I've been through a lot of what you are going through right now. You're not alone. I truly wish you lots of love cause you deserve it!
Why Do We Feel so Alone?
Some teenagers feel alone and would like some company once in a while. Most of them would not admit that fully (that they need help) but in the end, everyone does, whether or not it's obvious. Most of the time, they are certain they can manage everything by themselves, but in reality, they can't. It is considered to be one of the most difficult phases of life.
Do you find yourself sitting alone in your room and go on social media in hopes that someone on there cares about you? In the hope that other people appreciate you for who you are? Some of your friends do, and some of them fake it. How can you know?
I guess school makes it difficult at this point. For example, in my school, everyone is snobby and only cares about physical appearances. I am not like that. Many people change their attitudes, their ways, their personality, and themselves in order to be accepted by this little strange society.
Your parents won't understand your problems even if they say they do. What you do instead is spend hours on websites like StumbleUpon, Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, or Skype to find two things: the passion that you lost and the happiness that you need.
Now, I know that happiness cannot be found on the internet, but a little distraction is very useful at times, especially if you feel like crying. So you go on the internet and find that people your age are having the same issues and are dealing with them like you do. It's nice to know that you are not the only one having that particular problem. You can read about their experiences and points-of-view. You meet virtual friends that you wish were real and right beside you. But they aren't. Why can't we have long-term friends in real life? People talk behind our backs, especially the ones we thought were our friends.
I know this is kind of depressing but in a teenage world, most of it works like this. Time changes and people get meaner. They care about how thin you are and how popular you are, not how your personality is. What a sad world.
People Expect You to Be Someone You're Not
Why do I always have to look good for other people? Yet, when I do it for me, people blame me for that. They don't accept me for me. There's this famous quote that says, "We don't let change happen, because when a thing is different, we change it back to normal."
When People Let You Down
This is the most unsatisfying feeling. You really trust someone and are ready to do anything for them, but then they let you down the moment you need them. This happens to me all the time. I wonder why I am such a good friend and let other people ruin my life so easily.
Reasons Why We Feel Alone
- Family problems (most of the pain comes from here)
- No real friends (just people that pretend to be)
- No acceptance in society (as a whole or even in smaller groups like schools; who you are may not be accepted by everyone; yet, we all have rights that are unfortunately not always respected)
- Not satisfied with your life
- No one understands you.
- Not accepted for your choices (music artists/genre, fashion style, personality, etc.)
- Prejudices (some people find it fun to criticize you when they have no clue who you are, and as they do so, other people start to think negative things about you as well, and so the rumors start, and when they do, it's difficult to stop them)
- Being afraid to speak up (sharing of opinions becomes difficult, and you get trapped by your own self)
There are so many more reasons, but these are some of the more common ones.
Some Inspirational Quotes for the Lonely Times
- "And be careful of what you do, 'cause the lie becomes the truth."—Michael Jackson
- "There's nothing wrong with you; there's a lot wrong with the world you live in."—Chris Colfer
- "Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly."—St. Francis De Sales
- "It is better to be hated for who you are than to be loved for something you are not."—Andre Gide
- "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."—Eleanor Roosevelt
- "If you care about what others think, then you will be forever their slave."
- "Don't ever let somebody tell you that you can't do something."—Will Smith
- "Life is not about people who act true to your face. It's about people who remain true behind your back."
- "Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had."—Ziad K. Abdelnour
- The Cure for Loneliness | Teens
This article helps Christian high school and college students navigate adolescence while keeping their faith intact.
- Are You Lonely? | Psych Central
This article discusses what loneliness is and some ways to relieve it.
And Always Remember...
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
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swarnim on June 16, 2020:
nice post man ... keep it up
GrowTrueWisdom (author) from United Kingdom on June 09, 2020:
Thank you Halina for sharing. I am very happy to hear form you. If there is anything else I can support you with please visit the website growtruewisdom.wordpress.com
Halina Louise Wallace on June 02, 2020:
well I am almost a teen and I feel like no one loves me understands me and my sister is supposed to be my best friend and I am supposed to talk to her about everything because she is older but she said she doesn’t care and I cry my self to sleep every night knowing no one under stands it I feel displaced in the world like something out there but I can’t find it like a hole but no matter how hard I try I can’t fix it I just can’t explain it to my parents because they will say it is bullcrap I just wish for once that someone would understand me for once in my life and I want to be free but I am in a cage . Feel lost but my mom doesn’t pay attention to my feelings my dad doesn’t either I wish I could tell them but they will hear but not listen . I just can’t do it anymore thus Saturday I will sit down with them and tell them and I love your site
Amazing Grace on April 09, 2020:
If you’re reading this, I want to start by saying I love you! I know I don’t know who you are but I love you! Please note whatever you’re going through, don’t hesitate to remind yourself that somebody on this Earth loves you. I may not understand what all of u are going through but I care.
The most worthwhile advice I can give u is what has helped me since I’m currently facing loneliness, anxiety, and feeling lost, is SEEK GOD. He’s the ultimate solution, I’m not trying to throw religion at you guys but I’m suggesting you guys give it a try. try praying, I know u probably don't pray. we aren’t taught to pray and truly seek God in this country. find a quiet place, kneel down and start speaking from ur heart to God. Tell him how feel about everything and ask him to help u. Also, don't forget to have FAITH. Have Faith and BELIEVE that he's gonna help u. Do this everyday and you'll start to notice inner changes in your yourself. Like the way u view yourself and other people and this life will change for the better. That's how I've been able to find hope when I feel hopeless.
Also, the most lifelong friendships and worth while relationships happens after high school so don’t be too upset about losing the fake friends in your high school life. I myself never had real friends in high school. I made friends because I’m out of high school lol.
I love u all! and remember God loves you the most. His love is true and never ending!
GrowTrueWisdom (author) from United Kingdom on April 08, 2020:
Hello Mia, the best advice I can give is to be faithful to yourself and not to impress others because it will not make you feel better. Unfortunately, we are drawn to seek attention and approval from our peers but soon you will realize that you are your only asset and must be preserved. Start asking yourself who you want to become and don't let feel like you have to prove anything to anyone. Find hobbies that make you happy and that shape you. If you want more information, you can check out: https://growtruewisdom.wordpress.com
Hope this helps, stay strong!
Ethan on March 21, 2020:
I hate my wife I feel like I'm alone I just want to be loved by people on feel lonely
Kiera on October 26, 2019:
I feel like the people I call my friends,aren't really my friends.No one ever seems to want to hang out with me.This has been happening since I was young.It's still happening.I don't know why they want to be around me.Are they embrassed of me,is it my weight,looks,personality?Why is it they don't want to be around me?I sometimes think is this going to be my future,with no friends?
