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How and When to Announce Your Pregnancy

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Marissa is the writer of ThePracticalMommy and the blog Mommy Knows What's Best. She is a stay-at-home mom to four and was a teacher.

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Cute Ways to Tell Your Significant Other You're Pregnant

The results are in: you're pregnant! Congratulations! Now that the wait is over, who are you going to tell? Before you announce it to the world, take a step back and relax. The first person you probably want to tell is your husband or significant other. He had a hand in the pregnancy, didn't he? Here are some fun ways to tell them you're pregnant:

  • Fan yourself, saying how hot you feel. Ask him to check your "thermometer" while handing him your positive pregnancy test.
  • Using lipstick or a dry erase marker, write the words, "The face of a new Daddy" on the bathroom mirror and wait for him to see it.
  • Have a movie night and include movies that have baby themes, like Look Who's Talking, Knocked Up, or Father of the Bride 2.
  • Hand him a grocery list with the following items: ice cream, pickles, chocolate, and prenatal vitamins.
  • Have your kids wear t-shirts that say Kid #1, #2, etc. and hand your significant other a baby onesie that says Kid #2, #3, etc.
Have your son wear a I'm a Big Brother t-shirt to announce your pregnancy!

Have your son wear a I'm a Big Brother t-shirt to announce your pregnancy!

Creative Ways to Tell Friends and Family You're Expecting

There are so many ways to announce the arrival of a baby to everyone else, ranging from just a basic, "Hey, we're pregnant!" to an all-out surprise extravaganza.

If you're looking for a fun way to announce your pregnancy, here are some ideas to get you started:

  • Slip names like grandma, grandpa, aunt, or uncle' into the conversation to see if your family picks up on it.
  • When you're getting ready to eat a meal, slip on a baby bib.
  • Put a bun in your oven and ask someone to go check what's cooking in there.
  • Serve a meal with all baby foods: baby carrots, baby back ribs, baby corn, peas in the pod, baby spinach, fruit salad in a baby carriage, etc.
  • Make a CD with songs that include "baby" in the title.
  • Use a baby bottle with flowers as a centerpiece.
  • Have the kids tell the news by announcing their status as a big brother or big sister.
  • Set a table or decorate a room in pinks and blues.
  • Give a card that says, "Happy Birthday, [grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle]!"
  • Send out invitations for your baby's "birthday".
  • Make or buy big brother or big sister t-shirts and have the kids wear them.
  • Make or buy a shirt that says, "Baby on board".
  • Go to Build-a-Bear or find a stuffed animal that you can dress up like a baby with a little shirt, bib, or a pacifier.
  • Write a poem about a baby or an acrostic poem using the words pregnancy, pregnant, or baby.
  • Put pink and blue helium-filled balloons in a box and have someone open them as a present.

Different Ways to Write Your Announcement

  • We're happy to announce that our family will be growing!
  • We're expecting!
  • And baby makes three.
  • Blank card: $1. Fancy pen: $5. Your face when you realize we're pregnant: Priceless.

If you're more of a visual person, another great way to announce your pregnancy is with creative photos.

Spell out your pregnancy announcement with baby carrots.

Spell out your pregnancy announcement with baby carrots.

Pregnancy status update

Pregnancy status update

Clever Ways to Announce Your Pregnancy on Social Media

You might be hesitant to announce your pregnancy online as it seems so informal, but it can be fun as well. Many parents-to-be upload videos to YouTube or other social networking sites. You can post pictures of all sorts of baby things or baby quotes.

Here are some fun status updates to use:

  • Three down. Six to go!
  • 1+1=3
  • I need to get all the sleep I can now before I never get to sleep again!
  • Pinks...blues...yellows...greens... which color to decorate with?
  • Let the belly rubbing commence!
  • Place your bets now: boy or girl?
  • I need a peanut butter and pickle sandwich, STAT!
  • OVbunEN
  • Post a picture with the ultrasound picture and write "Coming in [Month Year]!"
  • Hey! Look who's talking!
  • How do you keep your pants buttoned when your belly grows?
  • Uh oh, I have the Egyptian flu, and there's no chance of recovering! (Hint: think Mummy)
  • This mommy is going to get an awesome "birth" day present! (great for a baby due around your birthday!)
  • I wanted to ride the roller coaster at the amusement park today, but I was told I couldn't if I had a heart condition, back problems, or am pregnant.
  • Does anyone else see that stork flying around?
  • How can something the size of a lime cause me to feel so tired?
  • All those planning a wedding, shower, or birthday party: please don't schedule anything around [due date]. I'm going to be busy.

