The Importance of Cherishing Your Warm, Childhood Memories and How to Create Them for Your Child
Childhood memories are either the fondest ones or the ones that you dread most of all to remember. They carve your soul; they mould your being; their force has an impact greater than other memories. The force of these memories also suggest that the roles of parents and teachers are ever so vital in the life of a small child; adults should see it as their responsibility to find outlets to create great memories for their children.
My childhood memories and how they shaped me
Every one of us has experiences that set us for life. They create our being and purpose, making us who we are as adults. What you remember most, you remember as a child and will do so forever. Some of my own childhood experiences have etched likes.dislikes and fears in our minds that will last an eternity.
Why I turned out to be a dog lover today
Like many others, I grew up to become a dog lover very much because I was surrounded by dogs all my life. Every little dog has taught me so much about living, being patient, honest and above all, loyal. My best childhood memories revolve around dogs.
My very first dog, a reward for behaving well from my father, was a Daschund named Oink Oink (I know, I know, the name is a little quirky, blame it on her previous owners!) instilled in me a love for animals that is going to be very difficult to change. I simply cannot do without the presence of a dog in the home. Tragically, it is because of the way this frisky little daschund died that this passion for animals was nurtured.
I was six years old, following my mother out of the gate for our nightly walk after dinner, Oink, who loved to follow us on a run, sneaked out of the gate and sprinted after us. It was the last sprint of her life. A driver drove by just then and hit her, leaving her body on the ground, with a decapitated neck.
From that moment on, I promised myself that in my heart would always be a huge space for a little dog and that animals deserved only the best treatment.
How I grew to love reading - becoming a teacher and writer!
Some of my best childhood memories revolve around reading. My mother, a teacher, was the teacher in charge of her school’s library. She used to stack piles of Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew paperbacks in the back of her car and I would devour them voraciously. Of course, I often ended up helping mum to catalogue the books as well.
It is no mystery why it is said that parents should always encourage reading. Had it not been for those books, I would not have loved literature and become a language teacher and now, writer.
How childhood memories shaped my love for music
My dad, a guitarist in his own band, often had, and still has, music gigs in pubs and cruise liners. I used to follow him and the other band boys in a van and tamper with the amplifiers and consoles. The best memories I had were of joining dad onstage for a number or two, either vocally or on the piano.
I grew to love the keyboard and piano, and have been playing them for about 25 years. I gave it up for a short time when I met a nightmare of a music teacher who rapped my knuckles hard for playing the wrong note. Fortunately, I never abandoned this passion and have played for and organized many concerts.
Why child hood memories are the most outstanding
They shape our lives
Childhood memories shape our lives and make us who we are, being the ones that will stay etched in our minds for all time. Had I not had the tragic experience with my dog, I might not have become the passionate dog lover that I am; if I had not been thrown into the deep end of the pool by my father, I would probably have not have become a swimmer. It could have very well gone the other way; I could have developed a phobia of water and not be swimming at all today.
They determine character
What you learn as a child stays with you. My grandmother has always told me to be resilient and that being tough when facing adverse circumstances gains you respect. I still hold that true today, and try to meet whatever challenge I face with optimism. By no means is that easy or a heroic attempt; I certainly do not want to make it seem that way. It is just saying that whatever you learn in childhood stays with you.
They determine values
Experiences with religion in childhood are the best examples to illustrate that many of the values we learn as a child stick with us for life. Many of us, whichever religion we embrace, stay with that religion till we come into adulthood. For myself, continuing to embrace Christianity is as a result of being brought to church as a child.
I unfortunately had to offer counseling to a sixteen year old who was caught with pornographic videos in his thumb drive. He did not seem to think this was inappropriate - he watched them with his father! What we learn, right or wrong in childhood, is something that remains.Carving the wrong memories for children has terrible ramifications!
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Ways to create memories for your children
These little trips are memories little ones will hold dear more than anything that is taught in school. A trend in Singapore is to have “Staycations” in local hotels with the entire family. Traveling need not be expensive and the activities you engage in as a family will be ones the kids will treasure forever.
It is sad that families spend too much of their time in front of the television during meals instead of dining together as a family. Play games at the table during meals sometimes. This helps the kids see mealtime as fun rather than a big bore. A simple game would be Simon Says, where every one would follow whoever is leading and be out when the words “Simon Says” are not used.
It is good to also make it a rule not to have the television on during meals, as it serves as a distraction.
Take quiet moments to sit together to ask each other about the day
What your child wants most from you is your time, care and concern, not all the toys and goodies. Take the time to ask them about their day at school; it gives them something to look forward to when they get home!
The lack of family time together can result in rather sad consequences. I once counseled a child who said that he wanted to commit suicide because he returned to an empty home every day. In these busy times, forking out a little time, even if it is 10 minutes, to spend with your child is vital. It will be what he remember you most for.
Young children love camps as it is a novel way to spend time aMake way from the daily routine.
My aunt used to take my younger cousins on outdoor camps, complete with tent pitching activities. These days, my cousins can pitch a tent better than anyone and are closer to mum than before!
Baking or cooking
Kids love to cook. Apart from the times I helped my grandmother with baking pineapple tarts, I also hold in my heart the times I spent with my brother ‘cooking’ in the kitchen. Play Doh sets which have mock up stoves and plasticine are great simulation for the real deal, to avoid accidents in the actual kitchen.
Special time for each child
A child wants to be able to have his parents time more than anything else you can give him. Have individual time for him, and ask about his day; walk him through his difficulties. The memories of his childhood will be more pleasant.
Each child can have a corner or a clothesline where he or she can pin photos or objects that are special. Ask them why that is; get them to articulate their thoughts and commit them to memory. These can be compiled into a scrapbook after they have been on the line for some time.
Make a scrapbook of photos that you have taken together as a family. Children can get involved in crafting the book and it can be taken out at times to remind them of the good times they have had before. Such a book can be kept by a child for life.
Get your child to record any family outings, and get together as a family to talk about the recording ( it can be done either in written form or these days, in video form.) Children value videos. Home videos are a great talking point and represent irreplaceable memories.
Start a family newsletter or blog! Compile the recordings and reviews done by your children in a blog or newsletter, and churn it out once a month or two if you are busy. Refer to the previous posts. It gives your kids something to remember!
No one wants their children to grow up saying that they cannot remember a time when mum or dad took them out, or when the family did anything together. The effort that has to be put into creating memories for your children may not be small, but when it creates memories for them and they finally thank you, it is all worth it.
Copyright (C) by Michelle Liew Tsui-Lin