I’ve written an article on this subject entitled, “Fatherless Daughters: How Growing Up Without a Dad Affects Women.” https://wehavekids.com/family-relationships/When-D...
None of these common problems, though, are inevitable. By knowing the pitfalls, you can certainly act preemptively to avoid them.
Most significantly, you should become aware of the destructive thoughts that you have and work to eradicate them. Fatherless daughters can be undone by recurring beliefs such as: I’m unlovable...My own dad didn’t want to spend time with me so why would anyone else...I’ll never find a man to love me...I’m broken.
I hope you paid attention to the poll at the bottom of the article where I asked readers: “How did you get over your dad’s rejection?” I listed options such as: getting counseling, focusing on healthy relationships, and praying/meditating. A whopping 62 percent of women, though, picked: “I don’t think I’ll ever get over it.”
That is so tragic because it’s a choice. Far too many women cling to their status as fatherless daughters, using it as an excuse for their failings and limitations. They make themselves victims, blaming the absence of their dads instead of working hard to create the lives that they desire. The author, Alice Walker, sums it up beautifully with these words: “The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”
You’re on a good trajectory by planning ahead and being proactive. If you feel like you need help getting over certain mental hurdles, don’t hesitate to work with a cognitive therapist. Take care!