40 Simple Ways to Show Love and Respect to Your Parents

Updated on July 28, 2019
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Sherry believes in family bonds. She loves her family, friends and values relationships.


Parents crave love and deserve respect just as much as any other human being on earth. But being the big-hearted people they are, they'll never tell you that. Parents don't want to upset their children. The idea of making demands often comes with the thought of rejections.

How often do we tell our parents we love them? How often do we show them our love?

If we have time to build a family and look after children, then we have enough time to get along with our parents. After all, what parents need is often a cup of coffee together.

There are whole lots of ways to express love to your friends and spouse. But, how do you express your love to parents?

The answer is simple, by respecting and honouring them. You see the parents who are most happy with their children are those who are honoured and valued.

When we talk about parents, love and respect are the same words, the same verbs! I can't see how you can show respect to someone but not love them or how love can be expressed without respect.

Here are some simple ways of showing love to parents.

1. Stay away from phones or business stuff in their presence.

You hate it when your friends are constantly on the phone while you are with them, don't you? I am sure if you do not take a call in front of your professor or boss, you can consider avoiding that in front of parents too.

2. While they speak listen with attention and show your presence in the conversation.

3. Ask them for advice.

Asking for advice is the best way of showing people that you count on them. Your parents will love to be involved in your decision. Ask their opinion, even if you cannot go with it for the good of your business or family, knowing the opinion will not harm you.

4. Look up to them.

Try to see things from their perspective and understand where they are coming from.

5. Do your parents credit.

Winning a competition or succeeding with a project, people start from nothing. Parents teach us things life cannot and one way to show you are grateful is by doing them credit. Let them feel proud of raising you a successful individual.

6. Have good news? Achievements? Share with them.

No one else can share the same amount of happiness as you, but your parents. And sometimes you'll see they are happier than you.

7. Do not share bad events.

Avoid sharing bad news, especially it has got nothing to do with them.

8. Respect friends of your parents, meet them, invite them for dinner.

Always talk good about the friends of your parents. Like how you didn't like it when your parents talked bad about your friends when you were a kid (or you still don't like it), it's the same with parents.

9. Remember the good they did for you and all that they still do. This will keep your heart warm toward them.

10. Listen to things they repeat as if you are listening to them for the first time.

As people get older they often forget things and repeat stories they like. If your parents have to tell you the same old stories with the same enthusiasm, listen to them with the same enthusiasm.

A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his parents will not have true respect for anyone.

— Billy Graham

11. Avoid arrogant behaviour and haughty gestures.

12. Do not disagree with their thoughts and opinions. At least, do not show that in your actions or words.

13. Avoid talking about a different subject in between an ongoing conversation. Nothing is as important as their words. Sometimes it gets too late when we want to hear words from them, their voice, anything even it is meaningless.. but memory is all that remains.

14. Never complain.

You did not have an education like your friend? Even if you were raised on two pants know that your dad lived on one. What they offered you is all that they had.

15. Do not tell off your kids in their presence.

That is disrespectful. Like how you don't do that in the presence of your boss.

16. Follow their advice and orders, be obedient as much as possible. They deserve it.

17. If you have them to go to, only look for their advice and opinions.

18. Do not raise your tone more than theirs.

19. While walking along do not rush nor move ahead of them.

20. Do not start eating before they're served.

Parents need their children as much as children need their parents.

— Paul Carvel

21. When your father thinks that he is incapable of doing something remind him how much of a superhero he was and is to you.

22. Do not talk to your parents offensively.

23. Always remember them in your prayers.

24. Do not show yourself as tired or bored in their presence. Moments with parents are the most precious ones.

25. Do not laugh at their mistakes. They might not even be aware of it. This is a general thing that happens to everyone with age, love them the way they are.

26. Call them with lovely names and whatever they'd love to be called.

27. Let them be your first priority as you were their's once or most probably still are.

28. Get them useful and memorable gifts, maybe a book or a pill organiser.

29. Go on a drive. Yes, a long drive with your father who always took you on long drives when you were a kid.

30. Offer to cook their favourite food or make a cup of coffee.


When my father didn't have my hand, he had my back.

— Arab saying

31. If they look lonely strike up a conversation they would like, maybe about memories they want to share.

32. Help them organize donations or take them to nursing homes.

33. If they ever say you that they miss their friends, get on a mission of reuniting them.

34. Write "missing you" notes and long letters. These letters mean golds and diamonds to them.

35. If you have kids let them play with their grandparents. Ask them to spend time with your parents.

36. Give them hugs and kisses.

37. Tell them often that you love them.

38. Spend time together.

39. Don't talk about unfortunate things that passed. Bringing up bad days will only make you sad on your good days.

40. Tell your kids how you were nurtured and loved as a kid.

41. Make them feel like you are living in their house and they are not living at your place.

42. Do these little things like getting up when they enter your room, pulling a chair for them to sit on, and waiting till they sit.

It is so saddening to see how everywhere there are suggestions for parents to teach their children respect and values. Parents alone cannot teach children things. Yes, it is first parents' responsibility but at the end of the day, surroundings come into play. Social media which can make terrible memes go viral and people who modernize arrogance are more responsible for any behaviour we see among children. No parents would like to see their once cute and kind child become arrogant.

Though it is impossible, let us love parents more than they loved us.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

Questions & Answers

  • How can I have a better relationship with my parents?

    Show love and respect and obey them as much as possible. Some 20 years ago or so, parents used to be so stubborn about their principles that it was very difficult to obey them, but these days most parents are sensible in what they expect from us. Even if you differ from their opinions, you can still talk to them.

