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Top 10 Problems and Issues Teenagers Face

Updated on April 29, 2016

Are Teenagers the Problem?

I was pushed into writing the ' Top ten problems teenagers face' after I attended a school program, where I had the opportunity to interact with other parents of teenagers. The normal flow of conversation was in the form of complaints about raising teenagers. I could see that each parent was only adding one more item to the list of complaints. I searched the net - the result wasn’t much different... it was mostly about how to… get your teen to clean their rooms, handle behavior that is rebellious or aggressive, problematic teens,defiant teenagers, out of control teenagers, make them more responsible etc… This got me thinking, and I concluded that what we need today is to look at the problem in a different light..

Kids go where there is excitement. They stay where there is love - Zig Ziglar

I took a good look at the teenager I raise, followed him around, spoke to him awhile and got in touch with more teenagers and this is what I found...

The health of the teenager is most important

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Problems that Teenagers Face Today

Teenagers and Body image

At the very outset they are struggling to come to terms with their body image. The cherubic appearance of childhood gone, they are looking at strangers in the mirror, gawky, disproportionate limbs, facial features, facial hair and acne to mention a few. They don’t know what to do with their hands and legs and are often termed ‘fidgety’

Search for Identity - the troubled teenager

I see teenagers as those struggling to find a place in society, be recognized by their peers and be accepted for what they are. This is the most important task of their lives at this juncture and they are faced with a lot of anxiety and insecurity as they work around this. I take my son as an example. My son is brought up to be respectful, helpful, kind, gentle, tolerant, follow moral and biblical principles of honesty, integrity etc. He has chosen to live by what he is taught. The struggle that I see each day is food for thought. Looking at the world around, these values are passé- this teen sticks around like a sore thumb because he is not like the rest of his peers - aggressive, pushy, vulgar, defiant and lack moral values, to name a few. His friends don’t accept him though they know that when they are in trouble they can find help here. He dares to be a loner because of his choice.

All around him, the media is not so subtly preaching that it is okay to do anything that makes you feel good. You are cool only if you have ‘things’ is what is shouted from housetops. The shows on television for this age group say all is fair in teenage - be it bullying, premarital sex, aggressive / violent behaviour, breaking rules. What is the teenager learning? What is a teen to choose? Who is to blame? Is it their fault if they become are confused teenagers , defiant teenagers or out of control teenagers?

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Problems Faced by Teenagers

Scheduling work and play

Teenage stress increases with school work and as they move higher, a number of projects to be done, tests to cope up with, professional choices to be focused on, drama, literary forums, sport and other extra curricular activities from the school front add to the pressure. On the social front, a new and tantalizing horizon opens up- dating, partying, hanging out with friends, vying for attention with the distraction of the media, sports, music, internet relationships etc. The teenager is under much duress to schedule time, prioritize work and achieve goals. Effective learning skills could be of great help to these teenagers.

High parental expectation Parenting teenagers is like walking on thin ice. Parents need to strike the right balance. Often times parents live their dream through their children this is when the pressure builds. Expecting the teenager to excel in academics, get good grades, be the child of their expectations – well behaved, responsible for themselves and sometimes for their younger siblings and bring in accolades from extra curricular activities - is in itself enough pressure.

Added to this is peer pressure. Teens, to be accepted among peers, feel the need to become more popular through other channels like music, sport and if need be by bulling and getting into school gangs… and are often under great stress to become acceptable and popular. Amid such hectic activity, the seeds of restlessness, anxiety, fear of failure, unbearable stress is all planted. The most immature and easy way out could lead them to other problem areas like formation of unacceptable habits, teenage depression, substance abuse, getting into trouble with the law etc.

Social and parental pressure

Every significant other adult around the teen is attempting to mould him / her into some acceptable shape. Parents, teachers, elders in the family, social groups are all party to this. The teen is hardly ever able to do what he / she wants to do with his / her life. Even though people do not push their views down their throats, they are still under a lot of strain because of the variety of suggestions given and the fear of failure. Frequently, teens arrive at decisions which conflict with their own skills or fields of interest.

