Invited to Eat Dinner? Manners for Children

Updated on November 19, 2018
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Table Manners in Your Host's Home

I enjoy the company of children—polite children. No one likes a rude person whether she is young or old. One of the real tests of a child's etiquette is her behavior when eating at someone else's house. Vastly different from eating at a restaurant, being company in someone's home requires a different level of courtesy and manners.

Teach your children how to behave when they have been invited to eat a meal with friends.

Rule #1: Say What You Like and Don't Say What You Don't Like

This is a cardinal rule for being a guest. Speak freely about the foods you love, but don't breathe a word about the foods you don't like.

Children often have no filter on their words. If they take a bite of something new that is distasteful to them, they are likely to blurt out, "Yuck! I don't like it!" Retrain them to hold that thought in as they politely swallow down the food. It is human nature to take tasty foods for granted. But it will make your hosts very happy for a child to clearly express that a certain dish is delicious.

Encourage your child to say one positive thing about at least one dish the host made.

  • "May I have more rice casserole? It's really good."
  • "Wow, Mrs. Smith, this homemade bread is fantastic."
  • "I've never had this kind of relish before, but I really like it."

Remind your child as you are traveling to the host's house that you expect him to say one positive thing about at least one food he is given. He is not to make any negative remarks. Later praise him for following your directions. However, the glowing smile from your host will probably be praise enough.

Rule #2: Take Small Portions at First

Teach your children that when they are the company in someone's home, they should not waste food. It is rude to your host and many people find it morally wrong. Even if you allow your child to throw away food at home, stress the importance of conserving food in someone else's home. It is a huge insult to the cook who bought the ingredients and lovingly prepared the food for you to pick at it and then throw it away (or leave it on your plate).

Instead, have your child take very small portions, even if it is a food he loves. Everyone's recipes are different. And there may be some ingredient that you are not aware of. If he eats his portion and loves it, he has a perfect opportunity to follow rule #1 as he politely asks for more. This is very polite and makes your host extremely pleased.

Explain it in terms a child can understand.

"What if you built a huge marble racetrack and invited me over to look at it and play with it. How would you feel if I took a big chunk of it and threw it in the trash?

Imagine you spent all day on a drawing. You really like how it turned out and invited me over to see it. But when I saw it, I said, 'Yuck. I don't like it.' Then I tore off a part of it and threw it on the ground before I walked away."

Then make the parallel to the foods the child will be offered. The host has worked hard on the meal just as you would work hard on a marble track or a drawing. It is hurtful to the cook to despise and waste their food. You can go further to explain that it is morally wrong to waste food when so many people in the world do not have enough to eat.

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Rule #3: Remember, This is Not a Restaurant

Eating at someone's home is not the same as eating at a restaurant where you pay for the meal. Although it is okay to ask for lemon in your water at a restaurant, it is not okay to ask for that when you are a guest in someone's home. To ask for something your host has not offered makes the host feel inadequate.

Part of being a gracious guest is to gratefully accept what is offered to you. Teach your children the difference between being a customer in a restaurant and being a guest in someone's house.

Have children run their requests through you first by whispering quietly. There may be something on the table that the child can't see. But if ketchup is not served, it is rude to ask for it unless your host specifically says, "Is there anything else you need?" Then, and only then, is it okay to mention a condiment or food that your host has not put on the table.

Hosts often put children in a bad situation when they ask an open-ended question like, "What would you like to drink?" In that case, a child risks asking for something a host does not have or would have to make. A very polite answer would be to ask for water. Another polite response is to counter with, "What drinks do you have prepared?"

The Basics of Table Manners

  • Say please and thank you.
  • Ask for things rather than reaching.
  • Don't slurp or eat with your mouth open. Eat quietly.
  • Put your napkin in your lap.
  • After you use it, put your knife on the edge of the plate instead of on the table.

Rule #4: Ask if You Can Help Clean Up

Help your child know how to deal with the end of the meal. You can teach your child the polite request to be excused from the table when he is done eating. Before leaving the table, it is polite to make an offer to help with clean up. Teach your child to use one of these questions:

  • Mrs. Smith, would you like me to take my plate to the sink?
  • Mrs. Smith, thank you for the meal. How can I help you clear the table?

