How Marijuana Addiction Affected My Marriage

Updated on February 16, 2018

Addiction Affects Children

Family and Addiction do Not go Hand in Hand!

It all started on a sunny afternoon when I came home and told my husband that I did not want him smoking marijuana at our house anymore. I had come to a point in my life were family and addiction did not fit in the same category; I had to choose family or addiction.

This immediately threw my marriage into despair. He packed his bag, took a few personal belongings and left. His final words to me were, “I am done with you, done changing for you, and I’m divorcing you!” Because his addiction to marijuana was stronger than his desire to be a good influence on his children my marriage was in despair.

Family and Addiction Equal Devastation

My feelings were that of devastation. How could he choose this drug over my children, over his children, over our relationship?  I was done pretending that it was not happening. My husband was smoking pot in our garage on a regular basis. He also was inviting his relatives over to join him.

However my children did not appear to have any knowledge of his addiction (marijuana smoking) I was tired of putting them at risk. I had to put my children first and implant boundaries for my home even if it meant my marriage would be in despair or possibly destroyed.

My husband was gone for about twenty four hours before he came home to talk. He seemed to understand that my desire was to be a mother before all else. To my knowledge he has completely stopped smoking marijuana.In my household, family and addiction was about to focus solely on recovery.

The After Affects of Family and Addiction

His addiction to this substance continues to haunt him on a daily basis. He struggles regularly with hot flashes, irritability, restlessness, and insomnia. Our marriage is not perfect but it is a work in progress; hopefully that progress will continue to be drug free. Rather than being family and addiction, we are a family without addiction.

I continue to worry that my husband’s perspective on marijuana use and addiction in general will eventually hurt my children and contribute to the despair and destruction of our marriage. Two questions race through my brain frequently, “Would he ever smoke pot with my kids like his parents did with him?” “Do the kids know that daddy smoked pot?”

Addiction is very destructive; my husband, myself, my marriage, or my children have not been safe from the affects of it. I struggle with feelings of paranoia, my husband struggles with cravings, and our children just struggle to live with us (just joking, kind of) In my experience family and addiction combinded never has a positive outcome.

I realize that many families are affected by addiction. Multitudes of moms have attempted to keep their children safe from the effects addiction can have on them (including my mom). Thankfully I acquired the courage and strength to stand up and follow my moral compass (my mom never found this strength).

There is Hope that Family Will Triumph over Addiction

Though it has been difficult and emotionally taxing at times, it has been well worth the despair to keep my kids as safe from addiction as I can. Family and addiction may never have a positive outcome; but abstinence from substance use can result in many positive moments and changes.

Many moms (women in general) and some dads are raising their children in homes that are consumed by substance abuse. I would plead with these mothers and fathers to seek help for themselves and their children. Remember even though it may feel hopeless it is not. There is help available for you, your children, and your addicted significant other (if he or she will accept the help). Remember family and addiction do not go hand in hand!

Family and Addiction does Not have to be a Prison!

A few options for family members of an addict are:

  • If in immediate danger call 9-1-1
  • Seek out a local therapist or counselor
  • Seek out a minister or pastor
  • Seek out a local co-dependents anonymous(CoDA)group

A few options for an addict are:

  • If in danger of harming yourself or have overdosed call 9-1-1
  • Seek medical help (see your physician)
  • Seek out local Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) or Narcotics Anonymous (NA) meetings
  • Seek out an outpatient and/or inpatient treatment center
  • Seek out a local therapist or counselor
  • Seek out a minister or pastor

Life is what we make of it. If we choose to let addiction consume us, our children, and our entire lives it is as if we convict ourselves to lives of imprisonment. Hope is only but a footstep away. One footstep to say please, please help me today!

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      ExhaustedandTired 

      2 weeks ago

      I’ve been married to a chronic pot smoker who has smoked for 20 years. It has destroyed him. People better do their homework. It use to not be any big deal and never had any negative impact. After years and years, it has hurt his mental state. When he is out of it, he is a loose cannon who verbally emotionally and mentally abuses us. He freaks out and goes crazy until he finds more pot. It’s a vicious cycle. If I knew back when he just smoked to chill would turn into this, I’d have never gotten married

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      Priya 

      4 weeks ago

      My husband smokes pot a lot. It makes me tired. He constantly looks me in the eye and promises he'll stop for sure "this time" but lies and goes behind my back and smokes with his co-workers and friends before he gets home. He thinks i don't know and notice this but i do. He blames his stress of work and stuff on it. But even in our best moments he goes back to smoking. How can i help him? Some recommendations? Or should i leave my husband because he won’t stop smoking? Any help would be highly appreciated

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      lalaflo 

      5 weeks ago

      For me as a wife the problem is not the "weed" that my husband smokes everynight..the problem is how he disconnects when he is high and even after. He has trouble communicating, being present and being open when he is high! Everything slows down, nothing is important and his motivation is a zero because he is a chronic marijuana user. I have never been anti-weed (I used to smoke before I got paranoid) but I am anti-feeling alone. In many cases being married to someone who smokes weed daily leads to loneliness.