AndyApril on September 06, 2019:
Everyday pains me so hard ,i just dont know whats still wrong bout me .Am not social to anybody and when ai am i fake it .I really see that i have a bright future ahead of me but i jus get affected by teenage hood .Parents will never know how teenage life feels like and i never swear but i swear they dont know anything bout how teenage life feels like .I Know am more than what i think good bt i hv fake friends ,fake love and i dont even know how if my future wife will even see in me and dont ask teens why they are sometimes rude ,starbone or rude behaviour friendship is a bacteria a killing one if u dont hv true friends I NEED SERIOUS HELP AM BEING SO AFFECTED BY TEENAGE HOOD
hey on September 03, 2019:
i feel like teens ages from 13 to 24 feel lonley alot
DEPRESSED 113 YR OLD on August 12, 2019:
i have had two suicide attempts both failed, i gues this world want me to suffer. like i have been my whole life. i am not accepted with the others i am called ugly and where i live is just one room and i bathroom that my family has to share i am not gonna make it to sixteen with my
G on August 12, 2019:
I feel like even though i have a couple friends, they hate me. I put on a fake smile and try to be positive but whenever someone says something rude i want to cry. someone called me a pig today in cooking and i went to the bathroom and cried. i am only 13 but i feel so alone and useless and untalented, like i want to go back to when i was 6 or 7 and was fine with watching documentarys all day. now when i get home i pray for any kind of social interaction on my phone but none come. I get an average of 20 snapchats every day, but they are mostly streaks. I feel like everyone is so shallow and i just want a real relationship but there are none. i feel so untalented and my life is just a huge waste of time. all i want to do in the morning is just go to sleep rather than go to school because school makes me so anxious that i bite my nails down to the nubs. i only feel validated when looking through my friends social media and seeing their social interactions. my sister gets so many snapchats and she is always really social but im not and nobody talks to me. if it gets worse i don't know how ill handle it.
TalLet on July 29, 2019:
Altough it seems like I can easily make friends and maybe become good friends with Some people but doesn't mean I never feel alone. I actually feel lonely a lot even when I'm around my friends or families. Sometimes I thought I'm special to my friends but in fact I'm not. I always wanna make them feel special and feel loved but sadly i never feel special to them. Whenever I go out I always switch to 'fake life' button on bcuz I cud never feel happiness around both my friends and family
Gods loves you on June 21, 2019:
Don’t feel lonely GOD loves pray he will never live you. Try going to church young programs. When you feel lonely read the Bible. GODs plans for you are big. GOD will full you of love
mia on June 21, 2019:
hi im 13 i have been popular for doing bad stuff but now im trying to be good no one speaks to me im felling so alone dose anyone have suggestions
Yesenia on April 30, 2019:
its so crazy to me how i thought i was alone with what im feeling and what i am going through. shit, I dont even know what i am going through. I feel so empty and lonely and i feel like if i were to tell someone close to me, they would just brush it under the carpet and not care, but its nothing new. multiple friends have done it multiple times. i put on this fake smile everywhere i go. its not that im fake to people , its just that i want to show people that im living the best life. even though its the complete opposite. im extremely grateful for the things i have and the things i dont have but i cant accept the fact that my family is having money problems. i can go on and on but im not. if you are reading this, its alright, do things for your benefit, and whatever you are going through is just another bump in the road. you can do it!
jonnycomelately on March 25, 2019:
Please, someone, respond to this person's call for help.
I know the author of this forum will not allow me as an older man to respond directly, for whatever reason.
But that call is desparate. His or her parents need someone to step in and help that young person climb out of the rut of dispare.
Detete this post, of course you will....but there are many like me who care.
Random person on March 17, 2019:
As a student I might look fine but over the years I started to feel really annoyed and kinda empty I start thinking about how I'm starting to fail my grades and how I don't have that many friends,or how and what im going to do in the future. I tried acting normal to my parents and pretending that I got everything in control but my thoughts just keep getting worst to a point where I just stopped thinking about things properly.. I just felt like giving up .I relised that it is something I should stop doing and try to fix but for some reason I just can't get myself to tell it to anyone, in fact I don't even feel like there is anyone that would even listen and understand . I even started to write down things that bothered me hoping someone would decide to read it and would try and help me but everytime I write down something I just remove it so no body can see it and Thinking about this makes me feel very lonely and makes me feel like no one can understand me ,even though I know there are others like me. Although there are many of thing that still affects me that I didn't write down. It put my mind at ease even if it's a little bit knowing that there's a chance someone would decide to read this stubid and random none sense I wrote (=^.^=)
Jen. on March 02, 2019:
Although i know this might seem weird but i worry alot a lot about myself. I worry to much about my future. Im worried that i wont be able to pay college and everything. I sometimes wish time didnt fly so fast. I dont like it that its going so fast and im already 15. This might not be a problem but i literally just finished crying over how im going to ajust in the future haha. I know ots kinda dumb but i cant help but to worry to much about myslef which makes me think at times that im just being selfish and i should just be grateful at times. I know my family and i are poor so i try to make myself happy but just being with my friends. But by being with my friends , i cant help but to worry about my other friends i had during my life. It sounds stupid doesnt it? Im a 10th grader and i still worry about my fouth grade friends... Maybe its because ive miss them too much and i perfer how ot was back then than now. I feel like my friends from now just use me at times... But my friends from 4th grade didnt. I cant remeber how to spell their names but they were Ileen, chrisopher. Axel, and micheal. We would always be having fun together. Kinda funny of me of thinking about those friends when i havent seen them for over 4 to 5 years.. But here i am worried. I feel like i just worry to much about alot thats totally hopeless... Oh well i guess life isnt always about happily ever after n stuff but there could be. anyways thank you for hearing me out. GOD BLESS YOU ALL AND KNOW THAT JESUS LOVES YOU ALL THAT HE SACRIFICED HIS LIFE FOR YOU!!!! PLZ BE HAPPY FOR ME and EVERYONE THANM YOUU!!!
Light or Night on February 25, 2019:
So, my best friend calls me fat...but I'm not and it hurts. I act as I love her like a sister but I don't. At night I feel all alone. SOMETIMES SHE PUNCHES ME FOR THE FUN OF IT! I hate her but when I don't want t to be her friend she pretends I hurt her even tho WHEN I GET HURT, BAD, SHE JUST STANDS THERE LAUGHING AT ME! I don't have depression but I just feel so alone like there is now one in the world except me...writing this makes me want to cry... tell me what to do.
Anthony on February 20, 2019:
im 20 too and im lonely and I have no friends and take college classes online. Everyone I ever talked to only was pretending to be my friend in high school. my life completely sucks I have contemplated suicide before. I just want friends and a girlfriend. I'm so depressed.
Logan on January 02, 2019:
I don’t know where to start, i geuss i don’t feel appreciated, no one respects my opinion or my ideas, and no one want to talk or hang out with me unless they want to use something i have or they want me to do things for them. i’ve become so lonely that i have began to talk to myself hoping that something or someone will talk back, but nothing ever happens. I am a very self conscious person and i am constantly worried about what people think about me. I am very confused about my sexuality, and i am unable to talk or receive help from others because they just don’t care. I constantly write in a diary that i have on my phone hoping that someone would read it and réalisé the things i go through sometimes. I geuss i just need some life advice, idk...... this, typing this all out feels good though......makes me feel a little good. I hope this helps
jonnycomelately on December 24, 2018:
Has anyone acknowleged Clare?
