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Special Moments for Grandmas to Capture and Relive

Updated on July 26, 2017
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Having spent six months with my grandchildren I was ready to head home, I thought, to my freedom and solitude. After six days away from them, I was ready to return to my grandmother’s responsibilities and the crazy sounds of battery-operated toys.

A Grandma-Grandkids Moment

Photo by Wendell Weithers
Photo by Wendell Weithers | Source

Since such a quick revisit is not feasible, the next best thing is to relive some of the special moments we shared.

Grandparents have many opportunities to capture memorable moments if we will pay attention and take time to savor—with all our senses— the joy of interaction with our grandchildren.

Chances are that every grandmother has memories to share under each of the following six subheadings. If not, the challenge is to capture some as soon as possible. The little ones grow up really fast.

1. Déjà vu

A newborn grandson who was the spitting image of my newborn son, his father, was a beauty to behold. Déjà vu was the easiest way to express the love and warmth kindling inside me, at the sight of the familiar image. Déjà vu is still the easiest way to express my blended emotion of pride, excitement and fear as I watch the four year-old attempt similar feats that his father performed.

The beaten path is never attractive enough when we walk. One day, the adjacent slope seemed more adventurous, and it pleased him to look down on me, instead of look up to me as he walked. Watching him spread his arms out as if to fly, my heart took off on the same roller-coaster that it rode when his father was a four-year old. In response to my call for this little boy to come down, he kept his arms spread open and walked steadily backward down the hill.

Has any other grandmother been there where she wants to applaud, but not encourage a repeat? Déjà vu for me too!

What % of grandparents think being a grandparent is the single most important and satisfying thing in their life? (See first comment.)

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2. Girl Pride

Hair Like Moana's

Photo by Wendell Weithers
Photo by Wendell Weithers | Source

My grandson will always be special, being the one who first made me become a grandmother; but not more special than my granddaughter who has given me the chance to dress up another little girl in frills and sashes, and fix her hair with braids and bows. Part of the pleasure comes with watching this little girl respond to the fashion routines which accentuate her femininity—and mine. She is learning the value of attractiveness.

Her favorite movie is Moana in which the leading character (named Moana) inspires little girls with her spirit of adventure and determination. She pays attention to the songs and the characters, including a grandmother, but Moana’s gorgeous hair has not escaped her notice. She sees similar beauty in her own.

What an opportunity it was to share her favorite movie and help her understand that Moana's passion and persistence are as beautiful as her hair!

3. Love Lines

In my effort to make sure that they understood I would be gone for a long time, I pointed to my bags sitting in the middle of the room. “See, I’ve packed everything to take with me to my house.”

“I know,” the four year old moaned, “but don’t stay too long.” No lover’s voice could have made those words pull any harder at my heartstrings.

If that were not enough, about two weeks after I left, he began our Skype session with, “Grandma, I’m ready for you to come back.”

Love lines like these are God’s reminders that as spouses, siblings, other relatives and friends move on, He reinforces the dwindling sources of love and acceptance with sweet, fresh love from the grandchildren.

What % of grandparents live close to their grandchildren? (See first comment.)

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4. Prayers

Few of the Trains Mentioned in His Prayer

Photo by Wendell Weithers
Photo by Wendell Weithers | Source

Prayers can be interesting when children first learn to pray. They thank God for family members mentioning every name they remember. Then they thank Him for all the dolls and trains, also naming each one. My grandchildren have what seems like a hundred names to call, so it helps to get comfortable in my prayer posture.

My most memorable prayer time with each of them, however, is the same memory of teaching him and her to pray grace before meals. Children sometimes remember what they are being taught even when the teacher forgets. So when I began to feed my granddaughter before we prayed, she promptly clasped her hands and put them on the tray on her high chair, and waited. With a smile that stretched deep from my lips to my heart, I recalled that two years earlier, her brother had given me the same cue.

5. Songs

Both my grandson and granddaughter have beautiful singing voices. My sympathy to other grandmothers who, for any reason, will not say the same about theirs!

My grandchildren can perform many of the songs from the Disney movies they watch, complete lyrics and actions to boot. They also sing Sunday School songs and I love to listen whatever they sing; but I also have my personal list of old church choruses which, in my opinion, should be on their list too. The three of us, sitting on my bed, had regular sing-a-long sessions.

