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Child Custody Battles and Child Protective Services (CPS)

Updated on September 7, 2017
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I'm the owner of the FightCPS website. I'm concerned about false accusations of child abuse and neglect, and the children involved.

Don't Call Child Protective Services (CPS) to Try to Get Custody

Child Protective Services (CPS) wasn't created to help parents wrench custody from one another. The agency exists to remove children from situations where they're being abused, but once the kids are in CPS hands, parents have NO control over where they'll be placed.

This page explains the risk of calling Child Protective Services (CPS) during child custody battles.


Remember this...

The proper place for a child custody dispute is in Family Court (Divorce Court) - not with a Child Protective Services (CPS) agent.

Parents Need to Work Together For the Good of Their Children Whether Married or Not

The Tragedy (1903)
The Tragedy (1903) | Source

When You Call CPS...

Divorced or separated parents often have child custody disagreements. Those that call Child Protective Services (CPS) on their ex's are often dismayed with very negative unintended consequences.

Likewise, grandparents who think they can get custody by calling CPS are often disappointed, and even traumatized when the children are given to strangers and all family ties are broken.

Child Protective Services caseworkers can play both parents or both sides against each other, put the child in foster care, terminate parental rights, and adopt children out to strangers! Beware!

The Best Custody Solution

The best way to deal with a child custody issue is to make friends with your ex so you can work together to make your child's future as happy and perfect as possible.

I know this is difficult for many of you, for a variety of reasons.

  1. Don't try to keep the child all to yourself. It took two to make this child. Every child deserves both a mother and a father. Keep your child's best interests in your heart.
  2. You may be hurt by what your ex did to you. Understandable. But that doesn't mean he or she should be cut out of your child's life. Put the child's needs first. Work on forgiveness issues. Share.
  3. Your ex may be uncooperative. Read about joint parenting. Work on including that other person in your attempts to establish a harmonious and mature joint parenting situation.
  4. Your ex may have abused you. If that's the case, a family court judge will have to make the decision on whether or not that person should have a role in custody or visitation. Respect the judge's decision, and abide by it. If you can't prove (and I mean PROVE) that the other parent is dangerous to the children, you may not have a case for keeping them from custody and visitation rights.
  5. Admit to yourself that you are responsible for making the decision to create a new life with that other person. YOU are responsible. So take responsibility for creating a harmonious co-parenting atmosphere for your child to thrive in.
  6. If at all possible, reunite with the other parent. A two parent family is the best thing for the children.

A Call to CPS is Like Opening Pandora's Box

When you make a call to CPS, it is just like Panadora opening that box. You don't know what will come out. CPS social workers won't care about what you want to have done. They have their own ideas and will do as they please.
When you make a call to CPS, it is just like Panadora opening that box. You don't know what will come out. CPS social workers won't care about what you want to have done. They have their own ideas and will do as they please. | Source

A Warning to Separated or Divorced Parents in Child Custody Battles

...put your kids first!

Even if you're convinced you would be a better custodial parent than the other parent, I recommend you NOT call Child Protective Services (CPS) to try to keep the other parent from seeing your child.

File a child custody modification petition in Family Court (Divorce Court) instead! (And you had better collect a lot of believable evidence.)

CPS agents, sometimes called "social workers" though they may not possess a social work degree, can wreak havoc in YOUR life, cause trauma for you and your child, and turn a bad situation into something much worse.

Before You Make That Call, Read This!

Read the rest of this page before considering whether you'll make a call to CPS.
Read the rest of this page before considering whether you'll make a call to CPS. | Source

Here's How It Happens

  1. The CPS agent takes your call, listens to your complaints, and writes them down.
  2. The CPS agent goes to visit the other parent. The other parent makes complaints about YOU. The CPS agent writes those down.
  3. The CPS agent now has a case file hidden from both parents that contains allegations against both of you. They can drop the case or pursue it. If you're lucky, they drop it. If you're not lucky, they take you to court and / or make you complete "services". You have to deal with the fact that your life is no longer your own; you are being told what you must do by government agents. It is very unpleasant!
  4. The CPS agent may make decisions that you believe are the wrong ones. Many parents who called CPS had their children taken away and given to the other parent. Some believe that complaining parents are "alienating" children from the other parent. They believe the habit of making CPS complaints is emotionally abusive to the children involved.
  5. Worse yet, the CPS agent can decide that BOTH parents are pathetic and neglectful, and take the child to a foster home.
  6. While the CPS case is open the parents have to complete a "service plan" that is anything but a service to you. It is used as a way to get more evidence against you.
  7. After keeping children in foster care for 15 out of 18 months the CPS agent can petition the court to terminate parental rights in a TPR hearing.
  8. After the TPR, your child can be adopted out to strangers.
  9. States get bonus money from the federal government for adoptions, and adoptive parents get subsidy payments if they convince a doctor that your unhappy, traumatized child needs psychotropic meds and is therefore a "special needs" child.

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People Who Call CPS to Complain About a Relative's Child Often Regret It

This is no way to handle a child custody battle. For the sake of the children, resolve to get along and make two happy homes for the kids.

Frequently I get comments at my site, Fight CPS, from parents or grandparents who called CPS thinking that they would get custody. However they constantly tell me how terribly things turned out, and how much they regret their decision to make that call.

Mainly it is the children who will suffer forever because their parents couldn't get along.

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Remember this...

Children are about ten times more likely to be abused in foster homes than in their natural family homes according to statistics gathered by the National Child Abuse and Neglect Data System (NCANDS).

Do You Think CPS Social Workers Want to Hear Your Complaints?

CPS is NOT the place to resolve a custody issue. That's a family court matter. CPS isn't your short-cut to adjudication.

If you call to complain about your ex, don't expect that the person taking your call will like, respect, or even believe you. The CPS worker would also have to investigate YOU and may end up not liking you at all. There's no reason to think a call to CPS will help you get custody.

Over the course of my years as a CPS victim advocate, I've met and talked to many caseworkers online and off. Whenever the topic of parents who call CPS to complain about the other parent came up, they all had the same reaction - that it happens far too often and that the complaining parent is suspect. This is said usually in a manner that told me the CPS caseworkers didn't like or respect parents that used CPS to try to get a child custody advantage over the other parent.

Reader Opinion on Child Custody and Child Protective Services (CPS)

Should CPS help parents get child custody from one another?