Clare, I hear you and feel your pain.
I have no simple, easy solution for you but .... please, please talk with someone. It does not matter what others think of you, but what you think and feel about your self is vitally important.
You have your rightful place in this world.
Keep going regardless. You will succeed.
Claire on December 15, 2018:
Nothing ever feels like enough to me...I always feel like no one understands me..Whenever i try to talk to people i never know what to say or do, i have no idea how to strart a conversation ..i have friends not very many tho and im not even close to them... and i look at all these people on snapchat and on their stories they put things like send me an x if u care about me and like 30 people send them an x...I want to have their life and have a 60,000 snap score like they do...but i dont have that, I barely text anyone not like im even fun to text..im probably boring to talk to...everytime i talk i feel like i said somethimg wrong or made a mistake in my words..I feel alone and even tho i tell myself there are people doing worse than me..I still feel alone..im a shy and quiet person with no words to say but so many bouncing in my head..I have a boyfriend but i always feel like he likes someone else and doesnt care about me...im so inside my head im destroying myself..i cant make it stop the demons are too out of control..But i dont give up.nothing is ever enough i feel so selfish wanting more than what i have.... I want the perfect friends...the perfect life...i know its impossible but i want it so much..I dont know who i am...I dont know what i want...Ive cut myself in 7th grade.. I feel so useless like if i die now no one would miss me..my parents might..Idek
Astha on December 08, 2018:
i m alone in my skool i can not share my feeling to no one thats why when everyone sleeps at home i cry a lot no one speaks to me in my skool sometime i feel to end my life
Emma on October 27, 2018:
It doesn't help I'm sorry, I hate myself and others hate me too.
Ppl always tell me to die or commit suicide.
I'm trying so hard so help lower my very bad depression.
RedHead on October 07, 2018:
I came across this website because my daughter has a hard time at school and we just move country. I sympathise to those who feel so alone as I can see my daughter’s struggle. She is 13 years old and she feels so lonely as she misses her friends. If I may share my experience with you who feel lonely. I hope this helps.
I grew up in a strict household and my parents were busy working. I used to think that they did not care about me and I felt so lonely around 14-16 years old. I had hardly any friend as I could be aggressive towards them when I was mad. However, I turned to sports and church and got better in socialising. My grades were not great but I kept on going as my parents were very strict. There were a lot of school friends who insulted me because my parents were not rich and I was not beautiful nor smart. I took that insults as a push that I will prove these bullies wrong. Of course, I had some low points where I wanted to run away or killed myself but I did not do that as that just means I let these bullies win. I worked very hard and received scholarships, got good degrees, good career and lovely family. Now, my relationships with my parents are much better.
I move countries due to work and I understand the loneliness in making new life when you know nobody. You can even feel the throbbing pain when you feel so lonely. It is even harder when you move to the countey with different culture from yours. I am not the best teacher either for this but I try hard making new friends by joining sports club/libray/church/park run or other places where people meet. I also open my mind by accepting friends from different cultures. At first, it can be tough but after a while learning different cultures opens up different views. I worry anout being rejected too but I use a mind game.... If I can make a someone smiles back at me on a hard day, then I will pat myself in the back. Teenage time is a difficult phase. You are not the only one. Please remember that. Don’t give up. You don’t know what you will become.
Max on October 01, 2018:
I think I need help, I'm drowning in myself, it's sinking in, I can't pretend that I haven't been through hell, I THINK I NEED HELP!
Max on October 01, 2018:
"I walk alone, on the blovard of broken dreams, when the city sleeps, and I'm the only one I walk alone." Hello, and I welcome you, and everyone else to my journey of loneliness and isolation and pain. My name is: Miranda, but I like to go as Max. Ever since I was literally in middle school, the pang and sting of loneliness stared, and has hurt (emotionally) forever. I'm seriously asking for help.
Sihle on September 26, 2018:
Add Your Comment wellington am also very lonely it'd be nice to talk with people who understand what I'm going through so guys please drop your numbers we need each other.
andy on September 20, 2018:
I have been reading the comments down here and I wish I could do something, just anything to make you guys feel better. I too drift in and out of this phase but turns out I have high functioning anxiety and Im awfully good at hiding it from people around so most of it is just in my head.
If you are reading this, remember YOU DON'T HAVE TO IDENTIFY YOURSELF WITH YOUR PARENTS OR PEERS OR GRADES OR OPINIONS OF ANY FUCKING PERSON . your life is nobody's but yours. if you go down you go alone. make it your fucking duty to have the life you wish to have. Not by craving for acceptance but by accepting yourself and finding that passion buried deep inside. One day it will be worth it this pain, these struggles, the humiliation.
shreya on September 19, 2018:
life really sucks i dont have real friends and the one who are..they can't be with me every time i cant share my opinions to my parents....coz they call it so called arguing i am so af tired of my life i just had 2 mental breakdown a day but it was so awful that noone was with me....i really feel devastated and dying. ..but still holing for a ray as i am only 16 and wanna become the. one in future. i really feel like being left behind in the world and so af left out i really dont no what to do.....
Rubab on September 17, 2018:
I am 18 year old, my father died when i am 11 , my mother got married with fathers brother, after then I have step three brothers , I remember when I was child my mother used to say me that I hate my brothers but it isn't like that , she used to say me that I hate her and my step brothers , I just cry in my prayers and ask help , if I came to my freind s they are also not so good with me , the freinds a friend should be , . I don't know why people used to say me u are just living a dreamy life , no one knows the depth of my thoughts , . Sometimes I camt hear people what are they saying it takes me time to understand everything , people think that I am fool a big one fool, I am scared of sharing my problem s with my mother , because she thinks that I don't care of my mother , I care for her but she says that I am just pretending , . I don't know what should I do everyone surround me just tease me , . My days are not good my nights are not comfortable , mother marry that person just only for me to provide me the shelter of my family and she used to say me on and off I don't know what the hell should I do that mother should take my self into considerate , she take care of my brothers but she don't even say when I have some pain in my feet or others , . Can someone told me and help me to come out these situation s and loneliness and get myself active towards life pls
Anonymous2018 on September 01, 2018:
If you're feeling alone, don't be afraid to talk to your parents or school counselor. You could try joining a new activity to meet people with similar interests and possibly join a social skills group if social situations are tough. Don't let anyone make you feel less than.
M on August 30, 2018:
I am so tired ? Like so freaking tired? I am like the family's perfect child because I am the eldest ,everything is expected to be perfect coming from me ..but I am not perfect ...and I can't do perfect stuff ...and if that's not enough ...
You know when you are friends with all ,but no one is friends with you ? That's it ... I don't really count my family as real ones ...I mean ffs ...go around and hear all of their problems ...sooth them ...help them ... And ,then if you ever dare to suffer from something that they once complained about , they stop you ...it's like I can't complian ..I don't have the right to complain ...I don't have the right to ask for advices ...I don't have the right of discussing or getting into a discussion with someone older than me if my parents are present ..and hell , I don't have anyone to talk to ,and the thing is I am not even living in my home country and I AM SURROUNDED BY RASCIST PEOPLE THAT KEEPS HURTING MY VERBALLY ,and of course I'd stand for myself ...because ..I mean...who else do i really have next to myself ?
