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Breasts Tender Before Missed Period: Early Pregnancy Sign?

Updated on April 20, 2016

Are You Pregnant?

The timing and type of pregnancy symptoms varies from woman to woman, but there are many common signs. These can include morning sickness, headache, bloating, and of course missed period. However, even before all that, many women experience breast tenderness or pain.

Is Breast Tenderness the First Sign of Pregnancy?

For many women, breast tenderness occurs long before a missed period or any other sign of pregnancy. Breasts may feel a little tender to the touch and even some bras or supportive tank tops can cause discomfort. Because tender breasts is also a sign of getting your period, a lot of times this early sign of pregnancy goes unnoticed.

All kinds of exercise may be painful, and depending on your breast size small movement like walking up stairs may be uncomfortable without a supportive bra. Some pregnant women are unable to sleep on their stomachs. If you have nipple tenderness, ask your partner not to touch them since breasts are especially tender during sex. Breast tenderness is an annoying, and possibly painful, but normal part of pregnancy.

Why Are Breasts Sore During Pregnancy?

Your body is going through a lot of changes during pregnancy, and your breasts are getting ready to feed your baby. Breast growth and development often leads to swelling and soreness. The tenderness may also be caused by an increase in estrogen and progesterone during pregnancy, which causes blood to rush to your breasts. As milk ducts and milk-producing cells develop, tissue will grow and change shape. You also start to get more layers of fat underneath the breast tissue that contributes to the increase in size.

Common Breast Changes During Pregnancy

Every woman's body reacts differently, but here are some common changes you can expect in your breasts throughout pregnancy:

  • Veins become visible
  • Increase in size by up to two cup sizes
  • Tingling, throbbing, or burning sensation
  • Increased nipple tenderness
  • Itchiness
  • Heaviness
  • More sensation during intercourse

Taking Care of Tender Breasts

Here are a few ways to stay comfortable:

  • Wear natural fiber (cotton) bras
  • Have bras professionally fit
  • Avoid underwire
  • Get a good supportive bra for exercise
  • Soak in a warm bath
  • Consider sleeping in a bra
  • Apply a cool cloth to hot or throbbing breasts

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  • Lulz85 3 years ago


    I am now 3 days overdue for my period, but my last period was late 4 days. We are TTC and have been for last 2 months. Unfortunately, last month wasn't our month, I did get mildly nauseous prior to my period and experienced more fatigue than normal. However, this month my breasts seem to have grown and are really tender, haven't noticed much difference with my nipples. I do find myself waking up during the night and having trouble falling back asleep, which is never an issue=) I do have very mild nauseous epsiodes, but no vomits. Could I be pregnant? I haven't taken a test yet hoping to hold it off till at least till my period is past 4 days late.

  • MrsMiller2012 3 years ago

    11 days ago was my "o" day. I'm am 21 and married. We have been trying for a while now. And now I have been having very sharp pains in my breasts. It feels like they are being ripped off.. and I have had weird pains in my pelvis along with my lower back also tired and hungry more. I have two days til I am supposed to start my next period and I took a test this morning but it said not pregnant. I have read the booklet and a lot of information online and talked to a family member who is a nurse. And I am now waiting to see if I miss my period even though I can't go by that with the information I was given. How much of a chance do I have at being pregnant with most of the signs?

  • Milo31 5 years ago

    I know that everyone is different and will not have the same symptoms. Sometimes it's just nice to put it all out there with women who are in the same boat. My husband and I have been TTC for 8 months now. Of course, I have taken several test out of hope for a positive over the time. The past week to two weeks I have been experiencing extremely sore breast, nipples seem to stay hard, and I can't find motivation when I get home in evening. I have been a very active person and normally work out when I get home from work, but the past week to two weeks I have just wanted to lay on the couch and/or go to bed. I am not due to start my period for about another 4 days. I am hoping and praying that we are pregnant this time. I just have tried to not get to worked up about it. The things I am experiencing are new for me. My breast normally don't become sore until the day I start my period and nothing like how they are now. I mean even when my arm rubs across them while moving around for everyday life it hurts. I am going to try to hold off until I am at least a week late to test. Good luck to everyone that is TTC.

  • canihelp 5 years ago

    Sometimes our bodies can confuse us; we get all the signs of being pregnant, missed periods and negative pregnancy tests. And sometimes these are all signs of a hormonal imbalance.

    When us ladies have an imbalance it WILL make us feel tired, get sore breasts, have pelvic pain and maybe even feel sick….. This can happen even if you have just finished a period or still waiting 2 weeks for one.

    If you continue experiencing these “pregnancy” symptoms your feeling, with on-going negative pregnancy tests, and an absence of bleeding for over 2 weeks, then going to your GP and suggesting a hormone blood test could be of great advantage to you.

  • Teag 5 years ago

    Okay, so... I'm not having tenderness in my breasts at all, like a lot of these articles that I read online. Ninety percent of the time I'd probably forget that my boobs are there if I didn't have to look at them. But about two to three weeks ago, my boyfriend and I had unprotected sex, and early last week I felt mild fatigue (though I had plenty of sleep the night before), and then for a couple days, I was feeling cramping, but it subsided yesterday... it was very short lived, but there were a couple times throughout both days where I felt a tiny bit of mild cramping. I was expecting my period last Monday, still have no signs of it, so probably last Thursday I took a pregnancy test, but it came back negative... I really haven't been showing any other signs that I could be, but is there a possibility that I'm pregnant? Are most women the same when it comes to what symptoms they show and my body's just retarded? Curious...

  • danielle18 5 years ago

    so i am 17 fixing to turn 18 it was my first time his 2 and we used protection but for the past week i have had extremely sore breat tingling and burning and my right side bigger than my left naueia and i am a small back ace and vomiting headaces that i normully don't have they last all day!! and i had my last period at the beginning of the month but it was an odd one and i took a pregnacy test 2 days ago and it said negative im not sopposed to start until the 7th is it 2 early to test

  • *Alicia* 5 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have been trying to get pregnant for the last 2 months now, no luck at all.. But now I have sore & itchy breats & also experiencing pain in my pelvic area, but im expecting my period in 8 days.. I bought a home pregnancy test yesterday, took it this morning, but it was negative.. The last time I got my period was August 3rd for 4 days, then again on August 30th for 3 days.. And the bleeding was extremely light.. I don't know what to do.. Should I just wait for my period to come & then take another home pregnancy test 2 weeks after my period is over? Somebody please help me! Extremely lost & confused.. Don't know how to react.. Im very impatient & eager to know..

