Your son needs counseling and rehabilitative help. Too often people get in the mode of putting out a fire when they should be investing in means to keep the fire from happening in the first place. Alcoholism is a disease. Invest in getting help rather than bailing him out. If he won't do the treatments then let him live out the consequences. However, we should never stop telling our children we love them, we should never forget that love can move mountains anger cannot move. Emotional support for alcoholics/drug abusers is so important. They need to feel like there are people who care about them even when they don't deserve it. That doesn't mean you hock your car to save him from the consequences. Those are two different things.