The teen is suddenly expected to act like an adult, with good social and self- help skills in areas like managing work independently, decision making, managing their finances well, being responsible, etc. Though every parent complains about filthy bedrooms, untidy shelves and cabinets, smelly socks, missing stuff, I wonder where is the time! Their inabilty to handle pressure make them defiant in the face of expectations, more prone to anxiety, depression etc.

Problems of teenagers - Health and wellness

Teen health The eating habits of teens are poor and unmonitored. The girls are forced towards an anorexic look (to be popular) and the boys stuff themselves with unhealthy, fatty, high calorie junk food. Teen health is at high risk and its no wonder that this generation now is the victim of every health problem in the book. Wonder of wonders, they survive it all!!

Relaxation and rest. The most important and yet the most ignored item on the teen’s agenda. In an effort to do it all and be it all, the teen sacrifices highly on rest. It is a known fact that teens require about nine hours of sleep but at an average, teens get roughly about seven plus hours of sleep. This is one of the main reasons for performance being negatively affected.

Emotional health. Hormonal changes in the body add to the chaos of strain of scheduling, prioritizing, achieving, fulfilling parental expectations and conforming to peers’ expectation. The teen is unable to effectively handle all this is under considerable emotional pressure. This is reflected in mood swings, aggression, depression and sometimes even a complete break down of the individual. Here is where the skills of parent in parenting teenagers comes into play.

Searching for role models - who are their heroes?

In our schools we find the biggest bully, the richest spoilt brat lording it over all, the ones who break all rules (considered daring) are the most popular.

The media glorifies the people, especially in filmdom, sports, music etc and focuses on the negative aspects of their lives. Our children are fed on a diet that television programs and internet churn out, and are imbibing the values of their heroes as they see them portrayed in the media.

Helping teenagers deal with the problems they face

What a paradox the life of a teenager is today!! The teens today are forced to live on the edge, at a very superficial level with no acceptance and very little positive affirmation from parents, peer pressure, learning to live from the internet and television with no emphasis on moral value or excellence.

Parenting teenagers

What we need is a paradigm shift and a clearer view of our parenting skills.

We need to look at ways to help teens, our parenting skills, stop complaining and take responsibility for what we are exposing our teens to right now.

We cannot afford to ignore the parental duties of bringing them up well from the time they are little. Televisions, computers and other gadgets that they spend most of the time with, cannot give them the nurturing that only parents can.

Provide a healthy and complete meal whenever you pack it or put it on the table. Make vegetables and fruits interesting.

Build lines of communication that are so strong that your children always look at you as allies and not as enemies. Communicate positively and avoid commands and ‘I told you so’ lines. Establish rules for teen driving, discuss and set limits on teen datingetc. and ensure that they conform to those rules. This will tackle the problem of the out of control teenager.

Let them know that you don’t always have all the answers and you too are not always right. Take their opinion and help when ever needed. I always take my son’s input on what concerns him.

Be graceful enough to thank and appreciate them at every possible occasion.

Punishing teenagers does not really work. Disciplining teenagers does.

Be willing to listen to their point of view. Give it a good thought before you trash it. An encouraging and supporting attitude goes a long way.

Fear of failure is one of the greatest reason for stress, help them build self esteem, techniques to program the mind, self affirmation etc could be taught to overcome this.

Teaching techniques of goal achievement, helps them break down goals into smaller, achievable modules and will take much of the stress out of their life .

Look out for sign of stress, anxiety, lack of concentration, poor food intake, poor oral and personal hygiene, disturbance in sleep, plummeting of interest in social activities, address them immediately. It could be teenage depression, get professional help.

Most importantly, let them know that you care!

Wishing you all success!!

I would love to hear from you ....

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      luke jones 6 weeks ago

      teens are people to you dont need to be mena to them just becuase they arnt smart. This article kida made me dpressed so if i dont come to school tomorrow you know what happened

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      hi 6 weeks ago

      hi i like food

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      Decarjahnae 7 weeks ago

      Alot of kids struggle with depression and not being comftable on where there at . walking into something big and they dont know if they handle it or not. Cause theyve been and are used to a small comminity

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      Sammy 7 months ago

      Their is nothing bad about being small use it to your advantage I am small and I enjoy every minute

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      Favour samuel 8 months ago

      This is a nice thing to do for your age mate.❤️❤️

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      tanya 3 years ago

      Nice

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      AnnaHudson 3 years ago

      Thank you for such an insightful and considerate article! I'm thinking about a series for young adults that include some of these issues. Thanks again! Oh, one last thing, God bless you!