  • amyx 5 years ago

    hi by brests and nipples are sooo sore!!im due on my period in 5 days but i never get sore brests wen im due my period iv been getting cramping an been getting lower back pain me and my partner had sex wen i was ovulating figers crossed im preg . i did a preg test a few days ago but was neg think it was a bit 2 early but i want to no !!

  • Kam 5 years ago

    Hi, I had my first child 16 months ago I'm now 20 years old me and my partner of 30 years are ttc and have been for 10 months but nothing seems to be happening I monitor every as we want this so bad but maybe we are trying to hard :/ but this month iv been A lot more emotional than usual my period is due tomorrow but for the past 3 days my nipples have been feeling a little sore which again doesn't happen before my period is due and iv been getting cramping pains more than all this tho I just don't have any motivation whatsoever $6. Could you let me know what you think and finally could I be pregnant for the 2nd time... I really hope so as iv started to feel depressed with nothing happening. Please I pray to god my luck is in also everyone in my shoes GoodLuck and please leave your opinions on my symptoms :D x

  • rosie 5 years ago

    Hi Im rosie ihave been trying to conceive 4 1 yr. No luck. I have had painful boobs and sharp pain like cramps. Due on 24 sept.really hope I am as anyone had this and been pregnant.please someone write backx

  • Rykersmomma 5 years ago

    Kay, a sports bra has helped me a bunch and beleive it or not some ice or something cold helped me a lot. If u hear of anything else let me know :) and congrats!!!

  • rykersmomma 5 years ago

    I had my first son july in 2010. My significant other and I have been trying for 2 months and believe I'm pregnant. My period is supposed to start in four days. Guess we will find out. The first pregnancy I had I didn't have any symptoms till I was six weeks pregnant. The only sign I had was a yeast infection, which was the very first one I had in my lifetime. This time my breasts and nipples are really sore , and once again my second breasts have bright blue veins as welll. I just want everyone to know that it is possible u may be pregnant after a missed period even if a home urine test says negetive. On my first pregnancy I was 2 weeks past my period had took three home preg test and were all negetive till exactly two weeks off my period. GOOD LUCK everyone!!!

  • Kay 5 years ago

    I am 40 yrs old. Late about 3 days..took test was possitive.boobs r killing me. Anyone got home remedy for that?

  • Poppet 5 years ago

    I have PCOS and have been on metformin for 2 years. This has now regulated me to a 28 to 30 day cycle. I'm now 40 days and no period. 4 hpts come back negative, but have major mood swings, sore boobies, and just generally feel uncomfortable. Could I still be pregnant (hopefully) despite the numerous negative tests??

  • mama 5 years ago

    Lindsay, Fluffy, other young ladies in high school, please go to Planned Parenthood and get on the pill. Not judging at all, just common sense if you are not ready for being a parent. You found this site, look up theirs. They will also have condoms there - guys should wear one or else you should refuse to sleep with them. If they don't happen to have any, how thankful they will be when you provide one. You're still young and will probably have other partners so you don't want to get stds. And ladies who are asking if they are preg - I know the tests they sell at the drugstore are expensive but they do work - the day you are expecting your period. you can order preg tests cheaper online also if you are trying. the product name will not show up anywhere visible. best of luck everyone! now back to my sore boobies.

  • Ashley 5 years ago

    I have been on BC for 9 years, just this december i got off,and my periods have never been regular off the pill almost 56 day, my husband and i have been trying this past month, i don't know when i ovulate, put think i was ovulatining on sept 2 we had sex on the 29 of august and sept 5th so 5dpo and 3 days after, i took a test last week and this week and both nagative, but my boobs are killing me my nipples burn and i feel hot a lot, if my cycle is 56 then my period wont be here till sept 24th, could i be pregant, i want it so bad im worried its all in my head, please let me know how you feel thanks

  • Lindsay 5 years ago

    Fluffy -- I swear you just took the words out of my head.. I am 18 and in the same situation and me and my boyfriend use pull out.. I know not the best thing.. but I want to know also

  • michaelle 5 years ago

    I had unprotected sex on day 12 of my period and I always have a regular period so I emulate on day 14, my husband didn't ejaculated in me but we think some might have gotten in me.. today is the end of day 14 (possible ovulatio) and I'm having a slight burning sensation and they hurt when I touch them in both breast.. can I really feel that this early if I am pregnant?

  • sharee 5 years ago

    Even if he pulls out, most of the sperm come out in the first of the semen and precum carries sperm too. Even if your on the pill using protection is a good idea too because it takes a while for your body to register the pill and when you take antibiotics it cancels out the pill. Just be careful and good luck.

  • Fluffy 5 years ago

    Alright, so for starters, I'm a seventeen year old female who's been having unprotected sex for about three weeks now. I am certainly not ready for a child, and am very worried. For the past few days I've been having some breast soreness, which I always do about a week and a half before my period, but this just feels too early. We did have sex on a few of the days I might have been ovulating, but he always pulled out. Maybe I'm just being paranoid, or thinking that unprotected sex is an automatic pregnancy, but my mind is telling me that I am. Please, if you have any advice let me know. And also, please save any lectures. I know unprotected sex at my age is dumb, and I'm going on the pill. I'm just praying that it's not too late.

  • Martine 5 years ago

    Period not due for another week, been trying for nearly a year, breasts really sore, tired sore back cramps and discharge, feeling queasy this morning but negative test! Scared because I think I'm trying to convince myself in pregnant!! However I do feel it! Stupid I know!

