Living With Your Parents: Advantages and Disadvantages of Staying With Mom and Dad

Updated on February 16, 2018
Living with your parents could help you get back on your feet. Just be sure to think through the day-to-day realities of moving back in with mom and/or dad before you decide.
Living with your parents could help you get back on your feet. Just be sure to think through the day-to-day realities of moving back in with mom and/or dad before you decide. | Source

Still living with your parents? Thinking about moving in with your folks because you are unable to pay your own rent, lost your job, just divorced, studying again, can't afford a house of your own or any other reason?

Your move is likely to be driven by a circumstance and a situation you have found yourself in. And as an adult in his/her 20s or 30s, there are advantages and disadvantages of living with your mom, dad or both. Know them before you move back in.

Advantages of Living With Your Parents

1) You will save money.

One of the biggest advantages of living with your parents is that you can save a lot of money. From rent, utility bills, renovations, shared grocery bills and a lot more.

If you have just graduated and can't find a job, if you are out of a job and struggling to pay your debts, if you are facing financial problems – living with your parents could be you answer to saving money on everyday expenses. Think of it as a stopgap arrangement until you get back on your feet.

2) You won't have to do all the housework.

Doing the laundry, putting the dishes in the washer, putting them back when they are done, vacuuming, cleaning the living areas from time to time and taking out the trash are just some of the daily chores that need to be done around the house.

If you are still living with your parents, you may find yourself exempt from some of these mundane tasks as your mom or dad may be doing them to keep themselves busy. If you are lucky, your mom may even do your laundry while she is at it.

3) You will have someone to cook you a nice meal when you can't.

As a working professional or a busy student, you may not always have the time to come home and fix yourself a homemade meal. If you were living on your own, you would probably have grabbed a takeaway or a quick bite the local joint.

Along with living with your parents comes the added benefit of enjoying warm home cooked meals even if you don't get the time to cook. Your mom may have something ready on the table by the time you come home from work.

4) Your parents can help with your little kids.

Single moms and dads going through a rough patch in life may find it financially, mentally, and physically more comfortable to live with their parents until their troubles are sorted out.

Only a single mom will know what it takes to work and manage a child. Only a single dad will how it feels to play the dotting dad and the caring mommy at the same time. If you find yourself in a similar situation and are burdened with financial troubles, you could think about the option of living with your parents, at least for a while.

From picking up your little kids from school to giving them food when they want, your parents could be the guardian angels that swoop in to help you scrape through when your life hits rock bottom.

5) The familiar feeling of being at home.

Besides being cheaper and more convenient, another advantage of living with your parents is that there is a big sense of familiarity. The house is probably the one you grew up in, and you may find sharing your living space with familiar faces more comforting than with random strangers.

Dealing with an annoying roommate or housemate is a pain and if you feel like taking time off from renting and sharing, living with your parents could be your stop gap arrangement and peace of mind.

6) The satisfaction of helping your parents.

As you live with your parents, you will possibly get many chances to help them and make them feel better. From taking your mom to the doctors to helping your dad do his silly antics in sprucing up the garden, spending time with your parents as they age gracefully can possibly the memories you cherish forever.

If your life is going through a rough patch and you are forced to move out of your own home and live with your parents, look at it as an opportunity to share a few extra memories rather than complain.

Disadvantages of Living With Your Parents

1) You don't have privacy or your space.

Living with your parents will strip you of your space and privacy and that can be a psychological burden if you have been used to living alone for a long time.

No longer will you have the freedom to walk straight out of bed and head to the kitchen in your underwear nor will you be able to go naked from one room to another. While these were just two quirky and humorous examples, you should remember that you can say goodbye to your privacy and the concept of having your own space.

2) You can't call friends over or have house parties.

Have you always been the guy/girl at whose place friends crash every now and then? That could change when you move in with your parents. A big disadvantage of living with your parents especially from the perspective of someone in their 20s or 30s, is that you can't call your friends over.

You can also forget about hosting parties, whether it is a cozy get-together of your college buddies or some of your office colleagues coming over for a round of drinks after work.

3) Unwelcome advice about your life.

Whether you move in with your mum, dad or both, you are likely to receive advice on your life even if you don't ask for it. From the stuff that you eat, the time that you sleep or the number of hours you play video games for, be prepared to get unsolicited advice for just about everything.

4) Potential fall-out with your folks.

Always remember that there is a big generational gap between you and your parents. Don't expect them to think like you and most importantly, don't expect them to behave in a certain manner. They will talk and walk in the same way as they have been doing since decades.

The difference in outlook towards life will be amplified if there are arguments and petty nit pickings over trivial household issues. One small problem can lead to another, possibly leading to a fallout with your parents.

Be prepared for a clash of opinions, keeping in mind that it is you who will have to compromise and let go of many things.

5) Your friends and colleagues will make fun of you.

The inevitable disadvantage of living with your parents is that your friends and colleagues are likely to make fun of you. You will be known as the 29 year old guy who still lives with his mom or the 31-year-old single woman who lives with her folks.

