What to Do If You're a Teenager and Think That You're Pregnant

Updated on April 18, 2019
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Kierstin is a mom to two little girls, is not a fan of Popples, and is really, really good at removing crayon from practically any surface.

If you're here, it's 99% likely that you think you're pregnant or just that you're absolutely terrified that you're pregnant. Or that maybe a little bit, you're actually hoping you are. It's also pretty likely that you're a teenager and you're feeling isolated about the whole thing. First off, (read the rest in your great-grandmother's voice) you're pretty lucky because back in my day we teens didn't know how to use Google and we had to just sit in an unmade bed staring out the window, wondering what the hell was happening in our uterus (end great-grandmother's voice).

Getting Pregnant: The Basics

One thing I need to clear up before you continue on reading is that if you have not had sex then you can not be pregnant. Babies can't come from nothing, they need a sperm to meet an egg first. I think this article by Mount Sinai Adolescent Health Center is immensely helpful in understanding in what instances conception happens and how to prevent it.

Now, if you've recently had unprotected sex or fear that your birth control method failed, and you're starting to get that cold sweat feeling every single time you scroll past your cousin's new baby on Instagram, then you're in the right place.

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If You Have a Late Period, It Doesn't Mean You're Pregnant

Finding out if you're pregnant is going to be the most crucial step in moving forward with your anxieties and the best way to know if you're pregnant or not is to take a pregnancy test. But, before we talk about how to get a pregnancy test, here are some quick reminders on what could cause your period to be late, if that's the reason you suspect you're pregnant:

  • You're stressed. Maybe your grades are bad, or your boyfriend has been a total AWOL jerk lately, or your parents are fighting or there's money trouble at home (or all of it?!). I've been there, most of us have. Stress has a funny effect on our reproductive system and can keep us from ovulating. Ovulation is when your body releases an egg for fertilization. If it gets fertilized you get pregnant. But if it doesn't get fertilized, you get your period. If you're feeling stressed about something, your body might be like "hey, I think I'll wait to make a baby. Let's keep those eggs on lockdown until this little lady has her act together." Soooo, if you're so stressed that you don't ovulate, or you don't ovulate on time, your period will be late! Oh joy! More to stress about!
  • You've been sick. Did you catch your best friend's nasty stomach bug or a cold from that girl who sits behind you on the bus (the one who's always sneezing right over your shoulder)? Getting sick can also cause your ovulation to be delayed or can cause you not to ovulate at all that month. Remember, no ovulation, no period.
  • You're not eating enough or you're exercising too much. Also been there. It's tempting to try to get rigid in your eating and exercise habits when senior photos or spring break are on the horizon or when you've recently been downing a lot of Cheez Whiz and brownies before bed. But the thing is, altering your eating and exercise habits can cause your period to stop if you drop a lot of weight really fast. Take it as a sign that your body isn't happy and try to ease back into healthy eating and exercise habits. And maybe unfollow Kayla Itsines for a while.

So anyway, I'm sure that most of that came as little comfort to you, but it's good to get a reality check.

If you're wondering if you're pregnant, now is a good time to rethink your birth control. Websites like Bedsider.org are excellent resources for finding a birth control method that fits your life.
If you're wondering if you're pregnant, now is a good time to rethink your birth control. Websites like Bedsider.org are excellent resources for finding a birth control method that fits your life. | Source

When is the Best Time to Take a Pregnancy Test?

You can take a pregnancy test at any time but if you want accurate results you need to be specific about when you actually take the test. You need to take it at the right time to get accurate results.

When I was a teen the movie Juno was a huge deal and in the very beginning Juno takes a pee test right in the gas station where she's purchased the test. It's a pretty cute movie and realistic in a lot of ways and not realistic in even more ways. For one thing, definitely do not take a pregnancy test in a gas station. You need to be somewhere familiar and comfortable. If that's not your own bathroom then at least take it in a place where you have someone there to support you, like at a friend's house.

If Your Period is Late...

If you're already late for your period then it's a pretty safe bet to just go right ahead and take a test. The time of day doesn't really matter once your period is late.

If Your Period Isn't Late Yet...

But, if your period is not late then you don't want to take a test too early because you could get a false negative. This happens when you are pregnant but the hormones haven't built up enough to show up on a pregnancy test. This happened to me when I was pregnant with my second baby. I took a test about five days before my period was due and it was negative. I took another one two days later and it was positive.