Yes, CPS should help divorcing parents - especially if the other parent isn't a good one.
No, that's not what CPS is for. Child custody cases should be decided in Family (Divorce) Court.
My baby girl has been taken away from me over a weed charge. A small weed charge... I have my first status hearing tomorrow... Has anyone ever had their kids returned at the first status hearing? I am more than 75% done with my court orders. Never failed a drug test, have an apt, job doing everything right. I was even pro active in checking my self in rehab (yes for weed - Mae
I think CPS should leave people alone. - anonymous
Hi there, I’m the stepmom of two little girls and have been full time "mom" to them for 4 years. The bio mother had them apprehended 3 times, and the kids placed with the father and me. He got full custody last year and was told by the judge that she has a 1 year supervision order, and after the one year he gets to decide what to do. She wants shared parenting and a week to week basis but that isn’t going to happen. If she isn’t happy, nobody is happy... she is honestly crazy, she coached the kids to say things about us in front of cps workers, sent in anonymous letter of us being drug dealers, she actually cut our breaks! We are starting her unsupervised visits with the kids and hopefully overnights but for someone who wanted them so bad she doesn’t even have a bed for them. She is extremely high conflict, I get anxiety just talking to her. - Bonus mom
This agency needs to be shut down immediately. The incompetence, unprofessional and unethical behavior I have witnessed in dealing with these people is beyond belief. I honestly don't think they would know abuse or neglect if it came up and bit them in the ass. They have become pawns instead to abusive parents complaining against the parent abused, in retaliation for the abused reporting domestic violence to the police. They have actually placed a child in our case with the known abuser. - annonymous
See it all the time the divorce happens, one parent remarries, and all the sudden the ex and his new bride think the child would be better with them because they now have a step sibling or a new baby brother and or sister, so they want the child from the previous marriage. So the new step parent starts calling cps along with the other parent in hopes to get the child placed with them, when what really happens both parents lose their rights to their child, and the child gets foster homes for the rest of their lives, and is traumatized by being ripped away from their biological parents where they should be. So I would suggest do not call CPS on your ex unless your willing to lose your child all together. You don't always get what you want. And you have to remember at one time you loved your ex enough to have a child with them in the first place. In no way should you try to use cps to pull your child from the other parent because your bitter at your ex. The one that gets hurt is the child; they get interviewed every time a report is made. And news flash you may call cps anonymous but they know who is making the call. And if they see a pattern of the same parent or family calling on the other parent every few months you will not like the out come. - anonymous
No, CPS should leave their noses out of child custody cases! - anonymous
All CPS does is lie and destroy families. They don't help the children in need either but instead remove children that don't need to be removed from their homes. Also cps thinks they are the judge and can do whatever they want without the judge’s permission. Cps makes the choices before the court decides if the rights of termination are needed or not but always remember cps is NOT THE JUDGE!!!! - stefanie
Cps needs to stay the hell out of it. They are like the animal shelter; all they do is either kidnap your child or they adopt them out. I hate cps for the fact that nearly half of them have no kids so they have no idea what the hell they are doing. Someone gets mad at you and they call cps on you and what happens, cps is knocking on your door or your child’s class room door. Looking at you like you are a liar. They need to stop and deal with these messed up foster homes that they hire instead of messing with families. - Heather
Yes!!!! I’ve been trying for 3 years to get custody of my child since her dad got out from prison for a hate crime. He had a dui, and recently his son got removed by cps because they found scratches and bruises after my hex husband and girlfriend got in a physical fight, which ended up with her getting arrested. - anonymous
@Heather - Yes, it has become a snitch society - people of no integrity calling CPS, persecuting and harming children... CHILDREN... because they are angry at the parents. This is pathetic behavior and we've all been trained in it... in this civilization. People don't approach their neighbors maturely with problems; instead they think they must call in government agents for everything. Anything but direct and honest confrontation. And nobody is being trained to be forgiving unless they go to church to learn it from Jesus. But it's what the government wants; they want us to call them so they can stay in business and keep their jobs. Too many families are being destroyed because of people who want to see others suffer. - Linda BookLady
This is just to warn dads NOT to complain about the moms because dads are torn apart by dirty lawyers. My wife did every dirty thing she could to break me and my daughters bond and the courts allowed it, and to this day after 5 years I am still fighting to see my kid. Yesterday I was a dad and just because my x cheated with a police officer it's been hell and the pain is nothing I can explain. so dads, do not be afraid to go to social services when your wife uses the court system in her favor. I had my kid tell me quote, "Dad you think I don’t know what you are going through, but I do.” My kid is telling me she is suffering also, but to have a mother use her kid to gain what is in HER interest and not in her child’s interest isn’t right. - anonymous
CPS need to listen to the child. In our case, the mother never wanted the children had her different men around them after—even after the courts said no, she did it anyway. CPS told us to keep them informed with our concerns and what the children were saying only to use the emails against us. We appealed to higher court because cps let the mother give the children to her half sister, and more or less could care less what the father said, he had been trying to fight also for them. - anonymous
I think CPS should not exist because they are so terrible! They don't help you at all. They say they protect the kids, but it is the opposite ...they ruin the kids and they don't care. They traumatize the kids by putting them in foster homes w/ strangers that sometimes are sex offenders..foster homes are similar to prisons ’All Stranger's'!! So how is CPS helping those poor kids? They are just contributing to their abuse!! Especially mental abuse! I don't think if someone calls CPS that they should twist things around and make the caller the bad one! I am sure plenty of calls are 'bogus' calls but a lot are also true and that is CPS’s job to look into it and I don't think it is that hard if they go to neighbors, schools, friends, family, etc. You can find out something! But with that 'Stupid Policy' who is willing to report anything bad they witness about a child? NO ONE! If at the end CPS will go with the 'Abuser's Side" and make the good Samaritan look STUPID! Come on CPS it's not hard to see if a child is happy w/ one parent and unhappy w/the other parent! Stop being so cruel with those kids that are suffering! I do think many people just out of the blues will pickup a phone and falsely accuse someone, but that is your JOB CPS to look in to it! If you care for those poor innocent kids ..HELP THEM! I bet 80% of the calls are true! And kids end up with the wrong people because o of CPS’s Negligence! - anonymous
No CPS should not help parents who are going though custody battles, but if a parent says that a child has told them something bad, than they need to investigate, not say, “Oh, it is about custody.” Our grandchildren have lived with us all their lives. Their parents even signed over their children. Then, two years ago the parents wanted to work it out. The court gave us custody for six months until their parents got help. Then we were to return the kids, only for the mother to kick husband out three weeks after they got the kids back. Then, she screams abuse, and cps believes her and helps her—the hell with the husband. - anonymous
But on the flip side... my girl friend's son was granted to her ex husband because he had their house and income. She called CPS on him because he was leaving the 5 year old locked in his room with a training toilet, a sandwich, and bars on the windows; from anywhere from 2-12 hours. CPS went out twice, the ex's dad said he had been watching the boy, CPS left. Because they didn't get the neglect documented, the boy went through that, for the next 3-4 years. He also learned from his dad how to light house fires, vandalize, steal, lie... so now that his mother has him, she goes through CPS investigations and they threaten her. Yet they did nothing to try to correct the situation when it would have done the boy some good. - anonymous
CPS should STAY OUT OF IT unless the kid is in immediate danger. They do need more training to learn how to deal with complaining divorced parents. They need to stop retaliating against parents for making reports. Reports are not made to get custody, they are made out of concern for the child and CPS needs to back up, STOP, and realize their job is to look out for safety, bottom line, and stop retaliating against parents for being concerned about their own child's safety. How can CPS get angry at the person who made the report? This is awful. We are TOLD to REPORT any unexplained injury and NOT TO decide ourselves what is suspicious and what is not, as that is their job. Then what? They just retaliate against a parent for being concerned about their kid? Wow. That ought to be illegal or a new law should be passed to protect the parent making a report from CPS turning against them. - anonymous
Yes, because I called to get OUT of domestic abuse and they told me unless I was dead or dying in the hospital they wouldn't protect me or my children. I ended up in jail for defending myself one day and WAS ACQUITTED of my charges but lost my girls to the system and still am fighting for them! They insist on keeping my ex involved with all the paperwork with No regard to a 5-year restraining order which he breaks all the time. All I want to know is do I need to be dead to get justice for my girls and myself? - anonymous
Nope, not appropriate if there is a case involved. - anonymous
I think it would be nice to see support groups for those who have children who have been removed so they can encourage each other in the items that need to be accomplished as well as the down falls that come with going through the heartache of CPS and Foster Care. It would be a great benefit. I just lost my father and was hospitalized for seizures. CPS was all ready involved due to my ex. The seizures were the last straw for CPS. Now they are in Foster Care. - anonymous
CPS needs to stay out of families divorcing; let the family courts decide. - anonymous
No matter the length of time, anyone who ignores a child’s cry for help is responsible for that continuation of the cycle of abuse. Family secrets are never really secret, they are a distorted sense of pride, by those responsible. Teachers, doctors, clergy, neighbors, friends, and bystanders should never feel intimidated by wealth or influence of an abuser; a bully will continue to bully if they are never held responsible, and a victim will give up hope for justice if no one will respond to her efforts. - anonymous
Mandatory joint custody unless either parent proven abusive or a threat. - anonymous
Only if CPS were called in because a child complained of abuse by the other parent as was my case. I had no choice but to protect my children when they confided in me the abuse by their Father. - anonymous
CPS doesn't help at all it makes things worse. My granddaughter came to me about a problem. I reported it and now it's worst on her. I’m sorry I did it. I should of left it alone. I would never call CPS if I saw anything ever happen to anyone again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - anonymous
 
