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Letters to My Grandchild

Dianna is a writer with a background in education and business. She writes to inspire and encourage others.

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It's Better The Second Time Around

I remember hearing the expression, "Grand parenting is much more fun than parenting," as a young mother and wondering how this could be true? Although I enjoyed parenting my child and miss having him in the home, I now have to admit it took some work coupled with loving discipline to get through the stages of childhood, preteen and teen years.

My husband and I made some mistakes along the way, but we didn't mention this to him. I guess he figured it out all by himself anyway! It was a bit of a whirlwind at times, and some days I was flying out there solo in space wondering where am I going with this? Parenting does not come with a driver's manual and you have to learn things the hard way: through experience.

However, grandparenting is different. You have already been through the parental journey and can now sit back and enjoy the view. It is your privilege to share with your grandchild what his or her parents did at their age, to the dismay of their moms and dads. Grandchildren bond with you quickly on this point, try it and you will see what I mean!

I will have to say that grandchildren keep you busy and do tend to shadow your every move. They want to be near you, and they consider you their older buddy. We love this in our relationship and find it most endearing. My husband (I disclose nothing on myself) enjoys spoiling our grandchildren and misses them when they are gone. He would never openly admit that his heart yearns for them, but he does have a way of expressing himself in a round about way to friends.

Here is an excerpt from one of his letters:

The grandkids just left Sunday. I can tell you that we've been by ourselves for quite awhile now, so we've been used to a quiet house. Took us about a week to get used to a messy, noisy one again; and now they have gone and the house just seems extra quiet this time around. After taking them to the airport, we spent the day doing absolutely nothing. But, not sure if it was to rest up or because we were bummed because they were gone.

Did I find a couple of things to remember for the next time they come to visit?

  1. The use of toilet paper and Scott towels goes up exponentially with the number of kids in the house.
  2. No matter where you go or what you do, it costs at least a $100 minimum (maybe that's just me?)
  3. Be extra sure the bathroom door is locked
  4. The attention span of kids today is a lot shorter than even the attention span of when my son was a child
  5. Kids don't eat a whole lot during meals, but they do look for a vast variety of things to eat
  6. Everything you thought was yours suddenly becomes community property

.... but it has gotten quiet again.

Poem: Grandmother And Grandfather

Grandmother and Grandfather, when are you coming here?

We really want to see you because to us your are very dear.

You gave us Mom and you gave us our Dad.

If it were not for you, our life would be very sad.

This family would not have been here if it were not for your love and care.

Grandmother and Grandfather, we care for your very much.

Please do not forget us.

Please remember to keep in touch.

God bless you, Grandparents, you are a star in our world.

God placed you both here to bring peace and joy to our world.

by Juliet Wilson, © Capture The Experience Through Poetry, 2010


We Get Better The Second Time Around

Our grandchildren are getting older and we can see the pre-teen years just up ahead. The distance between us limits our ability to physically be there to help guide them. They are fortunate to have parents who love them, care for their needs and provide great parental guidance on life issues.

However, as a grandparent we can give them extra support by gently mentoring. We have learned that children (and their parents) need to have loving support through the early growing years. As Grandparents, we now have the extra time to provide this as often as we desire. We now know how to listen with interest and respond with wisdom from our experience. We have the opportunity to make up for mentoring moments missed with our own children.

Letter writing is an effective communication tool to use in reaching out to children, especially your grandchildren who live a great distance from you. Children love to receive letters and packages and look forward to receiving them with great joy. This is an opportunity to share what you have learned in life with them, helping them to gain some insight about important life challenges.

As you write, keep in mind the age of the child as this will guide you in how basic to keep the content. You may have some difficulty knowing what to write about if your are just starting with this, or it has been some time since you have seen them. Topics to write on can be simple but try to make them specific to the child's interests. Some ideas to consider are:

  • Write about the toys you had as a child, which are similar to ones they enjoy. Talk about how they kept you happy and busy. If they are gamers, talk about similarities developing game skills that helped you to learn values such as patience.
  • Write about your trips to places they enjoy like the zoo and highlight the animals you saw with great enthusiasm. You could use this to talk about caring for animals.
  • Younger children enjoy simple jokes. My hubby had an endless list of "knock knock" jokes.
  • Ask them how their event went at at school (spelling bee, science project, ballet recital, etc.). Share how you enjoyed these events at their age. Winning and losing is a great subject to cover on these activities.
  • Use holidays to talk about events of interest they enjoy celebrating (decorating the Christmas tree, hunting Easter eggs, Fourth of July fireworks) talk about how you view these events and your beliefs in celebrating them.
  • Share your hobby interests and what you have accomplished. This can lead to your sharing of the importance of developing your talents, discipline of learning, or how it helps others.