You see ,when I go back to my home country...I am still all alone ..I wasn't even born there ,and if that's not bad enough..everyone there stands by their children ..and I am the only one ..THE ONLY FUCKING ONE WHO IS ALWAYS FOUND GUILTY FFS ,I AM NOT ...FFS ..PLEASE PLEASE FOR ONCE ..I just want to feel ...love ? Protected ? Safe ? I want to feel like I want to go back to my mother or father ...but it's neither ..it's like I only wanna go back home ,sleep and never get up again .
God ,I am so tired ...and after everything ..I won't give up ...and Imma still continue standing up to myself ...
Also ,school is starting up in 2 days ...and I am beginning highschool ..in a rasict world ..feeling anxious af ...hell ...I was trying to explain my situation to my mother....so that I could calm down ..so that I could feel good ...instead ..I had to go through lots of yelling ..by mother...and my dad made fun of me ..and then they started telling my extended family how I am feeling...WHEN I DON'T EVEN KNOW SHIT ABOUT ANY OF THEM ..WHEN THEY ALL CAN'T STOP JUDGING ME ...WHEN EVEN NEXT TO THEM I AM THE LONELY ONE ...It's like I don't have a place anywhere ...It's like i don't belong anywhere ....
And ,if that's not enough ...my parents treat everyone so differently ? I mean i once had a panic attack infront of them ..and all I've got was those ungrateful ..so not proud stares from my mother and then she snorted and walked away ..and when i told her YOUR DAUGHTER JUST HAD A PANIC ATTACK RIGHT THERE ..she just started liking about me being an attention whore ? DUDE WTAF !? And then ,I had my cousin saying that she had a headache ...AND OH MY GOD ,THEY WERE ABOUT TO CALL THE AMBULANCE ? AND MY MOTHER WAS SO FEARFUL FOR HER ? MY OWN FUCKING MOTHER ?
...And whenever I talk to my father ,he either ignores me ..looks at me witha disgusted look...I just wish he would laugh at me ..the way he laughs at others...
I am so tired...and it fucking hurts ..and the thing is i try...and try ..and try ...and i just can't seem to know what i am doing wrong ? They want good grades ? I am always on the top of the list . They want me to be polite infront of people ? Not to open my mouth ? Not to laugh because my laugh is annoying and it doesn't sound good ? I changed my laugh ... They want me to eat with a fork and a knife ? I am . They want me to not cause them trouble? i don't . They want me to be happy because from their own kind of view they're doing what they can ? Look at me smiling so brightly for them . They want me to stop complaining ? Here I am .They want me to lie about my scars wether the one I used to do to myself or the ones they did ? I did . They want me not to say my opinion ? I can't even say anything anymore...this in the first time for me in YEARS ,to get all of these stuff out .
I am so tired ,and I just want my parents to love me like they love ...others ? I have 2 other siblings ...and I am the one that shows them love ...when I don't have any ...because ...I just can't let tgem feel what i am feeling .
Literally just had a fight with my mother because my cousin is a moody bitch ,and she wants to talk to me whenever she wants and not whenever she wants ...and it's like...I am not always available for you ? I have problems too ..I get tired too ..I am a human ...so i heard a mouthful ..about how I should listen to my mother and call her ,listen to her ..about how they don't need trouble ... And ,when I was about to call her my mother was like but you call hee when I say so. And now ,go to sleep .
It hurts ,everytging hurts ,the way they look at others ,encourage them feel proud of them and then look at me as if I was some kind of disgrace ..I hate how i am always the third wheel ...I hate how I mean nothing ..how I am so worthless ,how I can't succeed in shit ,I hat myself ,I hate my life ,I hate everything ..and nobody seems to understand ...and nobody is welling to listen ..I am such a worthless pain in the ass that doesn't belong to shit .
I am so tired .
I am so hurt .
And so broken.
I don't even know who I am anymore.
Liliana on August 29, 2018:
My life sucks. No wants to talk to me. When I try to hang out with them they think of me as like a follower or a fake. So I talk to no one except for 3 people who actually like me as a friend but they aren’t in my class. Some of them doesn’t even know that I’m in that class. Which is just sad.
fuck society on August 29, 2018:
sometimes i feel so lonley i just feel completly empty i feel so numb i cant move i just lay in my dark room listening to music that helps me fro m overthinking and just listen to beautiful sounds music has to offer. i have super strict parents which have imigrated fro mexico so they dont know any english and i know spanish but not very fluent so its hard explaining my problems and how i feel as they dont understand me and think im saying the total oppesite of what im actulally saying. i love my parents but sometimes home never feels like home i just feel trapped and my only escape is listening to music and imagning senerios that never would happen. at middle school i was so happy with my friends i would laugh every single day it was the highlights of my days. i then started highschool and thought itll be the same , it wasnt. my friends started going to the wrong path. my friends went to just people i talk at school.during summer i would just disconnect myself from everyone and just try to improve myself but that never happend i still feel the same. i feel likei have absolute no one to talk too so i never really say whats on my mind. i feel this throbing pain in my chest that just makes me want to explode at any momment at the same time i feel so empty and weak it stresses me so much the way i feel. with time i became so insecure and just not happy with anything life has given me in life eight now. im just waiting for that something or somwone thats everything ive been waiting for something i count on something that no matter how low my life feels ill always have that to count on. im on my pursit of happiness by on my way there it feels life stroms always get me and crashes stop me from getting their and its definetly a bumby ride but hopefully its wroth it.
jonnycomelately on August 28, 2018:
r1u2q3a5, You are not alone, even though you feel desparately lonely.
I am not judging you, just feeling with you.
Please my dear, do look for some counselling. You deserve to enjoy your life. Help to get you out of that rut IS available to you. Have courage and reach out.
Temi on August 27, 2018:
I feel confused I am in my last year but feel so lonley and confused I dry for no reason why?
haiguys on August 22, 2018:
I feel almost the same way
So when i started my school at the start of the year i had a few friends from lower school. I then started hanging out with other people, and after a few weeks i realized i was hanging out with them, they weren't hanging out with me. They didn't pay much attention to me, and they just kept hanging out after school, no-one bothered with me. A few days ago I decided to end it. We didn't argue, i just went my separate way. My old friends have become popular and now nobody hangs out with me. I usually just walk around the school. People now tease me. They pull faces at me, tell me i should go die. I decide to go to a secret place in the courtyard. Most lunches i stare at the wall sometimes i cry. It's hard to make friends. Nobody talks to me, I talk to nobody. My parents don't know about this and i'm to scared to tell them. I'm not good at talking about my feelings. It's hard for me to even post this.
