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Ten Things Everyone Should Know About Child Protective Services

Updated on November 2, 2016
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Shannon is a social worker, counselor, and Child Protective Services professional.

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I am a CPS professional and am writing this article based on my experience in my state and region. CPS practices vary state by state, city by city, and county by county. To get more information, look up CPS in your region.

Important: The views in the following article are those of the author and do not reflect those of any other person or entity. The advice listed should not substitute that of a legal professional and are not given as legal advice. Any examples are purely fictional. The following is of personal opinion and should be read as such. This article should not replace any legal or professional advice obtained. I encourage anyone who is seeking advice on any subject involving Child Protective Services to seek the advice of a legal professional.

1. CPS Is Legally Obligated to Investigate Every Report

You may have heard it before, but it is the truth. CPS is legally obligated to investigate every report it receives. There are, however, instances where CPS does not investigate or the case is closed without investigation. This typically happens when there is no real foundation to believe that there is abuse or neglect occurring.

Why a Case Might Not Be Investigated

For instance, a report is made that a 14-year-old child is being left home alone after school. If the child does not have any special needs and is not causing any damage to property or otherwise putting himself in danger, it would appear that the child is a normal freshman in high school with no other risk factors. Therefore, this case might be closed at intake because no real neglect is occurring. On the other hand, if that same report states that the child has Down’s Syndrome, the report may become an investigation.

Types of Investigation and How Long They Might Take

There are several types of investigations ranging from one conversation with a parent to a full investigation. In any case, if the report makes it to the desk of an investigator, they are legally obligated to respond to that case. This is not a policy; this is the law. Case response time is 24 to 72 hours depending on the case. Some factors, such as screening and routing, can make this slightly longer. In general though, a case will have some response within 72 hours. A response can range from seeing the entire family to seeing just the child or speaking with any person on the case. There may also just be unsuccessful attempts to contact someone.

An investigation does not mean that a parent will necessarily be contacted within 72 hours. A parent may not be contacted for some time after a case is initiated. The reporter is sometimes contacted prior to any action, and sometimes not contacted at all except to receive a letter giving the ruling on the case. The letter only states the ruling and gives absolutely no details on anything else.

What About Ridiculous or False Claims?

It does not matter how ridiculous or false a claim may be. When an investigator receives the referral, they must investigate, as they are legally obligated to. Even if the child, parents, witnesses, and ten other unrelated persons tell an investigator that something did not occur, the case must still be completed. It has to be. That is what an investigator intends to gain from an investigation: the truth about what happened.

One of my favorite quotes from a senior investigator was this: “We go out to disprove an allegation as much as we go out to prove it.” When an investigation is received, they have to look at it and gather evidence. After that evidence is gathered, they make a ruling or determination. They cannot take the word of one single person, even the child. They have to look at all evidence. If an allegation is false, the best thing for you to do is give the investigator every resource to show that. Tell him or her why you think someone reported and what their motivation might have been. Investigators do consider this and want to hear it.

What About Reports Made Repeatedly by the Same Person?

It does not matter how many times a report has been made by the same person or for the same thing. CPS is still obligated to investigate. There are systems in place to keep you from being harassed by a reporter or by us.

For example, let’s say that you have been reported for physical abuse of your child and you completed an investigation. If the same reporter calls in with the same allegations one week after the investigation with no new incident, the investigation may be closed without you even knowing it was reported. The ruling would be that it had already been investigated. You may only receive a phone call or you may receive nothing.

If there are new alleged incidents, the case may be investigated again. If this occurs, say, four times in a row, they can start to close these without investigation. However, it’s important to know that it does not always happen this way, and you may be investigated for the same type of allegations from the same reporter many times. It all depends on whether new information is given in each new report. Good investigators will speak to the reporter and attempt to determine if they are doing this for reasons other than concerns for the safety of the child. Just because you are being reported doesn't mean you are guilty. Investigators do not assume you did it when they receive the report.

What About Ulterior Motives of people who report abuse?

Trust me when I say that when a CPS worker receives a large amount of reports on the same allegation by the same reporter and it’s clear the motivation is something other than the welfare of the child, we know that there is an ulterior motive. Sometimes we do have a long talk with a reporter regarding making false allegations, the consequences for doing so, and the unnecessary stress they are placing on a child.

“We go out to disprove an allegation as much as we go out to prove it.”

— -Senior CPS Investigator

2. Can CPS See My Child Without My Permission?

The simple answer is yes. The longer answer is:

CPS will usually attempt to see your child before they talk to you. There is one very simple reason for this. Workers want to talk to the child before any parent has the chance to tell them what to say (at best) or warn them of consequences of disclosing abuse (at worst).

Also, if the child has some sort of bruising or physical evidence of abuse or neglect, the worker will try to get to that child before the evidence is gone.

What If I'm Falsely Accused?

If you are reading this, you may be upset because you have been falsely accused. It’s understandable to feel upset, but you should also remember that some parents are not falsely accused and it’s important for CPS to reach those children before there can be any intimidation or coaching by abusive parents.

If you consider this an injustice or a violation of your rights as a parent, think of the child who is being abused by a parent. The child may disclose this to a worker if they interview them prior to contact with the parent, but if a parent is made aware first, are they not going to intimidate, threaten, or further harm the child in order to ensure the child does not disclose this abuse? It is likely that CPS will try to see your child at school, daycare, or another setting before notifying you. The rules for this may vary in some states, so check your rights in your own state. In many states, you can look up the laws and policies of your child welfare agency online.

What If I Don't Want My Child Interviewed?

If you do not want your child interviewed and a worker comes to your school, you can tell them no. You can even have something on file at the school stating that no one is allowed to interview your child without you present. Once you have stated to a CPS worker that you do not want your child interviewed, they will not be interviewed without a court order or “exigent circumstances.”

That basically means that if you refuse to allow the child to be interviewed, CPS must obtain a court order from a judge stating that you must allow the interview or that the situation must be of such an emergency or risk that the child must be taken into custody of the worker and interviewed. If the emergency situation occurs, the worker must justify that in a court within 24 hours and obtain the approval of a judge and they must also tell you about it. It is rare to interview a child by “exigent circumstances” unless the child is also removed at that time (more on removals below).

Can CPS Interview My Child at My Home?

If a CPS worker wants to interview your child at your home, they must ask your permission. They cannot speak with your child at your home with you present without your consent. If you say no, they will not conduct the interview. (There are reasons, however, why you should cooperate - there’s a section about this below).

What If My Child Is Home Alone?

If your child is home alone, CPS can talk to them but it varies by circumstance. A child can't give a worker permission to enter the home, but if the child is home alone and that is a danger to themselves or to others, the police department will be contacted and all parties may enter your home. This is an extreme circumstance. If an older child is home alone, they generally won't be fully interviewed at that time. If they are, it will be outside of your home.

3. You Do Not Have to Let CPS in the Door

CPS has no special right to enter your home without your permission and you can say no to them. Workers do not have a right to obtain search warrants. You can be cooperative in the investigation without ever letting a worker walk inside your door.

You can open the door and allow them to look inside and still not allow them to come in. Workers should ask you before coming in your home. If you say no, they cannot and will not enter. If they do enter, you can contact the police.

What If I Let CPS Come Inside?

Once you allow CPS into your home, you can ask them to leave whenever you like and they must leave. For the purposes of your home and property, CPS workers are just like any other person. They cannot look through your drawers or search your home unless you give them permission to do so. Allowing entry does not entitle the worker to be able to go through your medicine cabinet. They can look around and see what is visible to their eye, but they must ask permission to open a drawer or the refrigerator.

4. You Have Rights

Parents and alleged perpetrators have rights. Ask your worker about those rights or research them on your own. If you get a surprise visit, you can ask for time to look up your rights. You’re in more control than you think. For example, you can say to a worker, “I’d like to talk to you in a few days after I’ve looked over my rights.”

Can I Ask for Time to Review My Rights?

In my particular county in my state, CPS gives out a booklet outlining the parent’s rights when they see them for the first time. If you receive any materials, you can ask for time to review them if you want. You can contact an attorney or consult with one. If it makes you feel more comfortable, do it. In most cases, a few days will not harm your case. It is better to cooperate as much as you are comfortable with in the beginning.

5. The Investigation Process Is Designed to Be Thorough

So you have been accused of not supervising your child and now workers are asking you questions about drugs, alcohol, pornography, and whether you've ever had an abortion. They asked your child if anyone had ever attempted to touch them inappropriately and if they have food to eat every day. You feel like CPS is investigating your life from the inside out. What is going on here?

Why Are They Asking Questions that Aren't Related to the Allegation?

Well in a sense, they are investigating your life from the inside out. Workers screen children for all types of abuse or neglect regardless of the actual allegation. They will be asked questions about the allegation, but they will also be asked broad, general questions about all types of abuse and neglect. The reasons for this should be obvious. If the allegation itself is false, but Mom and Dad are doing drugs in front of the child, the child is still at risk and CPS needs to know that.

Mom and Dad are going to be asked some general screening questions as well. They’ll be asked about their own childhoods and habits. They’ll be asked about whether they have financial problems or had domestic violence in old relationships. These types of questions help a CPS worker determine several things. For example, is the family in a position of high stress? Does the mother or father show a pattern of behavior? Is there a long history of violence, sexual abuse, or incest in a family? CPS wants a complete picture both so that they can identify if a child is at risk, but also to see if there is anything CPS can do to help that family since that’s a crucial part of their job too.

What Happens If They Find Something Else?

There are many times when the original allegation is not what the investigator found to be of the most concern in the family. A physical abuse allegation may lead investigators to discover that no physical abuse is occurring, but that there is domestic violence between Dad and his girlfriend. In the end, they may ask you to attend some domestic violence classes even though this was not what you were reported for.

6. CPS Needs Your Consent to Test You for Drugs

This is a sticky subject. CPS workers can drug test you, but they do need your consent. They cannot force you to take a drug test since they do not have the legal authority to do so. They will not notify you that they are going to drug test and they will arrange for the test within a very short period. There are certain counties or states that will drug test every person in every case. You can be drug tested no matter your age and your children can also be drug tested. There are a million rules that govern this and all kinds of different rules for each situation. You should know what those rules are and know what your rights are.

It's in Your Best Interest to Take the Drug Test

The way you react to being asked to take a drug test matters. If you refuse to take a drug test, you can be court ordered to take one. If you are court ordered to take a drug test, they will give you a nail scrape, a hair follicle, or some other type of test that tests farther back into your history, and you will be required to take this test. You will not “fool” a test by refusing and requiring that a court order be gotten to buy more time.

What Happens if You Refuse the Drug Test

If you refuse a drug test, the reality is that the investigator will assume that you are using and act accordingly. This is important to know. People who are clean rarely refuse to take a drug test even though it does happen. In fact, they are more likely to demand a drug test to be cleared of the allegation of drug use than to refuse to take one on principal. You can refuse on principle, and I've seen it happen. However, it’s not a good idea. Just take the test.

If You're Going to Test Positive

If you are going to be positive on a drug test, tell the investigator before you take it and discuss what will happen. Positive drug tests do not mean automatic removal of your children. It may mean that they have to stay with someone else for a while, but it does not necessarily mean your children will be put in foster care. Every situation is different. Be honest and talk to your investigator. They will not be shocked. They will not overreact. They deal with it every single day.