No, I think its up to the parents and family courts. I do not agree with one parent using cps as a way of obtaining custody of a child as it seems to me this only makes the situation harder for the child’s best interest - anonymous
 
CPS should be disbanded and the workers investigated for all their criminal acts; they have been hidden from the 'real' courts of justice in the midst of child protection work. - anonymous
 
No, this is not what the organization was created for - anonymous
 
No, not at all... - anonymous
 
This is to "DAD" who commented on the other side today... Dad, I know you're angry and frustrated. I too have been a non-custodial parent in intense emotional pain, so I understand how you feel, but has calling CPS helped you at all? Going to CPS doesn't help the children, and has the potential to hurt them a great deal. What WILL help your children is your ability to communicate gracefully with their mother. Find ways to get over your anger. For me, there was a turning point at which I DETACHED from the pain and got on with my life in happier ways. I would use this time to move close to the children and get a good income going so when they have needs you will be there ready to help them. Improving on your situation and state of mind will be the best way to help your kids. And I'd get one of the co-parenting books mentioned on this page and find ways to make peace with your ex-wife ... in your case, "Joint Custody With a Jerk" might be a good place to start. I'm so sorry she was a jerk and ruined your marriage and has the upper hand with your children, but you can make things better on your end so that when your children need you - they'll be able to find you and get the help they need. - Linda BookLady
 
Look at the article on the bottom of the front page of FightCPS today - there's a video of a former family court judge telling how she was trained to do exactly what your judge has done - ignore moms and give custody to sexually abusive fathers! I hear about this frequently!!! Mothers in custody cases are being treated like dirt because judges are trained not to believe them or respect them. - Linda BookLady
 
Only if it can be proven that the child is in danger. - anonymous
 
No, there is no place for them and they use the parents to take the children as well as hitting the nuke button before anyone else.They are liars, delusional, paranoid, interfering, low-lifes who don’t have a sense of perspective thats part of there job criteria -no perspective and paranoid. No use to anyone - anonymous
 
Don't Be Fooled It Can Happen To You To... My Ex Did It To Me :0( And I Can't Believe He Could Go So Far As To Hurt Me in This Way Being I Have Lived My Life For Them.. & That Fact That He Let His Hate For Me Or Whatever It Is.. GO SO FAR AS TO HURT MY BABIES IN THIS WAY COMPLETELY DEVIATES US ALL..... HOW CAN HE SAY HE CARE FOR THEM AFTER DOIN SOMETHING LIKE THIS TO THEM OUT SPITE FOR ME? - anonymous
 
People are so blind. They strike in anger not thinking through consequences. There is probably a part of him that loves your children, and he'll be filled with regret for hurting them just to get back at you. Stay strong and work hard to get the children back home with you where they are loved. - Linda BookLady
 
No, more children will die with cps in control - anonymous
 
CPS should be abolished and a new system put in place to protect children. The system has failed miserably and can not show statistics to actually prove they have rescued more children than they have harmed. The statistics relating to the number of children raped, murdered, abused,emotionally traumatized, neglected and yes...missing while under cps care is alarmingly high. Citizens need to look very closely at these statistics as they tell the truth of the whole corrupt business....I say business because it is a business. Politicians play on the heart strings of the public by stating that all these laws aimed at preventing child abuse are in "the best interest of the child" what politician.. up for reelection is going to look bad by shooting down a bill that is aimed at the "best interests of children"? This is how they gain more and more power. Family courts are UNCONSTITUTIONAL courts of no record. CPS is a child trafficking operation and one of the most corrupt agencies under the government. Our children are sold, used, exploited to the point where they can not grow up to be functional in society. The list of parents who have been at the mercy of cps by no fault of their own and then committed suicide after losing their children to the system is alarming as well. We have had parents light themselves on fire, light housing on fire, shoot themselves and their children rather then leave their children behind in the system. Foster parent system is disturbing. We have interviewed so many children abused in foster care. We can not describe how horrific the foster care system is. It is like putting your child with a total stranger and praying they do not harm your child. It's a game of Russian roulette. CPS investigations need to be put in the hands of the police and should be conducted as any other felony investigation. Implementation of this would cost money however the government would free up billions of dollars wasted for unneeded services that cps forces on parents and children in their efforts to maximize government funds with service providers. The government would be freed from the hundreds of cps lawsuits for unconstitutional removals of children. Less children would be at risk in foster homes. Everyone is happy. So....in answer to the question.. CPS needs to be abolished. It can not possibly ever be in the best interest of the child since the money stakes tend to tip the scale and money is the main factor that plays out in all cps cases. Why in Gods name is real child abuse or real neglect not a felony crime? CPS breaks down doors seizing children on anonymous calls with scenarios such as ..the child ran naked outside. This is neglect? If I had a dime for every child who decided to strip off their clothes and run naked I would be rich. A four year old boy stuck his finger in a hole in the back of the three year old underpants....This is sexual abuse? A child contracted head lice...this means the family is dirty? The child is bullied in school so the mother doesn't send him....GO GET THE BULLY AND MEAN BUSINESS. Suspending a child from school does nothing to deter bullying....Go after these parents and get the bully some help he obviously needs and leave the child who is the victim alone. Parents who are poor and on assistance love their children less? No...they just don't have the money to defend themselves from CPS abuse..this is why they are the main targets of CPS. You don't often see CPS accompanied by the police as in most cases breaking down doors in these well to do neighborhoods... doesn't happen. If your poor, homeless, in a domestic violence situation they will take your children in a heartbeat...you are a target. CPS should never be involved in child custody during divorces. CPS abuse needs to stop. - anonymous
 