What should i do? :(
Darkness and dispar on August 20, 2018:
My life is a black hole I keep falling and falling till I land in this bottomless pit of dispar wile I'm falling I wonder am I liked as a friend or something lower am I accepted or am I not so therefor I have since closed my eyes to the dark and accept the pain and suffering why am I still here just suffering I wonder I guss I shall never know.
Darkness and sadness on August 20, 2018:
I'm always alone no one ever understands me I'm just depressed that I have fake frinds
r1u2q3a5 on August 20, 2018:
I just am so lonely at this moment, i have no friends because of my introvert nature accept one, who is also drifting apart from me. I feel like as well as dream of a friend or maybe a boyfriend, who will come into my life and will change the person who i am. But i know deep in me that it is never going to happen. I sometimes feel deep inside that why has god made me like this. I sometimes really feel that i wont acheive success in my life cause there are so many ppl out there struggling and more deserving than me. I do really feel sometimes that ppl dont like me. I feel so lonely. And in addition, wen i really am surfing through the social media accounts of ppl of my age, i feel so inferior and jelous as well as if someone gets appreciation,that makes me so jelous, and sometimes i feel like killing myself with a compass or a blade. I really cant tolerate being lonely neither can i tolerate my head aches. Because of this reason, i hv left hope. I was so creative, but now all my creativity has finished, and though i feel like doing smthing creative i am always taken aback by feling that i would not be able to do this. I am just wasting my time dreaming about the person who ll cm and change my life. Thogh deep inside i know it is never going to happen. l even sleep a lot. I just dont know wat am i doing wid my life!
Dillion on August 14, 2018:
I think this site has piece's of how I feel at times but how can you become more accustomed to not being alone?
GraceBaloves on August 09, 2018:
I felt it that way. When ever they ask me, what am I feelin'? I'll just give them a poker face or answer them with `I don't know". I know that God is so good in me but as a human/person I need some attention, like; to be loved or care about. I am empty.
Aisha on August 05, 2018:
I am so thankful to God for everything that I have... Yet at times I feel so low.... I feel that it is the phase, the age we are going through is what is making us so... With this hope that things will become better I'm living...
Soph on August 04, 2018:
I feel so lonely to the point I cry myself to sleep. I just want a friend that is willing to spend time with me out of school and hang out. I don't have fun that often and is generally alone or I push myself away from others. When my family and I go to the mall, I feel sad because I am jealous of others having fun with friends whilst I have no friends to hang out with. My family is busy so I don't bother them and I recently started thinking that people around me see me as a bother. My closest friend and I aren't interested in the same things and she doesn't show any interest in hanging out. What should I do?
Brayden on August 01, 2018:
I'm lonly and I fell like I need a girl but I'm to scared to ask any one on a date
mopa4841 on July 28, 2018:
It sounds horrible but it's the truth... It depends on what they look like and how much they weight.
So sad right?
Erin cantillon on July 25, 2018:
Feel lonely Depressed and stupid for not fitting in but at least i know I'm not the only one going through all of this
Erin cantillon on July 25, 2018:
I don't fit in anywhere at school,online,outside,in my own home I have been struggling to make friends ever since I was 3 or mabey even younger cause I have social issues and a bit of depression like I don't ever fit in with the cool girls at school cause I'm different and I don't mean to be like I just want to be a normal girl in year 8 with friends but I have a serious probablem when ever I do make friends I can't keep them for longer than a week cause I would like be different or wear clothes that others didn't like and thought that were trampy or lame and in school people would pick on me cause I have a lack of learning probablem I'm in year 8 but my writing and learning are back in year 3 and I have social probablems and depression and anxiety so I'm basically lonely all the time now cause my mum took me out of school but that was different that was because a girl tried grooming me and I fell for it and stuth happened that I could've died got raped and stuth just because I thought a girl pretended to be my friend and like me for who I am
shikha on July 23, 2018:
i dnt knw why but i feel so alone though i hv my family me . If i want to talk to sm1 and that persn is nt there than it make me more frustrate and use to feel alone. Any help
BLACKIE on July 21, 2018:
Finally I found website that understand me
Rose on July 19, 2018:
I have been feeling sad for three months I cry at random times feel restless get thoughts about sucide. And the worst of all I feel very lonely as I left my old school and now live with my grandparents , please tell me what should I do it is getting worse day by ay and I m scared that I might sucide
jonnycomelately on July 18, 2018:
@No name, from 10 days ago, I feel sad for you, that no one else relied to yet. My life has been a lonely one, too. I know that admission doesn't make your situation any better. It's just to show you I do understand, at least a little bit.
One consolation you may like to think about. As hard as it is for you at present, you have a unique life ahead of you. Learning to survive, to follow your instincts, something the others might not learn, will set you up to succeed where they might fail.
So, keep at it, be assured you have and will learn just the appropriate techniques to get you well ahead with good company as well.
In help? on July 15, 2018:
I do everything wrong i try to make griends online no hope i did a few times manage to have online friends but one time i got cought i said something wrong it notveven a big deal but my mom freaked over me saying oh my freaking gosh i just dont get it i only have one true friend but dont pity me i just hate it and the true feelings...
Karen on July 10, 2018:
I love your website.. My name is Karen and I’m 16 years old. My dad passed away when I was 14 years old and then we had to moved to a different country, I lost all my friends so now I have no one. Even though I went to school here I’ve been transferring many times and because of that I still have no friends. I can be friends with some but I think that their just pretending to be my friend I know that they don’t like me, no one understands me in my school they always say your so quiet or they say that I didn’t know you were here. I’m a shy person and I talk a lot but english is my second language so I have a hard time. No one likes me here and I want to leave so bad, ever since we moved here nothing good happened to me I just hate everything I’m so tired. I’ve never talked about it to my mom because I know she won’t understand. I think about the past where I was happy and my friends were there plus my dad, now everything’s gone. I want to end everything, I wish that I can talk to someone who can understand and I wish someone would be there for me. I feel really alone, everyone seems so full of life and happy except for me, why can’t I be like them it’s so hard.
No name on July 07, 2018:
Um I’ve never done this before so I don’t really know what to say but here it goes. I’m a 17 year old girl and sometimes when I’m in my room at night I get to thinking about my life and I just start crying because I feel so alone. I have no siblings and I can’t talk to my parents cause I don’t want them to think I’m depressed (and it’s just wired for me). I have friends but I never get to do stuff with them. Like they are all out having fun going to highschool parties doing teenage things and I’m at home by myself. I just feel that none of my friends care about me enough to envite me to things. I’m a big movie person so I spend a lot of my time on Netflix like any normal teen but anytime there are devoted friends in the movie I just get sad. I understand that these are fiction but I just want someone -not related to me- to care about me. Same with romance stuff. All my friends are getting boyfriends with people that go above and beyond and here I am alone. I’ve only had one real relationship in highschool and the whole time it was just like we were buddies. Then he goes and date one of my friends and is making out with her taking her on dates. I’m not jealous that he’s with her I’m just jealous that I didn’t have that relationship. You know, someone that gives you flowers for no reason or just kisses you. (Btw, Out of the 6 months we dated not once did he try to kiss me). Now I sound like some desperate teenage girl. Normally this wouldn’t bother me but senior year is coming up and I’m scared that I’m going to go alone to prom. I also have a lot of anxiety with my future in education. I feel that I’m not good enough to go to college or that I won’t succeed in life cause my test scores aren’t where I want them to be. I have so much pressure coming from my parents to make good grades and to go to a good college and I’m scared to disappoint them and myself. I feel hopeless. I used to have these thoughts ever so often but this year it’s been happening at least once a month. I recently lost my grandmother and my great grandmother and my other grandma is literally on her death bed. my parents have been divorced since I was a kid and my mother just recently started dating and thats all she can talk about. I feel that I’m just losing everyone and I don’t know how to change it. I just need some good advice or at least something to make me feel better.
rajqvr on July 07, 2018:
Quite surprising reading this article, actually I feel that this all happened with everyone in their teenage life. But with the support of family or parents, all teenagers can avoid this kind of situations in their life.
