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The Importance of Cherishing Your Warm, Childhood Memories and How to Create Them for Your Child

Updated on December 16, 2016
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Michelle is a professional freelance writer who loves music, poetry, pets, and the arts. She is a techno-geek as well.

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Childhood memories are either the fondest ones or the ones that you dread most of all to remember. They carve your soul; they mould your being; their force has an impact greater than other memories. The force of these memories also suggest that the roles of parents and teachers are ever so vital in the life of a small child; adults should see it as their responsibility to find outlets to create great memories for their children.


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My childhood memories and how they shaped me

Every one of us has experiences that set us for life. They create our being and purpose, making us who we are as adults. What you remember most, you remember as a child and will do so forever. Some of my own childhood experiences have etched likes.dislikes and fears in our minds that will last an eternity.

Why I turned out to be a dog lover today

Like many others, I grew up to become a dog lover very much because I was surrounded by dogs all my life. Every little dog has taught me so much about living, being patient, honest and above all, loyal. My best childhood memories revolve around dogs.

My very first dog, a reward for behaving well from my father, was a Daschund named Oink Oink (I know, I know, the name is a little quirky, blame it on her previous owners!) instilled in me a love for animals that is going to be very difficult to change. I simply cannot do without the presence of a dog in the home. Tragically, it is because of the way this frisky little daschund died that this passion for animals was nurtured.

I was six years old, following my mother out of the gate for our nightly walk after dinner, Oink, who loved to follow us on a run, sneaked out of the gate and sprinted after us. It was the last sprint of her life. A driver drove by just then and hit her, leaving her body on the ground, with a decapitated neck.

From that moment on, I promised myself that in my heart would always be a huge space for a little dog and that animals deserved only the best treatment.

How I grew to love reading - becoming a teacher and writer!

Some of my best childhood memories revolve around reading. My mother, a teacher, was the teacher in charge of her school’s library. She used to stack piles of Hardy Boys and Nancy Drew paperbacks in the back of her car and I would devour them voraciously. Of course, I often ended up helping mum to catalogue the books as well.

It is no mystery why it is said that parents should always encourage reading. Had it not been for those books, I would not have loved literature and become a language teacher and now, writer.

How childhood memories shaped my love for music

My dad, a guitarist in his own band, often had, and still has, music gigs in pubs and cruise liners. I used to follow him and the other band boys in a van and tamper with the amplifiers and consoles. The best memories I had were of joining dad onstage for a number or two, either vocally or on the piano.

I grew to love the keyboard and piano, and have been playing them for about 25 years. I gave it up for a short time when I met a nightmare of a music teacher who rapped my knuckles hard for playing the wrong note. Fortunately, I never abandoned this passion and have played for and organized many concerts.


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Why child hood memories are the most outstanding

They shape our lives

Childhood memories shape our lives and make us who we are, being the ones that will stay etched in our minds for all time. Had I not had the tragic experience with my dog, I might not have become the passionate dog lover that I am; if I had not been thrown into the deep end of the pool by my father, I would probably have not have become a swimmer. It could have very well gone the other way; I could have developed a phobia of water and not be swimming at all today.

They determine character

What you learn as a child stays with you. My grandmother has always told me to be resilient and that being tough when facing adverse circumstances gains you respect. I still hold that true today, and try to meet whatever challenge I face with optimism. By no means is that easy or a heroic attempt; I certainly do not want to make it seem that way. It is just saying that whatever you learn in childhood stays with you.

They determine values

Experiences with religion in childhood are the best examples to illustrate that many of the values we learn as a child stick with us for life. Many of us, whichever religion we embrace, stay with that religion till we come into adulthood. For myself, continuing to embrace Christianity is as a result of being brought to church as a child.

I unfortunately had to offer counseling to a sixteen year old who was caught with pornographic videos in his thumb drive. He did not seem to think this was inappropriate - he watched them with his father! What we learn, right or wrong in childhood, is something that remains.Carving the wrong memories for children has terrible ramifications!

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Ways to create memories for your children

These little trips are memories little ones will hold dear more than anything that is taught in school. A trend in Singapore is to have “Staycations” in local hotels with the entire family. Traveling need not be expensive and the activities you engage in as a family will be ones the kids will treasure forever.

Mealtime traditions

It is sad that families spend too much of their time in front of the television during meals instead of dining together as a family. Play games at the table during meals sometimes. This helps the kids see mealtime as fun rather than a big bore. A simple game would be Simon Says, where every one would follow whoever is leading and be out when the words “Simon Says” are not used.

It is good to also make it a rule not to have the television on during meals, as it serves as a distraction.

Take quiet moments to sit together to ask each other about the day

What your child wants most from you is your time, care and concern, not all the toys and goodies. Take the time to ask them about their day at school; it gives them something to look forward to when they get home!