It is best to ask rather than assume your host wants you to take the plate to the kitchen. More than likely, the host will not require any help, and you have shown yourself to be a very polite child! If the host does ask for help, it will be minimal. And your child has the satisfaction of repaying the host's trouble with a small act of kindness.


On your way home, debrief the meal experience. Praise polite behaviors, specifically mentioning what the child did and the host's positive reaction. Emphasize the host's pleasant feelings over the child's reputation. The point of manners is to be kind to others not to be perceived as a wonderful person.

If there were any fiascos, discuss how they could have been handled better. But do not berate your child unless he strictly disobeyed your directions. There is a myriad of situations that can arise when eating at someone's home, and a child has little experience for knowing how to deal with them. Every meal at a friend's home is another opportunity to practice etiquette and grow in kindness towards others.


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    • Injured lamb profile image

      Injured lamb 

      8 years ago

      I can't help but to vote this up up up! People seems not really care about what manner is nowadays regardless table manners or other etiquette...they even regard manners as "nonsense" as they see no reason for being it...really thanks for sharing this hub with us, you have proved that I am not a "nonsense" person...and thanks god that two of my kids know they are not doing the "nonsense" thing...thanks JimmieWriter, cheers!

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      8 years ago from San Francisco, California

      I love your hub!

      Pretty much these are rules for adults, too, in someone else's home.

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      Debby Bruck 

      8 years ago

      Jimmie ~ Superb tutorial! This can be a family guide. Everyone needs to bookmark for kids and grandkids as a little lesson. Perfect! Of course, voted all the way. Blessings, Debby

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      Denise Handlon 

      8 years ago from North Carolina

      WOW! What a great hub topic and well written. I love the subject and you make some great points here that I had not even thought about when I was raising my two kids. I rated it up. My daughter, Caradelean, has mentioned you on a few occasions. Glad to finally bring myself around to your postings. Congratulations on the hub of the day achievement-well deserved.

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      SweetiePie, I think you have the makings of a totally new hub there in your comment-- How to Host Children.

      Thanks for sharing your experiences!

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      8 years ago from Southern California, USA

      These are good tips, but some of this seems more to apply to people who are families with kids going to fancy dinners. I love to cook, and I am brilliant with ingredients, but I also love a casual environment.

      When I am with my niece and nephew we just want to have fun, and enjoy eating a casual meal. I say it is great to teach kids how to eat formally, but sometimes it is fun to be casual.

      Also, on the other end of the spectrum, there are people who invite families with kids to dinner, and then buy foods kids will not eat. Kids should have manners and be polite, but I have secretly wondered how some people can be so oblivious about how kids might not like certain food. If you are serving a kids who eat fish sticks a high end fish dinner, do not be surprised if they ask for ketchup.

      To keep in balance sometimes it is fun to eat dinner in front of the TV, and discuss a movie or current events. I became very politically aware at a young age eating scrumptious meals in front of the nightly news, discussing current events with my dad. Not all casual meals are bad. Sometimes a more casual setting is more applicable if you are inviting over families with kids.

    • greatstuff profile image


      8 years ago from Malaysia

      good advice..I wish I had seen something like this years ago when my kids were still they are grown up and working. maybe will use them when we get grand kids!

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      Princess Pitt 

      8 years ago

      I really love the way you write concerned and genuine.

      I have two nephews that i helped siblings children is mine too. I love them.

      I never learned to like children really, until I experienced taking cared of one.

      Now, whenever i see an infant....i smiled.

      Voted up....and way up.

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      Cindy Murdoch 

      8 years ago from Texas

      This was a very well written hub. Congrats on hub of the day!

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      Liz Elias 

      8 years ago from Oakley, CA

      I guess if I had planned a dinner for guests, then I would have had plenty for seconds, and it would not have been a problem. As it was, in the situation I described above, it was an impromptu invite, by my daughter and already an extra mouth that had not been planned for...and I was unprepared for the size of this boy's appetite..I was feeling, "Wow! Doesn't he get fed at home?"

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      8 years ago

      Excellent hub! A definate read for young families. Voted up!

    • disujaalbart profile image


      8 years ago from california

      Nice hub..