7. A Very Short Discussion on Removals

I have heard many things about CPS and removals. I have heard things as ridiculous as they have a quota they must reach for removing children or that they get bonuses for removing a child. I will speak only for myself when I say I’d rather do anything than remove a child from their family. First of all, when a child is removed, CPS workers have just guaranteed themselves an extra 50 or so hours of work. There are many things involved in a child’s removal that only the worker deals with. It is not pleasant and they do not want to do those things. They have enough work and do not want to make more for themselves by removing your child for reasons other that the child’s safety.

Workers do not get bonuses, perks, or anything else for removals, and there is certainly no quota. The policy of CPS is to do everything possible to avoid removal. You may not see those policies or think any of those things are being done, but they are.

Why Did It Happen So Fast?

It may happen very fast for you and you may feel that they have walked in without knowing you at all and “snatched” your baby without a moment of thought. While those feelings are understandable, it simply does not work that way. It doesn't happen that fast for us. Remember that CPS likely began the investigation before approaching you. There are cases where the situation is so dire that an emergency removal is necessary based on very limited but devastating information.

Removal vs. Placement

Removal is different from placement. If you have been asked to place your child with family or other types of kin, your child has not been removed; you have voluntarily placed your child in another home while you work some type of service or control some different factors.

Removal will involve a court order from a judge either prior to the removal or within 24 hours after the removal. You will be asked to attend court hearings and you will get an attorney. If this is not happening, you have not had your child removed. If your child has been legally removed, you can still place them in a relative or kin’s home. Foster care is absolutely the very last resort for children and the goal is to not have them placed in foster care. Any other viable, safe option is very much preferred. And removal does not mean that you cannot ever have your child returned to your custody. The process for permanent, non-voluntary termination of parental rights is very, very long and takes 18 months or more.

8. How the CPS Can Help You

CPS can often be demonized. People who are being investigated can feel like CPS is there to harm them, tear their family apart, pry into their lives, and embarrass them. People feel harassed and invaded. I get it. They get it. CPS workers understand that you feel this way. They would feel this way too if it were happening to them. While it’s the CPS’ job to investigate claims, they can also can help you.

How Can CPS Help Me?

CPS has access to massive amounts of resources and can provide you with tools, materials, and concrete things that you want or need to help your family work better. Ask your investigator about anything you need, from diapers and food to a new home. They will get you resources if there are any. They may recommend things for you and you can request specific things as well.

CPS is there to help, whether it be getting a child out of a dangerous situation, or helping a parent gain skills or resources. The goal of any investigator is not to harm your family, but to improve it. That being said, they don’t have limitless resources and they may not be able to fully meet all of the requests you have. But they will try. Helping families is my favorite part of the work that I do.

Helping families is my favorite part of the work that I do.

9. Why You Should Cooperate with CPS

I mentioned above that you should cooperate with CPS, and there is a reason for this. Cooperating with CPS is almost always to your benefit. If you don’t allow your child to be interviewed, it is natural for us to wonder why.

Won't the Interview Cause My Child Emotional Distress?

I have heard every reason for why parents do not want their child to be interviewed. The most common is that they fear the interview will cause emotional distress. However, CPS workers are trained in interviewing and screening children. They are professionals at it.

We always make any interview as simple and easy as possible for a child. Most children do not find it remotely stressful, and actually enjoy the interview. Workers may provide them with coloring books or other play things to ease the mood and make the child feel more comfortable. I have spent a full hour of pre-interview with a child in the past doing nothing but putting that child at ease before asking them a single question related to CPS.

CPS is in the business of helping children, not harming them. They do everything they can to make children feel more safe. If a child finds the interview too distressing, the CPS worker may end the interview for that child’s sake. Most of the time, though, children have very little emotional reaction to an interview and express no distress at all.

What Happens if I Don't Let CPS in My Home or Take a Drug Test?

CPS doesn’t always have to come into your home. If you do not allow CPS to come in when they've asked to come inside, they can assume you are hiding something. This happens to workers fairly often, so it is not as severe as not allowing a child to be seen or not allowing a drug test.

However, if the allegation is that your house is a hazard to the child and you do not allow entry into the home, CPS will assume you are hiding something. If the allegation involves people who may be living at the home, or any concern for the home environment, CPS will assume you are hiding something if you do not let them in.

Not opening the door on principle happens, but it shouldn’t. CPS isn’t interested in going through your underwear drawer. They want to make sure the home is safe. As I said before, open the door and allow us to look inside and see that you don’t have trash piled to your ceiling or dog feces all over the carpet where your baby crawls. Just looking around can be enough. If it is not, CPS can obtain a court order.

What if I Don't Cooperate At All?

It is possible for you to be completely uncooperative with CPS. If they never see your child, your home, you, or anyone you know, then there is very little they can do. This, however, can be a very large red flag that something is really wrong. I personally suggest that if you do not wish to cooperate in any way, you contact an attorney and have that attorney talk with us.

My experience has been that if there is no cooperation, a lot of things are very wrong. CPS may just go away eventually on one case, but when families have problems, they tend to get involved more than once. If you’re not hiding anything, it’s better to just cooperate. CPS can close your case a lot quicker and easier if you show us that nothing is wrong.

10. Workers Are People Too.

I add this last statement because I stand by it as the number one thing I wish people would consider. CPS workers are just people. They are highly trained and educated people, but they are still just people. They make mistakes. They miss things. They go home to their own lives. They are doing their job. They aren’t doing anything as personal vendetta against you and they aren’t judging you in a personal way. They are regulated and well supervised.

"It Is My Job to Be Hated."

They are people with a thankless job that doesn’t pay well and that requires a massive commitment. They have hobbies and dreams and goals. They have feelings. They often have their own children, their own problems, and their own pasts. They are simply people who have chosen to dedicate a significant amount of their time to helping families and children. I often say that "it is my job to be hated" because it is incredibly rare for anyone to welcome a CPS investigator into their lives with open arms and loving kindness.

Instead, mine is a profession where you have to get used to the idea that most of the families you encounter consider you an enemy. We know this and we can handle it because we know we are doing the right thing. At the end of the day, we are just people doing our jobs.



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      John Doe 32 hours ago

      I have a question, my wife has been smoking marijuana for the last 4 years without me knowing it. She's been sluggish, sleeps 3/4's of the day and claims she will home school our kids. She is now separating from me to a drug infested town with my 4 children and I haven't done anything to deserve this.treatment.

      I have taught my own children, fed them and took them places while she runs off weekly and on weekends on trips to "GET A BREAK" it's frustrating and she gets away with it. I don' the want to see my children fall behind in School, what can I do to prevent it?

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      Selena 39 hours ago

      Quick question can cps remove ur child if u dont have thrm full time with you meaning grandpa helps you out with your child but he lives in mexico tijuana

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      Anonymoose 3 days ago

      I live in a small town that is right next to a city. I have found that each and every mother (of a special-needs child) I have crossed paths with have all had cps involvement. So... were are all abusive....?? The public school system here does not want to have kids with IEPs "taint" their precious ratings. The school administrators, in their role as mandated reporters, ABUSE THEIR POWER and will call over b.s. just to get any kid out that requires a higher level of care than they want to provide. And, when the schools do neglectful things, nothing is done. DCF and the schools in bed hand "washing" the other.

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      Anonymoose 3 days ago

      I live in a small town that is right next to a city. I have found that each and every mother (of a special-needs child) I have crossed paths with have all had cps involvement. So... were are all abusive....?? The public school system here does not want to have kids with IEPs "taint" their precious ratings. The school administrators, in their role as mandated reporters, ABUSE THEIR POWER and will call over b.s. just to get any kid out that requires a higher level of care than they want to provide. And, when the schools do neglectful things, nothing is done. DCF and the schools in bed hand "washing" the other.

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      Blizzard523 3 days ago

      If you have children with special-needs AND you are a single/divorced mother, you might as well have a bulls-eye on your back. Placement of special-needs kids gets more $$. I read the CPS of Mass.' manifesto and, by their OWN ACCOUNT, the majority of neglect claims pertain to the households of single, white mothers...and by a HUGE MARGIN. So... the non-white single mothers in the drug-infested, melting-pot city of Springfield are BETTER parents?? I don't think so.. I smell a giant biased, bigoted rat..

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      Msg. 3 days ago

      Can cps open a case if the person is not in the district.

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      Joanna 6 days ago

      There invasive and they really dont care. They started bugging me over a missed dr apt.

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      Nyob 8 days ago

      Wow yup u really care. Thats why when you took my kids and gave me back the older ones but kept my twin blue eyed blonde haired boy and girl the cps worker joked that i was getting 3 for 2 so it was a good deal then she told me i could have more some day. Not too mention all the proof i had to prove cps was lying. I even got my kids doctor to vouche for me BUT none of that was even used as evidence. Yup they sure do care....also when i got my 3 older ones back they finally opened up about how the foster parents would flick them in the head with thick rings on and call the dumb. Also how they made them sit in there rooms all day just for missing a spot when they vaccuumed. I just dont understand why all of us dont band together against them...oh thats right cuz if we stand up to them they torture our innocent children and tear us apart while stabbing slowly. Maybe people should do research before getting into this profession. Ill try to pray for the evil cps workers souls but idk how to forgive them for the irrepairable damage they have inflicted on my innocent children.

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      vic 8 days ago

      I have 5 special needs grankids i have full custody my oldest grandson which is 6 is out of control. Vrry distructive hurts the other kids snd instead of putting him in a specisl school which he is outta control therr also the school refuses .i was told if i gave him up which i dont want to do cuz he needs help and i cant handle him thry ssid they will take all 5 of them .3 out of 5 ive raisd since babies.ivr hsd my ok est w one dince 8 months my second oldest since birth and my younset since 10 months .the other 2 since thry wss 2 and 3 .they have alot of behavioral due to the foste system .so fostrr system is not the answer. I wanna know can they legally take all 5 or can they place the one whom is giving me all the trouble? Im very concerned noone eill help me

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      Kim 8 days ago

      My daughter had her 3 year old son taken by cops due to the fact little kaedons got out of the hose while she was sleeping, got into her car in the driveway and say there honking the horn off and on for (according to the next door neighbors) 15-20 mins. Instead of bringing him home (the nieghbors) as this was a one time incidence. They called the police, police called cops. Cos took my grandson put him in a foster home and hes been there for a year now! She has complied with the parenting classes, but they also requested her to refrain from drinking I guess due to the fact she has had 2 back to back drunk driving after her father passed. She's 25 single hard working mother who solely provides for her son shes a loving mother. She works as a bartender. And unfortunately..failed an alcohol test. But the alcohol should not be involved in this incidence. It was a one time thing and really wasn't that harmful. How can she get her son back. He's already traumatized because his father decided to abandon him. She cant afford an attorney and in order for my daughter to get him back (supposedly) cops is requiring that everyone in the house hold be screened and cannot have any record what so ever! I can't even see him or have him stay with me..because I have a drunk driving almost 30 years ago!!! This is wrong what do you suggest i know we have rights. Broken hearted grandmother

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      Katelin 8 days ago

      My step son is in a home where the mothers brother is overdosing on heroin in the house around the child and is now in jail for raping a 13 year old girl several times. The mother previously failed a drug test and is an everyday drinker. She keeps my husbands son up all hours of the night outside with her while she is drinking and playing rap music. He is only 2 years old and he is swearing and pointing to his private and saying 'dick'. There is proof of her talking about getting pills and many videos she's posted herself. SO MUCH PROOF and CPS has never been anything but rude to us. Telling us we are lying about him swearing because the worker spent some time with him and there are no concerns with the brother at all. The worker then hung up on my husband and I then called to figure out what was going on because the lady was so short and rude. As soon as I told the lady who I was and what I was calling about SHE HUNG UP ON ME! We also have PROOF that the case worker that investigated told the mother when my husband called, when I called and what we both said which they are absolutely not allowed to do. This child is in a very dangerous home and they will not do anything about it!!!! A youth counselor with the state and even a CPS worker in a different county than hers told us the child should have been removed from her custody and into ours. That home is no place for a child but the agency that is supposed to help children IS NOT!

