What about the other way around? My mother never really liked my choice of husband nor did she think he was good enough for me; constantly pointing out his past and present faults. He hates going over to her to fix things, as he feels he can never do things right by her.

Answer

That's a valid point. I'm sure many men deal with this issue, and it can be very frustrating for them as well.

How bad is it? Is she expressing her disapproval to you or him? I'm a big believer in setting the boundaries from the get-go, and communicating to difficult mothers that any disrespectful behavior will not be tolerated.

But I also believe that, in most cases, that communication should be coming from her child, not the spouse. Otherwise, it will breed more conflict. It's on you to set your mother straight. Even though she doesn't agree with your choice of husband, it's your choice. She either has to accept it, or accept the fact that it will negatively affect your mother-daughter relationship. So which one would she choose?

Updated on April 12, 2018

Original Article:

10 Signs You Have a Toxic Mother-in-Law
By Lana Adler
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