No social services should just have recommendations. They think they just do what's best for the children; they don't have a clue how much stress the child goes through though. I have a four year old who social services recommended stay in his nana’s care when all of the time I've done everything in my power to get my son back. I've had 2 more children since, and they let me keep them but still find excuses for me not to have my son back. Social services make a lot of mistakes and don't help people to be a family; they just tear it apart. I personally hate them ! - anonymous
 
No way!!! They are a pathetic bunch of workers. Lots of wasted salaries!!! I am a male with custody of my three children. Their mother was charged with abuse and neglect and on drugs. I did not contact these people, they stuck their nose into it. Now they are harassing me and threatening me. I want answers and a lawyer and don't know where to go. They are creating worse problems. - anonymous
 
I say neither. You really need to understand that both CPS and the Family Court work towards the same goal...MONEY!!!! Neither CPS nor Family Court give a rats A** about the well being of children. They both exist to blow taxpayers dollars and line their own greedy pockets. Know the truth DO NOT TRUST EITHER ONE!!!!!! Check out my lens on how to sue cps: http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-sue-cps - tomskids
 
No way! Although they should be there to protect the kids! In 2006 I noticed odd sexual behaviors by my then-husband near my kids. Essentially we separated. I left the situation thinking I was paranoid. Since both kids have complained to several people they felt safe with us as well as Va state police. On Oct 4th 2010 I made the worst choice I could have made. After several investigations I was frustrated when my daughter detailed the sexual and physical abuse her and her special needs brother have endured, she not only told myself but my mother " I know mom loves me and I will try again but nobody can help us". I contacted a counselor involved with my kids and CPS asking for help as I couldn't find it in my heart to drop the kids off to an abusive situation. Shortly after, I was arrested (big deal for an ARMY brat) and when my mom called the detective to meet for her arrest he refused to do so. I was charged with making a false complaint to VA state police and CPS and although I'm far from the first person to speak up for my kids I was the only one to be arrested. Afterwards a judge gave his opinion of a mental diagnosis in court leaving me to be threatened. On a later court date I was told "sometimes having no mother at all is better than having a mother like you." I had not spoken in this man's court and he continued to torture me in court as I said nothing. After that hearing on where it was deceided I was not to see my babies until they turned 18 I was confronted by this CPS worker who admitted her fear of being fired. She also said she firmly believes the kids are being sexually abused, but can't prove it. What a smack I'm the face when she said nothing in that hearing. Today is Dec 6 2011. I have not seen or spoken to my kids who live 2 miles away with the very man they accused since October 4,2010. Aside from having a broken heart I sit with a mess of thought not knowing where to start or even how to find a new lawyer as the previous one never spoke. I am helpless to nightmares of my daughter being molested or my son being held under water forcing seizures his fathers family denies he ever had. It is a living hell. Find another solution! Take children to a counselor or a doctor get an attorney and ask his advice. Also never walk into even a show cause or CPS hearing without the lawyer. We had never fought over custody. CPS had set up child care and encouraged me to revisit their dad's visitation I'm court as he only took the roughly half the time he was suppose to. I feel like a victim daily until my mother calls to let me know one of my kids has informed her they cried themselves to sleep. I'm under my ex's thumb all alone unable to do what a mom is suppose to do..... Protect her kids. - anonymous
 
absolutely not - anonymous
 
No! We have been threw it and CPS only made it worse. They don’t know the "REAL" us... They break Families apart and set us up for Failure. Hell NO!!!!! - Settingmeup
 
I think that cps needs to put themselves into our shoes as I am going to court my self. My Social worker has tried everything to keep my kids away from me. I have done nothing wrong at all and yet she tried to say I pricked my son with a pin while she was doing me contact! My son was asleep all day!! They try to remove your kids from you they don’t really care about the kids! She tried to say to me that I didn’t love my kids! I will fight in court until i get them back. - anonymous
 
Child Custody is a matter strictly reserved for the Court System, after all evidence and supporting documentation have been properly presented by both parties. CPS is to protect the child from Abuse and Neglect. Dr. James Dazouloute......Visit My Lenses As Well, For FREE Articles and Videos On Legal Issues......... - anonymous
 
No, CPS should not be used in place of the legal court system that is in place. Those that feel they are losing the court battle call CPS to retaliate. Then CPS is invited into your life and the life of the complaining parent and things get all messed up and the focus is taking off what is in the best interest of the child. - anonymous
 
No. The Department of Children's Services got involved with my husband for the purpose of helping him to receive custody of our teenager. My husband could receive all property and possessions and DCS helped my husband have me forced away from all property and possessions so he could solely possess these things. DCS had already taken our child out of the home and placed her into State Custody, but even so, my husband was allowed to have me, his wife, removed also. DCS should NEVER get involved in these things. - anonymous
 
OMG! No way.They do NOT do what is in the best interest of the children. If your or any child is being abused, seek private legal advice no matter what the cost! Borrow, beg or whatever you can manage, but do not turn over your abused child nor yourself to this government agency. They are not here to help! - anonymous
 
ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!! - anonymous
 
NO way. CPS workers know absolutely nothing about family dynamics and most know nothing about children in general and think it is horrid thing for a child to get dirty while playing. Unrealistic expectations and terribly biased. - anonymous
 
No, it should be a matter for the family court. As a Family solicitor in the UK, my experience is that many social workers are very biased, some of them have very strange views and some don't have their own children, so don't understand the nuances of family life, even if they have theoretical knowledge. I have known several disastrous interventions which have led to children being totally denied contact to a loving father for years, on their say-so. Social workers can be lazy or gullible and are easily influenced by their "favourite", and they can write outrageous reports with no substantive evidence, just a hunch or gut reaction. I have seen it happen to several decent people. On the other hand, not ALL social workers are unthinking illiterate idiots who think they are God. The excellent ones are as rare as hens' teeth. - Gloriousconfusion
 
No, they don’t know whats is best for anyone. The courts are the ones that should be the ones to make that type of decision. - anonymous
 