    • JimmieWriter profile imageAUTHOR

      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      suzettenaples, You are so right. When children are rude more often than not it is the parents' fault. It is their task to teach them and give them practice. I see a viscous circle -- kids are rude so parents are ashamed to take them out. Then they don't take the kids out, and children have no chance to learn correct behavior. They only become more and more socially inept. Sad, sad situation.

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Ha! Great story about the 6 year old niece. Brutal honestey is not polite, is it? :-)

      You are right, though, about the age. It does take a certain level of maturity to consider the feelings of others and wisely choose how to behave. Thanks for reading my hub, Steph!

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      Stephanie Marshall 

      8 years ago from Bend, Oregon

      Super tips to stress the importance of dinner manners for kids. I have four children and the best two are my 12 and 14 year olds (see Paul, there is hope... ;)

      Perhaps I will forward this hub to my sister. We laugh about it now, but when she and her kids stayed at my house, I made homemade pancakes that everyone gobbled up. Except my 6-year old niece who declared, "Aunt Stephanie, your pancakes look really yummy, but they taste really baaaad." Guess they'll have to work on the "say one good thing about the food" tip a bit more. Rated up!

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      ComfortB, I want to clarify that I don't think asking for MORE is bad. I think that asking for something that is not offered is rude. As an example, the host serves soup and fresh bread. There is butter and honey on the table. It would be rude (IMO) to ask for jelly since that is not on the table. If there is a huge pile of bread and you ask for seconds, I think that is a huge compliment to the baker! I love it when my guests ask for seconds. I'm not so happy when they ask for something I don't have or haven't planned as part of the meal.

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      Paul Edmondson 

      8 years ago from Burlingame, CA

      I have to say I'm very impressed when kids follow these manners....I think it only happened once with my neighbors kids that were like a 11 and 13...It gives me hope for my young children.

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      Suzette Walker 

      8 years ago from Taos, NM

      Wonderful, great hub! These are the rules I learned while growing up. Polite and courteous children are far and few between now a days. Your simple, common sense rules are terrific and all children should read this hub. I find, today, that many parents are too tired, lazy or ignorant to take the time to teach their children

      correct rules of behavior when eating at someone else's house. When I was a child these rules were expected at home, at grandparents', at relatives' and at friends' homes.

      Congratulations on Hub of the Day! Great topic!

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      Rebecca Mealey 

      8 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Very nice. I have two little granddaughters that are pretty well mannered, but I still find this useful,interesting and beautiful voted up, and congrats to you!

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      8 years ago from Trinidad and Tobago

      really well done, congrats to on being hub of the day

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      J Burgraff 

      8 years ago

      I can think of a few adults who would benefit from this advice! Great advice.

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      Comfort Babatola 

      8 years ago from Bonaire, GA, USA

      Great points you've raised here.

      Some cultures actually encourage everything opposite of what you've mentioned here. As a guest, the more you ask for and eat, the better. And they get offended if you don't ask for more, or if you ask to help as a guest.

      Also table manners are usually snobbed among teens, but we owe it to them to teach them some. My teen son and daughter follow all these, but my now six year old son is another story.

      That boy's got a mind of his own. Sometimes I ask myself if I really gave birth to him. No table manner whatsoever, and he's been taught and often reminded. But when he's with the grandsparents, anything goes. It's a struggle.

      Thanks for sharing.

      By the way, Congrats on the Hub of the Day!

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      8 years ago

      A useful and important bit of advice.

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      MsLizzy, I actually see second helpings as a huge compliment and would never begrudge my guest's eating to his fill. As a host I would be horrified to find that my guest left hungry.

      I guess you are right, though. A guest should wait to be offered more before taking it. Both sides have an obligation to consider the feelings (and bellies) of others.

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      Liz Elias 

      8 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Congratulations on HOTD!! Well done, and a much-needed study for so many parents and kids these days.

      With older children, the problem arises of a child (teen) being invited to a friend's home by themselves. You have no opportunity to supervise the behavior, or offer a kick under the table or to glower at your child.