  • slimgoodie 5 years ago

    my breast have been sore for a couple of days now and i should be coming on in about a week , but i no im not pregnant. please help

  • honeysta 5 years ago

    Okay after reading all of the posts I believe that I maybe pregnant but I need help I have a wonderful 13 year old daughter I had her when I was 21 I feel very blessed to have had her when I did.......That being said I am now 33 my boyfriend is 39 he has been a diabetic since he was 7 he has been told he has a low sperm count because of this. I am about a week from my period and my breasts are super SORE and have been for about a week. Every morning for 5 days when I first get up I feel like I'm going to vomit I have heartburn SUPER bad, and now as of today I have some cramping not a lot but its there. It has been a long time sense I have been pregnant I had a m/c when my daughter was 2 and I haven't been able to get pregnant since. Someone please help me figure this out if you can!!! Thanks

  • Jk 5 years ago

    Just because you are married does not mean you will last forever. That's a really shallow point of view. I know people that have been together for 25 years have 3 kids and are extremely happy. Get with the times, as long as you are in a committed relationship that's all that matters. These days a wedding ring doesn't seem to mean much, it's easy to get a divorce. Stop judging people and worry about your own relationships. I personally am happily married but it makes me so angry that people feel they have the right to tell other people how to live their life!!! As long as there is love that is all that matters!

  • Jasmine 5 years ago

    I would totally have to agree with prochoice so many of you young girls are trying to get pregnant out of wedlock and its honestly the best idea to wait...for the longest time I wanted to have a baby before I got married but I'm glad I waited because now I can have a baby with someone I know I will be with the rest of my life...and I know I will be with him forever because God is the center of our relationship :)

  • honey 5 years ago

    hey thanks a lot for replying. :)

  • kuri 5 years ago

    Honey, I seriously doubt it. 4 tests and a period equal not pregnant. You're probably gaining weight because you're eating more to deal with stress. Also, remember your own statement of "i am too young to handle this" the next time you go have unprotected sex...If you're too young to handle a baby you should be taking every precaution not to have one.

  • honey 5 years ago

    we didn't have a full intercourse but suspect of precum getting inside me. it happened in july and i had my periods in august but m feeling breast sore on the right top portion of the breast. i took urine test four times and it all turned out to be negative. i am not even having any vaginal discharges. they r most of the time dry. i seem to gaining weight. can i be pregnant???

    plz help. i am too young to handle this

  • Interested 5 years ago

    To those who ask questions: please let this thread know your eventual results.... Thanks!

  • J.d 5 years ago

    Yeah those symptoms are what I had.. Trust me it will all fall in to place good luck Xxxx

  • ola 5 years ago

    thanks every one.It does not really matter if someone is responding or not i have learnt a lot here. I'll put us all in my prayer. there is nothing impossible with God.

  • Maria 5 years ago

    J.d what were your symptoms, I'm a day late for my period, and I've been getting twinges in my abdomen all day, little shooting pains. Also my boobs are still sore, this usually stops a few days before my af. Oh, and congratulations of course!! :) x

  • J.d 5 years ago

    See your doctor and get a blood test.. That's what I did and I had conceived.. Try not to stress and worry yourself it's hard not to, but if you are pregnant you don't want to stress them baby too.. Also do you have any lower abdominal pain..?? Good luck xx

  • liza 5 years ago

    I've been looking all over the net trying to find more recent posts!!thank God I found 1!!

    My question is today I am a week late I took a pregnancy test yesterday and it was negative.does it matter if I took it in the afternoon I forced my per and a small amount of clear pee came out.I've had sore breasts for 2 days now w/ no period!nothing else out of the mind is set that I'm not pregnant I don't want to get my hopes up like I always is the 24th of may we have 1 more week left in the month idk what to do!!:( can someone please answer my questions??:(

  • J.d 5 years ago

    I'm pregnant

  • J.d 5 years ago

    Hi I had an implanon removed over a month ago, me and my partner are trying to conceive... Since then I have had multiple hpt and no luck, but it gets better, my breast are as tender and sore as ever, I have been nausea and eating excessive amounts of food, I had a miscarriage 4 years ago, and I am worried I may have another,I really want a baby, I have been getting lower abdominal pain in my left.. What do I do.. Me and my partner are really wanting a baby... Please help

  • Mandi 5 years ago

    Can anyone help? I'm due on my period in a few days but today have had a few drops of pinkish discharge only when I wipe, then later on tonight I wiped and got nothing at all, I am cramping a bit.. Is this implantation? I sure hope so!!! Help ladies!??? Xx

  • bunny_loo 5 years ago

    so anyway, im 18, turned that 2 months ago,

    when i was 16 i feel pregnant, and i felt like i got forsed into gettin an abortion by my mum, even tho she never actually told me to do it, she jus made it seem like it was my only choice, i confided with my sister (18 at the time) who was also pregnant, after gettin my abortion, she anounced that she was pregnant and my family where over joyed, i felt pushed out, and when i see my baby nephew, it kills me a bit inside knowing that i could have a happy baby smiling at me,


    but anyway ever since then i i have

  • Rach 5 years ago

    Sceptical: let us know the outcome :0)

  • Lulu x 5 years ago

    Hi everyone, I'm just hoping someone will reply to me..

    Me and my boyfriend have been trying for our first little one for a year with no luck, I am 20 and he is 10 years older than me, and yes before anyone says anything we are in a long term relationship, and really want this! I have symptoms every month (my mind must be playing tricks on me)! We always time it right, can anyone suggest anything? Starting to feel down, trying not to think/plan too much as I know the stress won't help, but it seems nothing does! Baby dust to all Reading this, fingers crossed everyone gets that bfp!

    Lola x x :) please reply! X

  • Kallie 5 years ago

    So my boyfriend and I have been having unprotected sex for the past year and half. I do not have a period. I haven't had one for three years. In November I had a breast reduction and seemed mostly healed. A mOnth ago I started having frequent urination and weight gain now I have raised red bumps on my nIpple and they are sore I also am having bad lower back aches and cramps in my stomach. I took a take home test but it said negative. any suggestions?

  • sceptical 5 years ago

    I'm trying to find out if this is a possible sign of pregnancy, it's too early to test and the waiting is killing me, I feel like I might be pregnant (and REALLY want to be) but I've thought that a few times before and never was, but this time, my breasts started hurting, a Lot, two weeks before my period is due and a day or two after my ovulation, has lasted over a week now, but on top of the soreness in my breasts, I seem to have all but lost sensation in my nipples. Everything I've read said sore, sensitive nipples is a sign, but I can't seem to find anything about no feeling in them. I don't want to get my hopes up, because every time I thought I was pregnant before, I wasn't, but this feels different...