Grandpa sent this apron with the letter, it reinforces the message.

Grandpa sent this apron with the letter, it reinforces the message.

Communication Quiz

Sharing From The Heart

My husband has taken to including a letter to our eldest grandchild, who is pre-teen, with every package we send him. His letters include some encouragement on developing virtues that will not only help him, but also help other people in his life.

Our grandson is beginning to help cook family meals and is enjoying it, especially eating the results of his efforts! My husband recently sent him a package which included a "Chef In Training" apron along with a letter of encouragement. I have included a small portion of his letter to him as an example of how letter writing can help mold and encourage valuable character traits (written as he wrote, bolded sentences and all):

"I have to tell you that cooking for others can be one of the best ways to show that you care for them. If you do it for the right reasons, there can be no better example of serving others. Think about it. Cooking takes time away from things you might want to be doing. It gives people something that they can't do without (everybody has to eat, right?). Not only do people have to eat because their bodies need food, but it is also pleasing to the mind (food can satisfy your sense of taste, smell and touch).

So let me ask you this: When you cook, do you ...

> Make just what you want to eat? Or, do you cook something other people like, even if it might not be your favorite?

> Do you just serve yourself? Or, do you make sure everyone has been served first?

> Do you help clean the table afterwards? Or, do you just clean up your area of the table?

There's a lot more questions I could ask, but I think you get my point, and it's something only you can answer. And your answer will probably keep changing as you get older. But, the question will always remain the same -- Do you cook only to take care of yourself, or do you cook for others? Do you help serve and take care of others? . . . You probably haven't thought about cooking this way before, but if you think about it, there is an opportunity to help others in almost everything we do. . . . And when you cook for the right reasons, you have an opportunity to put the needs of others before yourself. That's what good men do.

. . . So my wish for you continues to be that you'll be working your way to becoming a good man. I expect the way you look about things will keep changing as you grow older. I know that I always have to look back and ask myself if I've been doing the right thing. And I'm a lot, lot older than you! . . . Even though you and I already know right from wrong ... Keep in mind that good men always keep thinking about what they do. Remember that good men help and serve other people."


Letters to a grandchild can be kept and stored in the heart and will have lasting effects over time. Grandparents come from a well traveled road and sharing from personal adventures can help grandchildren avoid the potholes they stumbled upon. Your faith, passions and beliefs can inspire a child to build life values that will help him or her personally, and to contribute positively in society.


A Song About Leaving A Legacy

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2012 Dianna Mendez

Comments

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 12, 2019:

Rajan, Sparrow and Cynthia, so wonderful to hear the positive experiences you have had with your grandparents. I am certain it they contributed to your success today.

Rajan Singh Jolly from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar, INDIA. on February 10, 2019:

A lot of useful advice for parents who are yet to become grandparents. I come from a large joint family and have very lovely memories of time spent with my grandparents, their love and teachings.

My daughter & granddaughter are about to visit us in a week, after almost a year, as they live abroad. Since my granddaughter will be 2 years old in a couple of days it would be fun talking to her, interacting with her, teaching her things and literally going down memory lane.

I hope both my wife and I, along with her parents, can mentor her to be a good human being.

Rochelle Ann De Zoysa from Moratuwa, Sri Lanka on January 09, 2019:

This brings memories with the time I was with my grandparents . I was close to my father's parents. My Granna used to send me love letters with her shaky hand writings. I have saved the last one which I pasted on a scrap book. Whenever I miss the time with her I would read it :) I always love receiving postal hand written mails than receiving from online typed ones. Interesting and have fun! Have a blessed 2019!

Cynthia Zirkwitz from Vancouver Island, Canada on July 08, 2018:

This is a very inspiring article for those of us who do not live in the vicinity of our grand-kids and see them rarely in person. As they get older (also pre-teen, but with the older granddaughter on the cusp of turning thirteen), we find that we have to work harder at the communication. Our usual method is by phone call, but there are times when calls are brief and there is a sense of "not you again". I have sent them small packages and letters in the past, and they have enjoyed that, so I will give it another go! Thank you for the lovely, compassionate post!