Honestly, it's best to wait until your period is late but if you're just totally stressed and can't wait then at least wait until four days before you are supposed to get your period, and test in the morning with your first pee of the day.

How to Get a Pregnancy Test

As an adult, you kind of take getting a pregnancy test for granted. I just have mine Amazon primed to me or send my husband out for a box (it's obviously his favorite chore ever). But when you're a teenager, getting your hands on a pregnancy test is a different game.

Ideally, you have a car, a job and some sweet cash to get yourself a test. But life isn't ideal ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Here's your options for getting a pregnancy test if you can't just drive to get one yourself:

  • Ask a trusted adult. If you feel like you can ask your mom, awesome. If not, ask an older sister, cousin, an aunt or even a friend's mom that has your back.
  • Ask your boyfriend. If you're in a relationship and feel comfortable, ask him to pick one up or ask him to take you to a drugstore so you can get one (and just a bit of unsolicited advice, if he's not willing to help you out with this, then that's pretty dang awful).
  • Ask a school nurse for a test. This option might not be available in all districts and you have to keep in mind that if you're a minor, the nurse may be obligated to tell your parents or legal guardian.
  • Contact an Obstetrician (a doctor who specializes in caring for women during pregnancy) or an OB/GYN (a doctor who cares for women during pregnancy and who also specializes in women's reproductive health whether the woman is pregnant or not). They will be able to help you locate an office that will give you a pregnancy test and also to find other resources related to pregnancy and contraception. These are doctors who have seen and heard it all so there should be absolutely no shame in confiding in them. Mine saw me poop while I was giving birth. So.
  • Call or visit a Planned Parenthood. PP has a lot of resources, including pregnancy tests. If you're not sure if you have one nearby go to PlannedParenthood.org to locate a facility near you or call 1-800-230-7526 to be directed to your closest location.
  • Call or visit a pregnancy care center. Pregnancy care centers are another option full of resources, including pregnancy tests. To locate one near you just Google "Pregnancy care center near me" or "Pregnancy care center [your county/city]".

Talking to a friend can help you to separate your fears from reality and give you an outside perspective on the situation.
Talking to a friend can help you to separate your fears from reality and give you an outside perspective on the situation. | Source

What Kind of Pregnancy Test is The Best to Take?

You can get a blood pregnancy test (where a small amount of blood is taken from a vein using a very thin needle) or urine pregnancy test at the doctor. Or, you can take a urine test on your own, which you can buy at any drugstore and most grocery stores.

Knowing which pregnancy test to grab though can be really overwhelming because there are soooooo many out there.

In my experience, the best tests to take are First Response Early Response. There are other tests that work just as well but sometimes they're really confusing to interpret. I like First Response Early Response tests because they're simple - if you have two pink lines, you're pregnant.

If there is only one pink line, you're not pregnant.

Easy.

These tests come in a pink box and usually have 2-3 in a package (here's some pictures for reference).

Here are a few other options for pregnancy tests:

Digital Tests

Digital tests often require more hormone and can give you a false negative. Plus, they're super expensive and sometimes tricky to get to work properly. I think these tests are better for those who are actively trying to get pregnant or who have already confirmed pregnancy and just want to see a "yes".

Blue Dye Tests

These brands include ClearBlue, E.P.T. and most store brand pregnancy tests.

I avoid blue dyes altogether and the reason is that sometimes they give you false positives. I have taken several that to the naked eye looked pretty dang positive and guess what? I WASN'T PREGNANT. Avoid that emotional turmoil and just skip blue dye tests unless you're absolutely sure that your period is very late.

"Internet Cheapies"

These are packages of pink dye test strips that come individually sealed and that you can buy from places like Amazon. They include brands like Wondfo and ClinicalGuard. To take one, you pee in a cup and then dip the strip in the urine.

First Signal

First Signal brand pregnancy tests are available at WalMart and they're pretty dang cheap. To take on you pee in a cup and then use a dropper, which is included in the test package to drop urine on the test. If you're pregnant two pink lines will develop. If you're not pregnant, only one line will develop.

If You Go to a Doctor, What Kind of Test Will You be Given and Will They Tell Your Parents?

Urine Test

If you go to a doctors office, a Planned Parenthood, or a pregnancy care center you are almost always going to be given a simple urine test. You will pee in one of those SUPER FUN plastic cups, screw the lid on and hand it back through a little slot or directly to a nurse who will then dip a test strip in it. This test strip is basically the same thing that is inside a home pregnancy test and measures for the hormone that is present during pregnancy.