Imagine the thrill I felt when I walked in on my two-year old granddaughter playing alone and singing one of my favorite songs. It is more than the fact that she sang it; it is that from her repertoire, she chose to sing a song I taught her. There's purpose to my life, after all.

6. Observation

Where are the parents when I’m capturing these precious moments with their children? They’re off somewhere working on projects which they find easier to do when I’m around.

The children form their own opinions of what the adults do; and I still remember the night when my grandson declared his findings with knowledgeable authority.

“Daddy takes pictures.”
“Mommy makes cakes”.
“Grandma reads.”

What a lovely poetic description of an almost perfect world!

© 2017 Dora Isaac Weithers

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 13 days ago from The Caribbean

      Ann, living close to the grandchildren is a blessing! I agree that they make us see life through new lenses. Let's enjoy them all we can.

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      Ann Carr 13 days ago from SW England

      I'm lucky to live close to my grandchildren and I understand completely all those things above! I have 5, 3 girls and 2 boys, who range from 16 to 2. They are all delightful.

      The best thing about them is that they make me see the world anew and that way they keep me young.

      Great hub, Dora!

      Ann

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Denise, I rejoice with you over the good times you spent with your grandchildren. Start looking forward to the next visit. Thank you for sharing.

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      Denise W Anderson 3 weeks ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      We returned recently from a week long family reunion with our children and grandchildren. I relate to many of the things said here. It was hard to leave them behind and come home, knowing that each time I see them, they will pull on a different part of my heart strings!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Alicia, I think that I will work at an article with the title you suggest: the joys that being a grandmother can bring. Thanks for your kindness.

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      Linda Crampton 3 weeks ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a lovely description of the joys that being a grandmother can bring. Your article is beautiful, Dora. It's full of love.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Kyriaki, I like the fact that you think well of your grandmothers even though you never met them. It means that you will carry over those positive images to your role of grandparent if you ever become one. God bless you, my dear!

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      Kyriaki Chatzi 4 weeks ago

      If only I had a grandmother like you around as I was growing up, Ms. Dora!

      God decided to take them away from us pretty early. So, I have no memory of neither the one or the other.

      However, as I was reading your heartfelt article, I couldn't help but hope that they would have the exact same thoughts and worries for me as a grandchild.

      Thank you for bringing them back to my thoughts, Ms Dora!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      McKenna, in my humble opinion, I was blessed with two saints for grandmothers, so I'm only attempting to give what I received. I became a grandmother in my mid-sixties and I share your noble goal of staying fit for the grandchildren. By God's grace, you will break they cycle and enjoy mutual pleasure with your grandchildren.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Congratulations on your teenage preacher grandson! What a thrill that must be to you and your family! Thanks for your kind words and for sharing.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      God bless you too, Lori. Taking teenage grandsons to church is no small achievement; some other grandmothers may want to learn from you how you do it. Enjoy the ones you see as best you can, and trust God to make a way for you to take more trips to see the others. See what I mean about the great feeling you experience when you miss each other? Thank you for sharing.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Martie. I'm sure that everyone agrees with you that there is "Nothing more enjoyable than a hug from a grandchild." Each of those hugs is a blessing!

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Gina, I look forward to reading your article. So glad that you are enjoying your granddaughter. Thanks for sharing.

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      McKenna Meyers 4 weeks ago from Bend, OR

      As a follower of your articles, I'm not surprised at all what a wonderful grandmother you are, Dora. Your grandkids are so lucky to have you in their lives. I didn't have involved grandparents and neither do my sons. But, when it's my turn, I'm breaking that cycle and I'm going to savor every minute of it. I might have to wait many years (maybe, decades) so I'm highly motivated to stay fit and healthy so I can be a good grandma in my 70s and 80s! Thanks for inspiring.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 weeks ago from The Beautiful South

      You have beautiful and apparently very talented grandchildren, Dora.

      I will never forget my first grandchild and only one for many years. Nothing like it. All the fun without the pressure!

      I have a 17 year old grandson now, teaching the gospel and headed for Peru to teach there. I can't say how proud I am of him!