CPS told me that they do not take part in custody battles between parents. However, if I did not obtain a restraining order against my ex and/or full custody of my/our five children they would take all of my children away and place them in protective custody. My ex had jumped state and ran halfway across the country and although I filed the appropriate paperwork my inability to have him served, as well as my attorneys inability to have him served, cost me my children for failure to protect! - anonymous
 
No... Divorce is already tough. No need to be spiteful. It's just simply not necessary. - divorce4
 
Absolutely not! CPS often will only hear one person's version of accusations and choose who to side with without getting actual facts. They often take the word of the accuser as gospel and in my case, assist the complaining party in getting FULL legal and physical custody of the children, even though the complaining party (my ex & father of my 3 young children) could not even follow through with the original custody agreement that gave him (only!) 10 hours per month with the children. Again, in my case, CPS wrote a letter supporting my ex taking custody of my children, whom were with me 99.7% of the time since birth, before they even did an investigation into the accusations. It is very disturbing that a government agency who is supposed to help families stay together and be advocates for the "best interests of the children," often put the children through far more traumatizing situations and lifestyle alterations than the "harm" that the supposed accusations would have caused the children. It's atrocious and absolutely despicable the abuse of power that the agency uses and it definitely does NOT even PRETEND to be there for the best interests of the children! - anonymous
 
It depends on the circumstances. If one parent does drugs and/or is a drunk or abusive and the other is not, there is cause for concern. If there are grandparents available or family members who can raise the children they should be given the right without CPS interfering. CPS are interfering, pretending to care about children to get Federal support. Most have no children of their own even. Certainly no college degree in behavior patterns. Ours used to work at Alcoa. - anonymous
 
In my experience CPS case workers do not care about the best interest of the child. They get a complaint, come to investigate one time, are not psychologists, give you a case plan, but don't stick to their side of the plan. Then they take you to court, as and they have all the power in the world, and are allowed to make false accusations against you in court; they take your child from you without a bit of evidence. Unless you have plenty of money for an attorney or to pay off the judge, you don't stand a chance and your child is removed from home. I have to wonder what kind of training they get? I truly believe children need to remain with their biological parents unless there is true abuse and/or neglect. In our case our daughter loves her son very much. OCS gave custody to the paternal grandparents who are wealthy and were turning us in with false accusations that were never substantiated. He loved us very much. Now they have him and talk badly about us after we raised him from birth to 4 1/2 years old. We, as the maternal grandparents, are only allowed supervised visits with him at their discretion. Last visit (he's been with them about 20 months) he asked us when we were going to stop doing the bad stuff so that he could come home and that we didn't take good care of him. What is sad about this is he loves us and he will see through these people, but why do people have to confuse a child and do these things to him. We allowed them to have him for weekends when we had him at home, but now they are given all the power and do nothing but bad mouth us. We never did anything to these people. Now their drug addict son, the father, lives with them and their other son who he has stayed with for a week at a time, is in jail. He was arrested for drugs and his child was taken away. We don't want to call CPS because we don't want him taken and put into foster care. CPS needs to be overhauled - Better training and stricter laws they should be accountable for false accusations. This is purgery. In any other type of court they’d be in big trouble - Why aren't these people. Then you hear about the cases where they do nothing and a child dies or when the child is removed and put into foster care they are in an worse environment. These children end up confused and have emotional problems. I say do away with the way the system is run now. - anonymous
 
Not when there are attorneys and child counselors already involved. For example, Judge already orders temp emergency custody based on current evidence and soon after CPS complaint is filed with minor accusations such as 'kids aren’t allowed to stay home without adult supervision' (yes, I said without supervision), sudden concern of child's health in home without evidence of dr visits while in that parent's possession and/or school reports stating excessive absences or condition noticed by school official. and WHY wont CPS consult a child's counselor that has been building trust w/child and instead insist on disrupting their day by interviewing them multiple times at school? - anonymous
 
No! I believe there is a lack of understanding/education/training for CPS caseworkers. I also believe they are poorly compensated for the demands of what should be looked at as very important roles in child protection advocacy. Too many stories have emerged throughout the years of CPS not realizing blatant abuse during home visits. I advocate for the parents to try and put aside the anger and contempt for each other and attempt to see common ground for the children. Of course, that is not always possible and family court is the best forum for custody disputes. - anonymous
 
No because it causes an imbalance in the child's life. Often the child and grandparents suffer a loss of contact due to a spiteful narcissistic parent. - anonymous
 
No, No, and No. If a parent wants to take custody away from the other parent they should fork out the money for a lawyer to prove their case. - anonymous
 
I don't think there is a one size fits all answer. I worked for CPS, and in several facilities for children. Many parents need to lose parental rights, and others need the wake-up call to get it together. Is it easy on anyone-no. Do I think CPS should be manipulated by divorcing or separating parents no! - KathyMcGraw2

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    Shannon Collins 2 months ago

    My ex called cps on me within the last week and they were right on it, reopening my case, which closed just a few months ago. I am devastated. I have never ever put any child in danger. I can never have a medical license because of this, I can't further my career, etc. And all on false allogations!

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    M.J 2 months ago

    I have children who have all been taken from me because of CPS everything that I have read in here is all true and everything that I have read has touched my heart and the first time in my life that I have ever ever read so much truth, it gives me Hope, and Faith that I can get my children back. Allthough the thing is my children have been split apart my son is 16 and has been in CPS since he was 18 months of age because I was to young at the time to be a mother and my father took him in my dad never bought me up I met him when I was 12 he has passed away so my fathers 2 x partners had taken over they kicked my son out and left him to feen for himself and CPS are the ones who put my oldest child 16 year old into care, I was only 15 when I had him. My daughter is 12 she loves me and I know it, she misses me she talks about me to her father who I took to court for custody over my daughter when she was a baby which I was granted and yet he had an accusation about him interfaring with a young girl I read that him & his new partner had laid false accusations about me saying I'm a meth head etc, & now its in the system that im a drug addicted mother which in fact he was and he said that I have random mates which if my actual friends knew half the things that my exz said about me it wouldnt be pretty, they care about me and my children so they my ex and his partner lied completely built up false information on me in order that they think they succeed. My yunger son is In Foster care and has been since he was at least 3-4 hes now 8. My youngest is 1 she is turning 2 and we have had such a battle with the leading upto her birth which CPS became involved when I gave birth to my daughter not because of a domestic or abuse or a call out?? I think that someone called them and I suspect it was either my babys father or his mother to get custody of my child he has never supported me he had a job he would complain about helping me out with bills that he made and left me to deal with. Dont give up Hope if you really are the GOOD PARENT SAFE AND TRUE TO YOUR CHILD LOVE THEM DONT GIVE UP !! I was forced to believe that I was no good and that I was to young and that I havent growen up. Im under 35 now and I have changed my inner health & my choices excessively compared to the judments made about me as a young mother, no one stood up for me or guided me into the right direction so I took a PATH a NEW WAY that would help me regain my self and to help me Ive completed Parenting courses, Anger Management and Drug n Alchohol courses I have Certificates in the past since my children were all born and recent ones of 2017. I have a decent home safe as ever. Im still going through court its so unfair it hurts and if my children are happy to choose who they wana live with then why not! I passed the hair follicle this year a month or so ago, as requested I did everything asked by the Judge so im not happy with the district court