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      Wendy 8 days ago

      Can cps tap your cell phone and give the information to your x husband

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      Amy 9 days ago

      My caseworker is saying I have to go away to rehab. Can I do outpatient rehab?

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      Parker Ang 13 days ago

      First off let me start by saying this.

      Some of the stuff is true on what the case worker said but what i wll say is a complete lie?

      They DO get grants and 7 or 8000 for every head they remove from the home period.

      I have been told this by not only several people but an actual case worker thats whistle blowing on cps since he quit working for them.

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      Daniel 2 weeks ago

      lol, some of the things said just doesn't always work that way. While yes, those are to protocols to follow, a lot of them go way beyond that and acted like they're the police or parole officers. General rule is if you get a visit by the CPS, you better step on egg shells because anything they say is taken as the if and's or but's. I remember having one pop up on me at my home and I didn't let her in and she made some outrageous "suggestions". She came over the next day with the cops but yet no warrant but "probable cause". What was I going to I let them in because I felt threaten. Anyhow, they did their search and nothing. Kids were fine like she told me well, we got a tip from a reliable source at work that the kids were in danger. I ask to elaborate and immediately got the talk about how she could take them...ok, fine...I'll shut up. Little did she know or the cops that I have cameras all over the place....little did I know that if there are no signs stating that I have cameras that I could be hit with a fine and video recording a CPS worker = legal issues apparently. In the end, I "got off with a warning" and was pretty much told to do a better job....Great job CPS, you are making the world a better place. I still never got any detail on why this was happening but it's in the past now. Let you all know, we are doing fantastic and couldn't be prouder for my kids.

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      Carolyn in CA 2 weeks ago

      my step son father passed away, we were married for 7 years and I am the one that took care of my 30 year old son who has down syndrome my husband was sick when we got married but I did not know how sick until 2 years into the marriage, he began getting sicker, I cam off my job due to his sickness because there was no one else to take care of him, my husband was in and out of the hosptial a lot my husband had other kids that was out their on drugs and drinking they did nothing for their father, yea they came by the house for his birthday, brought him gifts, but I husband would have rather had their time and help not something he did not need. but you know they say the thought counts I was just glad they took out time to come by on his birthday he was happy to see them. other times they would come to the house because they had no where else to go, no money or place of their own so they would come to the house and sleep, not talk just sleep, and get up and leave somethimes they would eat something or sometimes get a phone call and jump up and run out the door, I did not understand that, but you know that was his kids and however he had to see them he got a chance to see them and know they were ok, for some reason they did not like me, I did not know why, when we eat dinner if they were there we asked them to join us, we always ate dinner together at the table unless my husband was not up to coming to the table then he would sit close to the table on the couch, but his kids never did anything to help him, just ask for money, I told him he was enabling them, because they could be working going to school but they choose to live the life of drugs and the streets I believe if they want to change you can support them in ways to help them. but my husband passed away after 7 years of marriage and the kids wanted everything even my step son, they would harresse me the daughter even tried to kill me while my husband was on his death bed in the hospital I had to put retraining orders on some of them my did not do a will because I thought he would come through just like he always did but this time he said he was tired and did not want any more medication or machines when he passed my husband kids was not there even though I called them they did not show up until the next day and he could not talk, they began coming to the house looking for thing and taking things they thought he had a policy but he did not, I had to pay for service no help from kids thank God VA did pay for putting him in the ground, but were made at me because he died, I had pictures of me and him and the kids, his kids whent and tour up the pictures of me and him, today they have taken my son from me saying their were to much stress in the home I never said he could not see his bothers and sister, they just could not do it at my house because they would not leave and want to bring all their drugs with them and I would not allow them to do drugs or drink in my home because they would get high or drunk and start fighting, on the day of my husbands funneral they started a big fight, because my step son did not want to go the furneral because of the fighting he went to his day program, but his brother brought him any how, after geting to the church my son said he wanted to go back to school, someone took him back to school from the church, now today day 7 months later they came and took my son from my house saying it was too much stress and I did not undersand that but thats what they were trying to do all the time so you can say they got what they wanted and I just lost my son, I did not understand that what can I do?

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      Annie 2 weeks ago

      What if the CPS worker assigned to investigate allegations abuses his office, sides with one parent against the other, and contributes to the creation of a new investigation based on false allegations? Also, can a CPS worker have a second job? In the case I am (unfortunately) involved in, I discovered that the CPS worker has a side job as a mental health counselor.

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      Disagree 2 weeks ago

      I disagree with some things CPS do!! I understand that sometimes you think its for the child safety, but a lot of the times you hurt the child more by taking them away from the parent/parents that they love. If a child is asking for their parent/parents then obviously they must feel safe around that individual!! In that case I believe the child should not be removed from the home. I feel that the loving and caring parents (which i know for a fact social workers can tell who those parents are) should be aloud to dicipline their child how they feel. No parent that loves their child/children will hurt them for no reason or to the extreme!! Of you course if the child is very light bruses will appear!! Im speaking from experience. I am light skinned myself and Ive had a bruse appear just from someone poking me to hard with their finger!! That does not mean ive been abused. CPS really needs to be carefull!! Some kids do lie believe it or not I have three young kids 2,5, and 6 and i have caught them in multiple lies. I didnt come from me but other people thats been around them. Kids are very smart and can be manipulative!! You should not put anything passed a child. Ive seen from experience!! Hopefully you share this knowledge with other workers. Its 100% the truth!!

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      George 2 weeks ago

      I am not saying they do their job in cases they do and in some I have witnessed first hand they didn't feel there was a need to investigate when there was clearly abuse and neglect going on as well the mother laid up with men staying high being.mean to child letting men be mean to child but they said they didn't suspect there was any abuse the child is afraid this is sad

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      jj 2 weeks ago

      bunch of garbage lies

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      Lauro 3 weeks ago

      Can my case worker look further into her investigation

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      CrystalH 3 weeks ago

      Due to the 4th and 14th amendments you cannot do anything without the parent/guardian's consent.

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      sara 3 weeks ago

      15 year old child is running his parents life .. He doesnt want to mind go to school or do chores so he throws parents under bus..

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      Madison 3 weeks ago

      What do you do when COS OR DID does not invite or tell your attorney about the date of plan of action so they can be there. Also since when they can take a hair test and you pass it and find allocations false but insist you go to impatient regal remember no drugs found?

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      Brainiac 4 weeks ago

      Why would we believe your article when you work for CPS yourself? Your article is obvious propaganda and should be removed from the internet. Leave the article writing to news reporters/investigators. I am sure that the leader of the KKK can write a pretty convincing article about the evil of colored people, and you are no different. I will be praying for you.

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      Katherine D. Brown 4 weeks ago

      I am sorry. But, this is bull. CPS came into our lives for a short period about 4 years ago. The case worker lied and did not inform us properly. I have the proof in the same folder still, today, that she lied. They did not try and place my children with kin. They went straight to another strangers home in which the case worker also lied about the age of the woman. She was 80 and was somehow going to care for a 3 year old, a 14 month old, and a newborn all by herself? NOPE! You may operate with a code but the same can not be said for every single CPS worker. There are always a few bad apples. I do not trust CPS and I certainly do not believe in what they do anymore. No one could believe I lost my children. A caring loving mother... who treated her children amazingly. I still loathe CPS for the trauma they caused my children. It took my son years and years to get over the seperation anxiety and he still has it a little.

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      lucythecat 4 weeks ago

      PLEASE!!!!! do not take their advice CPS is the enemy. they dont want to help you. i have been dealing with cps for about 6 months now. they wont go away and they only want to make your life a living hell. they lie and make things up. they want to take your kids from you. they are a business. they earn money by getting kids taken away. if you think that this is crazy, just google cps. most stories are extremely bad. not everyone is abusing their kids but damn near everyone has an awful story to tell. they take pleasure in coming in your home and telling you how to live your life. they have the most pleasure in taking your kids away, that seems to be the goal. they lie and make up lies about you. PLEASE!!!!! dont believe this article. all you have to do is a little research to discover that they are not your friend nor are they looking out for the best interest of your children. perhaps there are some good cps workers out there but the very vast majority of them are not good and are surley not looking out for your interest

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      Cherie 4 weeks ago

      How long does it take to get children back that I babysit after the case is closed?

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      Tala 4 weeks ago

      Is there any law that protect those who are hospitalised from PCS perusing court of removing there kids

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      Edith McInnish 4 weeks ago

      I have a daughter 53yrs 0ld who has been on drugs for many yrs now she is presently taking and selling synthetic marj. she has a daughter who lives in a separate room outside of her house and has her boyfriend living with her outside, both are still in school and 17 years old. IS THERE ANYTHING THAT CAN BE DONE.?

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      Dave Republic 5 weeks ago

      I agree with the below comments. Although they sound like the ranting of madmen, they are actually quite correct, to my horror. I made the mistake of trying to work with DHR and in one situation, the worker twisted our words around she tried her best to take our children. She had no evidence of child abuse... In fact, it was about me having an argument with my wife, not even in front of the children. My wife told them she didn't know if the children saw the argument, which they didn't because it was naptime and they were in a different room... But the lady interviewed my child, and because she was aware that we had argued (after I explained to my daughter why she was being interviewed), I was branded with an 'indication of child abuse,' which has the same repercussions as an assault conviction in the second degree... All this would normally be determined in a court of law, but instead was determined by the opinion of some black bitch that was probably abused herself and was the judge, jury, and executioner, trying to make that money playaaa

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      Yeahright 5 weeks ago

      This is absolute bullshit. If they are simply looking into the safety of the child then workers wouldn't lie or twist parents words around like they do. Listen if you encounter cps do not let them in. It may make them think you have something to hide but their mindset is that you're guilty until proven innocent either way. They will find ANY reason to take your child if a call occurs. They will lie to win their case rest assure. Record all conversations and if they want to speak with your child alone allow them only if it is recorded. Do not speak to them about anything personal unless your lawyer is present. Don't try to make your case to them they will twist literally anything you say. Like they said they are professionals at interviewing children and they are manipulative twats. You will have a hearing 72 hours make sure you are able to produce as much evidence that supports your claim. About the only thing i do agree with is to take a piss test. And keep documentation of that as well because they will try to claim you refused even if you didn't. I agree that child abuse is a serious matter and should be looked into but not under false pretenses. A family should NEVER be ripped apart based on lies which is what they do so to state that they don't get bonus pay or quotas makes me wonder about a workers motives. Are you all power hungry? There are parents truly abusing their children and it sickens me but the fact is that if a child is in a loving home they should not be ripped away. Not every single bruise on a child is abuse, and frankly children can be rowdy they play and there are times children get hurt and their parents arent able to be there to witness it. no every parent is doing drugs. Not every mother has a choice regarding the domestic violence within their relationship. The mother's need help just as much as the children. That's a good way to have a mother commit suicide. All you state officials can do is provide a piece of paper stating for them to stay away. And they rarely actually ever face jail time. Some women are afraid. You all do not help. You all base your findings on lies and the fact that you're on here defending your job amuses me. Many innocent parents become victims, their names slandered their reputation, and careers ruined all because of lies to boost your paychecks. Yes investigations should be done. But for God's sake you evil, conniving asshats quit lying on parents just to boost your paycheck and your career. If there's no actual proof fuck off and quit trying to find ANY reason and using lies to back up your motives. You all are pieces of shit quit trying to act like you all are just helping children. Lol. They're just a paycheck to you all

