If it’s any comfort, you’re not alone in doing this. Many fatherless daughters are in one relationship after another, trying to prove that their dads were wrong and that they are indeed worthy of being loved. Always having a man boosts their self-esteem, which can often below because of their father’s neglect. They crave attention from a male partner because they didn’t get it from their dads when they were children.
Sadly, these romantic relationships are often superficial. The women may be scared of opening up and showing emotional vulnerability. They won’t risk getting hurt by a man after enduring their father’s rejection. They may have a pattern of developing relationships with guys who are cold and distant. With these men, they unconsciously seek to replicate the situation with their dads but hope to fix it.
Putting a pause on romantic entanglements for six months to a year is a powerful way for fatherless daughters to break this destructive habit. It gives them precious time to focus on themselves. They can step back and examine why they so desperately need to be with a man and why these relationships don’t last.
Moreover, it gives them the opportunity to build their self-esteem in ways other than having a guy. Some go back to college. Some start a business. Some train for a marathon. Some reconnect with friends and family. Then, when they’re ready to date again, they’re more confident and, therefore, attract a higher caliber of men.
You may want to read my article entitled: “Fatherless Daughters: How Growing Up Without a Dad Affects Women.” https://wehavekids.com/family-relationships/When-D... I wish you well.