Dianna Mendez (author) on June 13, 2018:

Glenn, Agusfanani, Jo, thank you all for your positive reflection of this topic. Taking time to be with family, especially grandkids, makes a lasting impact upon their future.

Jo Miller from Tennessee on May 30, 2018:

I love this article, Dianna. Two of our granddaughters are visiting at the moment. They'll be here a couple more days before going home and I know exactly what you mean by the sad quietness of the house after they leave.

agusfanani from Indonesia on April 17, 2018:

I haven't had grandchild but I find this hub interesting to read. I can take something to learn when I have one(s) sometime in the future.

Glenn Stok from Long Island, NY on October 31, 2017:

This is very useful, not only for one's grandchildren, but also for children of friends.

I have a friend who has an 11 year old daughter. I like giving her gifts, but now you gave me another idea...

Writing letters to her in the way you described, and including those letters along with the gifts, will go a long way to guiding her. In addition, they will always be something she can save and reference when needed.

Dianna Mendez (author) on September 15, 2017:

Thank you, Tina and Nadine for your thoughts on this article. We are blessed to have a positive relationship with our grandkids. We have the privilege of shaping their world.

Tina Tomlinson on August 30, 2017:

Leaving a legacy that promotes success for the next generation.

NadineMay on January 08, 2017:

What a lovely post. You are truly fortunate to see them growing up, even if you are not living next door. They have stayed with you long enough to bond with you both.

The distance between our grandchildren totally limits our ability to physically be bonding with them. They all live, six of them, on different continents. We do send postcards and we hoped that the internet would make a difference, but sadly it has not. We are strangers to them. We now hope, when they are all grownup that they want to come to South Africa and have a free place to stay while on Holiday. That is if we live long enough.

What we have attracted in our lives is a mother with her then 15 year old son. They came to stay with us. We have seen Michael who is now seventeen growing in a very loving an mature young adult and he very often cooks for us and helps me in the garden, for which he earns pocket money.

Dianna Mendez (author) on July 17, 2016:

Hello ChitrangadaSharan! You are so blessed to have the memory of your grandfather's letters. I know you will be an excellent grandmother (and grand one too!). Have a wonderful week, dear lady.

Chitrangada Sharan from New Delhi, India on July 09, 2016:

What a beautiful hub! You took me back in time when my grandfather used to write letters to me. I have preserved all of them very carefully. Each letter is precious to me. We always learnt something in their company. Remember those were days of handwritten letters.

I have yet to become a grandmother but I have plans to become a very grand grandmother. Someone whose company the grandkids would love to have.

Loved going through your hub ! Very interesting and thought provoking indeed! Thanks!

Dianna Mendez (author) on September 13, 2015:

Ubrish,

Barbara,

Sujaya,

Akriti,

Marilyn,

Save Our Children,

PawPaw,

So glad everyone grasped how precious our children are, especially grandchildren. I enjoyed reading your responses and you have brightened my day. Have a wonderful week, dear friends. God bless your home and life.

sujaya venkatesh on September 10, 2015:

what love!

Akriti Mattu from Shimla, India on June 08, 2015:

This is so adorable. Looking forward to read more of your posts.

Voted up.

Marilyn L Davis from Georgia on February 03, 2015:

Good evening, Teaches12345; lovely examples of how to communicate. I wanted to foster a love of reading and writing for my grand children, so they each get a letter monthly. I see them and talk to them on the phone, but let me miss a letter, and I hear about it. So I know they value them.

Some are just questions about their world and other times, it's a link about their interests, or an article or poem that I know will be special for them. We continue the tradition at holidays and birthdays as well. ~Marilyn

Kammie Savidge from Denton, Texas on December 24, 2014:

Such loving and wise advice. You are a great lady and an inspiration to others. Thank you for writing this article.

Jim from Kansas on December 01, 2014:

Your grandchildren are lucky to have such wise and loving grandparents, who are willing to share their wisdom. I have a feeling they will become fine adults.

