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Dad’s Method of “Managing” His Kids Ruffles Some Feathers Online

Not everyone agrees...

When it comes to kids and cleaning rooms, parents have pretty vastly different ideas about what's acceptable. Some parents think a messy room is a huge problem, indicative of an unorganized mind and showing a lack of boundaries. Other parents think a messy room is no big deal, just part of growing up...perhaps not ideal, but not the end of the world, either, and certainly not reason for punishment.

Apparently, @rotten_53 is a dad with the former philosophy. He thinks setting boundaries is so important, he's hidden the internet router, etc. behind a big cabinet so that it can turn off every day at 7 p.m. and not be turned back on until "after inspection" (as in, after he makes sure his kids' rooms are acceptably clean). 


Well, it's true that his children's rooms are impressively tidy. And this system presumably works for this guy's kids; it probably just seems normal and not like a super oppressive thing in their lives, or at least one would hope. 

But while some commenters thought this was a great way to draw boundaries and instill discipline, others found this method to be too harsh. 
"Join the army Sargent whacko and let your kids be kids. Child development is a process so all you’re doing is creating future Karen’s + anxiety"
"that's too much sir.. they're kids... ur control issues shouldn't be on them.. js.. let em be kids.. are u dad or sargent?"
"Turning off their net just means they start finding toys they've hidden to play with... it doesn't work for everyone.........."
"Well done dad. You HAVE to have structure and boundaries. Kids need it! Ive watched my nephews become rude and so disrespectful cus they have none."
"Teaching them, accountability, responsibility AND building good habits for later in life! Great job!"
"You are not a helicopter parent. You are a fantastic parent! They will grow up to be responsible adults one day! Great job, dad!"

Like all parenting techniques, whether or not this approach would work for you most likely depends on your kids. It's all about knowing what they need the most and making sure they feel supported and loved.