My 32-year-old son has struggled. Some issues are his fault (overspending and partying leading to job loss and debt), some are not (cancer). He has been admitted to law school but needs assistance. I will help him on the condition that he go alone for the first year. He wants to move with his boyfriend who has also demonstrated personal and financial irresponsibility. Am I out of line to expect a one year delay in their cohabitation plans in exchange for substantial financial support?
I do not abdicate parents getting involved in "relationships". This is one area that your adult child needs to deal with on their own. A year separation will only cause your son to make irrational decisions. It's best to stay out of it. If you can afford to support your son I would make it contingent on grades, not relationships.
Updated on June 3, 2020
By MD Jackson MSIOP