The lack of family time together can result in rather sad consequences. I once counseled a child who said that he wanted to commit suicide because he returned to an empty home every day. In these busy times, forking out a little time, even if it is 10 minutes, to spend with your child is vital. It will be what he remember you most for.

Family camp

Young children love camps as it is a novel way to spend time aMake way from the daily routine.

My aunt used to take my younger cousins on outdoor camps, complete with tent pitching activities. These days, my cousins can pitch a tent better than anyone and are closer to mum than before!

Baking or cooking

Kids love to cook. Apart from the times I helped my grandmother with baking pineapple tarts, I also hold in my heart the times I spent with my brother ‘cooking’ in the kitchen. Play Doh sets which have mock up stoves and plasticine are great simulation for the real deal, to avoid accidents in the actual kitchen.

Special time for each child


A child wants to be able to have his parents time more than anything else you can give him. Have individual time for him, and ask about his day; walk him through his difficulties. The memories of his childhood will be more pleasant.


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Memory Strings

Each child can have a corner or a clothesline where he or she can pin photos or objects that are special. Ask them why that is; get them to articulate their thoughts and commit them to memory. These can be compiled into a scrapbook after they have been on the line for some time.

Scapbooking

Make a scrapbook of photos that you have taken together as a family. Children can get involved in crafting the book and it can be taken out at times to remind them of the good times they have had before. Such a book can be kept by a child for life.

Review

Get your child to record any family outings, and get together as a family to talk about the recording ( it can be done either in written form or these days, in video form.) Children value videos. Home videos are a great talking point and represent irreplaceable memories.

Newsletter

Start a family newsletter or blog! Compile the recordings and reviews done by your children in a blog or newsletter, and churn it out once a month or two if you are busy. Refer to the previous posts. It gives your kids something to remember!


No one wants their children to grow up saying that they cannot remember a time when mum or dad took them out, or when the family did anything together. The effort that has to be put into creating memories for your children may not be small, but when it creates memories for them and they finally thank you, it is all worth it.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Childhood memories are the ones that will remain for a lifetime. Here are ways you can create beautiful memories for your children.

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      I loved your article on how to create childhood memories. With 2 small kids of my own, we (my husband and I) do try so hard to create only the best of memories for our girls. He just had off for a long extended weekend this past weekend and we took the on many day outings and took a million pics. I want them to not only have a great time while we are there, but to have pictures to look back on. I am a huge believer of taking pictures to have those memories to look back on fondly. Have of course voted up, shared and tweeted too!!

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      ignugent17 4 years ago

      Michelle I remember reading Hardy boys and Nancy Drew also. I enjoyed the comics Archie best. They are just hilarious. Thanks for sharing this hub and enjoyed your childhood memories. Voted up and more!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love the message in this hub; those childhood memories were, and are, so important to me. Great hub Michelle.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      I thought of this when you called for childhood memories as a theme, Bill....they really are the ones that influence us the most. Thanks, my friend, for coming by.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Hey, Ignugent!! I love Archie too!! Especially the way Betty and Veronica fawn over him. LOL! Glad you've enjoyed this and really appreciate you, my friend.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Thank you, Janine!! Wishing you and your family all the happiness, hugs and joys there is!! Blog those pics!! Or get them to do it...they'll love that!! Thanks for coming by, and thanks too, for taking time to give your kids something to cherish, my friend!

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      I am always grateful that I had a good childhood. I was generally happy and had lots of friends. Loving parents was a big part of it. Not everyone is that fortunate. Great hub and voted up.

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      shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

      Great tips michelle. your message is absolutely right, ones childhood is very important in shaping ones future. The better the memories, the better citizen you are. Well done!

      Useful hub ,Voted up!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Hi Carol, thanks for coming by!! We're blessed with great memories, thankfully! That's why it's important to create them. Thanks for the votes!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks Shutri, that's why it's important that we carve great memories for our kids.....what they learn at that time is what will stick with them for life. Thanks for the lovely support, Shutri!!

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      Mary 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Such a great read midget...really well put together and helpful info on how and what shapes us...those childhood influences can be so precious...Voted UUAB& shared.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks, Carter06!! Am so glad you came by and enjoyed this little hub.....most of us don't really notice the impact of childhood memories on our lives and we should make sure that children only get the best ones!! Thanks for the vote and share, I really appreciate that!

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      KDuBarry03 4 years ago

      It is sad to see how many children have horrible memories of their past. It is important to create and share wonderful memories with children so they can live a long and happy life with their roots of joy firmly planted. This is a great read, Michelle, and I hope it enlightens more to create happy memories with children and how childhood influences who we are :)

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Yes, Keith. What we create for them will be the the ones to last for a lifetime and shape us. I hope it's useful for everyone as well! Thanks for the read, my friend.

