Natasha Pelati has published three books of poetry and writes on real-life experiences with the help of psychology.
Finding out that you are pregnant is such exciting news and you cannot wait to tell everyone! Morning sickness, hot flushes, cravings and tender breasts are definite signs that you are pregnant. A pregnancy test shows you that you are positive and off to the gynaecologist you go, only to find an ultrasound showing a sac with no baby.
The doctor will do the scan externally and then will have to do an internal examination which will show the sac.... empty.
What is a Blighted Ovum/Anembryonic Pregnancy?
A blighted ovum or anembryonic pregnancy is when the fertilised egg implants into the uterus but doesn't develop into an embryo.
It is the leading cause of miscarriage or early pregnancy failure.
When a woman becomes pregnant a fertilised egg attaches itself to the uterus wall and at about five or six weeks into pregnancy an embryo should be present and the gestational sac should be about 18mm wide.
With a blighted ovum the pregnancy sac forms and grows but the embryo does not develop.
Why Does it Happen?
When you fall pregnant the placenta produces a hormone called HGC which is a pregnancy hormone. The levels can rise and should keep rising almost by double each day but with a blighted ovum your hormone levels or HGC could be low and your body might not produce enough of it for the embryo to develop.
It can happen to anyone and for most women who have had a blighted ovum, it will only happen once.
It could be due to problems with chromosomes ( the structure that carry genes) from a poor quality sperm or egg.
It may also be due to abnormal cell division and the body recognises this abnormality and so stops the pregnancy.
You cannot prevent it and it is nothing that you have done wrong. It just happens!
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Once your body has recognised that there is a problem it starts to terminate the pregnancy.
You will experience bad cramping and vaginal spotting or bleeding. As not all pregnancies end after experiencing bleeding you need to consult a doctor urgently.
Spotting in pregnancy can sometimes be normal but if it is heavy bleeding with cramps then you need to understand that you are experiencing a miscarriage. Clots or tissue-like substances discharge out of the vagina and this means that the body is getting rid of pregnancy tissue.
To avoid more emotional stress it is best to have a D and C (Dilation and Curettage) or D and E (Dilation and Evacuation) during which the gynaecologist will remove the pregnancy sac and tissue in order for you to eventually try pregnancy again.
A Dilation and Evacuation procedure is done in the second trimester of a pregnancy. A Dilation and Curettage is done before.
Don't ignore cramping and bleeding as this is a symptom of miscarriage. If you are lucky enough a blighted ovum could happen without you even knowing that you are pregnant but for most it happens up to three months into your pregnancy which is not pleasant and it is encouraged to go and have the D and E to avoid more trauma.
Having a miscarriage is something that cannot be prevented and you must know that it is not your fault.
The morning sickness and all the pregnancy symptoms will still be there for a little while but it won't last long after the procedure.
Expect to be in hospital for half a day. Once the procedure is done, you will wake up and feel the need to go to the toilet. It will be painful to urinate for about a week.
The emotional pain is worse and it will take some time to heal.
Make sure that you go back to the doctor to check that the procedure went well and get yourself back on track, physically.
Is there a Chance the Baby will Show?
Many women visit the gynaecologist at 5 weeks and he does a scan or internal ultrasound. This will show an empty sac and the gynae will know how wide the sac should be. He will then let you wait a while before you come back to have another scan in order to check for the baby in case it is hiding behind the sac. In most cases women have waited until 10 weeks and a baby has appeared and they continue to have a healthy pregnancy but most end up having a miscarriage later on in their pregnancy which could be even more devastating.
Should you have been for the scan and experienced an empty sac, have bleeding and cramps then please note that you are having a miscarriage and that the baby will not be showing up.
Don't get despondent as it can happen to anyone and it does not spoil your chance of falling pregnant in the future.
Having your gynae do the D and E is a must to ensure that all the pregnancy tissue is removed and it will also prevent infection. Do not have the miscarriage at home by yourself as chances of infection are high and emotionally not worth it.
Many websites and chat rooms will have comments to show that women who have a blighted ovum will see the baby by 10 weeks but should there be bleeding and cramps then there is no chance of it happening and the sooner you come to terms with it the better for you to move forward and try again.
Bleeding with cramps is a miscarriage.... no buts, that is what it is so don't wait.
Trying to figure out why it happened could end up driving you crazy. Go through the process, have a support team beside you and take the time to mourn and let out your sadness.
It is nothing that you have done or should have done differently and sometimes it is due to stress or it is simply not your time to be pregnant.