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      deeshana 3 years ago

      serious man its very informative im lovin it .serious atleast one person in this whole universe understands teenagers feelings and hope parents to understand and encourage the same way instead of cribbing .

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      AHALYA 2014 TAMILNADU 3 years ago

      Teens are getting depreesion because of schools activities . a very topic

      STRESS & STRAIN FACED BY TEENAGERS i am looking forward for many topics. BYE .......... ,......

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      simon paul sutton 3 years ago

      Great article covering some key points and solutions and spreading awareness in the areas most shy away from. The sooner all see that the teenagers of today create our culture and society for the next generations the better. Many talk of creating a new earth but look at the core creators and what they endure. If we set the foundations right for our youth then the rest takes care of itself in terms of functioning society and communication. Thank you for the post

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      Avinesh Prahladi 4 years ago from Chandigarh

      It is very important that you listen to the teens and while doing this, make sure that you are calm and composed. Understanding what they are trying to express is very important, this will build a confidence in them that at least someone is there for them all the time.

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      Avinesh Prahladi 4 years ago from Chandigarh

      Being a father of a teenager, I found that this hub was quite helpful to me. It was good to know the things that can help in the ideal upbringing of your kid. Well, I will definitely keep the discussed things in mind, so that I could be a better parent.

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      Ebonny 4 years ago from UK

      A thought provoking read. Thank you for sharing. Voted up etc.

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      mathira 4 years ago from chennai

      sofs, excellent hub. This transition period from childhood to adolescence is the toughest period faced by the parent as well as by the child.

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      buikees v a 4 years ago

      greatly helped us.

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      angel 4 years ago

      wow! you've created a very inspirational and motivational topics about teenager's life!a love it.. i hope you'll write some ways on how would teenagers love themselves more and avoid stupid insecurity.. =)

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      Arati Suryawanshi 4 years ago

      Wonderful information but sadly no share is provided.

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      arshia 4 years ago

      great and awesome..............

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      sssseeeee 4 years ago

      coolllllllll

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      gagri 4 years ago

      nice

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      unknown 5 years ago

      every teenager and even parent should visit this sight and solve all the problems that are faced by the teenagers..............................................

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      kylzkie 5 years ago

      hai thankz for this article.. it helps me a lot in doing a script in our activity in school regarding tha teenagers problem and a good way in solving this.... thankz a lot...

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      vimbai 5 years ago

      This is so true.Thank you wish to read more...

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      tamar 5 years ago

      thank you:)

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      shnatiea gibson 5 years ago

      well my intex on this is that in many cases some people look to teen as a bad person . and i hope this chapter in my book inrail alot because we are ot bad but in our own eyes just trying to fit in with the crowd it sometimes best to not be a follower but to go your own way

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      sofs 5 years ago

      KK20girl, Thanks. Appreciate that!

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      kk202girl 5 years ago

      great information really good

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Thanks Rathi. Have a great day.

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      rathi 5 years ago

      info's quite good and helpful

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      sofs 5 years ago

      ljeoma, you need to live for the values you believe in , not to make a mark on someone.. you will eventually do that when you live according to the high standards you set for yourself. Best wishes to you.

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      Ijeoma(Nigeria) 5 years ago

      Having to be a good child as the only daughter and first child out of two children has given me a great challenge to leave a good mark for my younger brother to follow, I'm glad I have learn more from your educative information, because being a teenager is a very complex stage in ones life dealing with peer pressure, stress,anger and still having to meet up with the African standards,especially"Nigeria" is my challenge.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Thanks LongTimeMother for that reassurance.!

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      LongTimeMother 5 years ago from Australia

      Hey shanky, I can imagine how much you hate those pimples. The good news is, they'll go away. Maybe one of your friends could recommend a good lotion or potion or soap that helps them get rid of their pimples. If you can't afford to buy anything that will help, all you need is patience. Patience is free!

      By the way, one more thought. You know how those pimples seem huge and awful and you think everyone notices them? They probably don't notice them at all.