Barbara Badder from USA on November 15, 2014:

I now have great grandchildren and yes, the children in your life are precious. I miss the time when both my kids and grandkids were small.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 14, 2014:

Thank you, Ubrish. I will keep in touch, dear lady.

ubrish ali from Pakistan(Asia) on November 09, 2014:

Welcome .I will love to read your new article.so stay connected always.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 09, 2014:

Ubrish, thank you for the comment and your visit. I do love kids! Blessigns, dear lady.

ubrish ali from Pakistan(Asia) on November 02, 2014:

It shows your love for kids

Dianna Mendez (author) on October 11, 2014:

Techygran, I love how you are communicating with your grandkids. It is important to build these relationships, it takes effort but so worthwhile. Thank you for reflecting these positive thoughts.

Sanjay, glad this brought some happy memories to your mind today. Be well and safe.

Nell, thank you for your kind comment and support. Hope all is well in your part of the world.

Nell Rose from England on October 08, 2014:

This is wonderful Dianna, I don't have grandchildren, in fact I probably won't get any as my son lives with his girlfriend who already has two grown up daughters, but I would take all the advice you have given here, and what a lovely family you have too, nell

Sanjay Sharma from Mandi (HP) India on October 07, 2014:

You are right, parenting does not come with a driver's manual. Every child is different. The hub made me a little bit nostalgic.

Cynthia Zirkwitz from Vancouver Island, Canada on October 06, 2014:

teaches, this article contains so much love and wisdom... thank you for all the ideas, tips, and reminders of the importance of building a great relationship with our grandkids. I have to say that being grandparents is the highlight of our lifetime for my hubby and me. We communicate with our granddaughters on the phone and on-line. They are on G+, email, have made over 100 youtubes with their various dolls and toys (they're 7 and 9) and have blogs, twitter, and who knows what else, mainly because they saw that I did. I actually can't keep up with all the bombardment from various corners... it's a little quieter now that they are back in school. I'm not complaining... they are a delight! My desire, as I know as it is for many grandparents, is that someday we live closer together.

I also loved how you included the Grandpa's notes and shared wisdom. How rich your grandchildren are for the united tide of love and mentoring!

Beautiful hub! Voted you up and shared!

Dianna Mendez (author) on September 09, 2014:

Barbara, my grandkids are in their teens now and I am trying to treasure every moment I am with them. Soon they will be off to college and things change for the better, but a bit sad for grandparents. I would love some molded chocolate right now!

Barbara Badder from USA on September 08, 2014:

I just loved it when my grandchildren were little tikes. As they got bigger we baked cookies and molded chocolate at Christmas. I miss those years. Now they are adults.

Dianna Mendez (author) on August 06, 2014:

Imtii, I am glad to hear of your good memories of your grandparents. It is a blessing to have had that time with them. Thank you for your words of support. Enjoy your day, dear friend.

Imtiaz Ahmed from Dhaka, Bangladesh on August 04, 2014:

Hello teaches12345 I really like your hub. I can tell that you wrote it with feelings. The best part was that I really liked the Poem Grandmother and Grandfather it really reminds of the years I passed with my grand parents. They were so amazing. I really miss them a lot! Thank you for very nice hub. I am voting you up!

Dianna Mendez (author) on July 16, 2014:

Your words are filled wisdom, stbrians. Grandparenting is wonderful. Thank you for your comment. Enjoy your day.

Meshack Bwoyele Keya from Vihiga County,Western Kenya on July 15, 2014:

Grand-parenting gives the grand-children great pleasure and the grand-parents have a reason to live and smile.Their stories also are enjoyable

Dianna Mendez (author) on June 26, 2014:

Suzette, I'm chuckling at your quote. It rings of truth. Yes, letters are a good way to communicate with your loved ones. Enjoy your weekend.

Suzette Walker from Taos, NM on June 20, 2014:

I think your idea is a grand one! Instead of texting or e-mailing your grandchildren, it is good to write a letter to them in your own handwriting. That way, they learn the importance of writing. Your ideas are good ones. I read somewhere recently the "being a grandparent is the gift you are given for not strangling your child in his/her teenage years." Enjoy!

Dianna Mendez (author) on June 18, 2014:

Ubani, glad you enjoyed the read. Yes, we have had some interesting experiences from leaving doors unlocked. You don't want to know!

Vocal, it is wonderful you have warm memories of your son. I am glad your grandchildren are reflecting his love and wisdom.

Happy Mike, I apprciate your visit and comment. I think we can all relate to children in one way or another, regardless of parental status.

Mg Singh, I hope some day you enjoy grandchildren. They will put smiles and lots of love in your life.