  • aubby 5 years ago

    i have a question. i just had a baby 3 months ago, my boobs are very tender. (i had unprotected sex when i was fertile) can i be pregnant or can my boobs just hurt because i had a baby

  • Sarah27 5 years ago

    I am 27 and have a very happy 5 year old boy for another man other than my current man, who I will be married to this August :). I never let my son met this man until he decided he wanted to spend the rest of his life with us and I knew he would not hurt my little boy. We are currently trying to get pregnant and I am on CD 49 and 35Dpo. I took a pg test on April 16th, two days after AF was due, and got a negative :( I am too afraid to test again. I have had tender nipples, mainly on the left breast, like someone is pinching them and have been waking during the night to go tinkle. Strange for me. At 9Dpo I started having minor cramping which lasted until the 18th. I have been tired and a little moody. Most months my breast become tender a week before aunt flow is due and I get really depressed a day before she arrives. I have been checking my cervix, in hopes that it will help me learn more about my cycle. Right now it is fairly high and soft like relaxed lips. I am telling you all this in hopes that it will help you understand your own bodies. I have found that only a positive pg test will confirm any pregnancy, but a person is always aloud to think and hope.

    As for the ladies on here who are talking about abortions, being sexually active at young ages, and being married or not, it's really none of our busy. Just try to know all the details before you choose to bring a child into this world.

    It is extremely hard being a single parent with or without help. Unfortunately, marriage doesn't mean as much as it did when our grandparents were growing up and if you and your man are fighting or have intense moments were you find it hard to speak your minds, maybe you should work on that before becoming pregnant or giving birth.

    I wish everyone the best of luck with whatever situation you are in and hope to post later that I am pregnant for the man who seems to be specially made for me and our son.

  • Marine Wife 5 years ago

    Rebecca, congrats!! I recently found out I too have a tilted uterus. Also another tidbit to all of u trying. To the ones that wrote about having sex everyday, u actually stand more of a chance if u have sex every OTHER day or every TWO days.

  • Maribel 5 years ago

    Hhhmmm thanks for sharing!

  • Rebecca 5 years ago

    I have major advise for all you ladies trying to become pregnant. First some back round information. My husband and I have been trying since July 2010 to become pregnant and finally, 10 months later we became pregnant, I think I am 5 weeks but my doctor thinks it may be twins or around 8 weeks so I am having an ultra sound next month to find out. Anyway! I finnaly found out after 8 months of trying that my uterouse was tilted slightly back. So that is something you should get checked for, the positioning of your uterous. At the beginning of our ninth month mother told me her uterous was the same and the only way to get pregnant is with a pillow under your bum. So, find a really big and hard pillow, it can be soft or smal or it won't tilt you enough. It will be awkward for your husband to position himself but he will figure it out. It worked!! Hope this trick work fo all whom are trying!

  • Marine Wife 5 years ago

    Wow, I never realized there we're so many women in the same boat as my husband and I. We have been trying for 8 months now and like many when I get my hopes up, its either a negative test or my period comes. I'm four days late as of today but I'm not too excited as I've read early pregnancy symptoms and period symptoms are so similar. To all of u mommies out there, u are truly blessed. And to everyone trying, good luck!!!! :)

  • IDK 5 years ago

    Like some of the other ladies I have extreme nipple tenderness. My breast really don't hurt its just the nipples. In March my breast hurt so bad that the pressure of my bra put me in so much pain. I am experiencing the same things now! Since February I have been experiencing nausea but my period has come every month there after. I did have unprotected sex in January but like 28 hours after, my period came on but it only lasted 3 days (usually 5-7). I have taken a prego test in March and it was negative. I don't think that I am pregnant but I cannot explain the extreme nipple tenderness. Does anyone have any suggestions?

  • mom2three 5 years ago

    WoW!!! I hope to goodness after reading all I have read in here that if my daughters ever have some of the problems the young girls on here are having that they are comfortable enough to come and talk to me. I have one Bio daughter and one 13 full time stepdaughter. And one full time 9 year old dull time stepson... my husband and I have no children togather and I have come off my iud as of two months ago. I soon bad would love to have another child but have had two eptopics. This month I am supposed to start on April 28. I have had soar breasts for a week and a half feeling some naysayers at night felling tired. But around the 13 of April I started having a pinching feeling in my uterus. That was different. I am now having some light cramping and the pinching has stopped as of a few days ago.. well I know one lady wrote no one answers on here but I am truly. Hoping. Someone will. Does it sound like pregnancy it has been 10 years since I got pregnate so having a hard time remembering all the feelings.. please tell me your thoughts. I am hopeful that we may me blessed with a pregnancy. And I hope that for all of you ladies who are wanting the same.

  • Ginger 5 years ago

    Great article.

  • Laura 5 years ago

    Blue bell if you took a test last week when you missed a period then it the hcg levels may have not been enough to be detected by the test, if your a week late now you should take another test!!! Good luck, let us know whether it was positive or not! X

  • blue bell 5 years ago

    Hya every1 im a week late 2day and getting a lot of cramping today could i be comin on ive taken a test a week ago and it woz negative dya think i shud do anuva test in a week or so c if im pregnant or nt ? PLZ help !!!!!!! oh btw me and my fiancé have been trying for jus over a year now

  • Sarah 5 years ago

    I agree completely that it is better nowadays to have children younger and if you are in love and want a child together why not if you are in the position to do so. We desperately want our child, but having really strong pregnancy symptoms this month that I have ne'er experienced before and still yet another bfn this morning, I am starting to get worried that either there is something wrong with me(I'm 20) or something wrong with my fiancées sperm. As he likes to hve a social drink and always has! We have been trying or a year, I know we should stop obsessing but it's very hard!!!! Good luck to all you girls ttc! Fingers crossed for you all! :) .... Sarah

  • unknown 5 years ago

    to ProChoice i don't think that it really matters if you are married or not and who is to judge any one i under stand you can say what you want but i think that if you are married and your husband is cheating or abusin you it just makes it worse just because you are not married don't mean that you are going to be a single mom you can be a single mom even if you are married all men are the same weather they are married or just a boyfriend they are still going to do what ever they want and it is going to be harder if you are married because then you have to go and have a lot more problems through the court yeah i agree that if you are young wait tell you are married or anything else but now days it is better to be 20 and have a kid and not 30 or 35 there are to many heath risks when you are older but don't do it unless you are ready if you don't think you can do it then don't even try it my opinion

