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What Are the Chances of Getting Pregnant at 44?

Updated on September 12, 2017
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I started TTC in my early 40s. After endless research on fertility in my 40s (and a miscarriage) I finally had my baby at age 46.

Getting Pregnant In Your 40s

When you are in your 40s and trying to get pregnant, you are often told that the chances are pretty slim. Those who already have children have to put up with comments from people asking them why they are still trying for another child at their age, but only people in their shoes can know the longing that they may have for another child.

For those who have not had children before, you may enter the world of trying to conceive with some naivety—perhaps expecting to get pregnant right away. In any case, I will try to put forth here what I have learnt about the particular struggles of trying to get pregnant at 44.

It Is Possible to Get Pregnant at 44?

Firstly, I want to start with the positives. It is very possible to get pregnant at 44. Now, obviously, there needs to be a few caveats to this statement. You will need to still be having regular periods (although they don't need to be the same length each cycle but as long as you have not hit the menopause, which would be pretty early at age 44.) Although more than that, you need to be ovulating (although you can get help with this if not.) There may also be other medical issues that might need looking into.

The negative side is that it may take you much longer than it would have done in your 20s or 30s. So you may need to have some patience. There are a lot of different statistics cited for a natural pregnancy at 44 and in truth it must be difficult to actually gather this information as those who are trying to conceive are unlikely to be monitored on whether they succeed or not.

The live birth rate when using your own eggs in IVF at age 43 and over (HFEA, UK)
The live birth rate when using your own eggs in IVF at age 43 and over (HFEA, UK)

Generally the only information that you can get, that is accurate, is the rate of getting pregnant at 44 using IVF because all of the fertility clinics obviously keep a strict record of their success rates.

The latest results available from the HFEA (the Human Fertilisation & Embryology Authority, which is the regulatory body for the UK) quotes a success (i.e. a live birth rate) of 4.4% for patients aged 43 and above who attempt IVF using their own eggs.

But, whatever the statistics may say, it is possible to get pregnant naturally, and I was pregnant at 44 myself.

The Main Barrier to Getting Pregnant at 44

The one big barrier to getting pregnant at 44 is said to be egg quality. It is well documented that egg quality declines with age (you only need to compare the statistics between someone who has done IVF in their 40s and someone who has done it in their 20s to see the difference in the number and quality of eggs produced) and for this reason it is important to do as much as we can to improve egg quality.

There have been some studies done on various supplements that may help to improve egg quality, so if you are just starting on your journey it is may be worth trying some of these supplements to do the best that you can for your chances. I personally used all of these supplements!

This happened to me at 44, I hope it happens for you.
This happened to me at 44, I hope it happens for you.

Risk of Miscarriage

It can't be denied that at the age of 44, even if you manage to get pregnant, there is a higher risk of miscarriage than there is for younger ladies. Unfortunately my own pregnancy at 44 ended in a blighted ovum miscarriage. Of course you may be lucky and hit that good egg the first time, but it might be worth bearing this in mind although obviously you shouldn't let this stop you trying.

I do know of a number of ladies who had one or more miscarriages who then went on to have healthy babies in their mid forties so just because you have one miscarriage does not mean that the same thing will happen again.

Testing

Many doctors will start carrying out some standard fertility testing only 6 months after you have started trying, once you are over the age of 35. Of course if you can get the main tests done sooner you will be in more of a position to know how your body is working.

The big test is the FSH test which is said to tell how near the menopause you are. A high FSH (25 or over) is said to be near menopause. I did a home FSH test (see the item below) which can be an indicator of your fertility (it does not give you an exact figure like the test you get at the doctor but instead a degree of color on a test strip). The home test I did looked OK and when I did get my FSH results my number was 7.6 which equated reasonably well to the home test that I did.

3 X One Step® Female Fertility/Menopause FSH Test Strip Kits
3 X One Step® Female Fertility/Menopause FSH Test Strip Kits

This is a really simple and cheap FSH test that you can take at home.

 

However, do not despair if you have a high FSH as all is not lost. FSH can differ from cycle to cycle for a start. It can also be affected by stress. Also I know of 2 ladies right now who are pregnant with an FSH of over 25.

Another key test is the HSG which checks if your tubes are clear. I did not get round to getting the HSG because I got pregnant just before getting that organised so I knew that the sperm could meet the egg OK and therefore there were no blockages in my tubes.

Another test is the AMH test which is said to test egg reserves BUT this is a very controversial test and many doctors will not do this test as they do not believe it has credibility.

The Holistic Approach

Many women prefer to take the holistic approach to trying to get pregnant and there are many resources available in this regard. Many believe that there is a mental element to getting pregnant and that the mind is somehow blocking the body.

Acupuncture is also a very popular approach and there are specific fertility acupuncture practitioners who will work with your cycle and try and bring your body to its optimum fertility.