Blood Test

Sometimes, but not very often, a blood test will be administered. This is also a really simple poke (seriously, I am a total phobe when it comes to this stuff and I can tell you this test is nothing). Chances are, you would not be given this test unless it was confirmed that you were actually pregnant and then you would get a blood test later on so your doctor could get more information about the pregnancy.

Will My Parents Find Out?

If you're a minor and you visit a doctors office (including Planned Parenthood or a pregnancy care center) then there is a possibility that they will tell your parents if the test is positive. According to Planned Parenthood's website, this is the time to buckle down and do your research by calling individual offices and asking them what their policy is on telling parents about pregnancy. It differs because there are different rules regarding minors and privacy in different states.

Put down your phone and take some time to do things that will help you to focus on the bigger picture while you wait to find out if you're pregnant or not.
Put down your phone and take some time to do things that will help you to focus on the bigger picture while you wait to find out if you're pregnant or not. | Source

How to Handle Your Anxiety Until You Find Out

Waiting to find out if you're pregnant is probably just eating you alive and has your heart doing some kind of funky dance. To occupy your time and calm your brain, you should try:

  • Writing. Writing down your thoughts in a journal can help you to break down those big bad fears into smaller, easier to tackle pieces.
  • Talking with a friend. If you have a friend who has gone through the same thing or who you trust and can confide in, this might help you to put the situation in perspective and get advice from someone who isn't in the heat of the moment. Just don't pick a friend who is prone to drama. You need calm right now.
  • Talk some more... to your mom, aunt or another woman who you hold in high regard and who has earned your trust. Just knowing that you're not alone and that you have someone in your corner to help you sort out your feelings will help take the edge off the anticipation.
  • Rethink your birth control. Since you're in a situation right now that has left you questioning whether your birth control method worked, now's a great time to find one that gives you confidence. Bedsider.org is a good place to find legit info and resources on birth control methods that will work best for you.

What to Do Once You Find Out

Whether the test comes back positive or negative, you're definitely going to have some things to deal with once you know what you're actually dealing with. Take comfort that we live in a really connected era and that you have resources and access to a plethora of information from birth control to pregnancy options.

Knowledge is power, you know that, someone somewhere told you that, I'm sure. So empower yourself with information and make a plan to take whatever situation you're in by the reigns and make it work for your future.

Here's a list of links to help you get started:

More Questions About Pregnancy

Can you get pregnant from taking a bath if a guy was in the tub before you?

No, you absolutely can not get pregnant this way. Remember, sperm are fragile little creatures that don't live for very long even in an ideal environment (a woman's reproductive system).

What about a pool, can you get pregnant from swimming in one?

No, there's no way, whatsoever, to get pregnant from swimming in a pool (or anywhere else, for that matter).

Can I get pregnant from messing around or just kissing?

No. You can not get pregnant this way, even if you kiss at a weird angle or the new Spiderman is playing in the background or your parent's portrait of Christ is staring at you on the basement wall, you will not get pregnant unless you have unprotected sexual intercourse.

What is emergency contraception?

Emergency contraception (or EC) is a form of birth control you take immediately after unprotected sex (or sex in which your birth control method has failed). You usually need to take it within a few days because it prevents pregnancy from starting at all. Remember, it takes a few days to conceive even after sex. That sperm goes on a journey and if it meets an egg at all, it still takes days for that fertilized egg to implant into the lining of the uterus and begin a pregnancy.

So, if a pregnancy has already started, the EC won't work. It's just last minute birth control, not abortion.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and does not substitute for diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed health professional. Drugs, supplements, and natural remedies may have dangerous side effects. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

Questions & Answers

  • My boyfriend and I tried to have sex but we didn't do it all of the way. I feel a bloated, tight feeling in my abdomen now. Should I be worried about pre-ejaculate getting me pregnant?

    Pre-ejaculate, which is sometimes called "precum" does contain sperm which means that yes, it can get you pregnant. However, according to American Pregnancy Association, the chances of this are pretty "rare" which means that you should take a deep breath as the bloating and tightness is likely more a symptom of anxiety and less of an indicator that you're pregnant.

    Still, if you miss your period, take a pregnancy test. Likewise, from here on out, it's always important to use a condom during any instance of intercourse or penetration to ensure that you won't get pregnant.