  • ProChoice 5 years ago

    It is amazing to me how many of these girls are sayn they are trying to get pregnant by their boyfriend. True a man can do you wrong whether you're married or not. But at least you have some type of security and commitment with a wedding ring. This is why we have so many "baby daddies" and broken homes because we think having a baby will make him stay or love you more. If he is your 'fiance' and he wants a baby but doesn't want to make you his wife first, something to think about. Do you "fiancees" have a date set for the wedding? If not, then chances are you will keep that "fiancée" title for eternity or until he gets ready to leave you-whichever comes first. Can you afford to bring a baby into this world? Have you finished school? Having a baby (yes I am speaking from experience) changes EVERYTHING in your life. Everyone will be happy for you but no one will be there for you to babysit when you just want to get some sleep, or just make a quick run to the store in the cold and rain, or just soak in the tub, or go to the salon or nail spa or party all weekend with your girls. While you little girls are googling "pregnancy symptoms", try googling "inactive (absent) fathers and the effects on children". We are so selfish these days that we don't stop to think about the long term effects of raising a child in a single parent household. Every child deserves to be raised in a loving two-family home. Of course single parenting is possible, but it is not easy. And if you are not married and pregnant, chances that you will be a single parent increase drastically. I'm not judging but I am offering some advice that I wish someone had given to me. Of course my boyfriend and I were "in love" when we conceived but unfortunately life happens and we cannot control other people and the choices they make. I never thought he would leave five years later. Having to look at your child's sad face when they receive letdown after letdown is no fun. People are still growing up and not really knowing what they want, desires change, and the possibility is strong that they will no longer desire to be with you. And you are left to raise (or have your parent(s) unfairly raising) a child that you had out of poor judgment. If you are young, I encourage you, please finish school, go to college, travel, have fun because having a baby will make some of that very difficult if not impossible.

  • Just ME 5 years ago

    Well I would say to all you ladies trying don't give up! YOu can have many symptoms and not be pregnant. The only was of know is by taking a test. I am in the same boat with breast tenderness and just not feeling right. I will be taking a test soon. I have a feeling that I am but who knows. As far as the girl that got an abortion I do not agree with it at all however, I must say that I would much rather that a child be aborted than be in a family that does not want him or put in the system for adoption. Too many people adopt overseas instead of on our own home front. this is just my opinion!!!

  • LoL 5 years ago

    this is funny, why do people still post their questions on here, when it is obvious that nobody answers them, people just keep posting the same questions over and over again.

    Take a pregnancy test!

  • kirstiee 5 years ago

    hey ive been trying to get prego for about 11months and nuffin has happened l'm sure there is something wrong but the docs wont do nuffin about it just yet and for the last week my boobs have been a lil sore and l'm not due for my periods for nother week i normally don't get any sorness in my boobs could i be prego???

  • Sarah 5 years ago

    Hi wondered whether anyone can help me, I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend a couple of years, we are engaged and as he is 30 we really want a child! We have been trying for 8 months and no luck! There have been a few times when I thought I had the symptoms but I think it's just wishful thinking as I always get my period! We always time it so we have sex everyday/every two days a week before ovulation, what is wrong with me! I do smoke which I am going to quit next week with patches, and he likes a few pints every day, I know maybe a silly question but can his drinking be affecting our trying to concieve? I'm so unhappy, as I thought my age was on my side... :( any info would help as I feel like giving up! X

  • Just Me 5 years ago

    I have been trying to get pregnant for a while now. We were successful once but it ended in miscarriage. Last month I really thought it worked, but then I started my period 4 days early. It was different from my usual periods in that the cramps were there, but not excruciating as they usually are. they also lasted for 5 days, the same as the bleeding. Now it's over and my breasts are still very tender.

    Do you think it's possible that I am pregnant? Or am I imagining things because I want to be so bad?

  • None ya  5 years ago

    I have to agree with jescelle that there are some risks to having an abortion but that's why they have doctors that do the abortions on a daily basis.. Don't let this lady scare u Amy do hat u want it is ur body after all..

  • None ya..  5 years ago

    For all u people out there that are telling anyone that does not feel like they can raise a child to not have a abortion is not right just because u are trying to have a child and unable to does not mean this girl(Amy) should or has to have the one she is carrying if she feels she can't take care of it then it is her decision.. I personally Would have a abortion cause I would not be able to handle to have the baby and give it away.. But Amy make sure u take precautions next time if u don't want a baby right now.. This is ur decision don't let any of these women make u feel bad about it..

  • Jescelle 5 years ago


    PLEASE don't have an abortion! Please please please! Adoption is a much better choice, do you know that you could die or get seriously injured during the abortion procedure? Do you know how abortions work? They stick a suction device up there and suck your babies body off piece by piece, then crush and pull out the little head. Hunny, if your not ready and are fully aware that many women want a baby, why not carry to term and give it to social services? Some girls your age end up having their babies in the toilet in take them to a firehouse or police station or hospital, drop it off, no questions asked. There's a very good reason for the miracle of life for each and every baby, please don't kill it! If you'd like me to help you find a place in your area that you can give your baby to, I'll do EVERYTHING in my power to find the resources, phone numbers, addresses, emotional support groups or counseling (private and free), I'll show you everything you need if you'll just save that baby for someone who wants it and can care for it! PLEASE email me at

  • Kayleigh 5 years ago

    That's insensitive Amy. Like me all these women are desperate to be a mom and to us it's be an amazing gift. Don't comment saying you're having an abortion. I don't agree with them. Be sensible and use something. I had an ectopic 5 years ago and have been trying to get pregnant since. It'd be a miracle if I got pregnant,it breaks my heart every month when I get my period. Also to the women who say 'you have to be married' before having a shild. You don't. There are plenty of wonderful 'boyfriends' who stick by their partners through pregnancy. If a man is goin to hurt you or betray you he'll do it wether you're married or not.

  • sarah 5 years ago

    Well, Amy... its nothing to be proud of is it.