Announcing Pregnancy Online

Use 'baby' as the basis for an acrostic poem to announce your pregnancy.

Use 'baby' as the basis for an acrostic poem to announce your pregnancy.

When Should You Tell People You're Pregnant?

It may be the most exciting news to you (trust me; I know!), but you may want to wait a bit before you tell everyone you're expecting. Why? The first few weeks of pregnancy are the most crucial for the proper development of your baby. If anything should go awry in those first few weeks, it would be devastating to go back to all of the people you told and tell them things didn't work out.

That isn't to say you can't tell anyone. Of course, you can tell your spouse or partner the great news right away. You may also choose to tell immediate family members or very close friends whom you can trust with your precious news. For everyone else, it would be advisable to wait until at least the end of the first trimester, when the threat of miscarriage is greatly reduced. Until then, relish in the fact that you have an awesome secret to tell and plan some ways to make the big announcement!

When Should You Tell Your Immediate Family?

While immediate family members can be told about your great news, it might be wise to wait to tell certain members of the family. For instance, if you already have children, you should wait until the second trimester to tell them about the new baby, especially if they're young. Toddlers won't be able to really understand until you show physical changes, and even then, the concept of a new baby may be difficult for them to understand. Older kids might recognize that there's something different about you, especially if you show symptoms like extreme fatigue, morning sickness, or nausea at the sight of your favorite food. You might want to tell them earlier so they don't think something is wrong with your health.

When Should You Tell Your Extended Family?

As for distant family members, it would be best to wait until after your first trimester. If there's someone you're close to, like an aunt or grandparent, who you really want to tell, then go ahead and let them know your news, but make sure that they understand not to tell anyone else until you decide it's the right time.

Note: It might be a good idea to tell anyone who knows not to post the news on any social media sites until you give the approval. Sometimes new grandparents, aunts, or uncles can't hold it in and want to share the secret with the world. Promise them they'll get their chance but only when you give the okay.

How I Told My Family

When I was pregnant with my firstborn, I waited until I was close enough to the end of the first trimester to announce the pregnancy. At my youngest brother's birthday party, I made him open a card last that was addressed to "Uncle." It took a minute, but after everyone got it, there was quite a celebration! My son was going to be the first grandchild and nephew.

When Should You Tell Your Employer?

You may feel intimidated at the thought of telling your boss that you're expecting, especially when you think you may lose your job or be treated unfairly. Take heart; thanks to the Pregnancy Discrimination Act, you cannot be fired outright for just being pregnant nor can anyone treat you unfairly due to your condition.

As with everyone else, you could wait until the end of the first trimester to tell your employer. Before then, think about your position and how things might change as your due date nears. If you do any heavy lifting or are near hazardous chemicals, you may need to change positions.

If you're thinking about maternity leave under FMLA (pregnancy is covered under FMLA), consider when that might happen and how you might have to train someone else to do your work until you return. Discuss these things with your employer when you announce your pregnancy, and perhaps even discuss the terms of FMLA and how it will affect your benefits and pay.

Announcing Pregnancy

No matter how you do it, have fun announcing your pregnancy. Everyone is going to love hearing the news, plus it's the only time you get to do such a thing...until you have the next baby!

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2012 Marissa

Comments

acwrc on January 23, 2020:

I just wanted to mention that some jobs - like ones where you handle any kind of chemical (chemist, nurse) - you likely need to inform your employer immediately. Handling certain chemicals can be very dangerous for the baby.

Marissa (author) from United States on September 29, 2014:

Tilsontitan, thanks for the vote and sharing!

Mary Craig from New York on September 29, 2014:

Good info for anyone planning to get pregnant. It is so hard to keep it a secret but unfortunately things can happen. Your advice and suggestions are top notch.

Voted up, useful, and interesting.

Adebayo Adeolu Ibrahim on December 21, 2013:

Although, I am a man, but I love some of the ideas presented in this article. What a great article!

