We’re all under stress during this time. Your parents may be worried about their jobs and finances, the family’s mental and physical health, your education and future. With that being said, I hope that their name-calling is not a regular occurrence but a one-time event brought on by the strain of quarantine.
Instead of waiting until it happens again, be proactive and stop it from recurring. When your mom and dad are relaxed, address the issue using “I messages.” I messages will make them react less defensively and, thus, be able to hear your hurt. Say something such as: “When you called me stupid the other night, I felt sad and defeated. I know what we’re all going through is hard. But I need your love and support, not name-calling.”
Then, it’s your duty to get the homework done without them resorting to nagging or name-calling. As a parent myself, I know that many of us are concerned that our kids are falling behind academically during this time. Don’t add to your mom and dad’s anxieties by neglecting your school work. The therapist, Esther Perel, says: “Behind every criticism is a wish.” I think your parents’ wish is that you stay motivated and keep learning.