  • Amy 5 years ago

    Well, I'm pregnant. Go with your gut ladies, deep down I knew. I am so sorry to hear that you all are trying so hard to have one and here I am too young and irresponsible to bring mine into this world. I am booked for an abortion in 2 weeks. What are the odds one month of unprotected sex and he pulled out each time. I must be as fertile as all hell.

  • aila 5 years ago

    been trying to get pregnant for the last year and breast has been sore for about 5 days now....and when it started, my period has been due approx 16 days away. i get slight headache which is bearable and some food i cant stand the smell of. My hubby is falling asleep frequently and is of the same idea that i might be pregnant.. what's your take?

  • Amy 5 years ago

    I have been having unprotected sex for about a month with my boyfriend; stupidity. I am only 19 and not prepared. I am due for my period in the next 3 days but have had suspision for about a week and a half that my not coming. Lower back pain, not tenderness but sore to grab my left breast somewhat at the top, and have a throbbing in both from time to time. My nipples seem to stay hard most of the day...and I rarely get headaches but have been. I am worried I may be pregnant. He has never ejaculated inside of me but now hearing precum is more concentrated? I may be over thinking it...but if anyone can help me out...please do.

  • Meeee 5 years ago

    My boobs are also burning. We have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now. My period is finally late! It has not been late one time since we started trying. I'm going to give it a few more days, and if my period doesn't come I'll test!!! Good luck to you all!!!

  • mystery_m 5 years ago

    ok i googled this so many times , and i cant get any answere..... my boobs feel like there burning, and i was pregnet about a month ago.and now my boobs are burning again... could i be pregnet again ? i really hope not.. im only 17.

  • LadyT 5 years ago

    Please get married before trying to have kids, you're only setting yourself and future baby up for failure in this world. boyfriends are unpredictable!

  • Comere 5 years ago

    I find it funny how many of u were talking about hoping that u were prg w ur boyfriends baby, my advice, get married b4 u try 2 have kids. The kinda situation u set up for urselves and ur potential children is not usually ideal. Im 25 & speak from experience. Its not great, but it could have been much much worse!! Good luck 2 all & keep urself healthy!

  • anonnumus 5 years ago

    Hey guys here's my storey I have p.c.o.s and have been told that there is a low chance of conceving I last had sex about 2 to 3 weeks ago some times I'm irregular with my periods I should start about now but no signs I thought I would start this morning cuz I always cry a lot just b 4 I start but nothing iv been having pains in my lower belly and a strang pain just at the side of my belly button also my breasts are tender no change in size the my my nipples some times r sore and they tingle I'm scared I am pregnant but I want it so bad its been my dream 4 a long time then it was shattered plz can any 1 help me !

  • Becky 5 years ago

    I am 11 days late, I normally have breast soreness 2 weeks before my period and I have none at all and 6 pregnancy tests still are negative. I don't know what's goin on!

  • Stephanie 5 years ago

    Okay i have been on nuvaring for some time now and when it came time to put it in i was 3 days late putting it in due to insurance problems. I know they are not supposed to be effective if you don't put it back in on the same day for another 7 days. My breast have been tender and i am just wondering if i could be feeling breast tenderness for pregnancy 5 days after putting my nuvaring in after the 3 late days?!?

  • Jodie 5 years ago

    Ok so I'm 8dpo I have only one sore breast at the side especially really sore to touch it, I had spotting last night only when I wiped but today nothing just the one sore breast I have been pregnant before but I can't remember what my boobs felt like so I'm just a bit confused help anyone?? Thanks x

  • Nnana 5 years ago

    my period is due today, have had sore breast for a week now. have ttc for five years,after an etopic pregnancy in 2006 which left me with one tube.

    will take a preg test if it does not come until monday. i will be praying for you all that are waiting for good news just like me.

  • Anais 5 years ago

    Ok im 15 going on 16 i went on mini date with my best friend /ex bf we end up fuckin but he has a small on so i could really feel n i think he busted in me :/ n that week was supposed to start my period my breast where slightly tender i never had that much pain in my breast so it was normal...but a week later i still didn't have my period so im like wtf my breast been unsusaly very tender back aches r kinda normal cuz i have i think mild scoliocios but this morning my stomach is hurttin a lot thaf never happens it feels like someone beenn kickin me really hard! I really wanna know if im prego i hope im nott im like going to cry send me and email at please and thank you

  • Kirsty 6 years ago

    I'm right with the ladies who aren't getting breast pain! I ALWAYS get breasts pain about 10 days before my period. I'm 6 days away from af and nada! I have been preggers before and I remember that the lack of breast pain was the 1st thing I noticed so hopefully that's the case this time!! That or I haven't ovulated :(

  • Babygirl 6 years ago

    Hi I need some advice. Me and my fiancée have been trying to have a baby and we've been trying since December 2010. It has been about 3-4 weeks ago since we first had unprotected sex. But I have felt a difference in my body, my breasts are extremely sore, I have been sleepier than usual, I have been having headaches, I have been urinating more frequently, I also haven't been able to eat that good because I'm constantly nauseated, and I have been having mood swings. I have already took 3 HPT but all of them have came out negative. But I took them about 2 weeks ago so it was probably too soon. I'm going to take another one this week or next and hopefully I am pregnant, but does anybody have any advice for me? Could I possibly be pregnant??

  • emily 6 years ago

    me and my fiancé have sex every day once or twice a day, maybe more. We have unprotected sex, and we are wanting to have a baby but im still not pregnant. But sometimes i feel like im having the pregnancy symptoms. I always get sore breasts i get tired a lot, eat all the time. What's wrong?

  • Amanda 6 years ago

    On the 1st of the month (2 weeks before my period) I had some light brown/pink stuff come out. It wasn't my period like i thought it might be. Since then I have a pain in my right breast, on the side but it comes and goes. My breasts arent tender all the time, it just kinda comes and goes. I feel way tired all the time and I'm getting enough sleep.The other day @ work I was dealing with ranch, salsa, and marinara sauce and I thought it was going to make me sick. Which those items never do! I don't have any symptons of my period until the day it starts. Do you think its 2 early 2 test? my period should start in about 8 days!

  • lindsay 6 years ago

    I'm not due for my period for about 1.5 weeks but last week I spotted for the day, have cramps, bloating, and back pain. My tubes are tied! I noticed some soreness in my nipples last night and when I showered it felt like they were sunburned or something. They are VERY sensitive to the touch and are staying partially erect. The nipple/ areola seems poofier than normal and noticed some slight redness around the nipple this morning. Also have a clear, odorless dishcarge that feels like I'm starting my period on myself when it comes out. Any suggesstions? I'm worried.....