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    Duncan 2 months ago

    imagine a shared custody arrangement. Two girls, 9 and 11. The younger one tells the mother that the grandfather (fathers father) has abused her sexually - not the child's words - the mother believes her daughter and tells social services. The grandfather, an ex policeman, and childs father counterattack. The mother and child are accused of fabrication. The shared custody continues, the nine year old desperately unhappy and afraid. Tells her mother she will run away. The mother has no recourse, she is not believed by authorities. The nine year old is not believed. When the older girl refused to go to fathers house, he was very threatening. Both are too afraid to refuse his will. Just imagine if it were true?

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    Rosie 3 months ago

    My daughter was taken from me in 2014, i was fighting a battle with drugs. So i went to rehab, did everything the judge has ordered me to do to see my daughter. I followed the agreement i have been clean for 2 years now. During this time of staying clean and building myself to be a better mother i was on supervised visitation for a year. And i finished it succesfully. Everything the court asked me to do i did. And during this time my daughters father got arrested for a drug charge. He doesnt let me be apart of anything to do with my daughters school. He puts his girlfriend down as her mother and emergency contact. And i try so hard to be apart of everything and they will not let me. I have my a complete 180 with my life. I have a husband we have our own home. 3 bedroom. We have another baby on the way. And i am trying to get my daughter back. What do i do?

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    Shulamite1122 4 months ago

    Expect and Believe...The System is a double edge sword like most everything in this experience. A person that may not have any experiencial learning on this subject is just that. Until you walk through the valley.......Unfortunately, the loving parent with unconditional love is often being attacked with the LOVE they have for their children. The parent calling the system is usually ALWAYS full of malice and anger toward the other parent. The system is made to serve and protect our babies, the crime is that very same system is on overload with fraudulent aqusations made by people probably vibrating on a LOW LOW LEVEL OF AWARENESS OF CONSEQUENCES OR ANY COGNITIVE INTELLECT OTHER THAN ANIMALISTIC KNEE JERK UNEVOLVED CEREBELLUM WITH NO INDICATION OF CEREBRAL COGNITION.

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    Adam 4 months ago

    CPS gave me temporary custody after the mother of my children threatened to kill them since I wouldn't come and live with her. In this case, I must say good thing CPS got involved, because who knows if they would be alive today if they hadn't gotten involved.

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    Gary 5 months ago

    If a child's mother leaves a will stating for her brother to have custody of her child can the child's father dispute the claim

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    Antoni Antoni 5 months ago

    I was wrongful accused of child abuse that I hit my daughte my x wife left my daughter 5 years ago and now she is back in the picture to get her back she accuse me of hitting my daughter but even my daughter denied that to her lawyer that was pointed by course he child Clp still find me

    Guilty and I appeal to the Marshall still waiting but thank god the lawyer of my daughter is on my side clp are liars well the one I got may be not all good luck everyone and love your kids

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    Karen 8 months ago

    I am grateful for CPS. My (now ex) husband molested our daughter. CPS was very kind to me and my children during this time and kept impeccable notes, including my ex confessing to the police detective. Now my ex is attempting to get parenting time and because CPS had dozens of pages of notes detailing the abuse and his other erratic behavoirs, the judge can "see" what a psychopath this man is and hopefully will choose to continue to keep my children safe and away from this monster.

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    Sick child 9 months ago

    Hey there! STOP accusing parents of using CPS as a custody tool! Because you state crap like is the reason why abusers use it as a tool against REAL abuse. Think before you post. Get educated in abuse. Look at situations in all aspects. CPS is a worthless service! My daughter is ill with a diagnosed medical condition. Her father tells CPS all this crap about me and how I only report this as a custody change. He refuses to follow doctors orders AND the court order. Now my daughter is more sick because CPS has chosen to believe the abusive lies of the father instead of a team of doctors! Pat attention to what your are saying because your fueling abusers heads with ways to get away with their abuse all the while the children suffer tremendously. My daughter will servive a good foster home & get the proper medical care & therapy with them. She will continue to suffer with her father on top of learn how to abuse herself. Think about it! Stop being so afraid to do the right thing. It's because of stupid info like this my daughter is sick & in danger!

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    Linda Jo Martin 2 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    Hi Rachel - please join the conversation at our message board: http://forum.fightcps.com - or on Facebook (we have both a group and a page there) . . . hey, I used to live in Pittsburg!!! I lived on Davi Ave. across the street from City Park, 1995 through 1999.

    Keep documentation of all the "services" you complete. Keep a notebook. Read other suggestions at http://fightcps.com ... I hope your children will be returned to you at the next court date. Pray!!

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    Linda Jo Martin 3 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    Adventuretravels - yes, there are similar things happening in the UK but I don't know what the statistics look like there. In the USA the statistics are on the website of the federal Administration for Families and Children (AFC).

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    Linda Jo Martin 3 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    Ann, I hear stories like that all the time... it couldn't be an occasional thing... the system is really corrupt. I know they do help some children but too often they choose to "help" children who were not even being abused or neglected. Families are devastated, if not completely destroyed. That's why I suggest that family court is a much better place to have a custody battle.

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    Giovanna Sanguinetti 3 years ago from Perth UK

    God I had no idea that children are 10 times more likely to get abused in foster homes - that's incredible to me. Don't the foster parents get vetted properly. I wonder if that's the same here in the UK!

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    Ann Hinds 3 years ago from So Cal

    I read this in the car while I was waiting for my grandson to get out of school. We adopted him when he was five, he's 13 now. CPS was my worst nightmare. It ranks higher than my boys doing drugs. While they are supposed to protect the children, they are only people and if they don't like you, it can make the situation worse. They took our child away from us because our son was still living with us. That was our mistake and one that will never be made again. We spent our retirement savings and 401k doing what the court asked. We had to hire an attorney. He was in foster care 7 months before they returned him to us. My son was out of the house and living in another state. The only reason we got custody was the social worker was not in court the day the judge decided we were not the evil people she made us out to be. We are very good parent, involved in his school and sports. In fact as I write this, we are discussing homework. BTW, I still hate math. The social worker was evil. The problem with the system is there are no checks and balances. She was eventually fired.