    In a few words I would say:

    1. Believe that everything they do is for you, no one else in the world loves you as much as them, no one else would want the best for you more than them.

    2. The only barrier you have in helping your relationship get better with your parents is YOU. Now that you have decided to get along with them better, nothing else is in your way. Know that at any time in your life, regardless of what has happened in the past, your parents have their arms open for you. Trust me! Even more than you, your parents long to have a good relationship with you.

    3. Express love and respect. I have mentioned some simple ways to express love to parents on a regular basis in my article. Do not feel shy to do all these little things out of the blue. In the beginning, it may look weird or fake or whatever but you know what, no one cares. As long as your goal is sincere, you are doing the best thing anybody can do on the earth. God loves you for this and may He help you always.

    Please be true to yourself and do not EVER give up on this precious thought.

  • How do I respect my parents?

    Well, the article "40 simple ways to show respect to parents" answers your question in a detailed manner. If you have not read the article check it on my profile page articles listing. Or you are asking the question because you feel it difficult to follow keep in mind that you have to respect them at least the way you do to your boss or professor or maybe that cool uncle around neighbors, only with a little patience and much love. To add to it, I say respect them the way you would want your children to respect you. Follow the tips in the article and more from what your heart says and keep doing it until you make it a habit.

    I know it could be awkward just to start doing things like kissing their forehead when you have been away for a long time. But, it will feel natural if you keep doing it for some time.

  • How can you say the truth when you're guilty?

    I do not know what you are guilty of and how intense your guilt is. I assume it is something you are afraid to tell your parents. But, if the truth will come out sometime anyway it is better to tell it by yourself. Be honest about everything and show how bad you feel for being guilty. Show how much you regret and ask them for their opinion about what can be done to make things right. Promise yourself and promise your parents that you will not repeat the mistake in future, neither will you hide things from them. You want them to trust on you again and you can do this only and only by telling the truth. Don't worry even if it is the dirtiest/worst possible mistake because when they do not know the whole truth, it is possible that they could be assuming something worst already. So be honest to yourself and to them, tell them the truth, express your guilt, promise that you wont repeat the mistake, and never hide things again.

© 2018 Sherry Haynes


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      5 months ago

      Which activities can be done on mothers day to develop respect and maternal bond?

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      Prathoma Ghosh 

      9 months ago

      Thanks for the help it will help me to do my project and also to care for my parents. Thank you so much Kenneth.

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      Sherry Haynes 

      13 months ago

      Thank you so much Kenneth! You are always a great help. I will make sure to follow your advice next and every time I write.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      13 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Sherry -- dear friend, I loved this hub. It was very true as well as very helpful. And this is not anything critical, but keep your text the way that it is now: Easy to understand. One thing that you may want to avoid: use a lot of $50-dollar words when 2-words that are worth 20 cents would do just fine.

      I have tried it both ways and I like simplicity the best.

      But make no mistake. And you were NOT talking over your followers or those on the Internet. Just be you when you write.

      Loved it.

    • Sherry H profile imageAUTHOR

      Sherry Haynes 

      16 months ago

      Thank you so much, Kenneth. It means a lot. I hope to keep writing and learning about this beautiful art more.

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      Kenneth Avery 

      16 months ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Dear Sherry H. -- I am so glad that I started following you. And this hub is more than tremendous. Especially the call-out by Billy Graham. Great work.

      And please keep up the fine work.

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      Sherry Haynes 

      17 months ago

      I understand what you are suffering from. I know this is hard but you have to constantly tell your mind that parents if not the only ones, are the ones who wish the best for you. Even when the world and whatever is in it hates you they are going to stand by your side. They can be normal human beings and tell you off sometimes for not delivering what they expect from you. But, this never means they are not there for you.

      Fake it till you believe it. Fake the idea that you recognize their worth and try to be a loving, kind son/daughter till you actually start behaving like one. I believe in unconditional love, hope you do to. Start loving them unconditionally like how you love a baby just born. You dont call the baby cute because you are mean, you actually know he is. Likewise count on your parents.

      I am 21 but a super over-thinker I can totally understand sometimes we want to be mean to our parents because we feel they are mean to us. It is because the society you know. We dont care where they are coming from. All we want is someone to fulfill our wishes and love us no matter what. But, this is not how things go. Our parents are surrounded by mountains of troubles that they are hiding from us. If we cannot look through them and their troubles we can at least on our part trust them because even if we think they are mean to us we do not want to be mean ypto them in return.

      You bothered because you think you are mean to your parents when talking to them is a sign that you love them and ready to go out of your way to make things right. So just do it. Fake the fact that you were ever mean. Tell yourself that you were always a good son and will continue to love them forever.

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      Thaison Nguyen 

      17 months ago

      i have this mental health issue with talking to my parents in a mean way how i do stop this from happening to me ?

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      Sherry Haynes 

      21 months ago

      Thank you for adding to the list, Jay. That's a good viewpoint.

      It's hard for children to move on from any bad they received from their own parents. But then, children for their own sake should forgive and forget the past and try to rebuild a stronger connection.

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      Jay C OBrien 

      21 months ago from Houston, TX USA

      This is a good list for most people to follow. I have an addition: Forgive your parents for what they did.

      It is not right to abuse children or abandon them or hurt them. Find a way to Forgive by understanding they must hurt more than they hurt you. Mental Illness is easily forgiven because they were born with a disease. Their problems were only Projected onto you and are Not your problems. Do not follow an example of abuse with your own children.


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