This does not mean that you will not be able to fall pregnant and you will have a healthy and happy pregnancy some other time.
HGC levels should rise consistently up to about 10 to 12 weeks of gestation and then they plateau or drop. This is why symptoms of pregnancy such as nausea, tender breasts happen in the first trimester.
This hormone is produced by the cells that will eventually become the placenta.
These levels usually double every 2 to 3 days with an increase of 60%.
It is detected in urine or blood.
Having a low count does not mean you will not have a healthy baby but you need to consult with your gynaecologist.
With a miscarriage or blighted ovum, the hormone levels drop or stay the same which will indicate that it is not going well.
Before you decide to have a baby, take Folic Acid and ensure that you have vitamins and minerals in your body so that you can be super healthy when you decide to try for a baby.
Taking extra care of your health and what you eat or don't eat is important to be able to carry a pregnancy.
Miscarriage and Emotions
After you have miscarried you will want to figure out why it happened, was it something that you did, didn't do or are you and your partner unable to have a baby?
STOP, STOP, STOP!!!!!
Miscarriage happens and I believe that it is the powers that be that decide if it is your time or not. There is nothing that you could possibly have done to avoid this, it just was not your time to be pregnant.
Take the time to mourn, take the time to heal physically and your emotional state will get better.
For some, it is easy and they can get back on track and go straight into trying again, whilst for others it is difficult and continuously in your mind.
To be healthy emotionally, you have got to let go of the miscarriage and concentrate on other things to keep your mind busy.
Worrying and continuously thinking about the miscarriage or pregnancy will keep the bad energy there and you will find that once you have stopped thinking about it, that is the time when you will fall pregnant.
People say that it is age and yes hormone levels drop when you get older but it has nothing to do with age.
You will feel better in a couple of months and unless you fall pregnant, it will be on your mind all the time.
A friend or family member having a baby, walking past a mom and her baby and simply seeing one in a magazine, could trigger your emotions.
To get yourself emotionally repaired, you have got to understand that it was not your fault and that you too will be a mother of a healthy child one day.
Get active, keep healthy, keep busy and leave it all in God's hands because the more you concentrate on the loss, the worse it will feel for you.
The Pill and Health for Pregnancy
Being on the Pill is not healthy if you are on it for too long. Avoid Yasmin and find something that is not too strong. (You need to ask a doctor for the best one.)
If you have been on the pill for a long time then take a break from it.
Keep yourself fit and healthy, even if you just go for a walk everyday, just to keep the heart pumping well.
Eat nutritious food and avoid alcohol, cigarettes and don't forget to have your folic acid and pregnancy vitamins before you become pregnant.
If you have had a miscarriage then have a half a disprin every day until your doctor tells you not to.
You have got to be stress free when you are pregnant and you have to take the time to relax.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.
Questions & Answers
Question: Greetings, after 7weeks of pregnancy, I went to do my scan and was told no fetal node was demonstrated. I visited again at week 8,same report, but I am still having the symptoms of pregnancy. No blood discharged and still feel okay. Please what should I do?
Answer: Are you certain that you are 7 or 8 weeks? Perhaps you are only 5 weeks and in that case, you might not see a Sac yet. Unfortunately if you are 7 or 8 weeks and there is no sign of a fetal pole then it usually means that you have experienced a missed miscarriage. Blood will only happen in the next period. If you feel that you are still pregnant then hang on until your periods and if they do not happen go back to your doctor.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on August 11, 2019:
Thank you for the positive comments. I am so sorry to hear about what you are going through. Usually if there is cramping then it is not a good sign. You should go to your gynae immediately. How many miscarriages have you had? Do you have any kids?
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on August 11, 2019:
I think you have not read the entire article. There are causes for miscarriage and sometimes it just happens because your body and mind are not ready. People who have suffered a miscarriage should clear their minds to avoid years of frustration in trying to fall pregnant.
Jess on August 11, 2019:
I am reading that a lot of people think this is judgmental but I am on my second BO as we speak and just waiting now for the miscarriage signs to go and have a D&C but I really don’t think it is judgmental at all. I had brown discharge both times, I believe that is a bad sign. I have had severe cramping for about 4 hours yesterday and super light brown discharge but all stopped yesterday. I am very confused but at least this post is blunt and about the facts and not sugar coated to give someone false hope and I appreciate that.