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    ARMYGAL57 3 years ago

    wELL i AM THANKFUL FOR CPS, MY SONS HOME WAS FILTHY, THEY WERE HARBORING TWO MINOR RUN-AWAYS, HE IS ALWAYS BEHIND ON HIS BILLS (YET MAKES BETTER MONEY THAN ME) I HAVE HAD HIS DAUGHTER FOR GOING ON THREE WEEKS AND HE HAS NOT SEEN HER ONCE, OR ASKED IF SHE NEEDED ANYTHING (PULL-UPS, JUICE, HELP PAYING FOR DAY CARE) I BONDED HIM OUT OF JAIL SO HE COULD KEEP HIS JOB- HE IS PUTTING MONEY INTO THE GIRLFRIENDS JAIL ACCOUNT BUT CAN'T BUT PULL-UPS.

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    Linda Jo Martin 3 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @shawn21: I don't know much about Canadian laws, but I know that child welfare there works in similar ways... that there's been much injustice reported there too.

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    shawn21 3 years ago

    how can cps take kids from the mother when the baby is in kgh and the doctors let it happen .the baby has not got home yet.

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    shawn21 3 years ago

    is the same in canada the laws right

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    allyson-marsh1 3 years ago

    I had just had a breast removed from cancer staples in my cheat and 241 at my door thanks to the father. I was accused of over taking my can Ed meds. I may have taken an extra or two. But always had someone with me to watch my kids. I had a hemotoma. Life was hell. My daughter was 1 and my son was 14. An all honor student. Very week taken care if. I did it al one. Then cps restored my life.

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    AnneLeeMusings 3 years ago

    Thank you for this very eye opening article. I hope it will help others and make parents think twice before they take actions that will inadvertently only cause harm to who should be the most important person in their life--their child.

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    cfssfamily 3 years ago

    Very professional article,I agree with you 100%

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    jmchaconne 4 years ago

    Hey Linda, actually, I've used two of your lenses, as featured on the one I did on a related subject. Thank you!

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    loans-for-bad-credit 4 years ago

    Very informative thanks!!

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    fcinternetmarketing 4 years ago

    Enlightening tips ! Great lens

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    Whoa! This is some rough material to digest. But if you need to know, then you need to know. It's a serious matter. It would be foolish to be ignorant about it! Bottom line: If a child is in danger, do whatever it takes to rescue them!

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @Tom Maybrier: Thanks Tom... I've gotten a lot of great comments about it, including from lawyers that agreed with me.

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    Tom Maybrier 5 years ago

    Wow, this is a really great lens. Glad to see you providing and maintaining this important resource.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @darciefrench lm: How sad... that parental alienation is real. So many are affected!

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    darciefrench lm 5 years ago

    When my stepdaughter claimed her mother was an alcoholic (later she went for treatment for meth abuse) and her mother's new husband was abusive (we believed her, he was abusive to all who crossed his path) - I not only called child protection but tried to use my clout as a social worker at the time. They did an investigation but the stepfather was on his best behavior, of course, and the end result was the daughter going before a judge in family court. It was a hellish situation all around. My husband (DavidAngel on squidoo) got custody of his daughter only to have her go back to her mom and step-father - the indoctrination of parental alienation by the mother and the stepfather was too great for the girl to overcome.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: What is a "na class"? You mean, NA = Narcotics Anonymous? You should ask your caseworker about that.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    can i take a online na class for cps case in texas?

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: Missing a CPS court date is a huge mistake. All you can do is try to complete all services requested and make your life worthy of being considered for reunification. That means no more drugs ever, get a job, and be able to provide a nice home for the baby to return to. Even that might not work but you have to try, and keep trying, as this will be your only chance to get your baby back.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @TwistedWiseman: I agree, it is better to stay together than to divorce and then fight over the kids.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @getmoreinfo: Thanks, Getmoreinfo... I appreciate the feedback. If I could help moms and dads to unite in positive co-parenting I'd be so happy.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: I would see an attorney to discuss your state's laws regarding filing of false allegations. In some states you can sue; in others I believe there may be a chance of criminal charges. Also please join us on the Fight CPS forum... http://forum.fightcps.com for feedback from other parents who have been involved with CPS. You definitely need an attorney; so sorry you're having this problem. Co-parenting is best without the anger, resentment, and constant tug-of-war between the two parents. I hope you can somehow help arrange for better times ahead.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    I am the step mom in my situation. The biological mom had all 5 of her children removed from her home for what I believe is the 2nd time, she had made the front page news on what had happened, her 2 oldest are the ones that turned her in. The youngest of them all is my fiance's daughter she was only 1 at the time. After jumping through hoops 9 months later she was placed with us and out of foster care; 3 months after that he was granted sole custody. It is now going on 3 years her case has been open; to my knowledge she has one child with her because the child is tired of being in foster/group home. She constantly harasses us. The child who will be turning 5 should not have to be placed in the situation of having to go back and forth every other weekend only to get confused because her biological mom tells her to say things about myself or her dad. She constantly calls CPS and makes false reports to where the caseworker has stated that if she does make one more reports (true/false) that she will be removing children. Which would include the little girl between my fiance and his ex, and our 2 year old who has done nothing wrong to this lady by any means and doesn't deserve any of this as well as my step daughter. She has already been through enough of this crap brought on by her biological mom. I am at my wits end and can not for the life of me figure out how to beat the situation. Any suggestions are welcome.

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    getmoreinfo 5 years ago

    Thanks for the information about Child Custody Battles and Child Protective Services (CPS) it is valuable information that will help individuals going through this issue.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: Absolutely... contact an attorney or file for modification of custody; Calling CPS can have devastating results.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: Kelly, so sorry you lost your grandchild. CPS is evil... IMHO.

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    Linda Jo Martin 5 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @anonymous: Those things can be investigated and resolved through the family court... for example, asking for a psychological evaluation during a change of custody proceeding. Family court judges can also order counseling, and conjoint sessions... mediation, everything! There's plenty of ways to learn to work together as two parents for the well-being of the children, without the extreme measure of having children ripped from their parents and put in foster homes.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    divorce or not, the safety of the children should come first. If there are safety or neglect issues they should be investigated. Then at least the parent or grandparents would know that the kids are all right. It is for the children and peace of mind when the children are absent from the home. Take suicidal thoughts, medication, stability of home where the kids are, things that should be considered not the divorce proceedings.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    If a parent is that concerned about the safety of his children, he should contact a lawyer and family court, not CPS. Especially when it is a case involving a rebelious teenager and not a small child.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    im from ohio. i am not a divorcing parent. i am a grandparent who lost my grandchild to CPS. these agencies have too much power. im currently doing research to find out what can be done to make these laws change. any information would be appreciated. thanks

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    TwistedWiseman 5 years ago

    Courts and divorces are unpleasant, try and avoid them.

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    @anonymous: My Name is Ms caviarna I was married to my husband for 13 years and we were both bless with three children, living together as one love, until 2010 when things was no longer the way the was [when he lost his job]. But when he later gets a new job 6 months after, he stated sleeping outside our matrimonial home. Only for me to find out that he was having an affair with the lady that gave he the job. since that day, when I called him, he don't longer pick up my calls and he donât want to see me around him and he also deleted me from his face book account.