Arun, I agree. Handwritten letters are so valuable and can be kept through the ages as reminders.

Thanks everyone for your support. Blessings!

ARUN KANTI CHATTERJEE from KOLKATA on May 26, 2014:

The children consider it as a special gift to receive letters from someone closest to them. In our country the bond between the children and their grandparents is even more than their parents. In this technologically advanced age hand written letters are becoming a thing of the past and the grand parents may jolly well become pen pals of their dear ones by sending electronic mails adding beautiful photographs and pictures inculcating in them the knowledge of such essential arts.Thank you very much for the useful hub.

MG Singh from UAE on May 26, 2014:

Its a wonderful hub. So interesting, though I am not a GP yet

HappyMikeWritter on May 26, 2014:

What a great article. I cannot comment it with my experiences as I am not parent nor grandparent but is so nice to read about tips and advice about grandparenting. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences :-)

Audrey Hunt from Idyllwild Ca. on May 26, 2014:

This is such a good idea! I enjoyed every bit of this hub and laughed out loud at #6 on your list of things to remember. The time I spent with my grandchildren are the happiest of all. This was before my son passed away. I have rarely had the privilege of seeing them since. But I know they are growing up to be fine men and women. I miss them and love them with all my being. Thank you. Voted up and across and sharing.

Alexander Thandi Ubani from Lagos on March 19, 2014:

very interesting write and experience shared.

children can be fun especially grand children cos they bring the fun back. as you noted, they brought life to the house again and when they left everywhere became lonely.

I laughed when i came across "Be extra sure the bathroom door is locked"

yeah that's true cos some just barge in thinking it is still home. lol

as per communication, letter writing is a very good method even in this hi-Tech society. A little thing from the past is good for the kids.

Dianna Mendez (author) on March 15, 2014:

I am so glad to hear how much you enjoy parenting, Kerlund. Yes, grandparenting is just an extension of this wonderful experience. Thank you for your support. Enjoy your day.

kerlund74 from Sweden on February 28, 2014:

I love beeing a mother and I can imagine that grandmother will be even cooler... A really thoughtful and beautiful hub. Voted beautiful!

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 17, 2014:

RNMSN, your idea is wonderful. It is these moments we capture that will bond their hearts to ours forever. Thank you for adding interest to the content. Blessings.

Barbara Bethard from Tucson, Az on February 16, 2014:

Hi Teaches! What a wonderul hub! I enjoyed it so much. I am keeping a word doc with words and pics off of FB...so I can share with my two grandchildren in a couple of decades the things that made their mom and dad smile :)

but you have reminded me that it is important that I give them a piece of my heart as well! Thank you!! Will Do!!!

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 15, 2013:

Hi Amie! We do love our grandchildren and hope to pass on wisdom from our experiences in life. I t sounds as if you are a great mom and will someday enjoy the blessings of grandchildren. Thanks for coming by and may you always know the treasures children bring to our life. Blessings.

Amie Butchko from Warwick, NY on December 13, 2013:

I loved your hub! It made me laugh... it made me cry! It is clear that you are a very loving mother and grandmother and your husband, a loving grandparent and father as well. As a mother with young children now, this was beautiful to read and I can't help but think how lucky your children/grandchildren are to have you!

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 02, 2013:

Annart, How wonderful that you keep a diary on each child. Yes, we have a secon chance at making it better for our grandchildren. Love them and enjoy every minute, Annart!

Dianna Mendez (author) on December 02, 2013:

DDE, thank you for coming by and please forgive my late appreciation. You will be an excellent granparent when the times come - I can tell. Children are such a joy to be around, especially when you can say good-bye at the end of the day and pass them on to their parents. Just joking of course!

Ann Carr from SW England on December 02, 2013:

This is a hub full of such valuable advice. I communicate with my grandchildren (of which I have 3, number 4 on the way) often as I'm lucky to have them close by. Even when I don't see them, we often talk on the phone, even the two 3 year olds (the oldest is coming up to 13). I send the oldest emails now and then and we have some good talks; I make sure she doesn't miss out when the little ones demand attention.

I'm keeping a running diary for each of them - what they do, progress made in lots of ways, etc.

I love the fact that we can in some ways make up for mistakes made when we were parents (I even discuss such mistakes with my daughters!). I do spoil my grandchildren but I also try to keep in with their parents' rules. My rules apply in my house though (they're mostly the same). It's great to have the time to look after them, guide them and have tremendous fun with them.