      Some of the nicest people I knew when I was a girl had dreadful problems with pimples. They didn't try to cover them with their hair. They just made sure their hair was always clean and looked nice, and spoke to everyone with confidence and good humour. I remember always being pleased to see one girl who had pimples all over her face because she was so nice.

      And you'll be pleased to know, I saw her after we finished school and her skin was so-o-o-o smooth and lovely.

      It just takes time, shank.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Shanky, this is a problem of raging hormones at this period of time. You could switch to a high fiber diet, drink at least ten glasses of water each day and use a good face wash. You need not hide your pimples under your hair.. in fact it could help spread the infection some more.. Best wishes to you..

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      shanky 5 years ago

      i have pimples in my forehead which i covered with my hairs

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      sofs 5 years ago

      longtimemother, maybe the issues teenagers face haven't changed much, but they have surely intensified. I do agree with what you say. Thanks for dropping by. I appreciate this very much. Have a lovely day.

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      LongTimeMother 5 years ago from Australia

      The issues teenagers face haven't changed much over the generations ... but I believe that social media certainly magnifies them. As parents we have to work harder now to help our teenagers get through such a difficult stage of life.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      DDE, thanks for stopping by to read and comment. Have a lovely day.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Brilliant write up!!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Eire, thanks for those tips to Infobucket, I would like to add you can add more to your personality which will make you stand out tall. Have a great day.

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      Éire 5 years ago

      Info bucket... There are surgeries to increase height..plus it doesn't matter about height. Except when you need something off the top shelf or if someone taller asks you what's up!xD otherwise heights no matter.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Great! You are blessed! Have a lovely day!

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      Yeah Buddy! 5 years ago

      I never had these problems... thank GOD

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Epic, Thanks for stopping by to post your comment. I do agree that bullying is a major problem for children of all ages.. Maybe I would write on this subject as soon as I find some time.. Have a great day!

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      Epic 5 years ago

      I just read your article, mainly because i was doing a school essay, but i found lots of useful thing here that i will be able to use in my life(as a teen myself I agree with everything that's here. But I'd just like to add that bullying is a major problem as well) So thanks for writing this wonderful hub!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Alisha, Thank you... maybe you should send the link to your parents .. it would help them understand you better! Have a great day!

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      alisha 5 years ago

      awesome........i loved it......as a 15 year old,i too face these probs

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Teens like all people need to be understood, I agree. Have a great day.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Issues with teens are most difficult if you don't understand what they are going through

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Kushi, I am sorry that you are stressed out by your health. Check out these articles https://hubpages.com/business/Living-life-with-pos...

      https://hubpages.com/education/Positive-self-talk-... they could help you. Best wishes to you. Have a lovely day.

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      Khushi 5 years ago

      the most terribble problem i face is the tension of my health which is not good

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      ups 5 years ago

      this is good for teenagers

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      sofs 5 years ago

      You are welcome and I am glad that you were helped. Have a wonderful day.

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      B BOY KAZIN ZEE 5 years ago

      this article helped me doing my research about teen thank you :)

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Maybe sometime.. but the point is if someone gets this then they get it all. Have a wonderful day.

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      katlyn 5 years ago

      I really think this was a good article! but i would like if you couold do a few more? like a top 15!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Poeticmentor, thank you. Have a wonderful day.

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      Asahda Shavaja Poet of the New Age 5 years ago from New York City

      voting up. thanks

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Xhane, Thank you. Have a wonderful day!

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      xhane 5 years ago

      i love the topic..

      i learn a lot of things!!

      like it much:)

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      sofs 5 years ago

      mk.xoxo, bullying is a major issue every where, maybe I should write about that too. Thanks for your lovely comment and kind words. Have a wonderful day! God Bless

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      mk.xoxo 5 years ago

      In my opinion. Bullying. Is a big issue in teen lifes too. Some ppl don't agree but that's mine.

      And btw very well written and good information on this article. Ill be voting up(:

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      sofs 5 years ago

      roxanne, beautifully summed up! Thank you for taking the time to read and comment! Have a lovely day!