Megan on August 10, 2019:
I don't agree with what this article says about finding a reason for the miscarriage. In some cases, it doesn't just happen because of chromosomal abnormalities. Sometimes, there are serious conditions that cause this like blood clotting disorders and if you don't figure it out, this will likely continue to happen. So if you are someone going through this, be your own advocate. If you feel like there could be a reason for it, ask your doctors to test things. Don't feel like you have to settle for no answer. ESPECIALLY, if you have miscarried more than once. I am SICK of people telling me it was just the luck of the draw. I finally pushed for a full blood clotting panel and sure enough, I was right! There IS a reason for my miscarriages.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on January 02, 2019:
Rahel on December 30, 2018:
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on December 08, 2018:
This is not a judgemental article and it is actually about a blighted ovum. The article is based on experience and not forced on anyone. It is for people who would like to talk about it and those who need information on what is happening to their bodies.
Kat on December 08, 2018:
Your article is judgemental, which may lead to wrong decisions made by some patients, especially the ones don't have miscarriage or similar experience. Every pregnancy is different, please seek professional opinions from your doctor, please please ignore this article, because if you do, you may make serious wrong decisions.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on December 06, 2018:
Busi thank you for sharing and I am so sorry. Please do go to the doctor and have a check up as well. A bath in Epsom salts will clean you out but you do need to go to a doctor. Light brown blood is usually the end of it.
Busie on December 06, 2018:
Well I had a blighted ovum...then I allowed it to burst on its own ...I bleed for four days and clotting aswel ...stopped bleeding for about 2 weeks and now am bleeding but brown and comes with tiny clots n a bad odour..to me I end showering 4-5 times a day
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on November 30, 2018:
Mahi, it might be a blighted ovum but you need to check with your doctor. Whatever happens just be positive
Mahi on November 30, 2018:
I'm 5-1/2 week pregnant but no yolk no sac seen in ultrasound.m really upset...
Sunny D on November 10, 2018:
Couldn't agree more...."This article is judgemental, unhelpful and the author forces her experience and her views upon the reader rather than simply sharing her experience and reassuring them. I would urge people struggling with similar issues to visit forums instead. She uses phrases like your body will and you should which are wholly unhelpful for woman going through miscarriage or pregnancy issues, which can and do, vary in all women. "
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on September 12, 2018:
Hi Shawna so sorry to hear you have been through this, its an awful experience. Im praying for you and I am sure everything will go well with this pregnancy.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on May 13, 2018:
I am not forcing anything onto anyone, nor am I forcing religion.
These articles are written through experience and I do not,although I have need to research.
In fact, I am able to say thank you for having gone through miscarriages to have delivered a beautiful and healthy baby.
Naturally if you feel the info is forced upon the reader than you should understand that this is all through experience and what has worked and what should be avoided.
NanDrew82 on May 13, 2018:
This article is judgemental, unhelpful and the author forces her experience and her views upon the reader rather than simply sharing her experience and reassuring them. I would urge people struggling with similar issues to visit forums instead. She uses phrases like your body will and you should which are wholly unhelpful for woman going through miscarriage or pregnancy issues, which can and do, vary in all women. Similarly the treatment options for missed miscarriages vary from expectant management, medical management and surgical management. The choice is up to the inidividual and no choice is wrong. Speak to your Dr, partner and loved ones, seek advice from women who have gone through this by all means, but please ignore the ones who try to influence YOUR decision, like this lady. Their agenda is to force their opinion and views on others, not support and comfort you. It shouldn’t then come as a surprise that she then tries to force her religious views upon the reader. A very disappointing article that I worry will offer judgment and criticism to those of us going through this rather than solace and hope. The author also claims to use Psychology in her writing and poetry. As a qualified psychologist, I urge her to do more research into the field. She should also highlight that different options vary depending upon what county/area you are in. In the UK surgical management remains just one of the options up to 24 weeks, not 12, depending of course upon the individual situation.
- on October 25, 2017:
This post is irresponsible. Speak with a trusted doctor before deciding what miscarriage option is right for you.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on June 06, 2016:
I am not encouraging a D&C but your doctor will make decisions for you. It is often required to do especially after 12weeks as you do not always pass everything and often parts of the placenta stay behind which could affect your next pregnancy. I have extensive knowledge on this topic and my research is 100% accurate especially considering I have been through this too and if you think passing it at home is for you then the dark ages is where you should be living
tashaonthetown on June 06, 2016:
I have extensive knowledge about this thank you or I would not be writing about it. I am not encouraging a D&C but it is often necessary as when you pass on your own it is not guaranteed that everything has come out, especially after 12 weeks and this could cause further problems in the future especially in the placenta. Your doctor will know what to do and will make the decision for you. The risk is higher for passing it yourself without ensuring that every bit of tissue is out and sometimes pieces of the placenta stay behind which leads to another miscarriage.