Marissa (author) from United States on February 21, 2013:

shrads, please see my response on the other article. Thanks!

Shraddha from Mumbai on February 21, 2013:

my last period is on 21 jan & my m cycle is of 28 days. i did urine test bt its negative

Marissa (author) from United States on October 22, 2012:

Pinkchic18, glad you like the ideas. Thanks for reading and commenting! :)

Sarah Carlsley from Minnesota on October 22, 2012:

Fun ideas, these are all so cute!

Marissa (author) from United States on September 07, 2012:

peachpower, gotta be practical! :D Thanks so much for reading and sharing your experience.

peachpower from Florida on September 07, 2012:

This is so cute! I too, agree with the keeping quiet past the first trimester, because I too, have told them all- only to miscarry. Horrible.

My favorite part of your Hub was the practicality in the middle of the fun stuff- where you included FMLA information. Awesome :)

Marissa (author) from United States on August 10, 2012:

ComfortB, isn't it funny that the grand-dad to be was clueless? I loved how the grandmother-to-be reacted. :)

Thanks for reading and commenting!

Comfort Babatola from Bonaire, GA, USA on August 08, 2012:

Hello Marrisa. Great hub you got here.

You got me tearing up here with that video. What in the world is wrong with men? The guy (grand-dad to be) in the video, it took him for ever to get what's going on.

Great ideas on breaking the pregnance news. Voted Up and Useful.

Marissa (author) from United States on August 06, 2012:

teaches12345, I'm sure it's agonizing for some who announce every part of their day on Facebook or Twitter to not announce their pregnancies as soon as they find out they're pregnant. You're right; it's pretty much like telling the whole world, so timing is everything! :) Thanks for reading!

Dianna Mendez on August 05, 2012:

All such wonderful and creative ideas on when and how to tell people you are pregnant. Your warning on the socal media post is so true, if you don't want the world to know, time your announcement well!

Marissa (author) from United States on August 04, 2012:

cclitgirl, I'm very sorry about your loss. I hope you get the chance to use some of these ideas soon! Thank you very much for sharing your story and for reading!

Marissa (author) from United States on August 04, 2012:

Janine Huldie, I think a lot of us become more reserved when announcing the second pregnancy. The first one is so darn exciting, it's hard not to tell!

Thanks for reading and commenting!

Marissa (author) from United States on August 04, 2012:

LaciKomula, I'm glad you like the ideas! Thanks for reading!

Cynthia Calhoun from Western NC on August 04, 2012:

Okay, so I HAD to come read this. See, last year, I found out I was pregnant. I had spent my whole life thinking I didn't want kids and then it happened. It wasn't really planned, but it was a highlight in a yucky year for me. We were both so excited, I told everyone. After all, my good friend on FB actually showed her pregnancy test - eek! But, at the urging of close friends, they were like, why not tell? We told everyone as soon as we got pregnant. Egads - bad advice. I miscarried at 11 weeks. :\ After that, I thought, holy moly, I'm not going to tell anyone until it's so painfully obvious, haha. I do love your suggestions for telling your hubby/partner though. When/if it happens again, I want to try some of those. :) Thank you so much for sharing this - it really is good advice.

Janine Huldie from New York, New York on August 03, 2012:

I also had a hard time waiting to share the news when I was pregnant. My first I pretty much told everyone very early on, but with my second I was a bit more cautious and didn't tell the extended family and work until almost the end of my 1st trimester. Very good article and of course voted and shared too!

LaciKomula from Indiana on August 03, 2012:

A lot of great ideas here! I was in the military when I found out I was pregnant with m daughter and now my son. So I really didn't get to pop the whole surprise on people. Though it was a shock to find out I was pregnant with this one!

Marissa (author) from United States on August 03, 2012:

Sunshine625, my son was so excited when I told him about his sister, that he immediately wanted to name her: Wampi. :D I too always wanted to tell everyone early for both of my pregnancies, but it really is best to wait.

Thanks so much for reading and commenting!

Linda Bilyeu from Orlando, FL on August 03, 2012:

I agree with after the first trimester. Also, telling youngens they are about to have a sibling is very exciting! I was never good at waiting too long to share the news, when "I was the one" with a bun in the oven :)