Love this hub; great presentation and lovely, communicative style. Ann

Devika Primić from Dubrovnik, Croatia on November 09, 2013:

Letters To My Grandchild I don't have any grandchildren but communication is so important to your loved ones. A great hub on this topic. One day I will have grandchildren and when the time comes I guess I will know better. I agree that grand parenting i much better than parenting it also depends on the behaviors of children when raising them.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 03, 2013:

Epbooks, I am sure that your heart embraces that of a child in many ways. You are a truly genuine and special person.

Elizabeth Parker from Las Vegas, NV on June 24, 2013:

Such a sweet hub. I don't have children (and won't have grandchildren) but I enjoyed reading this. It was very touching!

Dianna Mendez (author) on March 04, 2013:

Neelum, thank you for stopping by here. I hope are having a wonderful day.

Neelum Waqar from Pakistan on February 26, 2013:

i agree with teaches12345

Neelum Waqar from Pakistan on February 26, 2013:

tnks for shearing important information.

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 24, 2013:

Tillsontitan, thanks for the support on this post. Being a role model for children is always a good thing. Glad that you are a part of your grandchildren's lives and that they will know the wisdom shared. Be well and safe.

Mary Craig from New York on February 24, 2013:

Everything about this hub is lovely Teaches...you are always teaching. Your husband's letters are lovely and your thoughts and the points you make cover things pretty well.

Being a grandparent is a blessing and sometimes I think it's a way for us to make up for the mistakes we may have made raising our kids. We learned as they grew.

Voted up, useful, beautiful, and interesting.

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 24, 2013:

I am so glad that your children have this blessing, Vinaya. Thank you for your visit here and I hope your day is going well.

Vinaya Ghimire from Nepal on February 24, 2013:

Dianna,

my grand parents were dead long before I was born. But when I see my parents' love for my nephew and niece, I know what I missed in my childhood.

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 15, 2013:

Jackie, yes, you know grandparenting is so much more enjoyable than parenting! Thanks for the visit and comment. Enjoy your grandkids!

Jackie Lynnley from the beautiful south on February 15, 2013:

You are sure right, grandparenting is a picnic compared to parenting; isn't it and such fun! Sounds like you have a great grandson and I know he will remember the letters and tips with love along with your other grandchildren. Thanks for sharing. ^

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 14, 2013:

Jainismus, if it helps grandparents to connect with their children, then it makes writing worth all the effort. Thank you for your positive feedback. Enjoy your day.

Lady, you were blessed to have a grandmother in your life for so many years. I had one but she lived across the country and I only saw her on occasion. I am glad to hear your grandchildren are connecting with you even though far away. It will make a big difference to them as they mature. Have a lovely day, sweet lady.

LadyLyell from George, South Africa on February 14, 2013:

Inspired by your article, thank you!

I have two grandsons living in a distant land and send post cards on a regular basis but will start writing letters too using some of your ideas for news items.

I wrote post cards to my grandmother during my travels and after she died ( age104yrs) all those cards were returned to me. What a read, what memories!

Mahaveer Sanglikar from Pune, India on February 14, 2013:

Your this hub is very useful for Grand Parents, Parents and children. Voted up and shared.

Dianna Mendez (author) on February 09, 2013:

Girishpuri, India certainly has a wonderful family setting for children. I only wish all nations would follow this pattern. It is from our wise elderly parents, grandparents, that we learn the value of life. Blessings to you as well, dear friend.

Girish puri from NCR , INDIA on February 04, 2013:

We live in India, and still in small towns and villages, even in big cities, joint families pattern is here. and grand parents have a very strong impact on the grandchildren, in fact grand children are more in touch with their grand parents and they take their basic life training from them only.Yes this is a great pleasure to read such a meaning ful content from Dianna and shall help and guide many, God bless.

Dianna Mendez (author) on January 24, 2013:

Dear Shahpriya, grandparenting is such a pleasure and one that makes my life so complete as a parent. You get to enjoy them without the discipline responsibility (in most cases!). Thank you for stopping by for a visit. I hope your day is going well. Take care.

Dianna Mendez (author) on January 18, 2013:

Vicki, you are blessed to have such wonderful grandchildren who value keeping connected with their grandparent. It is a treasure! I am so happy you have gleaned some perspective from the article. I enjoy your visits and support. Enjoy your journey, dear lady.