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      doubtingnate 

      7 weeks ago

      I've been smoking since before we met. She's smoked with me on rare occasions. I've gone through phases.. a few years with little to no usage, but more recently it has become part of my evening ritual. It helps with stress, anxiety, sleep, etc. I don't advertise it but i don't try to hide it either. I go out and walk the dog, and then shower int eh dark with some music. It's the best way ever to wind down, and take the edge off - I highly recommend it. If you hate weed.. do some research on the various medicinal benefits. It's not just about getting stoned and feeling silly. With a good indica strain, I feel calm, relaxed and balanced for hours after the buzz wears off. One thing that's changed in the US is price - quality weed probably costs about as much as a 'good' beer (think Newcastle-price) with dinner every night. Outside of operating heavy machinery or driving when I'm REALLY BAKED, I don't believe there is much harm in it whatsoever, aside from the other person not liking it.

      Gradually my wife has gotten more irritable about it, and after some other completely unrelated events, I am now being given an ultimatum. I believe this is unfair and manipulative, to change the rules (for a long time the agreement was 'not in the house) suddenly because she's decided wants to change something about me she decided she doesn't like. I work my ass off.. I've been promoted twice in four years.. our finances aren't great but I am providing the best I can. She knows I would jump in front of a train for our two kids and I don't believe that my use has affected them adversely in any way, outside of us fighting about it.

      Ultimatums are bullshit, and will lead to rejection or resentment. Any relationship deal-breakers should be discussed far, far in advance. Marijuana is borderline because it can have legal consequences, but that's a political problem and not a moral or ethical one.

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      Miranda 

      2 months ago

      What if your boyfriend is always broke because he spends al of his money on weed and then complains everyday that he has no extra money. I don’t that he smokes. I mind that he’s always broke and I have to hear him complain about it everyday. When I tell him to cut down on the weed and then he will have extra money he flips out on me, tells me I’m a horrible person and that he’s going to leave me on the first of every month and then never does bc he has no money

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      Weaselina 

      2 months ago

      Okay, so there are a lot of issues being rolled into some kind of anti-marijuana frenzy.

      Sounds like a lot of these people with problems with addiction, as you say, actually have other problems that are much, much bigger.

      I believe if you marry or commit to someone who is a certain way, you have that talk at the time of committing, or you are agreeing to accept them as they are, weed smoking, cocktail drinking, cross-dresser, whatever.

      If there are other problems, maybe work on those? I know a lot of people who are off dangerous pharmaceuticals because of medical marijuana, and I feel that alcohol is a very serious issue for a lot of people, but rarely do I encounter someone who is a "pot addict" where the real problem is not something else.

      I am with a chronic smoker, and I use marijuana for insomnia and anxiety, and it is legal and I would not care if it wasn't.

      But, I also run a business and am a high functioning person who does not abuse others or expect anyone to take care of me.

      So, no one gets to dictate my life choices. And you should to dictate life choices unless you are willing to be open and honest and maybe discover some things you yourself need to change. Just saying.

      If all you care about is your kids and you paint your partner (male or female) as some sort of loser, or some sort of abusive type, I can tell you that you are part of the problem. If the person you love is depressed or in pain or having a hard time in life, you should love them enough to help them try to sort out what is going on. But if you just decide to put it all on smoking weed and think that stopping that is some magic cure then you are delusional. Your relationship is already over if that describes you. Just finish it off.

      But know that people on anti-depressants, which do not "cure" depression, are just as much addicts. And it kills their sex drive and they are still often sullen, moody and have issues. So, would you tell them to get off that shit and sort it out, or would you be more compassionate and try to help them to find a way to be healthier and more content in their lives?

      You don't own your husband or wife. But YOU made a commitment to be with them in sickness or in health, 'til death do you part. So are you a liar who bails when things are not exactly how you want them?

