy. :)

      BTW, your comment on the hub with the botanical illustrations encouraged me to do another one. :) Have a wonderful weekend. Theresa

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Dawnrichard, thank you for your encouraging comment and visit. I am glad you found the hub interesting. Take care.

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      Dawnrichard 5 years ago

      Nice info. The 6 points you have mentioned i love so much. Keep up writing teacher. You are good writer.

      Dawnrichard

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      I will check out your hub, Mary. As grandparents, our presence in their lives will help them through life's many trials. You have taken on an imported role and will be blessed through the years. Thanks for linking to your hub and I will do the same with yours. Be blessed in your walk today.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      You are so encouraging and always give me a smile when you visit. I am glad you found it interesting and appreciate your supportive votes, Sparklea. God bless you!

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      Mary Hyatt 5 years ago from Florida

      Hi, I enjoyed reading this Hub. As a grandmother (and I have a great) I appreciate everything you say. I adopted three of my grandchildren. The youngest boy is now 17. I wrote a Hub giving advice to my Grandchildren. Check it out when you have some time. May I link this Hub into that one?

      Hope you have a great day!

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      Sparklea 5 years ago from Upstate New York

      teaches12345 Voted up, useful, beautiful and interesting! What a wonderful hub about grandparenting and I LOVE the letters! The video is heartful and the music is fantastic. VERY VERY inspiring and full of heart. Grandparent hubbers will rejoice when they read this, it is so genuine, sincere and full of love! Blessings, Sparklea :)

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Hello, molly! I am so glad you stopped in today. Thank you for your kind comment and yes, they will be treasured forever! BE well and safe.

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      Mary Strain 5 years ago from The Shire

      What a great idea! And your husband's letters are just beautiful. I know you grandchildren will keep those letters forever.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Hello, MG! I appreciate your reading the hub, even if it still does not yet apply to you. I am glad you found it interesting. Your support means much to me.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      As grandparents, we can share those experiences that will help our children to bypass some of the problems in life. Hopefully, they will recall these values when the time comes. I am always pleased with your visit and comments, Peggy. You are so encouraging to me. Thanks for the votes of support and for sharing this with others.

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      MG Singh 5 years ago from Singapore

      Excellent hub teaches, though I am not a grandparent yet

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      Peggy Woods 5 years ago from Houston, Texas

      Hopefully those letters that your husband and you are writing will be kept, and even if not, the impact they have on your grandchildren should live long into the future. They are lucky to have such caring grandparents as the two of you are. Wonderful hub and will be SHARING this so that others can learn from it. Also voted up and useful.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      We really do enjoy grandparenting, more so because we get to do the fun stuff now! Letters are memorable and can always be reread and enjoyed. Thanks, Anglnwu, for your visit and comments. I am always glad to see you. Blessings!

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      anglnwu 5 years ago

      They say grandparenting is much more fun than parenting. From your hub, I must say it's true. Your husband and you are doing such a great job--your grandkids are so lucky to have such caring and loving grandparents. That said, letters writing is defintely a great way to connect and leave a lasting influence on them. Rated up.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      We enjoy our grandchildren and love being a part of their lives. Hopefully, those imparted words will make a difference in their lives. Thanks for your added value to the hub article. I enjoy your visits and appreciate your comments. Be well and safe.

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      Shasta Matova 5 years ago from USA

      This is so sweet. I really enjoyed receiving letters from my relatives when I was a child. I think it is great that even though you are far away, you and your husband are imparting words of wisdom and sharing your values with your grandkids. Being a grandparent certainly seems to bring a whole new perspective on things.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Thank you formosangirl. I hope it helps. Blessings!

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      formosangirl 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Thanks, teaches12345. I just returned to share this article with my fellow readers.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      I think your niece and nephew are blessed to have an adult in their lives who take interest in them. I am glad that you stopped in for a visit, always a pleasure to have you here. Thank you for your kind comment and blessing. May you be blessed as well.

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      teacherjoe52 5 years ago

      Hi teaches

      Very good article.

      It is the same way with my great niece and nephew. I am the crazy uncle who makes everything an adventure and fun.

      God bless you.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      I like your idea, formosangirl. Yes, writing letters to your kids now is a great idea. I know people who write letters for the 16th birthday and save it for the special day. It is so special and means much to the child. My husband believes in family and in supporting each other through life's journey. Your presence is always a welcome visit and I am deeply honored by your comment and support. Take care.

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      formosangirl 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Teaches12345, this is a very touching article. I will remember this when my kids go to college. It may not be a bad idea to write them such thoughtful letters even now for their lunches. I am moved by the amount of time your husband takes to impart value to his grandchildren and to encourage them to think about their actions. Great article. Voted up!

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Hello Kebennett1, thank you for the sweet comment and support. I hope that the information does help you as your approach that stage in life. Have a great evening.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      I am glad that you enjoyed the hub article. His mom just put in a request for grandpa's next letter to our grandson! It is a true blessing indeed to be involved in their lives in this fashion. I always appreciate your visits and your words are so encouraging. Blessings.