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      Anna 5 weeks ago

      For any parent reading this, this a such bull shit. This is all what workers have been trained to convince you in order to get what they want done. Without being paranoid, and saying they have a "quota" think about it logically. Cps only works if there are children in the system. The amount of children absolutely has a dollar sign on it, just do the most basic research and you can find that out. They do not care about you or your children. The parents are the enemy. Just realize that they will try to take you to court, and you are on the other side of the court room. So they are not on your side. Also, please realize that whatever you think about the law and your rights, does not mean anything when dealing with cps. They do not need hard facts, or to prove without a shadow of a doubt anything. All they need is hearsay and they have won. They will force parents to complete a safety plan that is created to work against the parents, and be almost impossible to actually do in reasonable amount of time. Again, because they lose money if you get your kids back. Some ocular workers will help you, but most will be rude, try and make you look bad/ incompetent, and lie to you and about you. The court will see exactly what they want the court to see, unless you fight you ass off. Even then, they will claim you are hard to work with, and make you look bad. The supervisor is not your friend either. They are calling the shots after all. It's not that they are evil people who hate you. They just want their paycheck. They become robots and feel nothing for you pain or your children's outcome. None of them take any kind of mental evaluation to see if they are even sound enough to do this work, which tells you a lot. I wish every parent looked into this before cps knocks on their door. Please do all the research about your rights, and how cps will fight against those rights, and play games with your life, and your children. Once your children are out of your hands, they are so often put somewhere where the real abuse and neglect happen, and those people get paid to do that to your children. No matter what your child says about them, they will claim it's the parents fault and they are actually doing very well in the placement. Part of the goal is to get as much distance between you and your children as possible, so they can say your bond is broken, and they have now bonded with the placement. It breaks my heart to see this system work. I had to leave for this very reason, along with any other person who has a heart, which means all that remain are the robots. I'm sorry to any parent living the nightmare that is cps. Good luck to you and your children.

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      Please, if anyone could let me know how to work cooperatively with CPS, do's and don'ts. Anything at all. Me and my common law partner had just won primary custody of his son. We are afraid that CPS may be called out of spite, or for the mother to get him back in her care. We are already going through difficulties and mom wanted to go immediately back to court because she isn't happy with this new court order. We are dealing with a very self-entitled narcissistic woman, who will try and do whatever she can to get her way (no matter who gets stepped on -including my Stepson). We do not want to lose him. There is complications with this situation, and I'm not getting into it, but social services used to be involved and their was false accusations already told to the social worker, these acusations were proven as untrue; however this woman still constantly plays these games. Please email me at . I am also willing to give more detail if need be, many thanks.

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      What the 5 weeks ago

      Was this thing written by a cps worker? Most of this is complete bull. Parents if cps knocks on your door get a lawyer. Cps workers hate laywers. Your lawyer will stop cps in there tracks and stop them from asking absurd questions like this article tells you you must answer.

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      tim 6 weeks ago

      I have a downs syndrome daughter who has raised several concerns about her care over the years. I was falsely accused of abuse in 2010. Despite the suggestion above, I have persisted with highlighting the concerns my daughter has raised and in the suspicion of her being druggesd to control her behaviour. All under the guise of the mental capacity act. Forgive me if i dont trust the system

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      Penny 6 weeks ago

      My experience with CPS is horrible. And please read the laws handbook so you know your rights because they have a habit of violating a lot of them and you have a lot more rights then you think you do (Child Protective Servies and the Juvenile Justice System New Handbook to protect children and parents from CPS abuse and their constitutional rights). 1. First and foremost if CPS comes to your door under your 4th and 14th amendment rights they need a warrant otherwise you do not need to let them in. Bring the child to the door so they can see the child but don't let them in without a warrant (in booklet and a lot more good information about your rights. I am a grandma and have been taking care of my two grandaughters (both me and my husband of 26 years) for over 3 1/2 years. The father, the other grandmother wanted me to have temporary emergency custody and cps said because we did not have a pool fence up we couldn't do that. They entered my son-in-law's house with no warrant and he let them in (not smart). Once they have your kids they violate every law known to man and most of the time the courts listen to them. They remove kids from a home where there is no imminent danger. Again read the booklet it's wonderful KNOW YOUR RIGHTS. If you find CPS lieing they can be arrested if you get an attorney (which most people nowadays can't afford it). I wish they would shut this agency down!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Hanna 6 weeks ago

      My father had physically abused me for the past 3 years... he has always threatened me and said if I told I wouldn't be able to see my mother... he also told me I've deserved it every time he had put his hands on me... I don't feel safe here with him... we filed a report and I still have to live with my father... can I go to my consulor and tell them and them do something about it? I don't want to stay here... I don't feel safe. And will I remain with DCS if my mother had joint custody can I go live with her?

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      MTG 7 weeks ago

      My parents who sexually abused me for years wanted my children and when I refused them access they started calling CPS. They reported everything they could and CPS would came out, over and over again for six years. Then they reported that I was suicidal and homocidal. Comm mental health came out and said I was not suicidal or homocidal my counselor of 3 years said I was not suicidal or homocidal but CPS said I was so went to a judge and got an emergency removal of my kids. The next day I was allowed to see them, I was left in a room with my kids with no supervision, with a pair of scissors. Anyway, I agreed to see there counselor and they would give me the kids back, which happened 6 days they were gone. When I got them back, I was told first they tried to put the kids with my parents, my dad was arrested and convicted of sexual abuse yet CPS tried to put the kids with him, second they put them in a foster home where the youngest one was sexually abused. I never abused my kids, never hurt them, never neglected them, never harmed them in any way not even emotionally, yet they are taking and was harmed. 20 years later my youngest who was harmed is a meth addict, my oldest is insecure, afraid, has anxiety and a lot of other problems. Sorry, six days of hell, and my kids have suffered 20 years and are still suffering, and to this day the will say it is all because CPS took them away for 6 days.

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      Joseph alexander 7 weeks ago

      I was taken from my home when i was 9 years old and was told to say things that was never true. If it wasn't for the judge speaking to me i would never been back home with my father.

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      Kevin lovelist 7 weeks ago

      I might have a child on the way and I want my child and will fight if I have to. He or she will be my first.

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      Barbara Smith 7 weeks ago

      Can CPS take my children out of school without my permission?

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      Norman Branham 7 weeks ago

      I have to disagree with this page. After months of suspecting my son was using drugs, he gets arrested for a DUI, his g'friend calls me and imforms me that he is. And gives me all the gory details. I call CPS for help, as he has my 3 yr old g'daughter involved. They interview me the next day, asking me if he fails a piss test, can they place her in my care. Of course I agreed. I was the "reporting party," and under KRS. 620.050, and they could relay information to me about the case. I never heard from them again. But my son did in fact FAIL the piss test, for Meth, Suboxone, and Adepex. My son is all but 2 points away from being legally retarded, and knows nothing about "law." But he is imformed that he can give Power of Attorney over to his g'friend, place her in her care, and the baby never has to leave the home. And they took me and my wife completely out of the circle, because my son made a claim that I abused him all his life, and for them NOT to place my g'daughter in my care. And they listen to the Meth head, instead of at least investigating my background for suitability. Months go by, my attempting to gain imfo, and I am threatned with arrest, being told I cannot see my g'daughter, being told to leave the state office, being told to stop making phone calls to CPS and to stop harassing them. 1 phone call a week, is not harassment. And I was never served with a restraining order. I was even threatned with, if I didn't stop harrrassing CPS, that they would remove my g'daughter and place her in foster care. Then I find out that my sister in law, who lives less than 100 yards from my house was also given Power of attorney, and again, I am told I cannot see her, nor have contact with her. I made many many phone calls to different agencies, talking to whomever would listen. I guess I rattled enough cages, and made them mad, because now, as my son is in jail, looking at 5 years, they are allowing me to have SUPERVISED visitations. I had to take a drug test, and have a criminal back ground done. Of course I passed both. Now I get to go be supervised by a CPS worker, for a 2 hour visit for the next 3-4 weeks. Then they will move me to unsupervised, for 3-4 weeks, then maybe, if they deem me suitable, then MAYBE I can have an over night stay. My son FAILS a piss test for Methamphetamine, and they leave a 3 year old in his house with him and his g'friend. They have knock down drag out fist fights, both having criminal records, but I am the one they make jump through their hoops? I called CPS for help, and for 5 months I am treated like a monster, for what a pissed off meth-head accused me of, and I am treated like the criminal. I have raised 10 kids from 2 marriages, and not one time has there ever been a report on me. I've never been arrested, don't do drugs, or even drink. I'm just your everyday boring grandfather that is concerned for his grand daughter, and even my son. But I have come to learn NOT TO TRUST THE NAZI SQUAD. They have all but completely torn my family apart.

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      Alix 8 weeks ago

      Can they make me get a job while pregnant in order to get my child back?