      Sounds like it.

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      Jeff 

      2 months ago

      Wow, poor guy. He was right to leave, but shouldn't have come back to a whiny demanding bitch like you. By now your marriage is probably done anyway, forcing someone to want and think like you never works. Also there is 0 reason why your husband smoking weed would have a negative effect on your kids.

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      heidi Martine 

      2 months ago

      me and my husband separated because he cheated on me and went to go live with his mothershouse after 8 years of our relationship when I decided to finally take him back little did I know that he came back with a recreational weed use stating that he needed to use it because he had feet problems at work and his feet were always hurting this is just a cop out to me because in the forties my great grandpa was in the Navy and long hours in the shipyards and lied about his age was 14 who saw many young sailors perish in fires and tragedies when ptsd wasnt even invented yet. and never used drugs or cigarettes or alcohol to cope with everyday life situations to me I just think that it is a sign of weakness and a poor excuse for a man to be high on pot when I come home after working 12 hours he sits on the sofa checked out and I can always tell when he smokes because he has a dumbfounded look on his face that he's not all there with red eyes how can I have respect for a man who has to check out and can't emotionally spiritually and mentally take the same type of crap that's handed to me everyday I have scoliosis and rod in my hip and I and am a strong resilient person who does not need to rely on this crap to get through a day I think that today's Society is so lazy and a at i need it now basis where everything is not earned no honesty and people treat their lives like fast food I know that this is wrong for my family and im choosing my family over this person im constantly worried that the kids will find out and he will be called out because he is so messy when it comes to him trying to hide it and what would they say about me that i would condone this thinking that it's okay to check out on life's high-stress situations he has now turned very secretive from his purchases to when he disappears and I can't find him it's almost like he's going to hide this for me at this does not bring anybody closer it's just another thorn in my side

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      James Downing 

      3 months ago

      My wife and I smoke every night and our relationship is not effected by it what so ever. In fact it might make our relationship stronger. We live in a state where recreational marijuana use is legal so we do not have have to hide.

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      GodsTruth6 

      3 months ago

      Ingrid, I'm sorry to hear about your son's addiction . I pray that God will move in his life with sobriety and peace from all his worries. And that he chooses marriage over pot. God can do that and will do that ,All you need to do is pray and put your trust in God and he will began to work in yours and your son's lives.

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      Ingrid Brumer 

      3 months ago

      My son is 46 and he is addicted to marijuana. He is changed man. He is in good mood only when he is high. His wife says quit pot or divorce. I believe he will chose marijuana over his wife and kids. We are in constant fear that he will do some bed thinks since he has some paranoia, depression, anxiety ...

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      Just A Person 

      3 months ago

      I feel bad for your husband.

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      Billy J. 

      3 months ago

      Such tough stories. My wife is addicted to weed. Divorce is such a tough call because it's "only weed". It means I get up with the kids every day, she needs a nap every day, and she does to bed when they go. But she is nice, functional, and in a good mood when she is high throughout the day. The downside is that I know all her feelings and excitement is fake and we're never "on the same level", and I'm constantly lied to about when she is buying, when she is smoking, etc. But is it worth tearing a family apart over an weed addition? Time will tell.

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      purdey 

      4 months ago

      My 53 year old husband has been smoking since the age of 16. In recent years he has attempts at cutting back...resulting in a beautiful soul turning into a monster with vile mood swings. To keep my sanity I will stop fearing social rejection and seek out emotional help for myself. And then they say its a harmless little weed. Good luck to all of you, peace and strength.

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      Rom 

      6 months ago

      I love how all these articles about spouses and pot smoking are about the husband. My wife just started smoking pot daily after 10 years of a drug free marriage ( she bullied her dying 85 year old mother into getting medical pot for her.) She now makes it clear that she hates that I do not do drugs and refuses to discuss it. I am seriously thinking about divorce.

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      Rejenna 

      8 months ago

      If your partner thinks his/ her addiction to weed is more important than you and your family.. get rid of a loser...

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      Jaime Dawn Thompson 

      15 months ago from Oregon

      It has been years since I wrote this article and a lot has happened in my life. I am doing well, my children are older, my husband continues to struggle with his addictions periodically. I am so thankful you all have taken the time to read my blog post and share your own life situations and struggles. You are all in my prayers. I know life can feel so very overwhelming, and at times hopeless.

      Megan, you sound like such a strong woman. In hindsight we can see the disfunction, and sometimes abuse, that was directly impacting us.