      I was the recipient of a case of very bad manners when my daughter was in high school. She wanted to invite her then-boyfriend to dinner. Ok, fine. We were having burritos. I always put out all the filling ingredients (a lot of them!) and use the large tortillas. Everyone serves up their own burrito, buffet-style. We ended up with LARGE burritos--nearly a pound and a half of food!! My kids were both girls, and I am an only child--I'd never been exposed to the voracious and pig-sized appetite that resides inside a teenage boy.

      At the time, we were not very well-off, and I always planned for leftovers to help the budget. The family knew there was a "no second helpings" rule in place for that reason.

      I expected that as a matter of good manners (as I was raised) .. you do not ask for seconds when invited to dinner, and you certainly do not just help yourself. If the host has served portions you consider too small, you thank them politely for the delicious meal, and have a snack when you get home!

      I was shocked that this boy had apparently not been taught any such manners. He wolfed down one huge burrito, got up, and helped himself to seconds of equal size. I was stunned and disappointed, as well as angry. Now, my leftovers were nil. Needless to say, he never got another invitation to dinner.

      (Sorry for the long rant--a hot-button issue for me!) Great article--much needed--voted up all around!

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      8 years ago from Hubpages

      Should implement it for myself. Thanks

    • BakerRambles profile image


      8 years ago from Baltimore, MD

      Manners are always a must. If one doesn't have that, what is there to reach for?

    • ThePracticalMommy profile image


      8 years ago from United States

      Congrats on the Hub of the Day!!

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      Apryl Schwarz 

      8 years ago from Nebraska

      Great reminder for adults on proper guest etiquette, not just kids! Also, perfect ways to implement your advice. Voted up! Congratulations on Hub of the Day.

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      8 years ago from New Hampshire

      Wonderful hub. We take manners very seriously in this household and while my kids are not perfect by any means when compared to most of the other kids we know I am very proud to say that they are quite polished for their ages. We are huge proponents of eating well balanced meals before allowing any kind of junky food snaking. My daughter has a little friend of about 11 years old, who has grown to believe that the world is a restaurant and if you turn your nose up at something Mom will just run into the kitchen and fix something else...usually in the way of frozen sausages or canned pasta meals. Feeding this child when she comes for a play date is such a challenge. At one point I was feeding them lunch and along with their sandwiches I gave them carrot sticks to eat. This child wasted no time at all letting me know that she "won't eat that!" I told her to try it, to which she begrudgingly complied then immediately ran from the table and into the bath pretending to be sick. Having already asked the mother about any food allergies I knew this was a ploy, with a rudeness factor that was off the charts. I told our young houseguest that she will eat the carrot sticks and should she pretend to be sick again I was going to give her double the amount of carrot sticks to finish when she returned to the table. Funny thing, she managed to gobble them right up after that with no issues what so ever. My children were quite literally horrified by her behavior and that made my day, because I knew that should my children eat as guests in someone else’s home that was, at the very least, one horrifying display of rudeness I didn't need to worry if I could just get my son to stop slurping his milk I'll be in good shape. Thanks for writing this

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      Patricia Scott 

      8 years ago from North Central Florida

      Congratulations on hub of the day...and thanks for sharing a teacher I sat with my children at lunch time in the cafeteria and we worked on 'table manners'. this is a lost really does not seem to be taught at home as much as it used to be. Hopefully many will read this.

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      8 years ago from Madurai / Tamilnadu / India

      A very fine and well formulated hub as it should be the manners that every parents should guide their children so that they could exhibit their parental care at a common place. voted as beautiful!

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      8 years ago from East Cackalacky

      This article is really about socializing children. Thank you for writing it. I wish more would take it to heart.

      Most of the young families I know don't do it well. When they come to dinner, I've learned from experience to put the children at the kitchen counter, with stainless cutlery and plastic dishes. The adults eat in the dining room. Some of them, frankly, aren't much better than the little hellions, but those are the ones who don't get invited back.

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      8 years ago

      Congrats on a well-deserved Hub of the Day! :) So glad to see it being highlighted by comments!

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      8 years ago from America

      Good hub. We always taught our kids to take their plate to the sink. I didn't realize they were doing it at other people's homes. Than one day I ran into the father of our son's friend. He said he couldn't believe how polite our son was and how nice it was of him to remove his plate. Congrats!