    I reported him to TOM SPRINGER ON NATIONAL TV [MESSYLY AFFAIRS], I did many things all just to see if I can just get my husband but nothing since to come out good. Yet my husbands just still keep on seeing the lady.

    Until I met a very good friend of my who was also having a similar problem, who introduced me to a very good love spell caster. But I told her that if it has to do with things that I am not interested, but she said that it has nothing to do with pay first. But the only thing he was ask to do was just to go and buy the items to cast the spell, and that was what she did. And she gave me the spell caster e-mail address and phone number.

    When I contacted him, I was so surprise when he said that if I have the faith that I will get my husband back in the nest four [4] day, and off which it was really so. But I was so shock that I did not pay any thing to edobor but my husband was on his knells begging me and the children for forgiveness. This testimony is just the price I have to pay. This man ogun is good and he is the author of my happiness. His e-mail address edoborspelltemple@gmail.com

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    thias is somewhat urgent 2 weeks ago i was involved in a car accident ny son was with me he had his seatbelt on and thankfully was unharmed. we were kept over night for observation and released his only injury was a bruise where the seatbelt was. long story short my step mom and i are constantly battleing and her favorite tactic is to call cps so that is what happened she called made allegations of neglect saying he was not in a seatbelt. well hospital records or police reports can discredit that immediaetly. allegations were also made of possible drug use neither of these allegations are true. heres the catch though i have sole custody of our son and up until a few months ago he lived with me well emergemcy circulmstances prompted a quick move so i asked his dad to watch him till i found a place and thats the way its been. i pick up our son every weekend well cps get called and now my ex is sayimg they want him to fet emergency custody with supervised visits for my self. can they do that? they also want me to go test which is fine but im wondering this why do i have to prove my innocense/? there is no evidence to back up their acusations so do i need to take time out of my day to go test for them and the bs with the custody what should i do i need advice asap

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    AmericanCitizen 5 years ago

    @anonymous: Marlene... you will need to go to the family support department of the county you were in when you got the court order for support!

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    my husband and i parted many years ago and i signed papers so the government could go after him for the back support that is owed to the government and i found out he has his own business raising 6 more kids under 14 and still hasnt paid a cent to the government where do i go to report this. plz email me at candy514602011@yahoo.ca

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    I missed my first cps court date what to do can I still get my baby back he got taking out of the home because of a dirty test

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    Never involve any J&DR court in your life. Never let them in your home. They have become so corrupt and beyond stopping. It is about money. They do not follow or even attempt to meet criteria or provisions of The Social Security Act meaning prevent removal and kinship care. Mandatory and if not done Title IV -E funds can never issue on behalf on that child. Social workers simply lie!They are not held accountable by Judges even. There is no monitoring . No audit. Secret courts of no records. Always hire a court Reporter. It's all about the service plans. The service plans keep everyone from Judges to foster care prevention employees working. Our children have become merchandise. A good friend of mine is a social worker in Virginia. She tells me she sits there day after day while they tell bold face lies,stteal children from good parents etc... I guess we all no why Nancy is no longer with us. Beware people!!

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    anonymous 5 years ago

    Ok so recently my ex wife has once again gotten into big trouble with my kids. They were abused by two separate guys and they were charged also this last time she had my kids taken from her and placed in state custody for alchobol related domestic. Iolence with her boyfriend that was on the run from parol. My kids were also in the care of a drunk lady at the house. Why was I the father not contacted? And what do I need to do to get my kids out of this situation the judge keeps giving her the kids after every one of these issues and I am kept out of the aquasion why did they not contact me to get my kids? And cps is the agreeing people that she is a fit parent what the hell is wrong with people allowing this to go on and allowing them to stay in such a hostel environment

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    kevingomes13 lm 5 years ago

    They are both very dangerous cards to play. I don't think CPS's purpose is to deal with divorces however, thats not the reason they came into play.

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    Cusper 5 years ago

    Child Protective Services is a very, very, very dangerous card to play in divorce. The author is correct, not only can it go against what you believe to be the best interests of the children, it can leave both parents out of the childâs life altogether. I have never called CPS, but I have experienced them being used against family members by disgruntled in-laws, former spouses and aggrieved grandparents. While none of those different cases went to the full meltdown scenario, the results were devastating for the entire family. Particularly when the objective of using CPS was nothing more than vindictive attack during the holidays. So if you have found yourself on the receiving end, donât retaliate. Focus on getting through the CPS investigation and the wellbeing of the kids. Cusper Lynn, author, Facebook Ate My Marriage. www.squidoo.com/facebook-ate-my-marriage

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    NassauDIvorceLawyer 5 years ago

    You are right. CPS should not get involved with custody and should be up to the courts. I suppose its a secondary plan for those that do not get their way in the courts.

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    robertoa 6 years ago

    The most ideal would be no marriage broke up, as this affects the entire life of the spouses but especially to children.

    unfortunately divorces occur by the Dures of heart of one of the spouses.

    GOD BLESS ATOD marriages and to reconcile those who are separated.

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    gherishjhoven 6 years ago

    This lens has useful information. Keep it up and thanks for having this shared.

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    anonymous 6 years ago

    My husband involving The Department of Children's Services, benefitted him greatly. My husband privately telephoned case worker and made complaints about me, his wife and the case worker documented those complaints and they were taken as true and factual information by DCS and by The Courts and used against me. I believe DCS will work to help one parent and to hurt the other parent and that should not happen with this Agency.

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    Men-After-Divorce 6 years ago

    @lawpost: I totally agree with this. The state should be an absolute last resort rather than a first resort.

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    lawpost 6 years ago

    This lens is right on the money. Assuming you are an otherwise fit parent, NO good can come from inviting the State into your home, particularly where the employees of the State cannot understand how families function in the real world. Once CPS is called, parents lose control and CPS gets out of control.

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    LindaBertrand 6 years ago

    Children are greatly affected during their parents' divorce. here is a compilation of great articles from Parent eSource that i want to share: http://parentesource.com/2011/05/05/our-top-4-post...

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    Linda Jo Martin 6 years ago from Post Falls, Idaho, USA

    @George McCasland: Thanks so much, George! I truly appreciate that and will check out your lens.

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    Diana Grant 6 years ago from United Kingdom

    April Angel Blessings for a great lens that makes me boil when I think about it!

    Lensrolled to 3 of my lenses: Child Contact and Residence in Divorce Proceedings

    Cohabiting: Your Rights on Separation

    English Divorce Procedure

    and I have featured it on Good Lenses Deserve Angel Blessings

    Well done on a subject dear to my heart

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    jeanyross 6 years ago

    It is often difficult for parents to balance children and divorce hence, a support institution can be a big help. However, we should bear in mind that nothing beats the parents care.

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    OFW 6 years ago

    Improve shared custody with easy online sharing of Child Custody Calendars, parenting time schedules, shared expenses, family information and more.