  • My boyfriend and I have been having sex for a little over a month now. We’ve used protection almost every time, but there were a few times that we didn’t. I think I’ve been experiencing PMS symptoms, but some could also be early pregnancy symptoms. My boyfriend and I are well known at the church, and we’re both Catholic, so abortion isn’t an option for us. What do I do?

    You're right, PMS and early pregnancy symptoms can be very similar. Here's what I noticed with myself though - I didn't have a lot of my usual PMS symptoms when I was actually pregnant. They were replaced by different symptoms, not typical for me before my period. That's anecdotal though and what you need to do, since you have had unprotected sex is to get your hands on a pregnancy test. Since I think it would be problematic for you to be seen purchasing a test and because it's possible that a clinic would inform your parents, I think that you should try to go a little ways from home to find a test. See if you and your boyfriend can go the town over so you're not spotted buying a test, or, if that's not possible, as a friend that you trust (who is NOT involved with your church) to help you out. Maybe this is a female relative who will be kind and understanding about your predicament, or an older female friend who cares most about helping you and supporting you in whatever decisions you make if the test turns out to be positive.

    Now, here's my unsolicited advice and experience - as a young woman who grew up in an evangelical church, and who would have been shamed for becoming pregnant and shamed for choosing an abortion, I hope you remember that above all else, you're important, and in the end you're the only one who can stick up for YOU. I understand your anxiety about this situation and the feeling that you're without options if you want to be loved or "saved" but I don't believe that's true. I don't talk about my personal beliefs on here very often, but I do believe in God, I love Jesus, but I don't think the world is black and white, I don't think God's love or understanding of us is either.

    If your test is positive, you must do what works for you and weigh your options not against what other people will think of you, but knowing that you're ultimately in charge of your own body and decisions. Being a mother is beautiful, it's also the most challenging thing in the world. Even if you feel that abortion isn't right for you, there are other options and the only person who knows the right one is you.

    If the test is negative, I would take a look at Bedsider.org - they're my favorite resource for finding birth control options that fit you and your partner's lifestyle!

    Oh - and don't take the test too early! I know it's hard to wait, but try to hold off until a day or two before your period is due to get results you can rely on.

  • So on July 18th, I had sex and I had a really light period on August 3rd. I then started birth control on August 12th. I have had all the symptoms of pregnancy. I don't know what to do. Could I be having a phantom pregnancy?

    So, sometimes before you start birth control, your provider will give you a pregnancy test beforehand. It would probably just be a urine test, so if you gave a urine sample, you might be good to go.

    However, if a pregnancy wasn't confirmed before you started the birth control and if you had unprotected sex then yes, there's a chance you're pregnant. I don't think you're having a phantom pregnancy though. I think you're either so anxious about the idea of pregnancy and also probably experiencing side effects from the birth control that you feel pregnant, or you're pregnant. The only way to know for sure is to go back to the doctor who prescribed the birth control and ask for a pregnancy test if you can't get ahold of a home pregnancy test.

  • My boyfriend and I had unprotected sex about a week and a half ago. It was two days before my Flo period tracker app said I would ovulate. I’ve also been experiencing early pregnancy symptoms that I found on Google. Could I be pregnant?

    Yes, symptoms and period tracker aside, you could be pregnant if you had unprotected sex. At this point, you should take a pregnancy test the day you miss your period (if you do).

    As an aside, don't use period trackers or apps to avoid pregnancy. These apps only guess at when you'll ovulate, they don't know for sure and relying on them to avoid getting pregnant puts the odds against you.

  • I had sex a month ago. I missed my period and I am having cramping. I did have protected sex, and he did not finish. Should I be worried?

    I don't think you should be worried if you properly used a condom or the pill. If you're having cramping then that's a good sign that your period is just gearing up to start and it's just late.

    Here's the thing though - I'm not a doctor and since I can't say for sure that your birth control method didn't fail, I would definitely keep track of how late you are for your cycle and if your period continues to not show up, you may want to talk to a doctor, if for no other reason than to just make sure you don't have a treatable condition that's causing you to miss your period.

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    • Kierstin Gunsberg profile imageAUTHOR

      Kierstin Gunsberg 

      14 months ago from Traverse City, Michigan

      It's a whole lotta work, let me tell you, Angel :)

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      Angel Guzman 

      14 months ago from Joliet, Illinois

      Great unbiased assuring article :) I'm glad I'm not pregnant, lol.

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