  • Gift 6 years ago

    i have some movement in my stomach, breast pain, i eat like a crazy person now. i suppose to have seen my period but i did not see. What do you have to say ?

  • Daisy_x 6 years ago

    Im not due my period for just under two weeks but today have had some spotting, what is the reason for this? Help please

  • mindy 6 years ago

    I think I am 2 weeks preagnant my bf came in me 3 times in the same session could I be I still haven't had my period????????????????????????

  • Daisy_x 6 years ago

    Me and my fiance have been trying for a baby for 2 years now but at the moment I am having the worst tenderness pain ever! I'm trying to get pregnant but every time I think I might be, i get my period or tests shows negative Which make me want to get pregnant even more! I'm still very positive after how long we have been trying but I cant help to feel impatient. Last time I got my period it was very light for me only 3 days. (usually lasts 5 days) and since then my breasts have begun to feel very full and extremely tender but what could this mean? I'm also weeing hundreds of times and very tired ALL the time. any ideas please?

  • Lostone 6 years ago

    me and my boy friend last time having sex was october 4 I ve been coming on my period late its like I been having cravings and tender breast it almost near my time for my period and I had some unusual cramping not like how I normally get before my period and I ve been having really bad heart burn it quite annoying. Am I pregnant or Am I just nd denial I really need help?

  • guen 6 years ago

    Candy...she may be a baby...and she may be immature...but seriously..she came asking for help? Could you muster up a little compassion? We were all young once.

  • candy 6 years ago

    Julie...what is wrong with your child? I have nothing to say but "you asked for it", so don't come up here and ask us advice. You are still a baby, and obviously very immature.

  • Meg 6 years ago

    I'm a day late so far for my period. I've been having sex with my bf regularly over the past month. I went off bc in sept and have periods ever since. I was due for it today (Nov 27th). I've had really bad heart burn like almost to the point of vomiting. I've been nauseous for a couple days and I've had tender breasts for about a week. Today my nipples started itching. I took a HPT and it was neg but I think it could still be early. The last time I missed my period it was because I was pregnant. That was in 2002 so safe to say it's been a few years! Sound like it's possible???

  • baby02 6 years ago

    i leave in a diff continent from my fiancé, i went to visit him in sept, 4th! i saw my period aug 28th and it was normal, i had unprotected sex with my fiancé throughout my 1 mth hols, but used an emergency pill called postinor 2, 5 diff dosage(10pills) i saw my period sept 26th but lasted 4 day, tho i still noticed some spot on the 5th day. i left my finance and went back home, oct 4th. everyone has since been sayin i look bigger, ive noticed my breast is bigger but my period came oct 25th and it was normal. surprisingly, i went to work nov 7th, wiv my breast aching real bad, ive bin feelin tired, took some fever drugs bt i wasn't still feeling ok, i went to bed that night, only to feel sweaty in my sleep, i woke shocked, milk was coming out of my breast uncontrollably, its day 3 and it hasn't stopped, ive booked an appointment wiv my gp for fri, but im scared i might be pregnant... pls someone help! can i be pregnant? i have pimple on my face, which is the symptom i get when im about to go on my period, i also have some rash on my face!

  • zoe 6 years ago

    i've read some comments and never had any idea how many women felt like me. i too have breast tenderness really bad, hoping i'm pregnant. me and my boyfriend had sex for like three day in a row right inside of my ovulation window so we both hope it worked.

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    milenaamr 6 years ago

    Nice hub. I totally agree that wearing natural fiber (cotton) bras, professionally fit are extremely important for our health and capability of feeding the baby after that. Thanks for the article.

  • kayla 6 years ago

    Me and my boyfriend have been trying for over 3 months now, and every month when it's time to start my period i always feel that i could be pregnant. I don't start till next Thursday so i have about a week. But my breast feel like there is something hard in the middle, and i puked the other moening, and cant brush my teeth with out gaging. are these sings? should i not think about it as much and just wait and see if i start or not?

  • jarae 6 years ago

    My boyfriend and I have been trying since March of this year,I have been on bc for about six years up until March. We have sex when I am ovulating and sometimes towards the end of my cycle.I have backaches, nipple tenderness, cramps. My periods have been irregular, and sometimes I even start twice in month but this past August I started towards the end of the month. Now its September, I haven't started yet,I am having symtoms as if I am getting my period.I don't know, I am going to take a hpt before I get my period. I hope for the best that I am pregnant.

  • lala 6 years ago

    thats great info!! thanks a lot.

  • lisa 6 years ago


    my husband and i have been trying to have a child for eight months now.after my ovulation,my temperature was raised for some days and later breast is tender,and am feeling lower abnominal pain,my period is getting close.with these signs,could i be pregnant

  • Charity 6 years ago

    Rese where you pregnant cuz I am experiencing the same thing no breast tenderness which usually do have a week to 2 weeks before my period.

  • breezmommy 6 years ago

    my bf and I have been tryin to conceive for the past month, makin sure on ovulation dates as well lol. i haven't quite felt right for about 2 weeks, im sleepy all the time no matter how long i sleep, light abdominal cramping, lil pains in my breast, my breast are tender especially my nipples, my lower back hurts, headaches, tender stomach, lightheaded at times, i work at a casino so im on my feet for 8 hours, my feet kill me when i get off work, im supposed to start on the 30th or the 1st and i haven't felt anything that i normally feel when im about to start. anyone know anything as to why im feeling like this

  • Jennifer 6 years ago

    My first (and only) symptom of pregnancy (other than missed period) has always been breast tenderness. Same this time...but today they're not tender at all. Could this be a sign of reduced hormones and an impending miscarriage? Or can the tenderness fluctuate? It's been a few years since my last pregnancy, and, of course, I can't wait till my OB/GYN appt next week to find out.

  • nana 6 years ago

    Okay so i have a question, but here are my symptoms and i am not sure whether or not i am pregnant..