      The bible passage that carries me through tough times is Phillipians 4:13, "I can do all things through Christ which strengthenth me."

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      Megan 

      15 months ago

      My name is Megan and at six months pregnant my husband grabbed my wrist and said "never make me choose between you and weed." He had misplaced his stash and was furious with me, because anything bad was always somehow my fault.

      I didn't make him choose for five years. I was conditioned to listen and not to argue.... Years went by and it was ok because I knew the triggers that would upset him and how to redirect his attention, protecting the kids and myself. His habit of smoking weed was everyday: before he got out of bed smoking a bowl, he'd smoke all day and the last thing he would do before bed was load another bowl and smoke. Often, he would wake up in the middle of the night, smoke, then return to bed.

      We never had money and lived without a great deal of essentials. His drinking increased that fifth year too. Everyday around four he would buy a bottle of gin and/or a six pack of 8. + beer. A year of this and me asking him to stop (without upsetting him because I would be punished in a number of ways but usually via isolation, or sexual acts)...but I felt helpless by this point. He had punished me, isolated, down-talked, and controlled every aspect of my life. I was scared of what he was likely do. I was scared for myself and my children.

      I am a pretty girl. I am healthy, fit, freckled and have a pretty smile. I found joy still each day playing with my children. I am quite normal. I don't know how this became my life. I continued to be unaware of my situation for years.

      Until I met a wise, compassionate and powerful woman. At first my husband was excited and invited her to be a part of our lives but two months in he realized she was strong and not going to be manipulated or controlled. She was a threat to all he had done. She was standing up for the kids and I and helping me realize this was sersioysly wrong. He got angry one night after many heated/aggresssive arguments (not hitting me but the wall right next to me) and the kids and I were kicked out of our apartment. With this exceptionally caring and brave female badass, she gave me emotional support I had so desperately needed, and I was able to get back on my feet. I had to start completely over, him having kept everything and giving no finincial support.... We were Ok. Good even. It was challenging... But I was doing it and we were healing.

      It's been a year, and now he is fighting for "his rights" as a father. He has publicly humiliated me, Facebook included, and is claiming parental alienation. He has come at me in every way to bully me, threaten me, stalk me, harass me....and bring me down.

      I've been in counseling for many months now and have learned finally that we were in a mentally abusive relationship. I can't believe I DIDNT KNOW! I'll forgive myself eventually.... I'm working on it piece by piece. I've learned he hunted me and knew exactly what to do to get what he wanted.

      Sometimes, I want to find a corner and sleep for a long time. But I won't. I am dertermined and resilient for my children.

      I've saved my dimes and am battling for custody. I pray that I am heard. That I am supported. That against what he has always said, that I WILL be believed. I am going to share this expierence and more once I have full custody. No one should ever have to live this way.

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      godstruth6 

      2 years ago

      Pray and ask God if he thinks you should leave him or not and he will answer you and then lead by example all things all possible through Christ who gives me strength, just be patient and all things will work out for the good

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      Cristina Sulzener 

      2 years ago

      My husband smokes pot a lot. It makes me tired. He constantly looks me in the eye and promises he'll stop for sure "this time" but lies and goes behind my back and smokes with his co-workers and friends before he gets home. He thinks i don't know and notice this but i do. He blames his stress of work and stuff on it. But even in our best moments he goes back to smoking. How can i help him? Some recommendations? Or should i leave my husband because he won’t stop smoking? Any help would be highly appreciated

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      godstruth6 

      2 years ago

      reply: Me Too I will be praying for you and your family,Please do not give up hope, Jesus Loves You and Your Husband and Kids too, Anything is possible threw Christ who gives you strength pray with your husband so he knows how you feel, find support outside the home and stay strong peace and love to your family My husband quit after 18 years Praise God!!! :)

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      Me Too 

      2 years ago

      I know this is an old article, but I found it because I am experiencing the same thing. My husband uses marijuana pretty much every day. He vaporizes, so he thinks I don't know. I do. I know because when he hasn't used, he is irritable. He retreats outside to smoke for hours a night, neglecting me and our kids. He has lost almost all interest in sex. When we do have sex, he can't always perform. Come to find out ED is a common side effect of chronic marijuana use. He has become very detached from us. My kids can tell him about something that happened, and he doesn't hear any of it or will forget it the next day. But he claims it it not hurting anyone. It is. It hurts me and it hurts our kids.