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      Mary Hyatt 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Congrats! From an old fashioned gal, I couldn't agree with you more. Table manners are learned in the home. Families now a days don't even have a family dinner anymore, so how are children supposed to learn? I voted this UP, etc.

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      8 years ago from Pakistan

      congratulations on the hub of the day

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Thank you so much. Your comment means so much because I can see that you read the hub and understand what I'm trying to say. This hub is not really about putting your napkin in your lap. It's about showing thoughtful, deliberate kindness to a host.

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      Sharilee Swaity 

      8 years ago from Canada

      Jimmie, these are VERY good rules, and should be followed at home, as well. I used to deal with children on a regular basis who were not made to follow these rules, and it really was wearing on the nerves. You nailed it by saying that the hostess goes to a lot of trouble to make a meal and it is annoying when someone starts complaining about it. Fantastic hub!! And congratulations on the "hub of the day" award. Very well-deserved!

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      vasantha T k 

      8 years ago from Bangalore

      Useful hub .congratulations. voted up. Best wishes

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      Cynthia Calhoun 

      8 years ago from Western NC

      Congrats on Hub of the Day!! This is a great hub. I am a teacher and I feel like my students often don't have any idea about proper manners. Voted up!

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      Marisa Hammond Olivares 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Congratulations on Hub of the Day!

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      8 years ago from Sri Lanka

      Very valuable guidelines. Thanks! Voted up!

    • uniquearticlesbuz profile image


      8 years ago from USA

      Like your hub because manners is very imported for everyone, its very useful thanks for sharing this hub.

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      8 years ago from CHANDIGARH INDIA

      great hub and very useful. nice tips to make our kids good guests. voted up

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      Beata Stasak 

      8 years ago from Western Australia

      Important hub, our school introduced few years back 'table manners' together with 'healthy cooking lessons' to teach students from year 1 to 7 all the basic skills that used to be learnt at home, but unfortunatelly this is not the case any more...

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Laura, you are so right. A child with allergies needs extra teaching about how to politely handle his food issues.

      But even a child with allergies can still follow each of the four rules I've listed here.

      Rule 1: There is no need to dwell on the food that causes problems. Just find a food that IS edible and tasty to praise.

      Rule 2: Take small portions. If you are allergic to something, don't take ANY of it, obviously.

      Rule 3: Don't treat your guest's home as a restaurant.

      Just because you have an allergy does not give you a right to demand certain foods. [Your mother handled this wisely in providing special foods for you (vanilla ice cream).]

      Rule 4: Offer to clean up. Maybe a child cannot come in contact with a certain food that is on the table. In that case, he could still offer to take his own plate which would not have the offending food.

      Bottom line is that allergies do NOT change polite behavior. There are some special circumstances that parents would need to focus on, though.

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      Laura Deibel 

      8 years ago from Aurora, CO

      Nice hub.

      Please do consider that many children have food allergies. Peanuts/peanut oil is common.

      In my case, it was

      chocolate for several years. I would get a nice case of hives, have to be taken to the hospital and pumped up with lots of benadryl.

      Mom always handled this well. "Laura is allergic to chocolate" was always told to the host ahead of time. Mom brought a quart of vanilla ice cream, so I wasn't left out, feeling like a freak.

      It can feel insulting to the host about the refusal of any dish. Seven-year-olds don't express things in the easiest way to understand. Children taking trips to the hopital covered with hives is the worst.

      Oddly, I outgrew this allergy after about four years...peanut allergy maybe is worse, but I am no medical professional....

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      Valerie Smith 

      8 years ago

      Very well written - I might add that teens & adults can all benefit from reading this article, since for so many families sitting down at a dining room table for anything more then a few minutes is a rare occurrence in our busy lives.

      I don't agree that children should be required to sit at the table till everyone is finished, that can be painfully long for a youngster. But realizing that etiquette = respect, kindness towards others it so very valuable and so needed in our all too hurried lifestyle.

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      8 years ago

      Morning Jimmie.

      A lot of good points, but i don't know if it's because i'm a bit older than you are (profile photo)but as i was young and we all sat at the table you waited till everyone was seated before you could start and weren't allowed to leave the table till everyone had finished eating and if you wanted something that wasn't on the table then you where out of luck. Next time you asked your mother for it (ketchup) before you sat down.

