I have one son that been in prison for 15 years. He has a wife and two sons that she has been taking care of for the last fifteen years. I have helped out by giving my son twenty thousand dollars. How do I not feel guilty when I don't have the money to help anymore?

Answer

Your guilt is misplaced. It wasn't your place to take care of them, to begin with. You did what you could, if there isn't any more money, then that's it. Guilt is only useful if it motivates action. Feeling guilty is not going to change the fact that you do not have any more to give. I can tell you if my son were in prison, I wouldn't give him money. I can see helping out the wife and grandkids, however, after fifteen years, some of those kids should be grown and gone.

Updated on April 10, 2018

Original Article:

Adult Children—When to Help and When to Let Them Learn
By MD Jackson MSIOP
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