Person 1 on June 19, 2018:
I'm a fourteen year old girl and I have pretty good friends but I still feel lonely because they have very different personalities to me and I feel like the don't know or understand me at all. I've also never had a boyfriend because I've been teased and hurt by guys before so now I try and keep my distance but I'm worried I'm going to be lonely forever and I'm never going to find someone like me. I've tried talking to my mum about how I feel but she doesn't understand what I'm trying to say. She can't even tell when I'm sad, though it's not because she doesn't care. I mean, I love her but she does not get me at all. No one does. I suppose another part of why I'm so lonely is that I struggle to open up to people. I find it way easier to be alone because then I can't hurt anyone or muck anything up. Also when I get close to people I get hurt or betrayed. I learned that if I keep my head down and hide in the corners nothing bad happens, although nothing good happens either. Besides, nothing good ever lasts. I just wish I knew someone who understood what it's like to stand in the middle of a crowd and feel so immensely lonely. I have a hollow pit in my chest and I want to find someone I can talk to to fill it but I feel like there is no such person and even if they did come along I wouldn't know how to talk to them. It's all very complicated and sometimes everything becomes too much and I feel like it would be so much easier to end it all. I feel like I'm surviving and I want to live but I don't know how. I feel better knowing that other people feel this way. I just wish we were all able to actually talk to each other because I feel like that would help so much but everyone is always on snapchat and I'm not going to reveal my deep dark feelings through a photo that last 10 seconds. I don't think I will ever commit suicide. I think if I keep trying eventually something good will happen right. All this suffering can't be for nothing. That probably sounds super naive but I really do hope it's true.
Ashu on June 03, 2018:
I am glad to know about your website I'm Ashu a 15 year old boy I feel lonely bcoz my father died when I was 11 year and another reason is that im in a boarding school since 2005 and no one understand my feeling even when I tried to hang out with my friends my mom just scold me and after reading your article I feel there is who care for my feeling thank you so much that you wrote this article .
Mahalakshmi on May 26, 2018:
i"m actually not been considered as i even exist. I don't have a lot of real friends.literally only one. My mom neglects me all the time and pays attetion only to the others kids in our street.I feel left out..I just wanna die.
Real on May 22, 2018:
Am 18 and I've been feeling depressed for at least 10 years now, my parents are trying to shape me onto something am not, and every time I try to please them it always comes back to hunt me and I feel so sad and unhappy all the time, I sit in my toilet for hours just crying and how badly I want to die and get it over with. I don't know the solution because I've tried to cage my emotions cause I don't like social media and I don't really have any true friend i can talk to about my emotions. Please help me, a reply can save my life
GrowTrueWisdom (author) from United Kingdom on May 14, 2018:
Hello Mace, I am sorry you are feeling this way and hopefully this article was useful for you. I can assure that these are the very little things in life that will soon change. School is a tough place but it helps you get stronger. Be patient with your parents... I know how you feel but try doing something else (hobby) to get distracted. Distracting yourself is a good start, maybe a sport that also allows you to meet new people. I wish you all the very best and remember that nothing is set in stone and you can move to Florida when deciding which University to go to. If you wanna talk about anything remember that there are people here for you. Feel free to message me if you wanna share anything else :) Wish you all the best.
Mace on May 07, 2018:
My parents limit everything, I lose friends for not wearing Jordans and doing something other than smoking weed. According to society my leather jacket makes me a school shooter even though its the only thing i have to hide my scars from cutting. My parents dont understand me. My only true friend is moving to Florida in less than a week which is 1500 miles away. I cant own anything cool like BB guns or a pocket knife. Life sucks and i want to die
jonnycomelately on April 23, 2018:
And Secret, there is nothing right about what he has been doing to you. There is nothing right about any forced sexual activity on anyone at any time. The only time any sex is ok is when both persons are totally in agreement, total understanding and totally unselfish: considering the other persons needs as well as their own. At least, this how I see it after all these years.
So, Secret, you are not to blame, not at fault. Whatever you decide to do from now on, rest assured you deserve good friendships. And on the road to discovering those friendships, although there will be mistakes, you will have successes and these will bring you joy back into your life. So, stand tall, look at your self in the mirror, look your self in your eyes, SMILE with love in your heart. Be friends with your self. and say: "Hi. Shall we walk along together? I would love to get to know you."
I wish you lots of love and success.
jonnycomelately on April 22, 2018:
Goshami, N, Kate, Michael, Secret.....and everyone on this site, I hear your messages, loud and clear! What can I or anyone else say that might help you.
Wish I could wave a magic wand, sort of Harry Potter fashion, lol. But that’s no good obviously.
All I can say is about my own life - and I am almost 77 now! My life was lonely as a young boy of 7; most times, through teenaged years; 20s; 30s and all the way through to my 70s. But You know what? I have lived. Been many places, done many things, had successes, made mistakes....and survived them all. Had lots of joys through many experiences that I had only dreamed of. Never been married, no kids (I’m gay but only found out in my mid 20s). So as you can imagine I feel quite protective of anyone who’s trapped by their feeling lonely, whatever age, for whatever reason. That is why I first happened to visit this forum because I was already on HubPages. You can see from my profile what my interests are. And I am still getting new interests at this age. Getting new friends, too. Getting to be respected for my age too, by some people....but some think I’m a funny old f..t ! I don’t mind that, it’s all for a laugh.
Sorry to go on for so long here, but it’s just to show that when you are young, especially in those teenage years, there are not many people who will tell you REALLY what it’s like going on through life. Now you know, from what I’ve told you about my own life, that you cannot expect it to all be easy, fun, with just the right people you want around.
It is necessary to take the rough with the smooth. Be honest with yourself and with your feelings. Try to be honest with others about how you feel....even the hard bit - with your parents. If you don’t share it with them, they can’t know for sure how you want them to help you.
I do hope that the people who came on here 3-4 years ago with their problems, have managed to come through and find that life is not so bad after all. And if you can stand in front of the mirror, smile, love yourself for all your success and all the mistakes you have ever made, you are well on the way to becoming fine adult individuals. With lots to give to the world and expecting to get some of what you want in return. You deserve it. Wishing you well.