Vickiw on January 18, 2013:

Lovely article,teaches. I have two grandchildren, a girl, 19 now, and a boy, 17. I have letters they have written over the years, and was so touched recently to discover they have kept all of mine. A couple of days ago my granddaughter wrote a lovely long letter to me, sharing details of her nursing courses and studies. I felt so privileged. Being a grandparent is work too, but a wonderful joy. Thanks for writing. I always enjoy your Hubs.

Dianna Mendez (author) on November 16, 2012:

Vnsatakopan, letter writing is such a treasure and priceless to those who receive them. Thank you for adding insight to the hub post. Be well and strong.

Dr.Vangeepuram Navaneetham Satakopan from Chennai, India on November 16, 2012:

Wonderful hub. I was under the impression that the art of writing letters is gone for ever. You have pointed out a new use for this art.

jwinspireme/Juliet on October 02, 2012:

Dianna,

Thanks for your guidance for grandparents. I am not one as yet and have a ways to go, but your tips and suggestions are very useful. I do agree that parenting comes with no manual it is learning as you go experience. Your experiences can help others avoid pitfalls and this is where older women can follow the command to teach the younger women. As the poem you posted said we need grandparents. We love them and they play a big role in grandkids lives. Grandparents can impart seeds of wisdom and nuggets from your life experiences to their grandkids.

a few lines from the poem above states

"Grandmother and Grandfather, we care for your very much.

Please do not forget us.

Please remember to keep in touch.

God bless you, Grandparents, you are a star in our world.

God placed you both here to bring peace and joy to our world."

by Juliet Wilson, © Capture The Experience Through Poetry, 2010

Grandparents you are a star in your grandkids world. You are encouraged to keep in touch with them because you can make a difference in their world. They are the offspring from your roots. Bless you all.

Dianna Mendez (author) on July 26, 2012:

Abat225, glad you have these special memories of you grandparents. It sounds like they had a good impact on your life. Thanks for your support.

Abat225 from New York on July 26, 2012:

This is very well written and reminded me of the special bond i had with my own grandparents. They both have been gone for a number of years now but few days pass without me thinking of them and smiling. Everything you say makes so much sense. Very enjoyable hub.

Dianna Mendez (author) on July 13, 2012:

We do enjoy the grandkids when they are around, less parenting is required and just a lot of loving. Thanks Barbara for your visit, hope you get to see more of your grandkids this year!

Barbara Badder from USA on July 13, 2012:

When you are raising your kids, sometimes it is so busy you don't have time to think. I love having my grandkids around now that I have the time to just enjoy them. I wish I could see them more.

Dianna Mendez (author) on June 04, 2012:

Congratulations, Justateacher, on your new grandchild. You are indeed very blessed! I am glad that you stopped by and found the hub interesting and useful. Yes, it will be fun for everyone to communicate through letters and stories. Take care, my friend.

LaDena Campbell from Somewhere Over The Rainbow - Near Oz... on June 04, 2012:

I love being a mom...but there is nothing better than being a Grammy! One grandson lives for hours away so every visit from him is extra special..my other grandson lives just a few steps away and I see him daily...also very special...my first granddaughter should be here by the end of the week and she will also live close by....I love spoiling all of my grandkids...I will probably start writing letters to all of them when they are old enough to read...I love the idea of sharing stories of when I was their age...this will be fun!

Dianna Mendez (author) on May 19, 2012:

Hello, Erin. Awwww, that is such a sweet add on -- yes, memories built in this way will make a great difference in the future. I appreciate your coming in to visit and for leaving added insight to the topic. You take care and be safe out there!

erin montemurro on May 19, 2012:

what a great way not only to keep in touch with your grandchildren but also create lasting memories for them as well ... I can just see it now them sitting around the dinner table as adults with children of there own saying, "you know your grandma used to write letters to me and I'll never forget the time she wrote about...."

well done teaches

Dianna Mendez (author) on May 18, 2012:

Theresa, congratulations on your new role as Shesha. I'm sure your grandkids will become a real joy to you. Sounds like they are getting a pretty cool grandma, too! Awww, thanks for the nice comments. We do love our grandkids. Yes, post another botanical hub-- will look forward to it. Take care.

Theresa Ast from Atlanta, Georgia on May 18, 2012:

teaches - This is such a wonderful Hub! :) I am transitining slowly into grandparent hood or "Shesha-hood."