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      Roxanne Lewis 5 years ago from Washington

      Great hub! The more understanding and compassion adults have for what teens are going through, the easier it is to bridge the gap and help them. Keep talking!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Kelleyward, Having a teen is fun.. I get to be a teen once again..lol :) On a serious note, well, I hope more people looked at it that way.. everyone I talk to thinks their teen is the problem.. a real need to change the way we look at teens. Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I appreciate that. Have an amazing weekend. God Bless!

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      kelleyward 5 years ago

      Great hub! I don't have teens yet but I remember being one. I can't imagine what teens go through today with everything they are exposed to. Thanks again for sharing!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Have a great day!

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      Judith kagande 5 years ago

      Thnks hub

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Thank you Maine! Have a wonderful day!

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      maine 5 years ago

      Vote it Up :D

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Outlander, I appreciate you stopping by and thanks for the suggestion. It would be great if you could let me know which aspect of teen love you want me to cover... this is an ocean... I would be delighted to work on that if you could give me a few pointers. Have a great Day!!

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      Outlander 5 years ago

      can u write about teen love

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      sofs 5 years ago

      I guess all of us are guilty of such thoughts, some are more prepared than others for what is before them. Thank you for sharing that thought! Have a great day!!

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      Turkic 5 years ago

      Teens also think they are ready for the world and are thinking that they can do what ever they want.

      Love your hub!

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Jeffy, You really need to find out what is it that makes you angry. Sometimes resentment towards how people treat you, or that fact that you feel inadequate in someways..could bring up reactions of anger...I will give you a link here for you to follow... https://hubpages.com/health/Anger_and_stress_manag... if you cannot fore any reason read it, click on my profile image and look for articles on anger management, self confidence and teenage depression, you will be surprised with what you find. Alternatively you could click on the contact the author and get in touch ..it would be helpful to have more details than give a one size fits all solution.. Best wishes to you and hope this helps.

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      JEFFY FRANCIS 5 years ago

      I just get angry at small things which makes my friends reject me. What exactly can i do about it?

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      sofs 5 years ago

      The need for understanding teenagers is what prompted me to right this article. I have a teenage son and because our communication lines are clear we do not face such issues. It takes a lot of effort on both sides to establish lines of communications. I do understand your problem, maybe you should have your mother read this or some other article which may help her, but I would like to reiterate that it takes two to bring some understanding into a situation.

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      Anonymous 5 years ago

      you are very correct but another thing teens face are parents sometimes your in your room working on an essay for school your mother yells out out of a sudden ( thinking your fooling around the internet or such a thing ) and yells at you without even looking at the screen you try to tell her what your doing she responds with the usual thing ( no back talking!) another horrible scenario with the no talking back rule is when they think you've done something bad but you didn't they yell at you you try to explain and get yelled at more for what is supposed to be ( back talking ) believe this type of thing like grumpy parents should be the first and i feel it my self

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      sofs 5 years ago

      ThenewCinders, thank you for taking the time to read it, I hope it does help you in someway in dealing with your teenagers at home and school.

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      TheNewCinders 5 years ago

      This is good - and food for thought with two teens at home and a job as a teacher.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Thanks Ms Louise, if as parents we do not set the guidelines/boundries who will? I believe in lead by example and honestly that has worked for me and the parents with whom I work. Glad that you picked up this point to highlight.I appreciate your stopping by and leaving a comment.

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      Ms Louise 5 years ago

      I so appreciate what you said about parents taking responsibility for their teenagers. I see so many parents think they don't have to lead, assist or give boundaries for their kids just because they have more independence.

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Teens Rock.. I agree:) Thank you for taking the time to let me know how you felt about this article.. I honestly appreciate this :)

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      sofs 5 years ago

      Dim, thank you :) lol life comes full circle doesn't it?

      But teenagers will be teenagers and they just need an extra helping of love.. dollops of it on top too :) I appreciate the comment and the sharing. Thank you:)

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      teens rock 5 years ago

      i was reaserchng 10 top things teens face for school and this is the perfect website.