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      Lori Colbo 4 weeks ago from Pacific Northwest

      I am of the same opinion as Sally - this is my favorite of your writings. Being a grandmother to my twelve grandchildren is my greatest thrill. Unfortunately, only two live in my state and there are a few that don't know me because I only got to see them as babies. This breaks my heart no end. The older ones, from teens to adulthood stay in touch and our relationships are sweet. My two grandsons that live in my neck of the woods are 16 and 15 and love for me to take them to church and on the occasional outings. I recently took a trip to California and got to see my four grandsons from my middle child. Ages 18 months to 10. I had a wonderful time teaching them games, reading to them and just doing whatever the moment offered. A day or two after I got home they called me because they missed me. I was so touched.

      You sound like a wonderful grandmother and the photos that capture special moments were touching. Your son is a good photographer. Your little ones are little darlin's. God bless you Dora.

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      Martie Coetser 4 weeks ago from South Africa

      I believe grandchildren are rewards. I love watching mine growing into young adults. Nothing more enjoyable than a hug from a grandchild. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Ms Dora. Your grandchildren are beautiful.

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      Gina Welds Hulse 4 weeks ago from Rockledge, Florida

      I remember when my first-born son told me that I was to be a grandmother. The circumstances were not the greatest, and I "preached" about it for months, but when my granddaughter was born, there were no words, so I just cried. Since her birth I have had the privilege to be her caretaker for days on end. I recently had her with me for a week (she lives close-by), and thoroughly enjoy every moment spent with her. I take so many pictures to capture those memories, I think I have several thousand pics already....and she is only a year old.

      Thanks for sharing, Ms. Dora. I have been working on a hub entitled "Letter to my Granddaughter" and think I'll try to finish it this week.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Thanks, Bill. It is a pleasure to be with them and a pleasure to be without them. You're right. The option is the perfect gift for grandparents.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, absolute truth! "Love in all it's forms is such a gift." Perhaps your little one is a two-in-one gift. That means double love. Thanks for your contribution.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Sally, thanks for your kind approval on this article. Hope I can do many repeats, as I intend to write more on the topic of grand-parenting. You encourage me.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      Flourish, thanks for your kind remarks and for sharing your determination to have your granddaughter live near her grandparents. That's such a wise move and so much better than your own situation! Best to your family moving forward. No worries about the poll; please steady yourself after such an early rising. My son, the grandchildren's dad is the expert photographer.

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      Bill Holland 4 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      It is lovely having grandchildren; it is also lovely being able to go home without the grandchildren. LOL That may be the greatest advantage to being a grandparent. :) Of course I loved this.

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      Eric Dierker 4 weeks ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Dora I just loved this piece. I have the longing for grandchildren but God has not deemed it so. But He did send me my little one who is the age a grandson would be. Love in all it's forms is such a gift.

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      Sally Gulbrandsen 4 weeks ago from Norfolk

      MsDora I select this writing of yours as being one of my favourites to date. It touches my heart in a way which no other has and I especially love this line 'My grandchildren have what seems like a hundred names to call, so it helps to get comfortable in my prayer posture'.

      Your grandchildren are very lucky as are we to have your wisdom and grace share these pages. I love the photos too. Thank you.

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      FlourishAnyway 4 weeks ago from USA

      Oh, Dora, I selected the wrong option in the poll above and cannot change it. Cats got me up at 4 a.m. and well ... sorry!

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      FlourishAnyway 4 weeks ago from USA

      You sound like the perfect grandmother, MsDora. How wonderful that you were able to spend such an extended time with your darling family. And someone in your family is an amazing photographer! After having my daughter, my husband and I moved heaven and earth to move back home several states away so that she would grow up knowing her grandparents. I grew up visiting my maternal grandparents once a year, and my paternal grandparents were gone. We live a mile away, seven miles from her greatgrandmother.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 4 weeks ago from The Caribbean

      The poll statistics are provided by the American Grandparents Association (Copyrighted 2007 t0 2017 by Grandparents.com Inc.)

      (1) 72% think being a grandparent is the single most important and satisfying thing in their life.

      (2) 60% live close to their grandchildren.