Malakai on April 21, 2018:
I’ve had a rough time in school this girl I really liked my best freind went out with her I became close with her after they broke up she wanted to commit suicide she came to me for help a lot of stuff went on she was happy so was I we became best freinds although I still have feelings for her I told her about my life same there other way around after we became distant for some reason I started conversations but she closed them now I feel useless alone i don’t live close to my freinds I thought of suicide I don’t know what to do
Rachel Martin-Pankey on April 18, 2018:
The thing is that I’m a 16 year old girl that’s in the 9th grade and everytime I say or do something I just end up hurting those I care about, and the big problem is that me and my best friend since I was in the 7th grade are no longer friends anymore because apparently everything I do it just ruins his life, and his relationship and I tried to fix the mistake that I made and he told me that I can’t fix this problem not this time and then the day after that my best friend since I was in the 8th grade and when I was in the 8th grade he was in the 7th grade and we had dated for 1 year and 4 months and then we booked up and he got mad because I gave away his new girlfriends cell phone to someone that actually asked for it and he had told me to not talk to him ever again. What should I do someone please tell me I’m begging I really need some advice on what to do?
Secret on April 11, 2018:
My biggest secret, is the worst thing in my life. I wanna tell the police, about my father raping me since i was 7 years old. Been raped for 9 and a half year. I'm so tired :( HE is the reason i wanna kill myself, and have tried it for so long...
Michael on April 08, 2018:
My name's Michael and i'm 15 years old. I feel so unconfortable, because just so many people are such assholes and cocks. I have a few people but they aren't like real friends. I feel so insecure of my looks because people just care so much.. Lol idk it sucks. I am changing school in half a year though... Hoping for a new start
Kate on April 02, 2018:
Same as everyone else. I lock myself in my room thinking about things.
I ALWays thought meditating was dumb but I gave it a try. IT actually helps for abit.
I have problems on Instagram, I have even gotten alot of questions but I’m too on scared to face them. THe questions are more like orders and they aren’t of me. I feel like I’ve lost myself completely. School is pretty stressing as well. My best friend went for a month to travel. My other friends aren’t so good. THey go by looks, there was this guy sitting just outside the friend circle. THE Guy is really nice and helped me with a few things so I Asked if he wanted to sit with the group because he was alone. The people in the group straight away said “Oolala Kate likes him” they also said the guy didn’t look good enough and one of my friends said he ate toast in the toilet so apprently he was disgusting.
I’m sure they have done something as equal disgustingly as well.
That day I stayed in the corner muttering how bad the world has become. Of course not everyone is like that but I just....... don’t know.
It’s Easter weekend so we got Friday. The weekend and Monday, Tuesday off.
During the weeks I had nothing to do. I literally stay in bed till 11am, get up have breakfast go back to bed and either watch YouTube, read my depressing book (about a guy who doesn’t know what to do with his life) or play choices/episodes.
This isn’t the real me. The real me is me playing outside. Playing with my brother who I said no to the last few days. WHo loves drawing and painting. It was Easter this weekend at I didn’t even do anything. Same goes with April fools day. Last year I tricked my parents on April fools and I enjoyed doing Easter egg hunts with my brother.
Now I just dont. Please reply I have no idea how to move on. I just feel like suiciding. No point in life if I keep living like this.
N on April 02, 2018:
I don’t have anything in common with anyone else and I tag along and get in the way. People like me fine and I don’t have real enemies but no one really cares much and I don’t have that good friend I can do anything for and who will do anything back. I don’t know who I really am and I’m awkward and I never know what to do or say. The girls I thought were my friends r starting to find me a pain in the butt so I’m lonely and I don’t spend time with anyone outside of school. I’m not allowed to do most of the things they do together like watch Netflix or go into town without my parents. I’m 13 and I left all my primary school friends to go to a different school and I only have one really good friend left. The others have all moved on and forgotten and I don’t live near her so we don’t see each other much. I’m so scared we’ll drift apart too then I’ll have no one at all. I don’t know what to do
jonnycomelately on March 31, 2018:
@Goshami....sorry you got no replies to that message. I hope you are ok. Please write again.
There are people who care about you. Please, go and find one of them. You will be hurting them so so bad if you take your own life.
Please keep talking to us here.
jonnycomelately on March 31, 2018:
@unknown...."I don't want help - but I do...."
Many of us do just that at times, confusionof feelings and think we are strange, unusual, peculiar.
You are not strange. Not unusual. Not peculiar. You are just a beautiful young person who deserves to be loved.
Have courage and the energy to just keep going. Learn the skills to keep climbing to the top of the hill. You will make it. The view of your road ahead is much clearer from there. You WILL make it. Tell yourself this.
Goshami on March 21, 2018:
I have some serious problem here i don't talk much i don't mix with others i always like being alone locking myself in my room i don't want to go outside now i always feel like i should commit suicide
blackraiinbow on March 14, 2018:
i am writing this cause i hope smn will read. i just don't wanna go outside anymore. i just want to sit there in my room. this days are just same. going to school, coming back and doing homework. i have friend but she is not feeling good either. i am scared talking bout how i feel. i do not know what is wrong with me i just do not wanna live like this anymore. my life is not anything like i thought it would be. ppl telling me it woul geet better but wheeennn. i am teen now it should be the best eyars of my life. know i should have so much fun and u know.. i am just tired of all this shit.
i like smn but i don't know him. i think i like boy who i created in my fantasy. what the hell is happening to me?
unknown on March 12, 2018:
can anyone help i have no reason to be sad and want to cry THIS much i mean its normal to cry every now & then but god i feel alone right now even though i have a group of people who can help its like i don't want help..... but i do... anyone else?
lin on March 12, 2018:
hi Brynn you r going through the hard time i am going through i wish we can help one another pls tell me how we can communicate
Ahmed on March 09, 2018:
Ik this sounds kind of rude but it’s nice reading all those comments and realising I’m not the only one going through this, if we could all just connect in any way. We’re all suffering from the same thing, we have so much in common yet we are all lonely. If anyone wants to talk just message me on instagram @ sre._.l
Brynn on March 01, 2018:
I don’t know how to explain it except I am just depressed. I am nearing 14 and I have no real friends. I have one but she is the only person at school who will just talk to me. Everyone else just goes on about there day like nothing is wrong. I started to well... cut myself. But I am just sad and lonely I have tried to talk to my “friends”. But every time I try to they just walk away. I have told them how I feel and they brush it off like it’s nothing. I can’t anymore. Can’t deal with it. Help!
trishph on February 27, 2018:
i hate my self,, i dont know how to find my true happiness, i try but i feel something..
Blck24 on February 25, 2018:
I'm a teen. I self-harm, but recently it just hasn't been as satisfying as it used to be. I currently just feel so empty and alone. I'm waiting for it to end, but I want to be there after I die, to see who, if anyone, really cares.