Nichole on June 04, 2016:
Also I think it's very irresponsible for you to TELL someone to have a D&C without knowing their medical background or having any medical background of your own. A D&C carries risks as well such as a uteran perforation, infection, and Asherman's Syndrome (scar tissue that causes infertility). I know a miscarriage is traumatic, I've experienced it first hand, but please do not advise women one way or another without any REAL knowledge. You are going to grieve your loss of pregnancy no matter what form you do.
Nichole on June 04, 2016:
I'm not quite sure where you got all your information from but you CAN pass a blighted ovum without a D&C. I just passed mine almost 12 weeks. I started spotting brown discharge at 11 weeks and fully passed about 5 days later. It was painful and awful, but I was able to pass it on my own. Your doctor will know what is best for your individual situation. Some women may not be able to pass but some women can. It's a choice to be made between the women, her significant other, and her doctor. Please make sure you do all your research before making a decision about a D&C. There are risks to every miscarriage.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on September 22, 2015:
8 weeks is sometimes a little too soon to see the baby, wait for your three month scan that will show baby. A cyst does not usually effect you or the baby. Sometimes it just happens that one out of each pregnancy is different to the others, hang in there and we will pray that it all goes well.
joelia on September 19, 2015:
Yes I'm 8wks pregnant I have cyst on my ovaries and they can't see the baby yet, but they saidy yolk sac looks normal so is it buzz of the cyst I can't see baby yet. I have 3older healthy kids why is this one different I'm 39 yes old
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on May 10, 2015:
Just keep your faith and be strong. Your first scan should be at 3 months pregnant because you might be able to see something then. If you have had no bleeding then it might still be possible that the baby is not yet visible on the scan.
phumie on May 06, 2015:
I'm going through the same thing,8weeks pregnant no baby only an empty sac ,I'm going again after 2weeks for another scan ,I feel so helpless and confused
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on April 28, 2015:
Put your life in the hands of God, he will lead the way and if something is meant to be then it will happen for you. Keep healthy stay away from cigarettes, alcohol and drugs, eat lots of fruit and vegetables and you will have no problem falling pregnant again. Also get yourself preg omega tablets and take those daily
jelena on April 27, 2015:
I have missed ab yesterday....i m so engry by my self and :(... I hope that i will be a mom
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on January 18, 2015:
Houng - thank you for your comments, however again I cannot publish them as some of the content would be hurtful to women who are reading this article after experiencing the trauma. I think there is confusion here as having a d&c because you are experiencing a miscarriage is not a choice that a women who is excited about falling pregant wants to make. This is not about abortion but about miscarriage and believe me for the women who have experienced this, abortion is not something that they would agree with.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on January 13, 2015:
Sakipi - unfortunately I cannot reprint your comments but I am replying as there are many of us that feel the same way. This blog is about the loss of a pregnancy not out of choice! It is something that just happens and it is a very traumatic experience. I understand how you must feel but do not give up hope and keep your faith as if it is written in a plan for you then it will happen. Stress and worrying about conceiving can just delay the process, so relax, enjoy life and it might work out in your favour.
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on January 06, 2015:
Valerie I am so sorry to hear that and it is a very confusing and emotional thing to go through but you will get through it and it will get easier to live with. Go for the d&c purely because it is less traumatic for you. After the miscarriage you will feel depressed and emotional but you need to understand that it is nothing that you did wrong and there is nothing wrong with you, it just wasn't the right time. Cry, mourn and let it all out, give yourself room to feel the loss but not too much time because the longer you feel bad the longer it will take to fall pregnant again.
valerie on December 31, 2014:
I was recently was diagnosed with a blighted ovum. I am scared and confused. They told me i had a choice if the pills ,wait for a miscarriage or a d&c. I am so deeply depressed about this. How can any one live through this?
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on April 25, 2014:
If she has had a scan then the doc will be able to see what is going on.
Pray everything is fine as it does sometimes happen that the baby is hiding. She should go for a scan and check.
firstname.lastname@example.org on April 25, 2014:
My sister is 7 weeks but no heartbeat no baby , I just hope next week there's a baby there .
Natasha Pelati (author) from South Africa on April 10, 2014:
Yes it is a common problem
rose de vico on April 10, 2014:
Had never heard of it before..and the reasons....thank you.