I am in the same boat as you, with close family members outcasting and being emotionally abusive towards me because they disagree with my positive life choices made eight years ago. I empathize whole-heartedly.
I agree, the continual pain is debilitating at times, but this is where self-awareness and confidence come into play. As hard as it is, you must take the high road and not fuel the fire. If your husband is doing this to you, you need to evaluate your relationship and marriage and seek counseling or therapy if he is willing. You must find your own inner peace and happiness and that means ignoring them and their behaviors. They are trying to get a rise out of you and it sounds like it's working. Don't let them. Seek solace in your friendships and find hobbies and activities you love...where you can meet new people and experience inclusion, rather than disclusion. I found that establishing a regular yoga practice at a local studio was my saving grace. Not only am I giving my body the love it needs, but I'm also feeding my soul with powerful, positive, vibes, mental clarity, and new friendships. I hope this helps you in some way. The bottom line is, you must take control of your life before it controls you.