Why Do I (Teenager) Feel So Lonely?
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Why do we consider ourselves so alone?
Some teenagers feel alone and would like some company once in a while.
Most of them would not admit that fully (that they need help) but in the end, everyone does, whether its obvious or not, or whether we want it or not. Most of the time, we are certain of managing everything by ourselves, but in reality we can't. It is considered to be one of the most difficult phases of life. And it is just like that.
I find myself sitting alone in my room (even because I have no sisters or brothers) and just open up the internet and go on social network in the hope that someone does care about you. In the hope that other people appreciate you for who you are. Some of your friends do, and some of them fake it. How can you know?
I guess school makes it difficult at this point. For example, in my school, everyone is snobby and only cares about physical appearance. I am not like that. Many people change their attitude, their ways, their personality and themselves in order to be accepted by this little strange society.
Your parents won't "understand" your problems even if they say they do. What we do instead, we go on the internet, go on websites like "StumbleUpon", "Tumblr", "Twitter" and mostly on "Facebook" or "Skype", to find something: the passion that we lost, the happiness that we need.
Now I know that happiness cannot be found on the internet, but a little distraction is very useful at times. Especially if you feel like crying an you go on the internet and find people of your same age having the same issues and dealing with them like you do. Its nice to know that you are not the only one having that particular problem. You can see their point of views.
And like this you make friends. VIrtual friends that you wish were real and were right beside you. But they aren't. WHY???!! Why can't we have long term lasting friends... ? People talk behind our backs, especially the ones you thought were your friends.
I know this is kind of depressing but in a teenage world, most of it works like this. Time changes and people get meaner and meaner as we grow. They care about how thin your are and how popular you are... not how your personality is. WHAT A SAD WORLD.
People expect you to be who you're not.
Why do I always have to look good for other people.. and when I do for me, people blame me for that. They don't accept who you really are and there is this famous quote that states: "We don't let change happen, because when a thing is different, we change it back to normal".
They are the most unsatisfying feelings of all.
.You really trust someone and would be ready to do anything for them and they let you down the moment you need them. This happens to me all the time. I wonder why...I am such a good friend and let other people ruin my life so easily. What I do then, is have a friend less and continue with my life as usual... problematic as always... nothing much
Reasons why we feel alone
- Family problems (most of the pain comes from here)
- No real friends (just faces that pretend to be)
- No acceptance in society (as a whole or even in smaller groups like schools... who you are may not be accepted from everyone.. and yet... we all have right... unfortunately not respected for some of us)
- Not satisfied with your life
- No-one understands you
- Not accepted for your choices (music artists/genre, fashion style, personality, etc.)
- Prejudices (some people find it fun to criticize you when they have no clue who you are, and as they do so, other people start to think negative things about you as well, and so rumors start.. and when they do... its difficult to stop them)
- Being afraid to speak up (sharing of opinions becomes difficult, and you get trapped by your own self)
There are so many more reason... the list is just to long ...
Never give up believing
"And be careful of what you do, 'cause the lie become the truth" Michael Jackson
"There's nothing wrong with you, there's a lot wrong with the world you live in" Chris Colfer
"Do not wish to be anything but what you are, and try to be that perfectly" St. Francis De Sales
"It is better to be hated for who you are, than to be love for something you are not" Andre Gide
"No-one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Roosevelt
"If you care about what others think, then you will be forever their slave"
"Don't ever let somebody tell you, you can't do something" Will Smith
"Life is not about people who act true to your face. It's about people who remain true behind your back"
"Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had"
Remember this always
Useful website to visit
- Teen Life Skills Videos * Teen Stress Video * Teen Loneliness * Teen Depression * Teen Suicide * Und
Power Surge Guidance Videos and Character Education Videos for teens teach life skills in a real life unrehearsed interview format. Perfect for at-risk or any situation where values need to be taught to teens.
- The Cure for Loneliness | Teens
To help Christian high school and early college students navigate adolescence with their faith intact
- 10 Tips For Relieving Loneliness
Loneliness strikes almost everyone at some point in life. Here are 10 tips for relieving loneliness, from writing about your feelings to getting out and helping others.
- Are You Lonely? | Psych Central
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