    I do have tenderness in my breasts, they itch, and feel very sensitive. i just got off my birth control a few weeks ago and my boyfriend and i did have unprotected sex after, i took a test 2 days after we had sex and of course i knew it was negative. but i have been nauseous, headaches are coming more, im tired, and i also get leg cramps and feel bloated. i haven't vomitted yet, but i think i am in denial...because i have been eating less and been more active and i think thats why i could feel sick...but out of nowhere i just started eating like crazy and everything just seems off..i don't like the feeling of not knowing but i hate feeling embarrassed for making an appointment to get tested for a pregnancy that may not even exist lol what to do?

  • Rese 6 years ago

    I usually have breast soreness a week before my period comes, this time I have not. My period should come on the 20th and it's the 18th but Im still not experiencing the Breast pain. My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex around my ovulation time earlier this month. Am I pregnant? Help!

  • Chloe 6 years ago

    I usually find i get soreness a week before my period, which is a pain because i am hoping it is not a period but a baby!!

  • Concerned 6 years ago

    After my period came on the 22 of March which lasted for 5 days, on the 4 of April, I got slight bleeding nothing serious.. After about 3-4 later I had sex with my boyfriend, up until then he has been ejaculating in me. I am suppose to be expecting my period on the 21-22 of them month (April) but don't know what to expect because of the slight bleeding. I have been getting cramps off and on, heavy tits, painful nipples, painful vagina off and on a lil backache nothing serious to talk about and a painful chest ache, a little vaginal discharge, before the 21-22 and still up to the 21-22, but my period have not yet arrived. Can I be pregnant? Any suggestions or answers.

  • gatorgirl84 6 years ago

    I have a question & I need some advice, please!

    I've been on birth control pills for years. Unfortunately, during the first "active pill" week this month, I messed up and forgot 2 days in a row and was almost 12 hours late a 3rd day. I read the instructions and took 2 pills the day I forgot, and 2 pills the next day and continued taking them regularly. My fiancé and I have been having regular unprotected sex all month and for the past week I've noticed occasional cramping in my lower abdomen which sometimes feels like sharp jabs. Now my breasts are really, really sore and my nipples are extremely tender. My period isn't due for 2 weeks, and usually I don't have any pre-period symptoms until a few days before my period. Should I be worried that I may be pregnant?

  • jm 6 years ago

    I have had sore and painful breast for a month now. Just yesturday I started getting a burning sensation. My period came about 3 weeks ago but I had light brown bleeding that lasted 2 days. I'm so confused,can I be pregnant?

  • casi 6 years ago

    sweetie--- its so funny i feel like it was me that just typed what you did i am going through the same things right now. my husband and i have been trying for 3 years now we did clomid and still nothing we took some time off from the meds. still nothing. the last two months i have had lighter periods and they have been shorter its weird bc mine are generally 5 plus days and they have been about 3. since last week my breasts have been so tender. i am very busty so when i noticed it the first time when i was taking my bra off i thought it was just bc i had had it on all day well this has been going on for days now. they are so tender today i feel as though someone has used them for punching bags. i should be starting any day but i am praying that i am pregnant anyone have any ideas or help??

  • sweetie 6 years ago

    I am having the worst tenderness pain ever! I'm trying to get pregnant but every time I think I might be either i get my period or its jat late. I actually got pregnant but sadly ended in a m/c. which make me want to get pregnant even more! I'm still very positive over everything but I cant help to feel impatient. Last time I got my period it was very light for me only 3 days. (usually lasts 5 days) and since then my breasts have begun to feel very full and extremely tender. its too soon for a hpt but what could this mean? I'm also having some nausea, and tiredness. any ideas? plz!!

  • amanda i 6 years ago

    im 6 weeks and my stomach is bloathing like i was 4 moths any comments

  • Beautiful1 7 years ago

    So I have been having some symptoms and I was thinking maybe stress. Starting in November my period was a day early and lasted only for days so I did not think anything of it just thought cycle must be changing. December my period was two days late and lasted four days. So I went and took a urine test at the clinic and it was negative but the doctor said it may be to early and I really was not experiencing any symptoms other than sleepy and frequent urination. And also both periods were light which is unusual because I bleed heavy. It is now January and I started again a day early bleed heavy but again only four days. But since December I have begun to feel nausea and hunger at same time. My breast itch but are not sore or tender, my stomach itches and has also peeled overnight weird! I get constant leg cramps and the heels of my feet are so sensitive to touch or me standing on feet. Back achs, sholder aches, my bra size has went from a 42DDD or F to a 44G or H Wow! I am getting like light freckles or spots on my face and my breast and some on stomach and bloated with cramping but not unbareable. I am going to schedule another appointment but this time have a blood test done because last time I was pregnant I had a tub pregnancy and they did not detect in my urine but through a blood test after they gave me a paps. I was 2 months and if I had waited any longer I could have died because the baby was still trying to grow. But thank GOD that he kept me. Anyway this does not feel like the last time though but I do feel very pregnant.

  • delia 7 years ago

    my husbans said the same thing and when I took a pregnancy tests to confirm it, turns out I was pregnant. BY the end of my pregnancy I went from a B cup to D cup. Talking about painful and sore breast.

  • Kate  7 years ago

    so were you pregnant?

  • ashleyy. 7 years ago

    well i haven't came on my period in a month and my nipples are tender im having cramps like im going to come on and i took a test and it was negative could i be pregnant .


  • Elkile 7 years ago

    Not too much info at all! I am trying to discern the difference between premenstrual soreness and early pregancy soreness myself. It is too soon for a test to yield results and I have a gyno appt next week anyway, but of course, I need to know now! LOL. I always get the tenderness, but not the size increase. Within two days of ovulating (and taking advantage of it), a full two weeks before my next period, they were sore, much earlier than normal, and HUGE. What I am experiencing now is longer and stronger than normal, but with the added issue of size increase, early on and lasting. Your story will get the through the last few days of waiting until I know. Thanks. Wish me luck!!!

  • Cure Morning Sickness 7 years ago

    Thank you so much for sharing such great information!!

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    desert blondie 8 years ago from Palm trees, swimming pools, lots of sand, lots of sunscreen

    Boy, I could've used one of those back support creations you show here! My hubby swore he could tell I was pregnant 'the morning after' swearing that my boobs had grown amazingly just overnight! Too much info.? Sorry 'bout that.

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