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      I have been dealing with them for over a year and lost my daughter on may31 and they took my other kids june1 the next day. Then had me fighting for my kids and my freedom. I gave birth to a beautiful girl in 03 and was told she was healthy but she wasn't making milestones later I was told she had developmental delays. Well God blessed me with 12 years with her and after taking her to the doctor cause she lost her appetite and was losing weight doc told me me as long as she eating and drinking and peeing and pooping she would be fine u til we got in with the nutritionist. A week later my daughter pasted away from a seizure. Something she struggled with her entire life. They tried to paint me as a neglectful mother who caused her own daughters death and that my other kids were in danger. It ripped my soul to pieces. The only way I could save my kids from foster care is to sign my rights over to their dads which one isnt fit their just money to him. My daughter pasted on a Tuesday by Friday he had food stamps and his ssd checks coming to him. My oldest leave him and run back to me. Me youngest cry for me consistently yet cps says its in the best interest of the children then why are the childrens voices going unheard? Now its been a year I've been told I can't have contact with any of my kids. I'm pregnant again and these people knew before I did. And have nonstop harassing me staking out my house taking photos and when I called to ask why and what's going on they claim to have no case or info yet their calling my kids fathers telling them allegations were made that I'm doing drugs while pregnant and paying for it through prostitution and when I final was confronted I offered to take drug and pregnancy test because at the time I wasn't pregnant nor do drugs and I get along. The worker claimed to call me back with a date and time so I could prove my innocence and never did yet weeks later she calls the dads and says the allegations were confirmed. I was livid. I called her and her supervisor and all deny having anyone following me or watching my house when I have witnesses who approached the vehicle and the lady clearly said she works for Dhs and when I angrily began to approach the vehicle she attempts to run me over then threatens me. Its been going on two birthdays for my sweet angel and I havent grieved yet. I can't seem to if I'm not able to help my kids grieve and all respect to their dads but that's never been their strong suite. And now cps has been threatening them with taking the kids if I ever see them but what's crazy is I know the public defender I received screwed me over huge. I never spoke to her until Nov 14th the day of my trial yet she told many people about my case and how it didn't look good for me and I was looking at jail time. And luckily I had my daughter autopsied and her cause of death.....epilepsy associated with cerebral palsy failure to thrive. The second time that happened to my daughter. But they claim I didn't do enough for her and yet they say theres too many medical records to sort through. Over four hundred documents and with all that no doctor ever gave my baby the diagnosis of cerebral palsy for if they had it could and I believe would have changed her treatments and she would probably still be here. Yet I Dont want to share it all on here cause this that I've shared is only the tip of the iceburg it gets so much worse proof of their corruption and judges not paying attention it has been the worse two years of my life and now their trying to take my unborn child.... I'm not rich I work hard even while pregnant but how is it only in american is the trafficking of children legal and no one says anything about it until they have had to feel the loneliness of no more children laughing in the house or the nightmares of what could happen to your babies and ur not there to protect them its murder worth dying for. I lived for them and I know God blessed me again because I hurt spiritually when they torn my family apart and now here they come again like vultures its ridiculous and saddening.

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      Mary 2 months ago

      My great niece called cps on her sister after her nephew stated that mom and boyfriend injected him with drugs the childs mom previously left him in his aunt custody now cps removed the other 2 children from the home does one state have jurisdiction to remove a child if he is in another state?? Or can my niece file for guardianship in the state there in??

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      John 2 months ago

      Cps removed my son with out a court order because his mother went to seek help for drug addiction and while under the influence of drugs told them that I was on drugs and supplies her with them. The first time they stopped by I was at work but we have nothing to hide so they let him in and there was no signs of abuse or neglect and everything else was fine. But he still made my son stay with a relative I've got 4 years of clean drug test because I'm in a treatment program and I don't know if they can do that with out a court order

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      Sunshine Jimenez 2 months ago

      I wasn't contacted by cps or anyone frm the start of the investigation. I have not heard from or receive any information on the case. My ex husband and wife are being investigated. I've signed nothing. Help!

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      mariah 2 months ago

      i am 16 and pregnant i stay stressed out because of my father and his family i don't stay with my father and i have been living with my aunt since December 25th and i see bed bugs crawling on the pillows and sheets and i hate it what would cps be able to do for me

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      Krys Thoene 2 months ago

      I am not nor would I ever even begin to even remotely assume or suggest any case worker is crooked or that they aren't as I have no solid black and white evidence to say either way. All I am saying is that every caseworker should have the same outlook. I understand nomatter what it is ALWAYS in the best interest of any child to fully investigate any allegation without prejudice however to repeat any type of any allegation to anyone without any proof or evidence is not only wrong it is unjust and defimation of character in legal terms. The trick is to get an attorney that will stand by the law and take CPS on let alone afford one. This is my situation and I have never felt so betrayed and mistreated and due to finances I cannot do anything about it.

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      Lance Borchert 2 months ago

      My daughter was dating a man who beat my granddaughter so bad both of her buttock were black and blue took her to dhr in Athens Alabama and waited and waited they took pictures and every thing she still has problems talking about what happened to her she was four and they never followed up did anything to him and we as grandparents didn't know exactly what to do took her to them thinking they would take care of the issues at hand and nothing went back and asked eventually wondering what they were doing said they closed the case had pictures and saw the abuse their selves in person baby couldn't sit down wonder he didn't break any bones just feel she was ignored!Mad Paw paw!

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      gibbs 2 months ago

      my ex wife is in an on again/off again relationship. in the last month her bf has cheated on her, called the police, threatened her with the police, and called her offensive names. she returned for the same thing a week later with the same result. my son is in and out of the relationship. my fear is he will be exposed to this.


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      Kenny Hendrick 2 months ago

      I hope this isn't too off-topic to ask:

      1.) A woman was literally left at my doorstep with all her property piled in front of my travel trailer while I was on a job in TN. Her boyfriend left her because she was sleeping around with his biker friend.

      2.) The year was 1995 or 1996 and although we were together for a couple of weeks before I could get enough money to help her get back to her home in PA, we did have sex (ONCE!).

      3.) Here it is 2017 and I was turned down for a passport which claimed I had a child support issue in PA. I looked up in the Verona Pa court to find that the determination by the court that I was the father was done without my presence....without my knowledge that any such allegation was made....without dna or blood test.

      4.) to make matters worse, this woman did not file in the court until the year 2007!

      5.) I have completed over 16 hours of investigation to find no such child even exists. I've searched her entire family tree and find that everyone in her household is a Poklemba and that no child exists with my last name A N D furthermore that no person in her household is under the age of 45. (however there is a "cookie poklemba" in the household that not only cannot be determined for age, but also cannot be located in any school in PA, nor anywhere on the net (google, facebook, twitter, myspace, youtube, google plus, etc.).

      How is this legal? The damage done right now is more than I can bear (I am now going to miss my family reunion in Greece since I cannot get my passport till this is cleared up).

      Also, Is it possible (since I lack trusting any entity that can pass judgment so maliciously) that I can demand a copy of the alleged child's dna BEFORE I submit myself to be tested for DNA (simply because I cannot trust a court that has done this misjustice...a bum off the street could have accomplished this feat for far less pay)?

      My email is

      p.s. The court cannot possibly state that they could not locate me (try googling my name, also youtube my name, then look at my many photos and videos in google's search's kind of impossible to miss me!).

      Any suggestions you might avail would be MUCH appreciated.

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      Jamie Scattercat76@gmail. 2 months ago

      So I understand almost all the reasons for investigators to do what they do and why. But I'm sorry they are judgmental and harsh especially when they first contact you. So I have a question? I'm a single mother in a partnership with a man. In my past I have had my go through with drugs ect ect! And almost two years ago my child's father was brutally murdered. Well of course that messed my 8 yr olds ( now 10) head up a lot. As it did mine too. Long story short it tore my lil girl and me apart and I've struggled with her since. So her and I left an old mentally abusive boyfriend I use to have thinking what he put us through I figured we'd be close again once we left but that along with her real father dying just progressed to where I actually felt resentment towards my lil perfect angel. So we lived with my cousin for a bit and when I was ready to move out my cousin asked me if I were okay with letting my daughter stay with them still during the school year so that I could try to get my ducks in a row and to give me time to find us a real home again and also so I wouldn't have to yank her out of her school again because she needed stability especially after all that happened. I refused at first but then thought about how they were right because I only had my brothers to go to and my brothers a partier so a lot of people in and out but it was my only option at time. She said I could come tuck her in at nights and make arrangements if daycare was needed and also have her every with me on the weekends. So not signing anything or even feeling good about I went ahead and okayd it. This home I speak of is very well structured for a kid and I needed a small part time break anyways.

      So it's been a year, and I still co parent my daughter with my cousin. In the mean time I have met an awesome amazing man and we also have been together a year. He is the best relationship I have ever been in. And my daughter absolutely adores him and his 10 yr old boy as well. So what I'm getting at is I'm still only a part time mom. My daughter and I do a lot better but still have some issues that I feel counciling will help with. But I'm still a big kid at heart and I like to party up now and again especially while i don't have her in my care for 3-5 days at a time. And I've dabbled in a lil party goodies now and then but only recreationally and only while my daughter is not in my care. So the drug testing? Why do I get asked to give a test when I was recently investigated because I left my daughter in the care of someone who's also getting investigated and has had their children removed temporarily? First off they were clean and doing what they were asked to do in compliance but my daughter has a sibiling with my cousin as well as my deceased ex and they missed each other so I got called on because i had poor judgement about letting her go only cuz they were still jumping through hoops. He's family and i seen them making a big new step and so I trusted them. So now I have a case that the investigator wants to close because she sees I'm not a bad mother and at last min she also springs on me that the person whom called on me also mentioned that i may be using so could I do a drug test. Well of course i said yes as to not act quilty but im scared because I don't do drugs with or around my child but I will pee dirty to a few things and I don't think it's fair that im gonna have to jump through shit, treatment, and be at the mercy of the state when I'm a grown adult who can make decisions to be wild here and there as long as it's when I don't have her in my care and I never have it around my daughter. But can I refuse because that was not the question in hand that was a concern? I'm scared but this is where i feel the state has too much control. I would never do any thing around my kid nor on the times I have her. I have a job and support myself and her and I'm not a harm or threat to her. What could I do legally? Please help

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      Stacey 2 months ago

      I just had an amazing experience with CPS no major issue reported welfare check but they helped me and my kids gave us clothes, toys, gift cards, of course i cooperated 100 percent, my kids loved talking to them it made them actually feel better because they felt they were involved and could say anything to them, it was lime meeting family we never knew, we all hugged as we left, they also helped with toiletries, fun bags with toys, school supplies. I was scared when we walked in there but all i could do was be honest and tell everything. They helped us, they are good people. I feel like i owe them for everything they did. One more thing men or woman kids teenages that is a safe pmace to talk and say whats going on they will help help you and your whole family, they give resources for free and can even get transportation, job and a place to live. I found out no matter what almost all are wanting to help, just like everywhere else there will always be a few not so good.

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      a5n8g8e2l4a 2 months ago

      To those of you who are complaining, please let me show it to you from the other side.

      I live in an Apartment building, and lately I've had to hear one of my neighbors SCREAMING at her kids. Everyday, not just once in a while, she will scream that they are going to bed without supper.

      She never STOPS screaming at her kids either. This goes on al day every day. The kids look undernourished (gee, I wonder why?) and short for their age.

      Finally the biggest red flag for me that there might be physical abuse going on, was an incident the other day. They were getting on the bus, and the younger boy (the target for the worst of her abuse) hurt himself when getting on the bus. Instead of comforting him, she started screaming at him. Well, until I gave her a look that could have made hell freeze over...

      Finally, the other day, I got sick and tired of listening to her denying food to her children. A neighbor and I called CPS.

      And NO I am NOT vindictive, I don't want drama, but it breaks my heart to hear those kids say, "We're not allowed to eat." If you are a parent, you should have your heart breaking too right now.

      Finally, by denying her kids the food and eating it all herself, that woman is misusing WIC benefits. Yeah, the last time I checked, those were for her KIDS, not just her! So not only is she abusing her kids, she's committing benefit fraud!

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      crissytsu 2 months ago from Texas

      Nice hub. I used to work as a CPS investigator and received alot of flack from friends like I was the enemy... Another thing that people don't realize is that as a cps investigator you're required by law to report any kind of neglect or abuse you are aware of, so your friends have to be responsible parents.