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      Kelly Umphenour 4 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Way up and awesome...and so true - kids are only little for a short while. I do hope my children have fond memories to reflect on - I think they do. I just remember being a kid who was constantly UP to something - and - I read all those Nancy Drew and Hardy Boy books with a vengeance too! Those are some of the BEST memories - all curled up on the couch and reading mysteries about things hidden in old clocks or some such thing:) I couldn't wait for library day as my books would be well read by then.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Feel the same way, Kelly!! Kids are so little only for a while, and what they remembered then sticks with them. I know for sure that you'll give your kids great things to remember!! Hey, glad to know I've found a fellow Nancy Drew lover. I've just downloaded a video game featuring her mysteries. Those were the days!!

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      Sasha Kim 4 years ago

      Wonderfully written Michelle! I try very hard to do just about everything you mentioned ^_^ My husband and I love to reflect on things that our son does now and think about how it will influence him when he's older. Even the little things; His favorite cartoon involves a guy who wears a green striped shirt and my son gets excited any time he gets to wear one himself... maybe he will still favor green striped shirts when he's 30 and not remember why ^_^ He loves books, cooking, art and gardening because I do these things with him and we hope he carries that with him into adulthood. Parents make a difference in a child's life even more than we think. I'm so happy you wrote this hub! Voted up and shared ^_^

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Kim, blessings on you and your family. I feel so heartened when you say that you and your hubby take time to reflect on how your little boy is growing...keep a time capsule of that green shirt and see if he likes green striped shirts when you become a grandma to HIS little boy!! You can tease him about it then! Yes, parents make a difference to the lives of their children and you certainly are making a wonderful difference to your son's. Thanks for the vote and share too!

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      Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

      What a wonderful Hub. This is another reason I think it is so important to keep a family album; just so the family can look back and remember things in their lives.. It's good to help children remember fond memories. I have lots of happy memories from my childhood.

      I voted this UP, etc. and will share.

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      Angela Kane 4 years ago from Las Vegas, Nevada

      A majority of childhoods are memorable and the best times of a person's life. I have fond memories of my childhood and wish I could turn back time. Voted beautiful and great article.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Mary, memories are certainly important to a child. if he has bad ones, he can be affected for life! I saw your hub about keeping photos and it's true. I am still not too good at it, but keep a collection on my computer! thanks for coming by!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      yes, Angela, childhoods are indeed important! if we don't have fond memories of ours, adulthood becomes a bit harder. thanks for coming by!

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      Luca 4 years ago

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      This would be a wonderful hub anytime, but right now it is not only wonderful but important. With both parents working or split or whatever it is so important to give your children good memories to look back on. As you point out it doesn't have to be big things, I can remember my children's friends coming to the door asking, "Can Mr. Craig come out to play" when we had a snowstorm.

      Memories certainly form who we are and good memories help make us good people!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Awesome article Michelle. Making memories is very important. I have some, I gave my daughters some and now I'm working on giving my granddaughters some memorable memories. When all is said and done memories are all we have left :)

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      I can look back and treasure those times my mother spent teaching me simple tasks such as sewing. They proved to bond our relationship as well as teach me valuable life lessons. Very touching post and useful.

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      Stephanie Henkel 4 years ago from USA

      Childhood memories are so important to the person we eventually become. I treasure my childhood memories with my family and hope that my own children and grandchildren look back at their childhood memories with fondness, also. Lovely hub!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      I think, as you say so rightly, Mary, that all the kids want is to be with us. That's why it doesn't always have to be big things. Just a romp in the snow to make a snowman, or a walk in the park....that will sometimes do! Thanks for sharing, Mary!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Thanks, Dianna! I think we really treasure the little things our parents taught us when we were younger because they make us the people we are today. Thanks for sharing!

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      They do shape who we become! Thanks for sharing, Stephanie.

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Grandma Sunshine will surely give them a lot of sunshine! Thanks for sharing, Linda!

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      Martie Coetser 4 years ago from South Africa

      Good grief! Watching porn with one's father... or mother, for that matter. Well, I am totally stunned. Cannot even contemplate such a scenario :(

      What you learn as a child indeed stays with you.

      I can relate regarding music, reading and Christianity :) Experiencing the painful, unbearable loss of my beloved pets, however, eventually made me decide to rather not fall in love with pets, but to focus on my children and grandchildren.

      Voted up and important for all parents to know. Thanks, midget :)

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      Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

      Martie, memories stay with us, so it is important or make good ones! Thanks for sharing!!

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      Janah 7 months ago

      I have so many childhood memories and experinces , golden times in my life since i was very young all throughout my whole life i could write books about them , so extremly many memories and things i did..... i remember and cherrish all of it , golden years and times , things only i experienced and only i will , and nobody ever will again , times changes and the world cant be turned back to how it was then , its just golden.

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