Ask yourself this question "Are you helping her become a functioning adult?" When you pay someone's way, it does not help them become an adult. Your daughter probably needs therapy. If you want to help her, offer to pay for the therapy. As far as her taking off with this man, you cannot force her to come home. However, I wouldn't pay for her to be there. As a parent, your job is to create a "good person." If you feel your daughter's molestation was the cause of her current poor decisions, you need to look at what will help her not what is just going to keep her from hating you. You are paying her way out of guilt. The offer to her at this point should be that you will buy the plane ticket to get her back to the US to go to therapy or she can pay her way in Canada. Know that she might stay in Canada. Do this with love in your heart for your child. Let her know that you love her and you want her to have a good life.