My parents call me a failure, a slob, a pig, an idiot, stupid, dumb, and worthless. I actually have a lot of friends, and I want to talk to them. So I grabbed an extra iPad from the living room and hid it. My friends gave me compliments to make me feel better. I am an only child and never have anyone to talk to. Yesterday, my parents found the iPad. They hit me, threw me into the door, and called me the same names they always do. I just want a normal life. Can anyone help me with my abusive parents?

Answer

Yes, there are people who care and want to help. You, though, must have the courage to take the first step and reach out to them. You’re in a bad situation, experiencing both verbal and physical abuse. Because this is all you’ve ever known, you probably have no idea how wrong it is and how much your parents are off course.

Isolation is a common tactic of abusers, and it sounds like your parents are utilizing it. This isolation makes you feel even more helpless and alone and even more dependent on your tormentors. It makes you less connected to people who love you and want what’s best for you.

You have several options. Since you have a lot of friends, you can confide in one of them and get their parents involved. You could ask to move in their home until your parents get the help that they need (i.e. anger management courses, parenting classes). You could also move in with your grandparents, an aunt, an uncle, or family friends.

You can also speak with a teacher or counselor. They’re required to report any abuse to CPS (child protective services). Then, a social worker will come to your home to interview you and your parents. The social worker would take whatever steps necessary to keep you safe and well.

Please reach out to a trusted adult as soon as possible. If that person doesn’t take action, reach out to someone else. Keep reaching out until you find a grownup who’s willing to get involved and knows what to do. You deserve to have a normal life and be in a home that’s safe and loving.

Updated on June 5, 2020

Original Article:

5 Reasons Parental Verbal Abuse Is Far More Damaging Than We Thought
By McKenna Meyers
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