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      Miranda 2 months ago

      Speaking from personal experience CPS worker are not here to help struggling families. CPS was called on me by a scorned landlord who was upset when her attempt to blackmail me fiance and I failed. When my family and I left out apartment she let herself in removed our thermostat from the wall leaving us with no AC which made for unliveable living conditions. We were forced to leave the home quickly bc we couldn't keep our children in a apartment that was over 95 degrees. After letting the place sit for 3 days at temperatures of around 100 she had CPS come out to the apartment let them in and because there was dirty dishes in the sink and the house was in dissaray from us leaving in a rush CPS deemed it unliveable. Complete bullcrap. Had we just had the money to pay to her she wouldn't have done what she done. That mattered none at all to CPS. CPS will take your kids foe one reason but say they took them for something completely diffetent. CPS is a virus that rips families apart!!!

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      Dustin Adams 2 months ago

      Thank you for writing such a detailed article on this topic. It was great!

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      Lex 2 months ago

      Can They take your newborn child ?

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      Ap 2 months ago

      From what I have read. In the cps handbook, as a cps worker, you are supose to look at situations as they are with out putting your feelings into your thoughts. What I mean I mby this is worker is investigating a parent case worker realizes wow he has the same behavior my dad use to. Caseworkers dad use to beat her. Caseworker automatically judges parent due to her past. I feel that all case workers before getting hired need to 1 be investigated by cps and 2 an in depth psychological evaluation 3. History of childhood trauma.

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      Katrina 2 months ago

      someone call in a false report concerning my daughter that is 6 years old. Now I have found out the young CPS boy went to my daughters summer camp and had her pull her pants down to inspect her bottom bc she supposedly told someone at the camp that her dad spanked her with a belt. We have never spanked our children with a belt and don't plan to. If anything, we spoil our children to much. My daughter tells me everything, she is a Chatty Cathy. Now she won't tell me what happened and when I ask her about it she does not want to talk and just shuts down. They have done more harm than good. I feel this is extremely uncalled for and there needs to be stricter rules on false reports and how to do an investigation on young children !!!!!!

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      The Truth 2 months ago

      Your agency and every agency like it are nothing more than government funded kidnappers

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      James 3 months ago

      To add to my earlier comment we went to the mediation in the very beginning and they agreed they would not to take the kids which they haven't. I understand they have big case loads but a yr and a half of no response is very poor I've called many times as well as my sons mother but no answer. I was living with my gf and my two kids when this happened they asked me to move out which I did to cooperate with CPS but my son wants me back living with him and his sister and his mom what can I do

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      James 3 months ago

      I am involved with cps because I spanked my son and left a red mark on hit but not a bruise they saw it but did a investigation and never found any other thing wrong at his school or at home. That was 17 months ago they still checked in with my child at his school. I've taken parenting classes I have older kids as well. They won't return my calls or from the mother we want to know when the case will end and what else we can do to fix the situation.

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      Jim strou 3 months ago

      CPS just got through trying to interview My 9 years old

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      David Koehler 3 months ago

      My son was taken by CPS from his mother without my knowledge? Hire can I get him back? It's been about 5 months. I need help fast...

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      Dave 3 months ago

      I had a baby with a Woman who had 17 cases over 16 years involving her 17year old daughter prior to meeting me they have slandered me accused me of unthinkale things and the San Luis obispo cps is not at all validating thier claims just going right along with making me prove my innocence. In 4 months I still haven't met my baby even after she had him placed with a friend due to getting in a physical altercation with her daughter that I predicted. Even worse the hard working social workers are constantly on vacation and offer no means for me to provide proof of the lies that is thier job to investigate. They seem to know they made a mistake about me so are harping on every expression of my frustration with them, oh we see a pattern here. I know these people see horrible things bit it appears they are exempt from scrutiny by Thierry supervisors and can become very very biased quickly.

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      Amanda66551 3 months ago

      Again.. record everything. Never never let them in. For th op to say these accusations are crazy. I call bullshit. They are not wrong. What about all the evidence? What about all the new corruption cases?, judges in Cali mcoming out saying it's all about the federal funding? In 2 days, I've found over 4200 cases of severe corruption. This is insane. These parents don't have the money to fight, that's why your targeted. You better believe that I as a parent never ever had cps at my door. And it wasn't all perfect either. But because I had money, they'd never come to my door. Cps fails regardless! My daughter is in a serious situation, closed case. These stories make me sick. I'm betting 100 to 1 that these families don't have the funds to fight, they're told to trust, that things are laws and they're not, this is disgusting. I will put all sorts of money towards mothers who are targeted. And for failing a drug test for marijuana? Are you kidding me? lol we've smoked marijuana since we were 14. Parents and all. Raised 4 children in a private school who all graduated and went to college just fine. Marijuana? You mothers who have lost your children, fight. I know caseworker who smoke marijuana on a daily basis! This is terrible! What about the senator that was killed because she busted cps out for sex trafficking? Do you have anything to say there?. Boys town in Nebraska? I've had several issues with children from there, government people are selling the children for sex! Nebraska has so many missing kids, and guess who's had custody of the kids before they went missing? Cps. Sick. I will fight till the day I die for parents to get there children l God have mercy on anyone that steps over us. If cps ever came to my door when my children were growing up. I would have sued the living shit out of them. God this infuriates me. Money will be well spent.

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      Shelly Burns 3 months ago

      I am a grandmother, I have been a court appointed care giver to my granddaughter since birth till now 10 months. my granddaughter has been taken from me. due to the fact I seeked medical attention for her, in the ivestagtion process I have been attacked, sterotyped,and made to feel enabled to care for her, which is farther from the truth. every road seems to be a deadend. I love my granddaughter and would never harm her. I am lost on how even to start to battle for her.

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      JessEMtz 3 months ago

      I have a 20 year old CPS case, why is CPS not considering me for placement for my granddaughter?? They didn't even try to investigate what I've done with my life or the life I live now. They are basically judging me because of my past. What can I do at this point??

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      Tim 3 months ago

      Ok question I was told that my girlfriends daughter is telling her dad and her dad's neighbor that I touched her inappropriately bit when her mom and the Dr asked her she says no that no one have touched her down there she was even examine by the dr. The Dr found nothing cps was called acctually dps was called they came to my house and asked my girlfriends daughter if she's been touched down there she said no not by anyone. So what's gonna happen next I have never touched her inappropriately so this is new to me I have never been accused of anything like this before

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      Charleen 3 months ago

      If I'm not home and my 19yr old is home and I have temporary custody of my grandchild, if my grandchild opens the door for her on a pop-up visit can she question my 11yr old grandchild without myself or my son being present. I'm in the state of NC. Please let me know

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      Scott 3 months ago

      Do I have to sign my personal medical forms to c.p.s. is the case is not against me

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      Dawna 3 months ago

      Hi my kids wore taken from my home 2 months ago... I had drugs in my system when I gave birth to daughter sad to say but cps got involved and they gave me a drug test while I was in the hospital after I had my daughter and it came back negative and they took my 9 year old son and my daughter she was only 2 days old .my son is staying with his dad while my daughter is in foster care . I have passed every drug screen they have given me and I see my kids 3 days a week for 3 hours . Now the dad is trying to get full custody of my son.My SON hates living with his Dad and is ready to come back home with me . How can I fight this I need help so bad .I have a court date July ,19 for his dad getting custody of my son. Will he most likely get so scared that he will and so is my son. My daughter is in foster care right now will I get full custody if her if I been doing EVERYTHING right and following the cps guidelines? I've never had a dirty drug screen or missed a visit with my kids .I am doing everything right and seems like nothing is getting any better. The judge even said that the kids need to be with me . My caseworker seems to love drams and keeps making everything so difficult for me . I use to be able to see my son at his dads house but now they won't let me go see him over there anymore all because they think it's causing him behavior problems. It's not right at all. My son wants to be with me and not his dad and the less he sees me the worst his attitude will be.. WHAT would u do in this situation. I need some a very great mother to my kids And now they are gone. I've never been arrested for f

      Drugs and I pass all my drug screens they have given me so clearly I'm not a drug addict just made a bad decision thats all. And now it's effecting Me and my kids.

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      Kay 3 months ago

      I have a question .. there has been. A history of dcfs being involved in my life because of domestic violence with the father of my kids . They have conducted 2 investigations and last time , they made me do all sorts of classes . I ended up getting sole custody of my 2 kids . Even though I volunteered to a voluntary investigation . They decided to go through court . When my case closed . Social worker told me , if another incident ever occurred in our home . They would remove my kids without conducting an investigation first . Now here I am . Waiting on a call from a social worker due to the cops coming to my house and arresting the father of my kids for putting his hands on me . Although my kids were not present at the time of the incident . And this is the 3rd time they've been involved . Can they really come and take my kids away ?

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      alex 3 months ago

      lets say i fail a drug test my mom doesnt have papers what happens next plz let me know asap i failed a drug test that my mom asked for & then my mom told me that a social worker is going to "checking up on me" is that true or is she tryna put fear into me lol i just need to no

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      roger atkinson 3 months ago

      im a greatgrandfather----i did their drug test---they checked my home-----said ever thing was fine i heard no more-----whats the deal with that

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      cecil Dixon 3 months ago

      you know you are doing the right thing??? so you are GOD?? although you sound like a decent person and someone i dont mind working with children, social workers have TOO MUCH POWER!!! cps hired my ex-wife(a client) she tragically died and her friends took my child 3 hours after a judge granted me custody!!! none of you people should be judge and jury of other peoples life! who are you??? better start praying now for the forgiveness of your judgement of gods children!! good luck see your ass on judgement day!!