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      Dim Flaxenwick 5 years ago from Great Britain

      This was a seriously good and helpful hub. l´ve had my own teenagers and now the grandchildren are in their teens. same old problems , different generation.

      l have to admit to the occassional smile when l see my son tearing his hair out because HIS son has done exactly the same as his da did at his age. My daughter once came to me and said, OH Mum l must have been a nightmare,

      No neither of my children were nightmares, they were teenagers., Now they have to cope with their own teenagers. Hee Hee,

      Your hub was a masterpiece. l loved it. Thank you.

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      sofs 6 years ago

      My heart goes out to you Emily. Beauty is not how you look but how you feel inside of you.

      Can I give you one piece of advice.. start looking at all positive factors in you and focus on them. I know the teen world is hard on those who are not good looking, but they certainly respect those who prove that they can accomplish a lot more.

      Regarding the physical aspects - I am sure you have some good features play them up and focus on them. Take help from a beautician or friend who knows how to make themself look good.

      Focus on enjoying what you have and not on what you think you do not have.. try to make the best of your everyday and enjoy it as much as you can.

      Feel free to get in touch with me..you can see a contact me under my profile image . God Bless.

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      Emily 6 years ago

      Im a teen myself 14 going on 15. But you know i struggle with almost every aspect of the teens life. Body image. Im not beautiful. I know it to. Emotions. Strain and stress on my feelings. Its like someone is taking a spiky vine and whipping me with it. Idk what to do about it. I feel like screaming and crying but when i do its like it just pulls the fact out clearer that no one sees the REAL TRUE pain that i experience every day.

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Mobilemoll thanks for the endorsement. I am glad that you remember your teen years and make an effort to help daughter. I wish there were more mothers like you, being more empathetic to their teenagers. Best wishes to your and your daughter, I am sure with your experience and guidance she will come through it all self-confident and successful. :)

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      Mobilemoll 6 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Wow does this bring back memories from my teen years...great hub! The body image issues is what I identified with the most being an obese teen. I talk to my almost teen daughter reg about such issues and having her identity. It's bittersweet watching my kid navigate the waters I had to.

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      sofs 6 years ago

      LOl Miriam, Fantasy world.. but that is the birthright of the teenager.. don't ya think..Jokes aside . Yes, have your feet planted on terra firma would be great advice to the teens.. but that would be a wide generalization. Teenagers do have their imagination and dreams running away with them.. that is their defense mechanism to escape from reality. A little help can go a long way :) Thanks for stopping by to comment :)

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      mariam 6 years ago

      teenagers should open their eyes they are still in the fantacy world

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Slaffery, I am glad you found this hub in time. I need to look back here at times to get myself into perspective as a mother of a teenager. It is worth it to look at things from the perspective of the teenager. Thank you for the bookmark and the comment. I appreciate that :) God Bless!

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Lailak I am glad that you found this hub useful. There are many self-help hubs *written by me) on subjects that may be useful to you, linked to this article. Do feel free to take a look at them. Thank you for taking your time to post this comment.

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      slaffery 6 years ago from Kansas, USA

      I am right there in the trenches with my 15 year old and I was just today complaining about how mouthy he is. I am so glad to have found this hub and I appreciate you writting it. You put it all into perspective for me and I will bookmark this and refer back to it. Thank you so much :)

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      LailaK 6 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia

      I am a teenager myself and I find what you said in this hub absolutely true!!! Thank you for writing such a beneficial hub!

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      sofs 6 years ago

      I can understand what you are speaking about. The mind body disconnect, the cultural disconnect, it is a traumatic experience especially if you are a first generation non native of North America. But it can be worked through, speak to your parents, get them to understand your point of view while you try to understand where they come from. I believe you can have the best of both worlds, if you strike the right compromise. I have Asian friends who have well adjusted teenagers both in Europe and in the US of A . It all comes down working things out. Remember nothing is impossible or too difficult.

      You are free to get in touch with me if you want to speak about this further. There is a contact me feature under my profile pic.. it will be a private conversation if you so wish! My best wishes to you.

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      Anonymous 6 years ago

      Having Asian parents but living in North America is one of the toughest things you could ever face. Asian on the outside, Western on the inside. But still expected to meet those Asian standards your parents put up for you, and not being accepted into society because of your looks.

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      sofs 6 years ago

      Thanks for the comment. Much appreciated :)

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      fashion 6 years ago

      Great and informative hub.Great work for teenagers.