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      godstruth6 

      2 years ago

      Attn: Kris my advice is to pray ,pray,pray and never give up hope ! :) also find yourself some family or friends who can support you because you need that right now, I will pray for you guys and Pray that God will bless your marriage :)

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      Kris 

      2 years ago

      My wife smokes weed EVERY night, our relationship is on the brink. I have tried talking to her about it, but she doesnt think there is anything wrong with it. I have tried to compromise with her and she has promised to cut back to once or twice a week but that has never happened. We havent been communicating at all, and I blame it on her addiction. I find it hard to talk to her when she is stoned so I have completely shut down. I want to get her help but its very difficult to help someone who doesnt think they have a problem. I am beyond stressed out about this.

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      godstruth6 

      2 years ago

      Praise God!!! After 18 years of heavy marijauna use my and lots and lots of prayer my husband quit his addiction!! :) We spend more time as a family , we still have our ups and downs but overall we are so much more happy, and I thank Jesus for bring him through this. So never give up hope or prayer Im living proof it works!!! :)

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      Sally 

      2 years ago

      First of all "Dan" who commented oh his regular use of smoking pot needs to crawl back under the rock he came from. My husband, soon to be ex used to smoke pot prior to our marraige. He could never hold down a job because he was always calling off or going in late. After 7 years of dating I finally had enough. He wrote me a 4 page letter professing his love and said he was done withbthe pot and hhe really was. We got married and I had to find him a job so he could contribute to our future together. This marraige lasted for 15 years. His job is stressful and when the drug became legal. Boom he was going back to his old ways. This time lying, manipulation, being a complete ass. It was like a desperation for him. Medicine he calls it. I say go for run or meditate or whatever. Prior to this he was drinking and taking anti anxiety drugs. He was even pushing me into taking meds I didn't need. I saw a different side of him. The addict. Now if he gets piss tested guess who loses their job and health insurance etc. My husband is loving and funny, but im not going to support his ass so he can play all day. It's sad but im not going to live with it. Oh and now hes smoking cigarettes as well after 10 years of quitting. I've cried and grieved over the husband I thought I knew but his pot is more important. So I guess he can slowly die from COPD and emphysema or lung cancer and when hes struggling to breathe he can cuddle with his budz or some other loser. Hope it is all worth it. For the other women dealing with this. Cry and grieve and get it out of your system. It is devastating for those of us who refuse to "accept" it. But we will prevail. God is in control and we need to focus on what God wants for us...and its not a pothead loser stoner asshole.

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      Bert 

      3 years ago

      Help me please. I cant do this on my own and despite prayers God is ne where in sight. You woyld thibk after 26 years i could do this but i cant.

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      godstruth6 

      3 years ago

      re: michelle you are not alone we all feel like we are alone at times but that is when we must reach out to talk with someone else to get help . Or pray is the most powerful thing to do it can change your life if you just trust in God and pray for whatever it is you need him to do for you :) I will pray for you as well and there is a really awesome radio station called Air One that has a website you can put prayer request in there to plus they play really positve music :) Remember Jesus does Love You and that will never change :)

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      Michelle 

      3 years ago

      Hi, in my marriage I have been battling with the issue of weed. I met my husband and he smoked it very occasional many years ago when we had no kids. Although now older not in our twenties exploring life the last 5 years has been a night mare it has become constant thing constantly rolling up 5 -8 splifs daily it driving me crazy and destroying our marriage. He always gets angry when I say anything keep being told its his thing he does I need to stay out of it then critizes me weight, snorting and fitness( reverse psycology) or makes comparisons with other guys who cheat who are doing much worst. I feel hopeless it's like I have to choose either to accept it or end our marriage. The kids no we argue about the issue of smoking but they don't know its weed (they think it Tabacco ) recently started lying as he said he was going to stop but the one night he must of missed placed it and turn our bedroom upside down. I then realised hadn't stopped and the extent of his addiction. No one to talk to as it's embarrassing feel realy alone at times. Reading the last post made me cry as it says Jesus loves me and I know this but it's so hard to deal with.

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      godstruth6 

      3 years ago

      reply to Kate :) Please reach out and get help from church groups , counsling , self help web sites , anyone, physical abuse is never ok, I was in a physically abusive relationship and I truly believe he was going to kill me one day, so please TRUST in GOD and get help don't wait, Jesus loves you and is with you every step of the way even in difficult times :) There is hope for you :)

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      kate 

      3 years ago

      husband smokes pot, when he's out of pot he is very abusive physically and mentally I don't know what to do, no one to turn to ?