There is a certain social baggage that comes along with moving in with your parents once you are an adult, but you will have to take it head on. There is no escaping this and you should prepare yourself for a taunt or two every now and then from the people you are around every day.

6) Your love life is likely to take a tumble.

Your parents are not likely to be fond of you calling your dates over at their place, especially if the both of you lock yourself in the bedroom for hours. No longer will you be able to think of quirky date ideas within the confines of your own home.

Women may not be most impressed if they see you as the guy in his late twenties still living with his parents. Even men may be put off if they form a certain image of a 30-plus year old woman doing the same.

7) You won't learn the hard lessons of life.

This applies especially to guys and girl in their twenties who have never moved out of the house. There are a lot of tough lessons and curve balls that life throws every now and then. By living with your parents, you could be shielding yourself from some of the hardships life has to offer.

When you eventually move out, living alone could turn out to be an unpleasant experience as you may have not been used paying rent, struggling to pay bills or not having to do the dishes by yourself every single day of the year.

8) You will not make your way into the property market.

A financial disadvantage that most discussions overlook is that the longer you live with your parents, the longer it is going to take you to enter the property market yourself.

Regardless of the economic situation or the state of the property market, the sooner you buy a house for yourself, the quicker you are going to be done with mortgage repayments. If don't think of this as a big deal, ask a single dad in his 40s about the burden of a ballooning mortgage and you are likely to get an eye opening reply.

9) Your parents will always treat you as their child.

You may be 29 years old now but you must remember that your parents will always look at you as their child. You will always be the little guy or girl who held their hands with his/her tiny fingers while taking a walk in the park.

No matter how old you get, you will likely be treated as a child. Your mom may continue behaving like the dotting mom while your dad can continue acting like a father figure. Your ego may take a hit when this happens, but it is just another thing that you will have to deal with until you find a place for yourself.

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        sikazwe david 

        6 days ago

        some how some family they just abuse our life e.g they fosake our views as their children

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        Terence 

        2 weeks ago

        Well I've been thinking about this, currently i'm with my mom & my gf IN THE SAME HOUSE, we have had no probs whatsoever and I don't think we will move out just because of my mom. There is no disadvantages that can be applied to living with her. She's generous, open, modern, kind and so cool to me. Living with her is just like living with an old friend, she accepts everything and supports me 100%. Sounds like a dream, but we are struggling with the tiny space in this expensive Toronto, I came here just because I'm trying to make a hard decision and looking for a larger space for my coming child.

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        Diamond 

        6 months ago

        Still accurate. I'm 26, finished College and I'm struggling to get a job so I could save money to move out somehow. To make it worse, both of my parents are retired so they're at home 24/7. Not every day but, a lot more than when they have been both working, snapping at each other, arguing. Not to mention we have 1 bathroom and 1 toilet so it gets frustrating. Plus I'm not taken seriously, get scolded for things like a child, it's really really getting on my nerves. Still I am grateful for them because they could have kicked me out after finishing school.

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        Nyko46 

        9 months ago

        This article is true and deserve my input.

        Kids living with their also, as in my case, take way the privacy of their parents. Kids should learn life for themselves. Personalty it is shame to be a boomerang person.

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        filmdude1 

        10 months ago

        "You can also forget about hosting parties"

        This is not always true and really depends on what you mean by a party. Yeah, no frat-boy, beer-pong parties - but then that is just juvenile. I have work friends over all the time to watch movies on my 160" projection screen. Contrary to not having a party, my mom almosts always fix us all a kick-ass meal.

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        Sardor 

        17 months ago

        please can you chat about do you live with ypur family.

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        Karen Hellier 

        18 months ago

        You make a lot more points toward the negative aspects of living with your parents than the positive ones. I lived with my parents after I graduated from college for 1 year until I had saved enough money to get a car and an apartment. While I was grateful to them, I couldn't wait to get out and get my independence because of many of the things you list above!

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        Kayla Hancock 

        5 years ago from Chicago

        Great hub! I'm living at home after a year and a half at college and I'm definitely dealing with a number of these issues. But gotta say, it's nice to know how much money I'm saving! Could surely use some more privacy and less life advice but hey, they're doing me a huge favor by giving me somewhere to stay! Can't complain much =]

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        Natasha 

        5 years ago from Hawaii

        Been there, done that! My dad kept wanting to wait supper for me, even though I was at work late waiting tables. I couldn't have afforded to live otherwise and even at my parents' I had to work three jobs to pay for my dog's vet bills and save money to move out. It was what needed to happen for half a year but it was not a fun time.

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        Mahaveer Sanglikar 

        5 years ago from Pune, India

        You are right. Most of the couples in India liked to live with parents, but now they prefer to live without them.

        Voted up and shared.

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        James Kenny 

        5 years ago from Birmingham, England

        A very well written and balanced hub. I'm in my mid twenties and have yet to move out, purely down to the fact that I cannot afford to move elsewhere. Hopefully though, someday soon I will make the leap and find my own little place. Thanks for sharing.

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