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      anon 3 months ago

      This sounds all sweet and flowery. This however is not the case in domestic violence if for instance the abuser is very manipulative, and/or OJ SIMPSON. Yes, workers are just people, and PEOPLE make rash judgements and let their PERSONAL dealings influence cases. ESPECIALLY in an agency WITH NO TO VERY LITTLE OVERSIGHT!!! DON"T BE FOOLED! My FAMILY comes from a LONG LINE OF ATTORNEYS. There is such little oversight that leads to ABUSE. THESE workers (mostly female) can judge you because you are "too smart", and they don't like that you "question". That you don't kiss a** enough, or that you "complpain" if you are a VICTIM of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE! This is truly a sad, reason why after my children have been in custody by CPS, for supposedly "exposure to DV" or the unconstitutional "Failure to protect", I WOULD TELL A MOTHER, DON"T GET HELP FROM ANY AGENCY!!! Yes, that is the sad truth. DO ALL YOU CAN TO GET AWAY, but not through the PUBLIC SERVICE AGENCIES. They MAKE MONEY OFF YOUR CHILDREN, and if you complain about a worker having a conflict of interest, there is such little oversight there is nothing they will do unless you have $50-$60K to spare to higher an attorney!! That means the system is UNFAIRLY UNBALANCED to take children from lower economic FAMILIES, simply by the fact that they cannot afford good LEGAL REPRESENTATION!!! The court appointed attorneys are a joke. They have in my county over 195 clients on top of their "paying" clients. Do you think with that kind of case load, they are going to take the time to truly "FIGHT" for you legally? OR PUSH PAPER, and PASSIVELY LET YOU GO THROUGH DHS "HELL??" I was the victim of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. HE did not live with us. He showed up at my house. NEVER have I seen a VICTIM blamed. I didn't lock my door (he wouldn't leave"), I didn't call the police (He threw a coke and disabled my phone while I tried to call 911 while he was choking me and pushing my body on top of my 4 year old son yelling I'm crushing my son), When I enacted the Safety plan from the local DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SHELTER, where I had gone PRIOR to DHS/CPS Intervention, and had documentation, that I was ACTIVELY PROTECTING MY CHILDREN. AND this man had pulled a gun on us. THEY STILL TOOK MY CHILDREN, went around their own directions to staff and laws!! When I try to addresss it in the ADMINSTRATIVE DHS/CPS court, I'm told, (that's in the past, let's move forward don't worry about your abuser, who we gave you child to, while he was on METH and lied to the court that he lived with you!). THIS IS THE REAL FACTS FOLKS. NOW THE MAN, that choked me, my son, and was on METH, and who broke into my home, HAS MY CHILD, with NO DHS oversight, NO parenting course, no hair follicle test to make sure he was drug free, and 6 months after DHS giving him my child, he had another girlfriend arrested for DOMESTIC VIOLENCE. (HE is a large ex football player, who could hardly get beat up by any woman, yet obviously fighting in front of my child. ) YET DHS continues to call him on the downlow, and advise him. HIS 47 year old can't keep a job or home hiney, has wealthy parents. Yet, me the victim, they have told attorneys that I hired, "IF WE KEEP SEARCHING WE WILL FIND SOMETHING WRONG WITH HER"(this seems unconstitutional to me, all their providers said return my children after a thorough full psych eval and eval of my children, DHS solution, have the judge throw out a year and a half of that providers recommendation!!! Order a second one by and evaluator THEY PICK, same recommendation, so they go to court and ORDER A FULL THIRD and instead of choosing from the provider list, THEY ASK THE JUDGE TO ORDER A SPECIFIC PSYCHOLOGIST WITH A HORRIBLE REPUTATION that has worked for them and the state prison system. WHO would say whatever they wanted him to say. So they have had my children from me for almost 3 years!!! I've lost my childrens childhood and watched my children be exposed to more violence, drugs, than they ever would have in my home. MY child is with the man that choked him, and hasn't seen me in a year. They "unsubstantiated the 'choking' having the worker even come to his school prior to taking him back from me, and telling my son, 'IF you keep saying your Dad choked you the police will come and get him and put him in jail" My son was 41/2-5 years old. Not something I would think you would say unless you were trying to scare him to stop talking. HE told the CASA worker, and his 10 year old sister witnessed this. THEY DON"T REPORT IT TO THE COURT and act like it never happened. They make money off my daughter by intercepting her large child support. The DHS supervisor has a beef with me over a man, that was prior to this case. DON"T LET THIS ARTICLE FOOL YOU! There is so much more. I say this as a PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT. EVEN though it may be expensive, use your house payment if you have to and hire a good attorney from the start!! SADLY it is all about the money!Not about the kids, ESPECIALLY If they have made a mistake! THEY won't ever admit they MADE A MISTAKE! I am now going bankrupt, and trying to save my house, after three years of their mess. They took happy well adjusted children, and ripped brother and sister from eachother, Aided the abuser. I see why children are harmed and die in DHS/CPS custody. THEY SHOULD SHUT THE ENTIRE SYSTEM DOWN, until ACCOUNTABILITY and TRUE LEGAL system put into place, none of this administrative hearings. This is where AMERICA is losing their rights and don't even know/realize it! I ask those reading this that believe in prayer to please pray for my children to be reunited to me, and our family so we can move on and heal. Oh, I forgot to mention, the "DAD on METH", he RAPED ME while I was married to my husband, and he was married to another woman. ALL THAT WAS HIDDEN FROM THE COURT AS WELL. GO TO YOUR LAWMAKERS and GET PARENTAL RIGHTS AND DHS OVERSIGHT ENACTED. THEY HAVE TOO MUCH POWER FOR SO LITTLE PAY, it's a NAZI GERMANY SYSTEM AND IT's SCARY!

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      cassey 3 months ago

      I think good case workers have paved the path for newer case workers to come in and use their good reputation and be bad people and destroy homes

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      Elizabeth 3 months ago

      I'm being harassed by Child Services. They have come 3 times in 4 months and they always apologize and write a letter of clearance. This last time im fed up and its affecting my job and my childrens well being plus deforming my character with the schools and doctors and neighbors. Its humiliation at this point. Someone calls them and its obvious its harassment. I don't use drugs, my children come first and i give them everything i possibly can being a single parent. And they are happy. At what point do they stop. Don't I have rights? I'm not taking another drug test or having my children screened anymore. Its not fair to myself and them. And they should know whos calling and stop it. And if they ever came to the house and saw something i would understand but they never have seen anything other than happy children in a clean environment. Is anyone else experiencing this?

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      Nattie 3 months ago

      I honestly never had any issues with anyone claiming I was a bad parent until I got married to my husband, and his ex wife became vengeful. She even went so far as bribing/threatening the children to say that their own father physically and mentally abused them when I have been with him for three years and haven't even witnessed him even whip them as a punishment. Our case is now coming to it's close, and I am so thankful for the help of our CPS workers in actually investigating all of this to start finding out that there was no abuse, just an angry mother over her ex trying to move on with his life. I honestly, myself, am petrified of CPS leaving out of our lives. And my nerves have just about had all they can take knowing that within a month's time, my husband and I could be thrown under the bus again with new false allegations of whatever his ex can scheme up. I'm honestly mortified about it. CPS came to our house for almost a year, and I honestly hate seeing them go. They make me feel more safe and comfortable in dealing with outrageous lies about us. Thank you, CPS for everything that you all do!!!

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      krista 3 months ago

      i have a question, where do the children go if they are removed from the family?

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      Dee Susan 3 months ago

      You will not guilt me into giving up my 4th amendment rights. The old "if you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about" but is tired and false. It's a fact that any evidence that CPS collects is handed over by scared parents guilted into cooperating. Without it most cases are closed. CPS workers are no strangers to lying and bending the laws to get their way. I don't have anything to hide but I'll be damned if i help you to railroad me. You want evidence? Do the footwork and find it yourself but you're only wasting both of our time.

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      Concerned Person... 3 months ago

      Here's a ??? I'm exhausted with hearing my neighbor yell at his 15 yr. Old son (whom he told me personally in a discussion that the boy has ADD & High Functioning Autism...)But, he's loud enough I can hear him yelling, screaming at the boy inside and outside the home & i mean Well, enough you can hear Everything...& it's all over very stupid thing's...he's had the boy on probation, and said he's in therapy weekly, on medication and he has a BC coming to see the boy every other week...The man only threatens to have him locked up and that he doesn't care if he goes to jail too but, that he'll get out and pay the boy a visit just to show him that he'll get out and the boy won't if he keeps it up...I've also hear him repeatedly tell the boy he's gonna slap him but, have never seen any physical abuse or him ever slap his son just threats to ...I've heard the boy crying and seen him very upset with the Dad following him around yelling at him to do this or that and do it right or keep it up and see where it gets you... Several times I hear the boy when upset and crying over all the yelling he endures that he doesn't understand what he did wrong and the Dad tells him what he did and even tells him he's lying that he didn't do it ...The other Son who's older doesn't get yelled at and when trying to talk to him the father who goes and gets the mother who's I'll to come out with him while I talk the Father won't let the mother get a single word in and has pointed in the Mother's face and said let me explain this and the mother acts like she's humiliated and puts her head down like she's looking at the ground and that mother never says another word except that mother knows her place and shuts up...I and my husband both feel she's atleast verbally, emotionally abused like the younger boy who's 15...the older boy I think 17 does what he's susposed to do, gets it all done and then some even asks to now our yard or neighbors yards and seems to mind very well...they are very well mannered boy's considering today's kid's...I think the older boy is in Football practice and I've overheard the older boy 17 ask to bounce his basketball when he's done but, has no basketball goal, he gets to do things but, I never see them actually play especially the younger boy who's 15...I hear them ask their father to do anything even...I've overheard the older boy ask to walk out to the mailbox to get the mail after the mailman runs... IWe constantly Sr these two boys working around the house doing something always fir their Dad and their Dad is always right there with them or stops what he's doing to check to see if the younger boy 15 is staying doing what he was told to do ...I'm not sure if any of it qualifies as abuse but, we're bothered by all the fathers continous yelling and exhausted with it and he knows we are because we've tried talking with him ...he makes it seem like the 15 yr.old boy needs to be yelled at because it's all he understands and what works ...But, we think he's verbally and emotionally abusive and beyond overly controlling and that he's the Authority and we think the mother and the two boy's just are so beaten down by it they just try and do what he says to avoid conflict wit the father...& it's really stupid stuff ...I know the boy gets yelled at for taking, sneaking to drink a pop or candy or junk food and when the father figured it out find the cans, or candy wrappers all hell breaks loose on the younger boy verbally and he gets emotional...I know the Father has told us he takes and steals things and just yesterday the boy wanted to wear a pair of shorts and a tank top because it was hot outside and the father made him go in and put his pants and shirt back on...We have never seen the boys in a pair of shorts or typical "teen" clothing either and they can't wear tennis shoes even (it's been an argument we've overheard) So, they don't have permission to wear shorts, or tennis shoes except only for school gym, or school swimming, or school sports...the older boy who's in football must change back into his clothe's after practice at school before he's picked up or he cannot be in football anymore...that's what we've, being summer and school being out the younger boy and the older boy even if it's 95° outside and they're outside working helping their Dad cannot ever wear tennis shoes, shorts or tank tops or just summer clothing...and must wear pants, boots, T-shirts just like their Dad....We just really feel sorry for the boy's 17 & 15 and (Mostly the younger boy 15 who's constantly yelled at) & we feel bad for the Mother too ...her health is bad and the yelling, Congo between the boys and the father constantly cannot be good for her either ...she seems soooo nice and try's to speak up but, the father stops her and "speaks" for her in the conversations we've had...We wonder what's going on inside their house at times when we can really hear the man argueing, yelling, screaming at them...and it's really all over petty things...but, the 2 boy's and the mother appear like they're afraid to do anything that they're not told to do...and we barely see the mother only if she's being taken to an appointment...She appears like she could drive and take herself to the store but, we never ever see her's always the Father taking the boys with him everywhere to the store or anywhere else ...So, We're thinking that man controls it so much Tustin the mother doesn't dare go anywhere or go do anything...We'd like to know if this qualify as something we should report as abusive or if CPS would even bother ...We are exchequer with the yelling we hear everyday, and evening until they're asleep...almost wishing we'd of never rented the house here next to him...We don't plan on re-renting this home when our lease is up...Our Landlord tells us to just keep calling the police which we've done but, they police never do anything except talk to the boys after they talk to the Father...So, we'd like advice if CPS would even bother with trying to interview and tell that man he has to stop yelling, & screaming at them ... We're sure he's very controlling of the boy's and the mother...I really wish someone would intervine and stop that man from what he's doing but, it'd probably only be temporary until CPS wasn't involved if they got involved ...Honestly, if we'd ever win the lottery we think we'd give that mother enough money to secure herself with her son's on the explicit order she'd take those precious boy's & she'd leave that man ... (husband?) Forever...I think that's part of why this kind of abuse is occuring the mom's ill and maybe not well enough always to need or rely's upon that man that's her (husband?) and I think that because women just don't have any financial security and couldn't make it on her own with her son's is why Women like her with kid's that are with someone who is verbally, emotionally, mentally abusive stay in these kind of relationships's too bad rich people don't help these kind of women and kid's going through abuse actually be financially stable enough and relocate them with new names, homes far away like how they place criminals up in nice homes, hotels, vehicles with new life's when they place them in secret protective custody...Well, it's long enough , hope to recieve a response from the blogger or people who've posted ...

