Count yourself lucky that you're in a much better place emotionally than many other fatherless daughters. The fact that you can step back from your own painful situation and see the history that led to it is a huge plus. You understand why your father is unloving and that it has nothing to do with you. You can, therefore, empathize with him and forgive him.
Forgiving your dad gives you the freedom to move forward and find people who can freely give and receive love. You've reached the point of acceptance, realizing it's a waste of your time and a waste of your life to keep trying to get something from your dad that he doesn't have. Oprah Winfrey said that the following is one of her favorite quotes about not letting the hurt of yesterday intrude on the present: “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could be any different.”
Now you have a marvelous opportunity to become what the psychologist, Carlfred Broderick, called a “transitional character.” This is someone who spots the dysfunction in their family's lineage and makes a conscious decision to stop it. Whether it's alcoholism, name-calling, obesity, or emotional detachment that plagues the family, the transitional character says: “No more! That bad behavior stops with me and will not be transferred to future generations.”
Focus on yourself, becoming an emotionally open and vulnerable person. Don't be stingy with your love or guarded against getting hurt. Let others see you as a source of compassion, kindness, and generosity. Find people who will be that for you.
You may want to read my article entitled: “How a Fatherless Daughter Can Move on From Her Dad's Rejection.”