Since they already had a grandmother and I simply can't be "granny" (that will forever be my maternal grandmother), we settled on my Polish childhood diminutive, Shesha (pronounced Sheh' shuh). It has the virtue of being easy for two year olds to pronounce and it is one of a kind. :)

I love everything about your approach to grandparenting, letters, packages, warm advice, encouragement. In my opinion, you and your husband both win the trophy. :)

BTW, your comment on the hub with the botanical illustrations encouraged me to do another one. :) Have a wonderful weekend. Theresa

Dianna Mendez (author) on May 18, 2012:

Dawnrichard, thank you for your encouraging comment and visit. I am glad you found the hub interesting. Take care.

Dawnrichard on May 18, 2012:

Nice info. The 6 points you have mentioned i love so much. Keep up writing teacher. You are good writer.

Dawnrichard

Dianna Mendez (author) on May 10, 2012:

I will check out your hub, Mary. As grandparents, our presence in their lives will help them through life's many trials. You have taken on an imported role and will be blessed through the years. Thanks for linking to your hub and I will do the same with yours. Be blessed in your walk today.

Dianna Mendez (author) on May 10, 2012:

You are so encouraging and always give me a smile when you visit. I am glad you found it interesting and appreciate your supportive votes, Sparklea. God bless you!

Mary Hyatt from Florida on May 10, 2012:

Hi, I enjoyed reading this Hub. As a grandmother (and I have a great) I appreciate everything you say. I adopted three of my grandchildren. The youngest boy is now 17. I wrote a Hub giving advice to my Grandchildren. Check it out when you have some time. May I link this Hub into that one?

Hope you have a great day!

Sparklea from Upstate New York on May 10, 2012:

teaches12345 Voted up, useful, beautiful and interesting! What a wonderful hub about grandparenting and I LOVE the letters! The video is heartful and the music is fantastic. VERY VERY inspiring and full of heart. Grandparent hubbers will rejoice when they read this, it is so genuine, sincere and full of love! Blessings, Sparklea :)

Dianna Mendez (author) on April 26, 2012:

Hello, molly! I am so glad you stopped in today. Thank you for your kind comment and yes, they will be treasured forever! BE well and safe.

Mary Strain from The Shire on April 26, 2012:

What a great idea! And your husband's letters are just beautiful. I know you grandchildren will keep those letters forever.

Dianna Mendez (author) on April 24, 2012:

Hello, MG! I appreciate your reading the hub, even if it still does not yet apply to you. I am glad you found it interesting. Your support means much to me.

Dianna Mendez (author) on April 24, 2012:

As grandparents, we can share those experiences that will help our children to bypass some of the problems in life. Hopefully, they will recall these values when the time comes. I am always pleased with your visit and comments, Peggy. You are so encouraging to me. Thanks for the votes of support and for sharing this with others.

MG Singh from UAE on April 24, 2012:

Excellent hub teaches, though I am not a grandparent yet

Peggy Woods from Houston, Texas on April 24, 2012:

Hopefully those letters that your husband and you are writing will be kept, and even if not, the impact they have on your grandchildren should live long into the future. They are lucky to have such caring grandparents as the two of you are. Wonderful hub and will be SHARING this so that others can learn from it. Also voted up and useful.

Dianna Mendez (author) on April 23, 2012:

We really do enjoy grandparenting, more so because we get to do the fun stuff now! Letters are memorable and can always be reread and enjoyed. Thanks, Anglnwu, for your visit and comments. I am always glad to see you. Blessings!

anglnwu on April 23, 2012:

They say grandparenting is much more fun than parenting. From your hub, I must say it's true. Your husband and you are doing such a great job--your grandkids are so lucky to have such caring and loving grandparents. That said, letters writing is defintely a great way to connect and leave a lasting influence on them. Rated up.

Dianna Mendez (author) on April 23, 2012:

We enjoy our grandchildren and love being a part of their lives. Hopefully, those imparted words will make a difference in their lives. Thanks for your added value to the hub article. I enjoy your visits and appreciate your comments. Be well and safe.

Shasta Matova from USA on April 23, 2012:

This is so sweet. I really enjoyed receiving letters from my relatives when I was a child. I think it is great that even though you are far away, you and your husband are imparting words of wisdom and sharing your values with your grandkids. Being a grandparent certainly seems to bring a whole new perspective on things.

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