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      Vera Alexander 3 months ago

      I have done everything they have asked me to do and they still have my case open I have passed my drug test my house is clean my son has formula and there is food and I have done everything they asked my son is healthy and is taking care of he is my first priority and they still keep coming why they won't close my case

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      Question 3 months ago

      "It is possible for you to be completely uncooperative with CPS. If they never see your child, your home, you, or anyone you know, then there is very little they can do."

      Then why work with them at all? It seems like it isnt in your best interests to do so period if you are falsely accused...

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      Pam hall 3 months ago

      I understand all that you do to help children being abused and in today's time saving every child from parents who abuse ranks high on my list. But an error was made in your thoughts. Your workers or the worker does make you feel as a criminal not only by actions but they they come across speaking to you. Its very condensending to know that your on your high horse and speaking with a tone that puts you on edge and that prevents cooperation. Doing your job is one thing disagreements will happen . Being accused of harming your child when you didn't is the most hurtful way of setting a parent off. Wrongly being accused by a neighbor out of spite needs to be addressed and if found that they lied was never mentioned . Those persons need to be face charges .

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      people-are-scary 3 months ago

      While this article certainly makes you sound noble and self-sacrificing, speaking as someone who has witnessed CPS get it wrong time and time again, by doing nothing but ignoring legitimate cases while hanging onto trumped up charges like a dog with a bone, all I can say is that for every decent case worker, there are ten who are either doing the job because they enjoy the power they have over other people's lives, or because they got all C's in high school and had to find a line of work that didn't require a great deal of intelligence. Judging from your ability to string sentences together in a coherent way, I'm guessing you are an example of the one in ten. Congratulations, but there are a few professions that actually celebrate mediocrity, and unfortunately you are in one. In a lot of cases, "Child Protective Services Professional" is an oxymoron.

      I have personally called CPS in my state about a toddler I found playing in my yard after dark, wearing nothing but a filthy pair of panties. I didn't know her parents but I knew she lived across the street, so I started to walk her home. The closer we got to her door, the more her animated chatter turned to terror and she began begging me not to take her home. I asked her why, and she told me that her mother "gets real mad and hits me on the head with things and burns me on the stove." She showed me a nasty burn scar.

      I brought her back to my house and called Child Abuse Hotline and the police, who questioned her for about half an hour. The officer said that in addition to the obvious burn scar, it was concerning that the child was clawing at her genitals, and the fact that it was nearly 10:30 at night and no one even appeared to be looking for her. She was three years old. I gave her one of my son's t-shirts to put on, and the officer took her home after assuring me that CPS would be notified first thing in the morning.

      I called CPS a few days later to inquire about it, and while they weren't really supposed to discuss it with me, the woman I talked to told me that they had attempted to visit the home once, but they gave up because no one would answer the door.

      They tried once.

      I asked if they would be trying again, and the woman said, "No, we can't make them open the door." They never followed up, and I never saw that little girl again.

      On the flip side, I know of another family with two of the most conscientious, loving parents I've ever met, whose lives were turned into a living hell for over a year, because of false charges made by a vindictive person. In this case, the child had Potts Syndrome which was verified by the Mayo Clinic. Potts is often accompanied by severe headaches, nausea, fainting spells, sleeplessness, and physical pain, so the child missed a lot of school. The mother tried to work with the school by staying in touch with his teacher and picking up assignments for him to work on at home. She even requested homebound instruction until they could find an effective treatment for his illness.

      After a couple of weeks, the principal instructed the teacher to stop giving the mother his assignments, denied them access to homebound instruction, was openly nasty to the mother and the child, and reported the parents to CPS. Why were they reported? Because, as the principal said to the boy's teacher right in front of him, she didn't believe there was anything wrong with him. You know, because school administrators have far more medical knowledge than the Mayo Clinic.

      The parents finally gave up trying to get help from the school and decided to homeschool the child, adhering to all state regulations for homeschooling. CPS hounded them for over a year, forcing them to go to numerous court hearings, ignoring letters from various doctors explaining the situation, and eventually taking legal custody of the child while allowing him to remain in the home under their supervision (big of them, I know).

      I actually attended a couple of the hearings, and I can tell you from personal experience that CPS runs quite the little dog and pony show for the court's benefit. Fortunately for the parents, judges aren't usually stupid, and CPS workers often come across as practically illiterate. The child's pediatrician was called to testify on their behalf, which helped, and the school principal who was also called, was caught in several lies on the stand. This didn't stop CPS from continuing to harass the family, but the parents eventually got legal custody back, and they are currently suing the state and the school district. I hope they bankrupt both respondents.

      These are only two of many stories I could tell you. At one point, when I was taking one of my children to see his pediatrician (who is consistently ranked as one of the best doctors in our state), I mentioned how frustrating it is to keep seeing all of these travesties occurring and all of these innocent families whose lives are turned upside down by CPS. He said, and I quote, "Don't even get me started. A lot of people don't realize this, but CPS gets it wrong at least 30 percent of the time." Personally, I think that estimate is low.

      You are correct in saying that it is your job to be hated, but don't kid yourself that people are being unfair. Stereotypes don't appear out of thin air. Blame all of the case workers out there earning those stereotypes. There is a serious problem with your profession, and most people know it. Frequently, people aren't worried about a visit from CPS because they are guilty of anything. They worry about it because of the rampant incompetence that could easily destroy their lives.

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      Mom of One 3 months ago

      I know a family that is being torn apart by CPS and the court system. I am making sure I know darn well what I can and can't do as well as what CPS can and can't do regarding my child.

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      RM 3 months ago

      Does CPS do a background check on parents who are suspected of abuse? I suspect a little boy at my school is being physically and emotionally abused and I made a call to CPS about a disturbing story the little boy told me and the CPS employee told me that what I reported would never be investigated! Super disappointing to say the least. I did some investigating on my own about this little boys family and found that his dad is a level III sex offender! LEVEL III SEX OFFENDER!!!! Nobody at my school knew this and this man has been in our school numerous times! I am wondering if CPS knew this and if so why was the school not informed? I am also wondering why in the world these children are still in this home! This little boy comes to school every week with physical signs of abuse and not much is being done. So disturbing to me my heart aches! For all of you wondering if people call to hurt your family, you shouldn't be that worried because it takes a whole heck of a lot to get protection from CPS. Should be called Loser Parent Protective Services

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      gooey68 4 months ago

      while id like to believe that cps is a dept. that protects vulnerable and at risk kids. i know better... as you took my child and placed her with her npd biological father. His sister who I don't really know did his dirty work for him and you fell for it.

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      Kodie 4 months ago

      My stepson was legitimately being abused, emotionally, physically, sexually, and neglected medically and in every other way possible. Me and my husband had has raised him since he was two. We had to sit by and watch this happen because no one would listen to us or my son. 8 years we fought for him. 8 years we tried CPS, child advocate, police, court, private investigators. He was terrified to go back every week. It changed him from a happy child to an insecure , angry, closed up boy. CPS would literally go to the house she happened to be staying in that week, stand out side ,talk to her newest boyfriend of the month, and close the case. Then nothing would get done. She made him take sexual photos of her in the shower to send to men and because my son said there was a curtain there, which was clear , they said he wasn't specific enough , He was 5!!!!!. She would lock him a room and only throw him apples to eat for days if he spoke our names, but because he didn't say there was a lock on tje outside of the door , they did nothing!!!!! He was 6!!!!!! He had belt marks all over his body , but because it was a boyfriend of hers and not her, they did nothing. He had abscesses in his gums because she refused to make him brush his teeth, we made him dentist spots, but she would refuse to let us take him because it was during the week, her time, she would say she would do it, then she wouldn't show. There were weekends w had to take him to the emergency room to drain these abscesses and have him given iv antibiotics , and CPS would not open anymore cases. After 8 years of this, the court system finally saw what she was and have us primary custody, but still allowed this monster visitation. But because she lost the ability to control him, because he hated her, because she would physically and emotional hurt him, she disappeared . She just stopped showing up, stopped hurting him. We haven't heard from her in 5 years now. The trauma is already done. He is better but not fully normal because he still talks about the things that were done to him. CPS in my state is a joke

      I understand that they don't want to break families up so they will look for majors signs. But they worst abuse is the best hidden and CPS will not dig if it looks normal from the outside . My child suffered horribly because no one would help. Now that she has rotten teeth from the meth and heroin , people will put her in jail, I saw her mugshot. But it took rotten teeth for someone to take a second look and my boy paid for it. I cannot explain the anguish we all went through for many many years and it is still there. Please if anyone can convince CAPS to do more actual investigating into families that have separated parents.... because if a child is crying for help there is a reason. !!!

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      Hawkins 4 months ago

      Ok what about a child who has asthma with parents smoking in home and car .. parents who both use drugs a filthy home little food...I want children protected at all cost ..I don't car if it incoviences the parent .. sorry


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      Liz 4 months ago

      I recently reported to CPS that my stepdaughter is being exposed to situations that 8 year olds shouldn't be exposed to by her biological mother. Things such as seeing her mother make out with one of her boyfriends in the back seat of the car multiple times while my stepdaughter is just sitting in the front passanger seat. This biological mother's behavior in front of her child is completely unacceptable and I thought that once CPS took the case in their hands something would be done but I was wrong. They called and let me know that as long as my stepdaughter isn't masturbating herself or touching her private parts inappropriately everything should be fine, that she is only 8 years old and she doesn't know what is happening in the back seat. They recommended we take her to counseling to see if this situation has affected her emotionally. At this point I'm the one that is needing help understanding WHY we have to wait till that happened to help my stepdaughter, Please explain this to me because I don't understand.

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      Beth j 4 months ago

      My sister is getting her child removed tomorrow I wanted to foster him while she received hope to get better until she could have him back I was told that I could not foster him until then because I had Other cases in the past but they were closed with no substantiated neglect or abuse so my question is why can I not foster my nephew until my sister is better

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      Nonya business 4 months ago

      This article is defending CPS obviously written by a biased social worker.

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      Anonymous 4 months ago

      I had a cps worker that abused her authority and was trying to be too personable in an unprofessional manner. She even allowed for my former husband to manipulate her. You see, my former husband was abusive and controlling in our marriage and even still tried to control me, despite being divorced. Long story short, my CPS worker pretty much told me something was wrong with me because everytime I had to meet with her to talk about my daughter's sexual abuse case, I "cried". Due to this, she urged me to go under a thorough psychological exam. So I cooperated. My results showed that I was fine besides for going through a "situational" problems. Well, no duh CPS lady! I think something would be terribly wrong, if I didn't cry. It is devastating to find out your child is victim to sexual abuse. Anyhow, I am now on the central registry and I have never had my children removed. Obviously, there is more that I could say pertaining to my case, but for now I am going to leave it at this. Anyone that can help me get my name removed, please send me information . You see, I recently graduated with my Social Work degree and this record has hindered me to get a job where I want to. Don't worry, I vow to never work for CPS. I am open to work anywhere, but CPS, no way!

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      Morrissa 4 months ago

      Can a child be interviewed at school with only one DHS worker and no one else in the room? Does there need to be at least 2 adults present?