      Never did me any harm and over at my Gran's at the dinner table "Children where seen and not heard"

      OK i'm going back 40 odd years and as we are talking about manners and not only at the table i got myself a bag full.

      Take care Jimmie and have a stress free day from the kid's.

      LOL Ghaelach (Jimmy)

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      Angie Jardine 

      8 years ago from Cornwall, land of the eternally youthful mind ...

      A great subject for a hub, Jimmiewriter ... bad manners at the table is one of my biggest peeves. Even when I'm dining out and see people eating sloppily it really gets on my nerves. They look such slobs ... you can tell it annoys me, can't you? And don't get me started on the cement mixer mouth ...

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      Rose Clearfield 

      8 years ago from Milwaukee, Wisconsin

      This is such an important topic. I agree with Deborah's comment about this is how children learn. Thanks for the great tips!

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      34th Bomb Group 

      8 years ago

      Terrific suggestions!! (Where were you 20 odd years ago?)

      Actually - one of the nicest things I enjoyed as a single Mom was my son's manners. He could be a bit of a pain, but when it came down to brass tacks he knew proper etiquette and he used it.

      This was always done when I wasn't around, with me he was, of course, a pain - but when he was at other peoples' homes his behavior was impeccable, especially his table manners.

      He's 21 now and just leased his first apartment - but he's still a very polite boy. (THANK GOD!!!!)

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 

      8 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      Great advice.. I agree with all of them.. this is how children learn and a lot of adults.. lol. Thanks for doing all the research and putting this together.. I voted up up up..

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      alphagirl, It is a hard job to teach our children well. They will make mistakes, and we have to gracefully correct them.

      Simone, Wow. I feel so honored to have YOU comment here. I was listening to some of your podcasts lately. ;-) I don't know about FABULOUS. I to take parenting quite seriously, though. It's a great responsibility and a true joy.

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      Simone Haruko Smith 

      8 years ago from San Francisco

      JimmieWriter, you are a FABULOUS mother! I kind of wish I had been taught more about table manners more as a child. I've never really had the opportunity to exercise them, but I might be more confident in formal dining situations had I ben taught table etiquette early on.

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      8 years ago from USA

      OMG! I have tried to teach my girls. Today's generation enjoys the sloppiness of life. It makes a mother crazy.

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Absolutely. This hub was inspired by a recent house guest. She was charming aside from her outspoken criticisms of my chili (which she didn't eat). Then she RAN to the trashcan with a fruit cake cookie. I rescued it before she threw it away. (Those candied fruits and pecans are expensive!) She had broken off the most minuscule part; I ate it for her rather than let her throw it away. I hope that her dad gave her some pointers after she left.

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      8 years ago

      I always stressed manners both at home and out. It is nice to see someone else who thinks being a good guest is important.

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Yes, I guess you are right, greatparenting. But if you are at home and want some ketchup, you can just get up and get it. :-)

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      8 years ago from philadelphia, pa and corolla, nc

      Perfect advice. But, why limit this behavior to a host's home? I think these rules could easily apply at home as well. Wish everyone who has kids would read this hub!

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      Jimmie Quick 

      8 years ago from Memphis, TN USA

      Thanks to PracticalMommy, MissOlive, and RTAlloni.

      Pamela, you are so right. But even those who eat at the table may use terrible manners. As you said, we have to TEACH children how to behave. Besides just chewing with your mouth closed children need to learn to consider the feelings of others.

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      Pamela N Red 

      8 years ago from Oklahoma

      Part of the reason kids don't learn manners these days is because hardly anyone eats at their dining table anymore; they eat in front of the TV.

      Eating meals at the table at home and teaching children from a young age proper behavior is the best way. If they are in the habit of using manners at home it comes natural.

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      8 years ago

      Lovely, lovely hub to help children be lovely guests. Like adults, children like to know what is best. Voted up!

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      Marisa Hammond Olivares 

      8 years ago from Texas

      Excellent examples and guidelines

      Voted up!

    • ThePracticalMommy profile image


      8 years ago from United States

      These are great tips, especially for older children. Thanks for sharing!


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