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      Amber 

      4 years ago

      i want to share a testimony of my life to every one. i was married to my husband, i love him so much we have been married for 5 years now with two kids. when he went for a vacation to France he meant a lady who en charm him with her beauty, he told me that he is no longer interested in the marriage any more. i was so confuse and seeking for help, i don't know what to do until I complained to my friend and told her about my problem. she told me not to worry about it that she had a similar problem before and introduce me to a man called Dr Saibaba. who cast a spell on her ex and bring him back to her after 2days. she ask me to contact Dr Saibaba. I contacted him to help me bring back my husband and he ask me not to worry about it that the gods of his fore-fathers will fight for me. He told me by two days he will re-unite me and my husband together. After two days my husband called and told me he is coming back to sought out things with me, I was surprise when I saw him and he started crying for forgiveness and that he never knew what came upon him that he will never leave me again or the kids. Right now I am the happiest woman on earth for what this great spell caster did for me and my husband, you can contact Dr Saibaba on any problem, he is very nice, here is his contact templesaibaba@yahoo.com

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      Keisha 

      4 years ago

      Hi Selina

      you are very right i have came across this man i was in a big problem in my marital life so i contacted Priest UTILA for help two weeks ago and now my problems are over am so happy his really i great spell caster.

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      Selina 

      4 years ago

      Hello to all, I do hope my post gets read and hopefully helps somebody along the line.I’ve been married to my alcoholic husband almost 15 years now. For about 3 years, he was sober from alcohol, but turned to heavy marijuana use. During our marriage, he has cheated, been irresponsible with finances, sold drugs, grown marijuana, videoed naked girls on his cell phone, forgotten my birthday, watched a lot of porn, used my cell phone to text other women, 3 DUI’s, and accidentally burnt a sofa and rug, while drunk, as well as start a fire in the kitchen causing $1500 in damages. I cannot stand breathing the same air as him any longer. I have been alone in this marriage for so long. at this time i was confuse not knowing what to do again because i have lost my husband and my marriage too. i was just checking my mails in the office when i saw someone sharing her testimony on how the priest of UTILA temple help her to stop her husband from alcohol and marijuana so i contacted the email of priest UTILA i told him my husband problems and i was told to be calm that i have come to the right place that i should fill some information concerning my self and my husband which i did after 30 minus he called me again congratulating me that my husband problems will be solve within 48 hours. he told me what went wrong with my husband and how it happen.that they will restored my marriage but i will make a free donation to their UTILA home anything my heart told me. to my greatest surprise my husband came to my office begging me on his knees that i should find a place in my heart to forgive him i quickly ask him up that i have forgiven him. sense then my husband has been a good and caring husband to the family.friends your case is not too hard why don't you give priest UTILA a try they work surprises because i know they will also bring back your husband. contact him via ( utilasolutiontemple@gmail.com ) or ( utilamagictemple@outlook.com ) Thanks priest UTILA i will forever be grateful

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      Dan 

      4 years ago

      I have a family, make good money, and smoke pot regularly. I don't do it around my kids. Its safer than alcohol and I find it to be therapeutic. Why can't your husband smoke pot in the garage outside of the presence of your kids? Maybe you should change. By the way he probably still smokes and hides it from you. This is a classic case of someone (You) being a product of government propaganda.

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      emack 

      6 years ago from Sydney Australia

      I work with families struggling with addiction and see every week how wives, mothers and children are caught up in the toxicity. I must add though that it is the most uplifting and powerful experience to be able to travel with these families as they recover - it is possible for all to become empowered by the journey so never lose hope. Mack

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      OnixJ 

      6 years ago

      Been there done that and same as you my ex husband chose Marijuana instead of me and our (then) two year old son. I am happy now, his addiction was a cause of constant torment as I dont believe in drugs and I was very opposed to him smoking in our house just a few feet away from our baby boy. He too invited friends and he too said he was done with me because i was trying to change him. Its sad but as mothers we must think of our children first and if there is no other solution simply walk out. After the divorce he decided he didn't want to be part of my son's life either I guess is easier to just get high all day without any responsibilities. Shame on him and men like him... Please check my blog out I wrote a Book about this in the hope many other women out there don't have to suffer what women like you and me have... onixj.wordpress.com

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      ruffridyer 

      7 years ago from Dayton, ohio

      A good hub. I am glad your husband choose his family over the drugs. I wish you all the best.

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