Khadijah on February 12, 2018:
I’m thirteen and I honestly just feel really lonely and I currently have like no friends and it’s just difficult because everyone just cares about your appearance and your ethnicity and feel like I’m not accepted and I don’t know what to do to just feel better
I need him on February 09, 2018:
I went to public school for a little and i meet this boy we are really good friends i like him alot but now im on home school and hes in public school
Ps. Im in 6th grade middle school
kay on February 07, 2018:
I feel i'm over sensitive and is the reason i'm lonely. I'm in seventh grade and have many school relationships. When I get home from the end of the day my mom tells me things that I do wrong like she should, but they really aren't a big deal. I remember everything else why can't i remember the things she says? She also makes me feel like i'm the only person in the world who does this. This makes me feel sad alone and depressed. Along with this I feel i am mature but i can't talk to her. she is a aggressive monster in my head. get. her. out.
Michael on February 01, 2018:
being between 10 and 20 isn't fun. i'm 14, as an example.
nothing happens and you can't do anything and whenever i do something to make me feel better it just gives me time to think about what life was like when i was smaller and different choices i could have made and things i could have said and how my life isn't anything like i thought i would be at this point and how everything feels empty and i just want to tell people but i can't except in overly-dramatic internet comments and i can't help feeling sorry for myself and whenever i say anything about it i feel like im using being sad to get internet sympathy and i don't know who the school psychologist is because noone does and im too embarrassed to ask anyone and so i just become a cynical depressed teenager stereotype so noone takes what i say seriously and the only escapes i can think of either make me sadder or might mess my brain up because i'm still young
i don't have a job, or a smartphone, or strong friend relationships, or a girl/boyfriend, or experience in anything that will be useful to adult me. and thinking about any and all of this just makes me wish even more that i could go back and be someone else. someone who wasn't so invested in school, so when i realised it was all pointless i had something in my life to fall back on. someone who grew up in a diverse suburb so i don't question whether i'm racist or not. someone who got out of the house once in a while to build friendships and explore the neighbourhood so I know where and who I live with. someone who wasn't so unassuming and cute and child-like when i was small, so when i say i care about money my parents think i know what i mean. someone who didn't have such a complicated mental picture of me and my brother, so I knew whether to be him or reject him or something in between.
everyone has things about them they hate. everyone has emptinesses and regrets and wishes that they could go back in time.
you either fight back and become a stereotypical rebellious teen, give up and become a stereotypical depressed teen, or give in and become a stereotypical cool teen. mix and match different ratios of the above on both the inside and outside of someone's personality, and you get a young public which doesn't know what it wants in the future, isn't prepared for the future, and is too indifferent to the future that they spiral into regret and reminiscence about their past.
at least that's my look at it. personally, i love learning about and coming up with languages, which i guess is some psychological thing about my need to communicate with people and tell them about my problems and hear their problems and do something to help or be helped. either that or i just find languages interesting, you be the judge
Anonymous on January 30, 2018:
I recently had a fight with my friends. It started off with me texting hi on our chat. Then one of the girls texted back in a mean way and she started the fight out of nowhere. I thought she was my friend but obviously not. Then the other girl was a neutral at first but she ended up siding with her. Since this day I have hung out with different people but I feel like I don't fit in with this group. Sometimes I feel lonely and feel like crying. If u have any advice please help
Kayle on December 13, 2017:
I feel empty and sad for no reason..when i think of reality and myself it gets worse..even if I'm trying to hide it...im so depressed i wanna cry but its like my tears are dried up... : (
Hayden on November 06, 2017:
Im a 8th grader who has friends and family bud no one to love iv been bullied iv been through rough times but the reason im here is i have no one to live for my friends have girl friends so does every one in school but not me i cant talk to my parents like how you can with a girlfriend i feel like i got a load and theres no where to put it.
Aditya Pant on October 30, 2017:
I feel so much lonely... it’s like I want to die ... i want to cry.. i just want to die... no one understands.. am just a burden on this Earth... am going to commit suicide this mid night..
Madhumita Bera on October 27, 2017:
I am 15. I have like typical indian parents who want like good grades all the time and i keep dissapointing them and the thing is everyone else in my class seems to be doing well in studies except me and it make me hate myself because I dont know why i suck at everything. I don't have like any best friend and the friends I have don't consider me as their best friends as well, and when ever i ask them for help if i dont undertsand things in class they either don't reply or just say like one word and it make me want to cry. Also the thing is evryone is supposed to be good at something and i am actually good at nothing, I don't look that good , and I am an introvert and I am a failure in life.
Emma on October 15, 2017:
I feel lonely because I feel like I can't do anything
Jason Covin on September 03, 2017:
Lonely teen on August 31, 2017:
I am in seventh grade. In fourth grade I got bullied, because I was different than my classmates. I escalated the problem and made up lies, but still, I was mistreated. I ended up moving schools in the middle of my fourth grade year. I was ten. Then I moved to a new school. The beginning was good - I made friends, experimented with different social groups, and then in fifth grade, I had found a large group to hang out with. But in sixth grade everything changed. My family is not allowed to listen to secular music or have social media, and that's all my class cared about. Also I am taller (real tall for that age- 5"3). I was so confused bc I had finally made friends. Now I am thirteen and in seventh grade, and I am getting bullied again and I sit alone at the lunch table with my twin. No one wants to work with me in class and be my friends. I tried everything. I invite people to hangout, and they reject. I am not overweight. I am 5"5, I have a nice figure, although smallish breasts, and 98 lbs. I eat healthy and excercise, love hanging out with my family, baking and doing art. I love English and bible studies (I go to religious school). Any advice? I feel like all the girls are pretty little things, dainty and girly, and I am too mature for them. I crave relationships and my social situation is taking a toll on my familial relations since I am irritable and grumpy at home :(
Anon on August 29, 2017:
sometimes i feel lonely for no reason. on a night that i'm not talking to anyone, i feel like nobody is similar to me or even understands me, although the logical part of me knows that's not true. then again, that's a catch 22 because me thinking like that seems to be unique compared to the people that i know, and thought dilemmas like this make me feel even more sad and angry.
J on July 23, 2017:
I want to share my problems but I don't know why I couldn't
Anonymous on July 22, 2017:
I feel sad
nina on July 04, 2017:
I immigrated to another country 1 year ago and i just miss family and friends but i know i need to move on and i want to and every time i think i have i just realise i never even took 1 step forward. And its hard because i don't have somebody with me to share all the great moments with and i don't trust anybody quick like i trusted my family and friends back home.
And like i dont even know what i like doing and im just feel lost and confused about everything!!
If you can help it would be really appreciated!!
jonnycomelately on February 16, 2017:
Zichepe, I hear you. I hope others will come in here and chat with you. Keep trying; have courage and don't dispare. Meanwhile, look after your own health. Maintain a healthy diet as best you can. You need your own mental and physical strength if you are to be of any help for another person in your life.
Zichepe on February 16, 2017:
Thank you all for posting. I believe this relates to my son 15. He is starting to open up but I have no tools to help him overcome the loneliness etc. Could someone connect with us at firstname.lastname@example.org
I look forward to hearing from you.