Medical Intervention

Sometimes it seems that many doctors, when they know your age, will advise you to go straight to IUI or IVF as they believe this may give you a better chance of getting pregnant. Although the stats are slightly better with these methods than natural pregnancy, the odds are still low. Often donor egg will be recommended which can increase the chances often to more than 50% but still does not give any certainty.

For some people medical intervention of this kind is not on the cards as the costs are too high and so natural pregnancy is the only option. There are other options - clomid is a pill that a doctor can prescribe to aid ovulation (particularly if you are having trouble ovulating) and that has been used successfully for many women.

In any case, get your doctor on your side and ask them to do as many tests as they are able. Don't forget to also get your partner's sperm tested to make sure there is not an issue there.

The Chances of Getting Pregnant at 44

Anyway, so back to the question in hand. Obviously the answer depends a lot on how your body is working. But, there is a reasonable chance in my experience. I got pregnant after 9 tries (starting when I was 43) and although it ended in miscarriage.

I also know of a number of ladies who have got pregnant at 44 and of course a number of ladies that have been trying for quite a while and are still not pregnant. What I would say is, if it is possible, try not to put too much pressure on yourself for it to work straight away. By all means do all that you can to maximise your chances from the beginning (in particular find out exactly when you are ovulating) but try not to obsess every month over whether it has worked or not.

I wish you all the best of luck and lots of baby dust. xxx

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      Lilikid 11 days ago

      Since my partner was overseas, we tried IVF twice with no success at age 42, also to have twins. The NHS gynecologist told me last year I was "never going to conceive", uplifting! I told him my greatgrandma had my nan at 44 and 3 others in the previous 5 years, I have 3 hairs on my chin from her, I may have her ovaries too". I sounded pretty stubborn but guess what, I do! My partner came back and got me pregnant in 5 months, miscarriage and then pregnant again after 7 months. I am now 4'5 months pregnant and telling my story to all women in their 40's I come across, relax and it will happen. I will give birth age 45 and still hope to get a little brother or sister later. If you are still ovulating, age is just a number. If not, there is help with medical prescription, little pills for under £10 to help ovulation.

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      Jackie Grant 4 weeks ago from UK

      That is fantastic news Tawnya, congratulations. It is really great for people trying to hear these success stories!

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      Tawnya 4 weeks ago

      I'm pregnant naturally at 43 and will be 44 when I deliver with a very healthy baby boy. Couldnt get pregnant in 30's and used ivf. Now I have my bonus baby on the way..11/13/17

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      Jackie Grant 4 weeks ago from UK

      That is so lovely to hear Sheridan, Congratulations!

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      Sheridan 4 weeks ago

      After two IVF attempts and a beautiful baby boy who is now 3, we had two embryo implants that failed. Now 44 but closer to 45 we have conceived naturally and our second son will be born Dec 6th. Never give up, I agree that if its meant to happen it will, statistics can't explain so many peoples experiences.

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      Jackie Grant 2 months ago from UK

      That is fabulous news Lou, many congratulations! :-)

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      Lou 2 months ago

      I'm 44 and 22 weeks pregnant. concive naturally , no complications. Still working like before no special cares ,expecting my baby boy in December. Don't get discourage it can happen :)

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      Jackie Grant 2 months ago from UK

      Hi Althea. Folic acid won't actually help you get pregnant but it is something essential to take when you are trying to get pregnant to prevent neural tube defects. You can take some other supplements that may help improve your egg quality and some ideas of what you can take are listed here: https://hubpages.com/health/How-To-Improve-the-Qua...

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      Althea vassell 2 months ago

      Hi I am althea I am 44 and trying to get pregnant I take the folic acid pills for 2 months now can u tell me what can I do to get pregnant

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      Jackie Grant 3 years ago from UK

      Congrats Trent it is lovely to hear a success story!

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      Trent 3 years ago

      My wife and I just naturally had a healthy baby boy at ages 44(her) and 49(me). Our daughter is 7 yrs old and we tried several years after she was born with no success.I don't believe in man made "statistics".If it's meant to happen,it will happen!

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      Jackie Grant 5 years ago from UK

      Hi joanner, yes for sure the chances really do depend on individual circumstances - I guess that the 3% chance that is given out in the majority of statistics takes account of every scenario and averages it out. However, I agree that you cannot put a figure on it and I am not sure how they do as they can surely not monitor every woman who tries to get pregnant in her 40's. So really we have to take charge ourselves and get any necessary tests done before assessing our own chances.

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      joanner 5 years ago

      The statistics on getting pregnant in your forties mislead women. Basically, some women have a 100% chance, and some women have none. It's not the case that a fertile woman in her early/mid forties has a 3% chance per month. These kind of statistics are absurd and hide the reality of individual situations.